Last time i went to a mommy group thing, Imy spawn was two. The woman asked what my husband did. I answered that I didn't have one. Que the slidlong looks and the immediate shut down. Not people I would want to be around anyway.
I don't get along well with women in general. So I'm not surprised I wouldnt' get along well with most mothers.
I couldn't imagine spending more than $5 on a haircut or using expensive products on it.
I think that's more to do with growing up poor and always being than anything though. Your $20 haircut is a week's of groceries to me or a case of diapers.
Though even if I didn't have the spawn, I doubt I would spend it. I rather have a video game or some books.
"Psssh. Even if you could catch a miracle on a picture any person would probably delete it to make space for more porn." - AszurShe actually asked you what your husband did...???
Wow.
Around here, they'd ask you what you do. For one thing, there are just way too many lesbians and bisexuals to assume a woman with a child had a husband.
Although, you had your kid when you were pretty young, right? If you were going to get one of those awkward presumptuous questions, it would probably be based on the assumption that you were the babysitter. We have a lot of tough calls at the playground vis a vis the "mother or grandmother?" question.
ETA: Not to judge older moms, either. Live your life. Go you.
edited 20th Jan '15 11:27:07 AM by mona.soyun
I had him when I was 20. I had just started my junior year after that. So I was 23 when she asked me that.
That's a big thing here. You get married, you have babies, welcome to the south. My being young isn't the problem. Me being unmarried was and to a degree, still is.
The idea is that if the father or any other man didn't marry me and save me from my shame, something is wrong with me.
I was used to it though. I had people asking me if I knew who the father was when I was pregnant with all the entitlement that went with it.
"Psssh. Even if you could catch a miracle on a picture any person would probably delete it to make space for more porn." - AszurThey just assume that he ran away then, which is still your fault.
I tried something like that once. It didn't work.
People really are that hateful. Though I did have a fun occasion come from being pregnant.
I was waiting in line at the grocery store and the woman in front of me was letting her kid act a fool and run around. She was probably Pre-K. She ran up to me and said that she knew qhat was "wrong with my belly"
"Yep. There is a baby in there."
Blank stare from me
"How did it get in there?"
Without skipping a beat I answered: "I ate it."
The kid ran off in horror. The old man behind me thought it was the funniest thing ever. The mother gave me the death stare. Whatever. I could have been worse.
"Psssh. Even if you could catch a miracle on a picture any person would probably delete it to make space for more porn." - AszurGood news, everyone! Turns out not only is Valentine's Day on a Saturday, but it's during a 4 day weekend as well! So I think I'm gonna expand it from one day of drunkeness to like 3. It'll be The Mark Von Lewis Valentine's Day Mega-wicked-stupid-drunk Boozefest 2015*!
- name subject to change
I should get one like twitch.tv or something and make a telethon outta it, lol.
Power outages for the past two days. I left my candles at my old place thinking I wouldn't need them. Ugh.
Also, I still need to call various places.
Also train stations and traffic lights stop working and I need the train to head to a possible part time gig.
I might just back out of it and look for a job that I can bus to.
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I don't get the south. This was never an issue in the Southwest. Then again my highschool included the daycare on the tour when I was in middle school. Teen Pregnancy rates in the southwest went through the roof until The '90s. Also we had a lot of divorce in The '80s and The '90s so single mothers really weren't that big of an issue.
Abortion was the hot button issue. That would get a girl black balled. From the Christian Right proto mega-churches to the local Catholic church that was the one thing they agreed on. I dared to make friends with a woman who was pro-choice and have her as a study buddy. Daddy never forgave me for that...
I tried to walk like an Egyptian and now I need to see a Cairo practor....Stove top or rice cooker/slow cooker?
I am finally at rest after a busy night of chores. Whoot! And hope to read some more before bed.
I get to go to the dentist and visit my lawyer tomorrow. Yeah!
"Psssh. Even if you could catch a miracle on a picture any person would probably delete it to make space for more porn." - AszurCould be worse. Might have also had to buy a new car and sit in on an eight year old's first violin lesson.
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Gabrael — I think motherhood is pretty isolating in this country in the best of situations. But the single working mom... Yeah. They don't even a spot in the Mommy Wars — hey, guess what, bitches? Some moms have to work.
It's bullshit.
Although... My mom seemed to have a great network of friends and family. She had her high school friends, and they all seemed to pop out kids more or less the same time (18-22), so by the time I was old enough to notice, at least, it didn't seem like anyone cared about adding another kid into the mix. It's not like we were all that closely supervised, anyway...
I wonder if it's harder these days, with everybody being so neurotic. There's three families on my block who all take their kids, separately, to the same school. Even though I am totally one of them, I'm still kinda baffled by it. I walked to and from school starting in first grade. But I was in the same town my parents and grandparents and greatgrandparents had been born in. Everyone is a transplant here... It's so weird.
Lera — haha, the fear of the long-haired! I always said half an inch off, knowing they'd negotiate their way up to the two inches I wanted. Where if I'd started with two, they'd cut four.