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Xopher001 Since: Jul, 2012
#326: May 26th 2014 at 12:21:45 PM

Yeah well this after ceremony has been designed to ensure no one gets drunk

demarquis (4 Score & 7 Years Ago)
#327: May 26th 2014 at 12:49:12 PM

"Yes but what's the logic behind me receiving big recognition being a good thing if I don't want to receive recognition in a big flashy ceremony."

As a parent myself, let me put this as diplomatically as possible. How much of your childhood and education did you pay for yourself? Did you do it on your own without any support? When it's time for my kids to receive their recognition, they are damn well going through a ceremony for me. And I'm taking pictures!

I'm done trying to sound smart. "Clear" is the new smart.
Achaemenid HGW XX/7 from Ruschestraße 103, Haus 1 Since: Dec, 2011 Relationship Status: Giving love a bad name
HGW XX/7
#328: May 26th 2014 at 12:57:08 PM

As a parent myself, let me put this as diplomatically as possible. How much of your childhood and education did you pay for yourself? Did you do it on your own without any support? When it's time for my kids to receive their recognition, they are damn well going through a ceremony for me. And I'm taking pictures!

Ha! The man has a point. [awesome] Of course, my own attitude to kids is taken from Phillip Larkin. tongue

edited 26th May '14 12:57:40 PM by Achaemenid

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storyyeller More like giant cherries from Appleloosa Since: Jan, 2001 Relationship Status: RelationshipOutOfBoundsException: 1
More like giant cherries
#329: May 26th 2014 at 6:06:44 PM

Ceremonies are convenient excuses for after-ceremonies, and after-ceremonies are convenient excuses to get drunk

And what is the point of getting drunk?

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SmytheOrdo Wide Eyed Wonderman from In The Mountains Since: Jan, 2001 Relationship Status: watch?v=dQw4w9WgXcQ
Wide Eyed Wonderman
#330: May 26th 2014 at 7:44:33 PM

Does any other aspie witsh they were asexual? I can't stand this stupid little yearning I get every so often for romance. It stops me from being me and relationships always blow up in my face.

David Bowie 1947-2016
Morven Nemesis from Seattle, WA, USA Since: Jan, 2001
Nemesis
#331: May 26th 2014 at 7:46:17 PM

Romance does not have to equate to "not being you". I'd say that's the mistake you're making. Being fake to impress people is a really bad idea when it comes to actually wanting any kind of relationship, whether sexual or no, romantic or no.

And yeah, I know that all the fucking messaging from our fucked up society says we're supposed to be fake-selves for this purpose. Fuck that. You aren't going to be happy with someone who doesn't know how odd, boring, silly, dumb, whatever you are.

edited 26th May '14 7:47:18 PM by Morven

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Wide Eyed Wonderman
#332: May 26th 2014 at 7:50:12 PM

I just feel like nothing every really works out for me with girls. I be myself and the other person just keeps themselves from me because they're afraid I'll judge their past. Either that or they end up overwhelming me emotionally because they latch onto my empathy for hurting people and use me as a therapist.

David Bowie 1947-2016
Morven Nemesis from Seattle, WA, USA Since: Jan, 2001
Nemesis
#333: May 26th 2014 at 7:52:54 PM

Lot of damaged people out there, that's for sure.

A brighter future for a darker age.
Furienna from Örnsköldsvik, Sweden Since: Nov, 2013
#334: May 26th 2014 at 7:57:15 PM

I don't wish I was asexual, but with my luck in this particular area, I say I could just as well have been.

edited 26th May '14 7:57:59 PM by Furienna

SmytheOrdo Wide Eyed Wonderman from In The Mountains Since: Jan, 2001 Relationship Status: watch?v=dQw4w9WgXcQ
Wide Eyed Wonderman
#335: May 26th 2014 at 8:01:38 PM

No matter how to resist it i feel an annoying "lonliness" at times.

David Bowie 1947-2016
Furienna from Örnsköldsvik, Sweden Since: Nov, 2013
#336: May 26th 2014 at 8:11:48 PM

Same here. I was so jealous at my sister, especially when I felt like I was The Un-Favorite with our father, because I was still single.

Silasw A procrastination in of itself from A handcart to hell (4 Score & 7 Years Ago) Relationship Status: And they all lived happily ever after <3
A procrastination in of itself
#337: May 27th 2014 at 1:53:17 AM

I don't so much wish I was asexual as wish that people would simply get that me being a strait guy didn't occasionally make things difficult in my friendships with strait women. They know I'm never going to be interested in them that way and they're never going to be interested in me that way, but there's still barriers, not to mention all the issues of other people not seaming to get that it's entirely possible for two strait people of opposite sexes to be close friends and have no interest in being anything else.

As for things blowing up, I've had enough friendships blow up on me that I use a similar thought pattern for romantic relationships, it might not work out and it may hurt in the end but I can have a lot of fun and there's no point in hiding myself away from the world due to fear.

they latch onto my empathy for hurting people and use me as a therapist.

