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phantom1 Since: Dec, 2009 Relationship Status: Chocolate!
Troperfrom95 Aspie and 90's cartoon enthusiast from Ohio Since: Feb, 2016
Aspie and 90's cartoon enthusiast
#302: May 5th 2016 at 3:41:37 AM

Hi phantom, how have you been?

I found out there is a term for what I feel, "achrissexual", having romantic/sexual feelings but not wanting to take part in the act of sex itself.

Ya, I'm weird like that...
phantom1 Since: Dec, 2009 Relationship Status: Chocolate!
#303: May 5th 2016 at 7:19:40 AM

Pretty good, finding the word is good

Troperfrom95 Aspie and 90's cartoon enthusiast from Ohio Since: Feb, 2016
Aspie and 90's cartoon enthusiast
#304: May 5th 2016 at 8:57:15 AM

Thanks!

Ya, I'm weird like that...
phantom1 Since: Dec, 2009 Relationship Status: Chocolate!
#305: May 5th 2016 at 1:26:27 PM

Yeah it's really helpful for knowing you aren't alone, or everybody else around you isn't strange tongue

DeathsApprentice The Ultimate Lifeform from The Ark Since: Aug, 2011 Relationship Status: Is that a kind of food?
The Ultimate Lifeform
#306: May 5th 2016 at 2:08:46 PM

Labels are really helpful when it comes to that sort of thing. Anyway, I'm glad you found that word, Troper! ^_^

When we're done, there won't be anything left.
Troperfrom95 Aspie and 90's cartoon enthusiast from Ohio Since: Feb, 2016
Aspie and 90's cartoon enthusiast
#307: May 6th 2016 at 10:57:59 AM

Thanks! I'm not usually a big fan of labels, but it's nice to have a word to discribe what I am when people ask what my sexual preference is.

Ya, I'm weird like that...
BrainSewage from that one place Since: Jan, 2001
#308: May 8th 2016 at 9:08:25 PM

[up]x6: Huh, I didn't know about that word until now. That's reasonably close to my elaborately confusing orientation. I feel some sort of lustful draw to breasts and asses, but it's like there's an unbridegable mental gap between that and actually having sex. Plus, vaginas are a reliable source of Squick for me.

As for romance, I've never had a girlfriend, and my dates are few and far between. I often feel like I wasted my teens and early twenties by not even giving it a try, and when I look at the big picture, I feel like I'd like being married to the right woman. But on a purely day-to-day basis, when I ask myself if I'd like to spend my evening cuddling in front of some stupid movie, the answer is always a resounding No. Just... No.

[nja] apparently we don't use that term anymore.

edited 8th May '16 9:09:37 PM by BrainSewage

How dare you disrupt the sanctity of my soliloquy?
Troperfrom95 Aspie and 90's cartoon enthusiast from Ohio Since: Feb, 2016
Aspie and 90's cartoon enthusiast
#309: May 9th 2016 at 3:58:18 AM

Squick indeed, like vertically aligned mouths with no teeth. <shudders>

I'm not much of a "snuggle and cuddle up" person.

Ya, I'm weird like that...
phantom1 Since: Dec, 2009 Relationship Status: Chocolate!
#310: May 9th 2016 at 9:39:20 AM

Snuggling and cuddling up, well I like to do that with my cat, or my cat likes to do that with me and I pet him.

KatanaCat Attack glitter: It's pretty, but it hurts! from Place (Handed A Sword) Relationship Status: Historians will say we were good friends.
Attack glitter: It's pretty, but it hurts!
#311: May 25th 2016 at 1:21:26 AM

So my friend said he's in love with me...

...Yeah, this isn't gonna work out very well.

Edit: To clarify, this is the same friend who said he had a crush on me a while ago. I was hoping his feelings were just this little fleeting thing that would disappear almost as fast as I tend to disappear from most conversations. No such luck.

edited 25th May '16 3:20:43 AM by KatanaCat

Hard to explain and to express, forever just a work in progress (he/they)
DeathsApprentice The Ultimate Lifeform from The Ark Since: Aug, 2011 Relationship Status: Is that a kind of food?
The Ultimate Lifeform
#312: May 25th 2016 at 7:49:43 AM

Oh yikes, that really sucks. I'm sorry. Situations like that are always awkward.

