A mod mentioned having forgotten to open this until now, so I figure I'll bump this so it won't as easily be missed.
"The Daily Show has to be right 100% of the time; FOX News only has to be right once." - Jon StewartNo. It's all up to the guy and his personal beliefs, and most people will respect that.
Support Gravitaz on Kickstarter!My question is why would you turn down sex with an attractive woman in the first place? There has to be a reason somewhere in there. I get turning her down if, say, you feel like you are in a situation where you are taking advantage of her (say, if she were drunk), or if you have feelings for someone else, or if you don't believe in sex before marriage, but if you don't have that sort of baggage, I say go for it - you mind find it to be fun.
The thing is, usually in these cases people ASSUME the reason you turned her down is because you are gay, so if for whatever reason you do want to turn down an attractive woman you had best have a reason for doing so unless you want that kind of a reputation.
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Yeah, being gay is the worst reputation you can ever have.
In all seriousness, isn't it kind of obvious that someone would have a reason for turning it down? Also, I think part of the reason it's seen as a bad thing for guys to turn down sex is the stigma that, when it comes to sex, guys are the hunters and gals are the hunted, so to speak. It is not thought of as a common occurrence for a woman to want sex more than a guy does, because apparently all men are hornier than ska music.
edited 10th Mar '12 12:50:01 PM by 0dd1
Insert witty and clever quip here. My page, as the database hates my handle.I'd say that it really depends on who you want to listen to. I've seen guys (and girls!) get a lot of flack for having an active sex life, and I've seen guys get a lot of flack for preferring to abstain.
edited 10th Mar '12 4:46:13 PM by DrunkGirlfriend
"I don't know how I do it. I'm like the Mr. Bean of sex." -DrunkscriblerianWell, everybody knows that all males are always after sex — and only sex, mind you: not only they are never "not in the mood", but they do not care in the least about emotional compatibility or affection or other sissy stuff like that. A true male is nothing but a support system for his genitalia, just as a true female is nothing but a support system for her future offspring.
Therefore, as popular evolutionary psychology says (and popular evolutionary psychology is SCIENCE and 100% correct in all cases), women withhold sex from the perpetually horny males in order to get them to provide housing and care and status and cuddles (which all males are genetically predisposed to hate, exactly as all females are genetically predisposed to hate sex).
For a male — any male — any reasonably attractive female offering consequence-free sex is nothing short of a dream come true. It is literally the one and only purpose of their lives. If a male's behaviour does not appear to follow this pattern, then it clearly means that they are gay, And That's Terrible.
edited 10th Mar '12 5:11:44 PM by Carciofus
But they seem to know where they are going, the ones who walk away from Omelas.So I obviously do not agree with that view, that it should be seen as bad - but the OP asked whether this is a thing, and yes it clearly is.
@Carcio: Augh...I agree with your point, but the pure, oozing sarcasm is at a level that's extremely painful to me. Maybe I should take some Tylenol or something.
Insert witty and clever quip here. My page, as the database hates my handle.In popular culture, outside TV Tropes, yes, it is seen as a bad thing. You're viewed as a wimp by people, they might spread rumors about you being gay, or something else malicious.
It is quite fascinating how different we are on here from groups in the world, specifically the high school crowds and such, even in college there is an urge to have sex between peers.
Yeah, very true. And it's not like TVT is the only island of hope in a sea of absurdness, either. I think actually quite many people will understand if men turn down sex. But, as was said, in popular culture... yeah.
Unbent, Unbowed, Unbroken. Unrelated ME1 FanficI've never actually seen it, but isn't the movie The Forty Year Old Virgin inherently at least partially based on this idea?
edited 10th Mar '12 7:11:48 PM by 0dd1
Insert witty and clever quip here. My page, as the database hates my handle.Well, I said based on, not in support of.
Insert witty and clever quip here. My page, as the database hates my handle.That abstinence thing coming up is the result of some religious groups gaining in converts, mostly due to school activities by CEF. Or such was my perception, based on some actual experiences.
Some of my friends get a lot of flak for being abstinent until marriage, other get flak for having an active sex life, I myself have been called "Sir Manwhore" numerous times.
edited 10th Mar '12 7:18:19 PM by NickTheSwing
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Something not possible if this were not in fact a thing...

I was recently taking a nostalgia-look at an older thread of mine,
* and one theme that got mentioned a few times in it was the notion that, if you're a guy, turning down offers of sex with attractive women is looked down on.
Etc... of course, I've seen similar things claimed outside this site, let alone that thread, but I can't help but wonder what it's based on. I got the impression that the disdain for male virgins was based on the assumption that they couldn't get women to have sex with them, not that they'd choose not to. Of course, there are a variety of reasons for a guy to turn down sex; or just not actively seek it out; but believing that guys who could get sex "wouldn't" turn it down isn't the same thing as believing that they "shouldn't."
So, I guess the starting question (or starting pair-of-questions?) here is about who would think badly of a guy's decision to turn down sex, and why.
edited 2nd Mar '12 8:45:35 AM by HiddenFacedMatt
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