Same here, but I had at least two people where I've answered with the nervous laugh of 'oh god why do people ask this' then they'll ask it again like I didn't answer properly the first time.
Maybe it was two flukes, but they were awfully awkward flukes all the same.
YUUGI WANTS YOU FOR DRINKING BUDDYWhen I used to get asked why I didn't have a boyfriend, I'd just glare at the person.
People are mirrors. If you smile, a smile will be reflected.I just think my love life (and what used to be a lack of one) to be none of anyone else's business. If it comes up in conversation with friends or acquaintances that's fine. But people being nosy about it annoy me.
People are mirrors. If you smile, a smile will be reflected.![]()
One's love life definitely comes under the purview of personal business to me. I've grown accustomed to people asking about so much I can sort of make people feel awkward now by unabashedly saying I don't have one.
...I'd just prefer not having to explain why at their beck and call.
edited 10th Oct '13 11:16:46 AM by TopographicOcean
YUUGI WANTS YOU FOR DRINKING BUDDYRachel, it certainly doesn't scare me. I have to mix with business people that typically hold a decent amount of clout so that kind of thing doesn't phase me any more. It does facilitate being learned enough to teach me stuff.
Pretty much this. The more frank you are with it, the better. It seems to make some people squirm.
edited 10th Oct '13 11:17:51 AM by TopographicOcean
YUUGI WANTS YOU FOR DRINKING BUDDYWell, see, that's the thing. I may have confidence issues, but I rarely just lay into myself in front of people. In fact, I've never done that. All my self-depreciation has a very, very thick coating of good humour to it, even if it doesn't seem like it all the time.
I swear, some people just cannot fathom how a person may not be 100%, totally and absolutely happy with themselves. So, they just tell you you're talking rubbish as if it's supposed to help.
Their intentions are kind, but it just makes me feel like they aren't actually listening to me.
YUUGI WANTS YOU FOR DRINKING BUDDYIf people act like "Bla bla bla, you're such a nice/handsome/whatever guy" I usually just tell them to eat their worthless phrases and get to know me properly before they open their mouths again.
There's a saying we have in Germany: "Nice is the little brother of shitty."
edited 10th Oct '13 11:45:22 AM by TAPETRVE
Fear the cinnamon sugar swirl. By the Gods, fear it, Laurence.Well, Rachel, I'm sure they are. I wouldn't mind being outsmarted (as long as, you know, a woman wouldn't break up with me because I couldn't keep up with her).
Maybe they'll be single someday. Gotta bide my time and keep playing in the field by leaving a good impression and not flagging any possible intentions, I guess.

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