When we're done, there won't be anything left.
phantom1 Since: Dec, 2009 Relationship Status: Chocolate!
#313: May 25th 2016 at 7:55:06 AM

Yeah sorry not sure what to tell you, it sounds awkward, yeah.

Troperfrom95 Aspie and 90's cartoon enthusiast from Ohio Since: Feb, 2016
Aspie and 90's cartoon enthusiast
#314: May 25th 2016 at 8:02:31 AM

I hope you are able to work this out between you two without any emotional trauma.

Ya, I'm weird like that...
Grafite Since: Apr, 2016 Relationship Status: Less than three
#315: Jun 2nd 2016 at 8:39:13 AM

I don't think there is any word that can describe the confusion I have about my sexuality. I am romantically attracted to girls (there's certainly some types I prefer) and would like to start a family, but sexually, I have no idea.

I think I do have a preference for guys, but it is not a strong one and maybe I'm assexual, maybe not. I don't know.

Life is unfair...
Troperfrom95 Aspie and 90's cartoon enthusiast from Ohio Since: Feb, 2016
Aspie and 90's cartoon enthusiast
#316: Jun 3rd 2016 at 5:08:53 PM

It's like a spectrum, you don't have to adhere to any one point.

Ya, I'm weird like that...
Jamiester Since: Feb, 2016
#317: Jun 4th 2016 at 7:47:13 AM

[up]Thanks, man. Never thought of it like that.

ACCOUNT NO LONGER USED. *straps on jetpack*
Troperfrom95 Aspie and 90's cartoon enthusiast from Ohio Since: Feb, 2016
Aspie and 90's cartoon enthusiast
#318: Jun 5th 2016 at 11:02:57 AM

You are welcome! grin I never see the world in blacks and whites, so it's always been easier for my to think like that. Just because you are asexual doesn't mean you have to avoid romantic (remember, romantic=/=sexual) relationships. Likewise you can be friends with someone without a smidge of romance.

Ya, I'm weird like that...
Cailleach Studious Girl from Purgatory Since: Sep, 2015 Relationship Status: Love blinded me (with science!)
Studious Girl
#319: Jun 5th 2016 at 11:08:05 AM

I agree. It has less to do with finding the exact definition for your orientation, and more to do with doing whatever makes your comfortable and happy

Troperfrom95 Aspie and 90's cartoon enthusiast from Ohio Since: Feb, 2016
Aspie and 90's cartoon enthusiast
#320: Jun 5th 2016 at 12:58:14 PM

Well put Cail!

edited 5th Jun '16 12:58:33 PM by Troperfrom95

Ya, I'm weird like that...
Flygonmaster Moving to Silvie Skydancer from the Harmonia Temple Since: Oct, 2011 Relationship Status: Having tea with Cthulhu
#321: Jun 7th 2016 at 8:35:53 AM

Hii, sex-repulsed asexual/demiromantic here.

Switching accounts because I don't like this username anymore, sorry
phantom1 Since: Dec, 2009 Relationship Status: Chocolate!
#322: Jun 7th 2016 at 8:37:24 AM

Hello :) welcome to the thread.

DeathsApprentice The Ultimate Lifeform from The Ark Since: Aug, 2011 Relationship Status: Is that a kind of food?
The Ultimate Lifeform
#323: Jun 7th 2016 at 3:57:20 PM

Welcome! ^_^ We're happy to have you here!

When we're done, there won't be anything left.
Murataku Don't Feed The Plant from Straya Since: Jan, 2015 Relationship Status: Who needs love when you have waffles?
Don't Feed The Plant
#324: Jun 8th 2016 at 4:10:08 AM

I'm kinda surprised how many of us there are on this thread. Only because I'm the only person like me I know in real life, though.

But still, it's just surprising.

You need blood and he's got more than enough!
Cailleach Studious Girl from Purgatory Since: Sep, 2015 Relationship Status: Love blinded me (with science!)
Studious Girl
#325: Jun 8th 2016 at 4:22:34 AM

There are a lot of us, it's just that aromanticism and asexuality are called the "hidden orientation" for a reason. Compared to other orientations, they're very easy to keep a secret and not draw attention to. Being in a homosexual relationship would take a lot of effort to hide, but not being in any relationship would barely grab anyone's attention. When you get past standard marrying age and are still single people might take some notice, but it's still considered a relatively normal lifestyle choice


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