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Erock Proud Canadian from Toronto Since: Jul, 2009
Proud Canadian
#70351: Oct 12th 2013 at 7:44:14 PM

Third wheeling is usually two people flirting and one person kicking around, so that's more of just yer girl being a bad host.

If you don't like a single Frank Ocean song, you have no soul.
TAPETRVE from The city of Vlurxtrznbnaxl Since: Jun, 2011 Relationship Status: She's holding a very large knife
#70352: Oct 12th 2013 at 7:48:08 PM

Now I’m old, have a paunch, and going bald, but my wife loves me anyway… says I’m the best looking man on the planet. Who am I to argue with the prettiest woman alive?

Welp, that's love in a nutshell. Two thirds of that description apply to me, too - and I'm only in my late twenties - yet my last girlfriend (who was almost two decades older than me and still looked like freshly picked strawberries and whipped cream) was borderline ecstatic about my looks. Sure, it's all a matter of both presentation and personal taste, but it only goes to show that varnish is heavily overrated.

Fear the cinnamon sugar swirl. By the Gods, fear it, Laurence.
terlwyth Since: Oct, 2010
#70353: Oct 12th 2013 at 7:51:25 PM

[up][up] Agreed

[up][up][up] Is she a people-pleaser? Cuz' it sounds like she doesn't want to blow off anyone,especially friends,to the point of impulsively bringing them along. Then she didn't want said friend to be third-wheeled,so you ended up getting screwed.

edited 12th Oct '13 7:52:08 PM by terlwyth

joeyjojo Happy New Year! from South Sydney: go the bunnies! Since: Jan, 2001
Happy New Year!
#70354: Oct 12th 2013 at 7:53:32 PM

[up][up]It is a good one is in it?

TAPETRVE: She weighs under a pound and a 6 inches high is she?tongue how does the age discrepancy affect your relationship? My girlfriend is a whopping year older then me Add and she's acting like it's insurmountable.

edited 12th Oct '13 7:55:47 PM by joeyjojo

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terlwyth Since: Oct, 2010
#70355: Oct 12th 2013 at 7:55:39 PM

@that quote: No kidding,although I'm not so sure about the no arguing part. Some relationships seem to need a good argument every now and then.

[up] Mine's nearly three years older. Neither of us are bothered by it,we're more bothered by who's right most of the time before one of us concedes that we'll have to agree to disagree.

edited 12th Oct '13 7:57:43 PM by terlwyth

MurkyMuse Magical Girl Since: Jan, 2001 Relationship Status: Shipping fictional characters
Magical Girl
#70356: Oct 12th 2013 at 7:58:30 PM

[up][up]I don't understand how she can see a one year difference as insurmountable. One year isn't near enough for you to be a very different stages of life.

People are mirrors. If you smile, a smile will be reflected.
TAPETRVE from The city of Vlurxtrznbnaxl Since: Jun, 2011 Relationship Status: She's holding a very large knife
#70357: Oct 12th 2013 at 8:00:14 PM

Well, we broke up, but not because of the age difference. For me it really doesn't make much of a difference as of now, albeit it could of course become an issue later on when you get older and health problems may become prevalent. But if you approach every relationship with possible negative repercussions in mind, you might as well stay single for the rest of your sad little life.

Fear the cinnamon sugar swirl. By the Gods, fear it, Laurence.
terlwyth Since: Oct, 2010
#70358: Oct 12th 2013 at 8:02:19 PM

Honestly after 18,it's all crazy anyway.

TAPETRVE from The city of Vlurxtrznbnaxl Since: Jun, 2011 Relationship Status: She's holding a very large knife
#70359: Oct 12th 2013 at 8:12:38 PM

Just look at Aaron Johnson and his marriage with Sam Taylor-Wood. She's twice his age and, while attractive in her own fashion, certainly does not adhere to any Hollywood-induced beauty standards.

Fear the cinnamon sugar swirl. By the Gods, fear it, Laurence.
EgregiousOne Dark Master of Stairs from the Mancave of Despair Since: Nov, 2012 Relationship Status: Too sexy for my shirt
Dark Master of Stairs
#70360: Oct 12th 2013 at 8:16:30 PM

But if you approach every relationship with possible negative repercussions in mind, you might as well stay single for the rest of your sad little life.
I am just now starting to agree with that.

"I'm not a nerd. I'm a specialist." ~Sousuke Sagara
MikeK Since: Jan, 2001
#70361: Oct 12th 2013 at 8:19:25 PM

Third wheeling is usually two people flirting and one person kicking around, so that's more of just yer girl being a bad host.

I've seen the phrase used more broadly than that, but maybe that was incorrect usage.

Is she a people-pleaser? Cuz' it sounds like she doesn't want to blow off anyone, especially friends, to the point of impulsively bringing them along. Then she didn't want said friend to be third-wheeled, so you ended up getting screwed.

I feel like that may have been close to what was going on. Although on the other hand I heard her half of the phone conversation and not only was she the one who called up and asked this other girl over, from the sound of it the other girl initially needed convincing. But she did seem like she was trying to keep this friend happy once she was there without realizing it was kind of awkward/boring for me. Now I at least feel like I wasn't being a jerk without knowing it.

(edit because this thread moved too fast and messed up my arrows).

edited 12th Oct '13 8:49:07 PM by MikeK

terlwyth Since: Oct, 2010
joeyjojo Happy New Year! from South Sydney: go the bunnies! Since: Jan, 2001
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#70363: Oct 12th 2013 at 8:27:38 PM

But if you approach every relationship with possible negative repercussions in mind, you might as well stay single for the rest of your sad little life.

