So I've been thinking:
I'm definitely not asexual, the less said on that the better. Whether I'm aromantic or not is a trickier question I've been internally debating on. I've had feelings towards some that seemed at the time to be romantic, but when I think of actually acting in such a way I just don't like it and don't want to do it. Not to mention on closer examination that feeling is pretty close what I experience when I have a new friend.
So I see two possibilities: 1) I sometimes I have both sexual and friendly feelings toward someone and I just interpret the later as romantic because that's what I've learned to expect; or 2) I actually do have lovey-dovey feelings but dislike the usual methods of acting on them (not helped by times when people look down on couples that act differently and say they're not really in love, which is something I think couples shouldn't worry to much about).
I know this isn't worth losing sleep over (I lose sleep over much more important things :P), but does this sound familiar to anyone? Sorry if this didn't make a lot of sense, I often have problems with conveying ideas clearly.
You say I am loved, when I don’t feel a thing. You say I am strong, when I think I am weak. You say I am held, when I am falling short.I think if you feel "romantic" towards all of your friends, then there is a 90% chance that you are just feeling part of what friendship is. It is not just wanting to talk to them, after all. 10% chance that you are really romantic, and want to love up everyone. But that doesn't match what you said, so...
But this is just a guess, as I do experience romantic feelings for others.
So I noticed something: both here and in other places I've heard accounts from and of ace not-aro people than aro not-ace ones. Does anyone have differing observations?
You say I am loved, when I don’t feel a thing. You say I am strong, when I think I am weak. You say I am held, when I am falling short.I guess there's more to talk about with the former.
Like, if you want to have a relationship, but don't want sex, that can cause complications. The other way around it's not quite as big an issue. One-night-stands are a thing, and so are friends with benefits, and even if you're not the sort to go for that, like me (I'm aro-het btw), it's easy enough to just "fly solo" these days, if you know what I mean.
Ever since my friend found out she sends me sexy artwork she makes for how she can improve on it. Everyone else is Distracted by the Sexy
Oh look, a ghost!I think there might be something similar going on with me. People tell me I'm really good at writing smut. Probably because I tend to focus on the emotional aspect instead of going for Ikea Erotica
(Should probably post in this thread more often than I do...)
I ordered an ace ring last week - should be getting here pretty soon. Nothing fancy, just a plain black steel band, but I've always been a fan of that minimalist sort of style. I like the idea of having a symbol that shows pride in your identity, especially given how much the idea of asexuality tends to be stigmatized by mainstream culture.
I hear that wearing a black ring is also frequently a sign of swingers. That's kind of the opposite of what this is supposed to represent, so I'm sure there are any number of amusing sitcom-style misunderstandings that could result from that. But hey, I'll brave it.
"We'll take the next chance, and the next, until we win, or the chances are spent."Singers avoid the middle finger in their little code, specifically because of asexuals
. I'm not sure if we asked them to or what.
edited 11th Sep '16 2:55:55 PM by SalFishFin

That's pretty neat, actually!
When we're done, there won't be anything left.