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Actually, scratch that. He does, and goes by Jethro Q Walrustitty.
Edited by GastonRabbit on Nov 11th 2022 at 8:59:26 AM
Really? I never got deterred from anything, I just figured not to do it in front of other people.
Of course, I never got hurt as a kid. The only serious self-inflicted thing I ever did was get a chair to the crotch, the bruise lasted for ages. Long story.
Sorta realizing that I spent most of my childhood afraid of my dad... I only started sympathizing with him as a fellow commiserator when I realized how much psychological mindscrew my mom could do... This is depressing.
edited 19th Oct '11 6:49:58 PM by Merlo
Clowns to the left of me, jokers to the right, here I am...I never really knew my father. I know he has a handlebar mustache, is extremely tall, and works for NASCAR in some capacity. That's about it. Oh, and his name is Keith.
My mother is....well, I used to like her a lot when she was more of a centrist. She's become a hardline Tea Partier lately, but though we don't get along politically, I still like my mother for the most part.
I wish she still watched Sailor Moon though, I never know what to get her for Christmas anymore.
edited 19th Oct '11 6:51:29 PM by BlixtySlycat
go ahead and do every stupid thing you can imagineThere are several problems with that link. First, they describe an angry, jealous man who hurts people to get his way, then act like that is the only possible context in which someone could use corporal punishment. Second, a person is not responsible for molding their spouse's character in the same way as their children's. Third, it makes the claim that what happens to children of the angry, self-centered parents it describes is that same as what happens to any children who are spanked.
Incidentally, I would argue that yelling at a kid is more harmful than spanking them, if the spanking is not done in anger. Being yelled at makes a kid feel unloved, but if a parent says "I love you but I have to spank you because I want you to learn to be a good person", spanks the kid, and moves on, the kids learns both that his parent cares about him as well as that they must be obeyed.
edited 19th Oct '11 6:53:27 PM by EdwardsGrizzly
<><Maybe it's just me, but "I love you but I'm hitting you" sounds less comforting than "I love you but I'm yelling at you".
I have been both spanked and yelled at, and from what I remember I did not feel loved in either of those instances. If I was scared or in pain, I couldn't appreciate the nuances of the situation. I dunno, was I an unusually simple child?
edited 19th Oct '11 6:58:58 PM by Merlo
Clowns to the left of me, jokers to the right, here I am...I have been spanked, and yelled at on a very few occasions. Those few occasions all made me feel terrible for a long time, while I don't even remember most of the times I got a quick spanking and the issue was over.
But parents like mine are somewhat unusual these days, so I'm probably not representative of the population in general.
<><— George Orwell, Politics and the English Language
I love George Orwell even more than I already do.
edited 19th Oct '11 8:27:59 PM by annebeeche
Banned entirely for telling FE that he was being rude and not contributing to the discussion. I shall watch down from the goon heavens.

There are also some situations where corporal punishment is necessary.
I'll give an example - I was three years old, very bright for my age, but still only three years old. You can't expect to rationally reason with such a small kid. So, the inquisitive sort that I was, I once took a fork and tried to stick it in the socket. Luckily, my mom had noticed it before I managed to do it, and beat the living crap out of me. I never thought of doing it again. Now, if I hadn't got punished, I'd have probably attempted to redo it.
edited 19th Oct '11 6:45:51 PM by MilosStefanovic
The sin of silence when they should protest makes cowards of men.