I get people to do this deliberately, yay massive hero complex. [lol] Though oddly enough it's only for friendships that I do it, I get to play amateur councillor/psychologist with my friends, I'd like a romantic partner who I didn't have to build up into a reasonably stable human being. I befriend what I call "project people", I don't date them.

“And the Bunny nails it!” ~ Gabrael “If the UN can get through a day without everyone strangling everyone else so can we.” ~ Cyran
SR3NORMANDY Problem Child from N/A - In constant flux Since: Jul, 2012
Problem Child
#338: May 27th 2014 at 2:33:55 AM

Uh... project people is a pretty condescending way of describing fellow human beings.

What if there’s no better word than just not saying anything?
Silasw A procrastination in of itself from A handcart to hell (4 Score & 7 Years Ago) Relationship Status: And they all lived happily ever after <3
A procrastination in of itself
#339: May 27th 2014 at 2:46:35 AM

It's not a term I use to describe my friends, it's an generally internal only term I use to describe those people who are not so much friends as people I try and build up into better people. So it's people who aren't good friends and aren't good for me, but I stick with them anyway because I know that if they get some help and are able to grow as a person they could actually be a very good person and a very good friend.

So it's for those people who I have a almost completely one sided friendship with, they're not good friends to me and haven't ever really been, but I know that they have the potential to grow and I want to help them grow. It's not a term I'd use around any such people, it's more an internal only thing that I think I've used once or twice around my best friend.

“And the Bunny nails it!” ~ Gabrael “If the UN can get through a day without everyone strangling everyone else so can we.” ~ Cyran
SR3NORMANDY Problem Child from N/A - In constant flux Since: Jul, 2012
Problem Child
#340: May 27th 2014 at 3:02:29 AM

Okay, I just wanted to make sure you weren't going around saying this to people's faces, for your own sake. I've hurt some feelings saying similar things when I was younger.

What if there’s no better word than just not saying anything?
Silasw A procrastination in of itself from A handcart to hell (4 Score & 7 Years Ago) Relationship Status: And they all lived happily ever after <3
A procrastination in of itself
#341: May 27th 2014 at 3:17:32 AM

O god no, the only person I've used the phrase with will be two or three of my closest friends, one of whom actually is rather happy to say that she was a project person and is now actually my best friend.

“And the Bunny nails it!” ~ Gabrael “If the UN can get through a day without everyone strangling everyone else so can we.” ~ Cyran
MechWarrior from Earth Since: Jan, 2014 Relationship Status: Drift compatible
#342: May 27th 2014 at 4:58:21 AM

Lot of damaged people out there, that's for sure.
Everyone's got some. Even if it isn't entirely obvious, hardship is (nigh-)omnipresent; and being affected by it is also (nigh-)omnipresent.

Yo.
demarquis (4 Score & 7 Years Ago)
#343: May 27th 2014 at 5:04:16 AM

Bear in mind that even relatively popular people have to go through a lot of rejections before they find someone they are compatible with.

I'm done trying to sound smart. "Clear" is the new smart.
Kayeka (4 Score & 7 Years Ago)
#344: May 27th 2014 at 5:31:20 AM

[up][up]"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."-Plato, possibly.

demarquis (4 Score & 7 Years Ago)
#345: May 27th 2014 at 5:37:42 AM

Some of them, of course, are fighting you (or treating you as collateral damage, which is even worse in some ways).

I'm done trying to sound smart. "Clear" is the new smart.
SmytheOrdo Wide Eyed Wonderman from In The Mountains Since: Jan, 2001 Relationship Status: watch?v=dQw4w9WgXcQ
Wide Eyed Wonderman
#346: May 27th 2014 at 8:01:48 AM

I feel like breakups don't even hurt that much anymore because I've accepted they won't work in the first place.

David Bowie 1947-2016
storyyeller More like giant cherries from Appleloosa Since: Jan, 2001 Relationship Status: RelationshipOutOfBoundsException: 1
More like giant cherries
#347: May 27th 2014 at 8:43:40 AM

I don't know if I'm asexual, but I've never felt bad about not having a significant other or put effort into finding one. For a while, I wondered if it was just a side effect of Aspergers.

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Achaemenid HGW XX/7 from Ruschestraße 103, Haus 1 Since: Dec, 2011 Relationship Status: Giving love a bad name
HGW XX/7
#348: May 28th 2014 at 2:44:49 PM

PETA tries to pretend there is a link between autism and dairy products.

In their fervor to protect cows from being milked and to make consumption of animal products look like the work of Lucifer instead of hungry, omnivorous primates, they failed to notice that they are campaigning on the backs of people. People with autism. Pro tip, PETA: It's not a good idea to demonize people with disabilities to further your cause.

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SeptimusHeap from Switzerland (Edited uphill both ways) Relationship Status: Mu
#349: May 28th 2014 at 10:07:31 PM

Also, while I can think of a way that milk products could favour autism, it needs a bit more evidence.

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Fantasy writer turned Filmmaker.
#350: May 29th 2014 at 5:36:19 AM

[up][up] I had just read this and was just about to share it. Good job.

But seriously: If I were ever to support them, PETA just lost any chance of keeping it.

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