That generally has been my life philosophy yes >_<

edited 12th Oct '13 8:43:37 PM by joeyjojo

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EgregiousOne Dark Master of Stairs from the Mancave of Despair Since: Nov, 2012 Relationship Status: Too sexy for my shirt
Dark Master of Stairs
#70364: Oct 12th 2013 at 8:34:07 PM

It took some persuasion, but I've begun to reconsider my opinion that a relationship that ends is a failed relationship.

"I'm not a nerd. I'm a specialist." ~Sousuke Sagara
TAPETRVE from The city of Vlurxtrznbnaxl Since: Jun, 2011 Relationship Status: She's holding a very large knife
#70365: Oct 12th 2013 at 8:40:50 PM

And even if it qualifies as a failed relationship overall, it still counts as an experience to learn from and neither does it invalidate the fonder memories.

Fear the cinnamon sugar swirl. By the Gods, fear it, Laurence.
TopographicOcean A Pathetic from the colo Since: Feb, 2011 Relationship Status: I'm Clockwork and she's Quartz
A Pathetic
#70366: Oct 12th 2013 at 8:42:42 PM

But if you approach every relationship with possible negative repercussions in mind, you might as well stay single for the rest of your sad little life.
Why, hello me, sup? [lol]

Being a worrywart shall be the lonely death of me.

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EgregiousOne Dark Master of Stairs from the Mancave of Despair Since: Nov, 2012 Relationship Status: Too sexy for my shirt
Dark Master of Stairs
#70367: Oct 12th 2013 at 8:44:14 PM

And even if it qualifies as a failed relationship overall, it still counts as an experience to learn from and neither does it invalidate the fonder memories.
That's exactly what I'm thinking. It's not a failure if you learn from it and enjoy yourself.

Being a worrywart shall be the lonely death of me.
I'm being careful of that too. >.< Keep fighting, Clonebro.

"I'm not a nerd. I'm a specialist." ~Sousuke Sagara
TopographicOcean A Pathetic from the colo Since: Feb, 2011 Relationship Status: I'm Clockwork and she's Quartz
A Pathetic
#70368: Oct 12th 2013 at 8:50:02 PM

I shall. And you should too!

I definitely know most of my worries are just excuses to avoid rejection. So, fear based and pretty cliche.

YUUGI WANTS YOU FOR DRINKING BUDDY
EgregiousOne Dark Master of Stairs from the Mancave of Despair Since: Nov, 2012 Relationship Status: Too sexy for my shirt
Dark Master of Stairs
#70369: Oct 12th 2013 at 8:55:47 PM

I will. waii I'm not sure you've heard; I'm actually communicating with somebody now. There's a chance. grin And he's gorgeous! >:D

I don't care about rejection myself, mostly because I have the luxury/curse of falling very slowly; I'm more worried about starting a relationship then having to break things off because he's falling much faster than I am. >.<

It might be cliché of you, but that doesn't make it any less of a valid fear. Rejection would hurt once you really like someone.

"I'm not a nerd. I'm a specialist." ~Sousuke Sagara
SmytheOrdo Wide Eyed Wonderman from In The Mountains Since: Jan, 2001 Relationship Status: watch?v=dQw4w9WgXcQ
Wide Eyed Wonderman
#70370: Oct 12th 2013 at 8:56:48 PM

For the first time I'm NOT anticipating fighting any time soon with an SO.

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TheMike Bo "Jangles" Wyatt Since: Jan, 2011 Relationship Status: Non-Canon
Bo "Jangles" Wyatt
#70371: Oct 12th 2013 at 8:56:53 PM

Being a worrywart shall be the lonely death of me.

-knowingly pats on the back-

'Tis something we must mutually overcome, Topbro.

In the backyard, buried deep underneath the tree There's a monster, takin' root in the property...
TAPETRVE from The city of Vlurxtrznbnaxl Since: Jun, 2011 Relationship Status: She's holding a very large knife
#70372: Oct 12th 2013 at 8:58:09 PM

My rule of "bros before hoes taken literally" makes rejection a rather miniscule issue to me nowadays. Of course it also minimises my chances in general but I'm not complaining.

Fear the cinnamon sugar swirl. By the Gods, fear it, Laurence.
SmytheOrdo Wide Eyed Wonderman from In The Mountains Since: Jan, 2001 Relationship Status: watch?v=dQw4w9WgXcQ
Wide Eyed Wonderman
#70373: Oct 12th 2013 at 9:02:46 PM

If you really are concerened about fights, just tell your so.

David Bowie 1947-2016
EgregiousOne Dark Master of Stairs from the Mancave of Despair Since: Nov, 2012 Relationship Status: Too sexy for my shirt
Dark Master of Stairs
#70374: Oct 12th 2013 at 9:03:41 PM

I'm much too open with my displeasure to build up the resentment for a fight. [lol]

"I'm not a nerd. I'm a specialist." ~Sousuke Sagara
TopographicOcean A Pathetic from the colo Since: Feb, 2011 Relationship Status: I'm Clockwork and she's Quartz
A Pathetic
#70375: Oct 12th 2013 at 9:11:35 PM

@Mikebro: We'll get there. With some perseverance and a bit of luck, we'll get there.

@Egg-kun: Excellent, excellent! Gorgeousness is very good. :p

My rejection fear stems from just generally not being a positive person. I have this nagging feeling I'm going to get rejected hard and that will sap any will I have to look elsewhere.

Defeatism, thy name is Topo. [lol]

YUUGI WANTS YOU FOR DRINKING BUDDY

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