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NewGeekPhilosopher Wizard Basement from Sydney, Australia Since: Jul, 2009
Wizard Basement
#1: Feb 28th 2012 at 3:31:53 AM

I've been writing a book series for five years now, two thirds of a trilogy have completed first drafts and I found who I hope will be my editor, but I'm constantly reminded of how futile it is to keep slogging on with this when the economy has put a freeze on any quick progress with my life goals, and considering I took up writing to help me have an activity to compensate for the abysmal lack of meatspace friends in my life (I was hoping getting published might improve my social status, but even having finished two first drafts of two different novels makes people look at you weird when they know you had the time to do that).

Maybe I feel my life goals are slowly grinding because I have had less friends than I hoped since the beginning of University, the societies and clubs are a sham of their former selves during these budget cut heavy times and didn't even include me properly when they had student control over them.

I feel like I'm going nuts from lack of contact with other human beings even though I walk to Chatswood every day for exercise even though it's February in Oz and it's hot and I don't feel very attractive as a prospect for women when I'm walking around in this weather.

It's like working on my books and taking photos for my Photomedia art college degree is all I have, because I certainly don't think my love life or social life's gonna be any better until I'm at least 25, and I'm 22 now so I feel like some kind of mirror universe slacker who has vision and drive but no friends or social achievements to show for his trouble trying to make something out of himself.

This is probably why things like Scott Pilgrim make me angry whereas things like Densha Otoko fill me with hope because nerds of the Densha variety at least have some quest and goal to strive for even if he does live alone in the world with only his net friends to care if he lives or dies.

This isn't even much of a cry for help, the only reason why I think I feel depressed is serious sleep problems I've had for five years and social starvation in between University semesters. That and I don't feel noticed by the people around me and I feel like I have to become some controversial celebrity author for people to bother admitting I'm worth talking to. Thoughts?

Hell Hasn't Earned My Tears
MajorTom Since: Dec, 2009
#2: Feb 28th 2012 at 4:20:23 AM

I'm 26 and I know exactly what you mean and am going through exactly that. I have very little money at the end of each paycheck, my job doesn't pay very well nor is it in the field of my major, everybody I knew who could be friends in high school has long since vanished and love life is on the backburner owing to being poor.

Unless I can pull a miracle out of my ass (which is always possible even if not probable) I don't expect things to get to the point where everything is fine and handy dandy until I'm 30 at earliest. Time will tell however, I could look in the newspaper tomorrow and there's the job of my dreams.

edited 28th Feb '12 4:21:50 AM by MajorTom

NewGeekPhilosopher Wizard Basement from Sydney, Australia Since: Jul, 2009
Wizard Basement
#3: Feb 28th 2012 at 4:21:53 AM

[up]

I guess we can be Grimbros, right? Bros who have MANLY PICNICS because life is so grimdark that in the 41st Millenium there is only BROMANCE!

Hell Hasn't Earned My Tears
MajorTom Since: Dec, 2009
NewGeekPhilosopher Wizard Basement from Sydney, Australia Since: Jul, 2009
Wizard Basement
#5: Feb 28th 2012 at 4:25:25 AM

BROS FOR THE BRO GOD! BROS FOR THE BRO THRONE!

Hell Hasn't Earned My Tears
RainbowMatt Prettiest Pony :3 from the cave of unspeakable naughtiness Since: Oct, 2011 Relationship Status: And they all lived happily ever after <3
Prettiest Pony :3
#6: Feb 28th 2012 at 4:30:54 AM

Remember, the best romance is a bromance ;)

Devypu's~ Big Pony :3
whaleofyournightmare Decemberist from contemplation Since: Jul, 2011
Decemberist
#7: Feb 28th 2012 at 4:32:17 AM

@Tom, I thought you were going to sign up to the army or were already in the army?

Dutch Lesbian
RainbowMatt Prettiest Pony :3 from the cave of unspeakable naughtiness Since: Oct, 2011 Relationship Status: And they all lived happily ever after <3
Prettiest Pony :3
#8: Feb 28th 2012 at 4:37:49 AM

And yeah Maj Tom, that is like the bromance me and Pyroninja42 have (no homo)

Devypu's~ Big Pony :3
Erock Proud Canadian from Toronto Since: Jul, 2009
Proud Canadian
#10: Feb 28th 2012 at 4:48:03 AM

Posting in a New Geek thread!

But, on a serious note, I have to sympathize.

If you don't like a single Frank Ocean song, you have no soul.
randomtropeloser Since: Jan, 2001
#11: Feb 28th 2012 at 5:37:17 AM

Yeah, it really sucks. For me, it seems like my options are pretty much boiling down to either minimum wage or the military, and even those are starting to look like less likely prospects. It doesn't help that my school is beating down my door for student loan payments either.

joeyjojo Happy New Year! from South Sydney: go the bunnies! Since: Jan, 2001
Happy New Year!
#12: Feb 28th 2012 at 5:45:24 AM

Scott Pilgrim had a goal. It was to win the heart of Ramona V. Flowers Which he came to realise while noble, was no substitute for Self Respect.

I do feel you're pain however.

edited 28th Feb '12 5:47:37 AM by joeyjojo

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randomtropeloser Since: Jan, 2001
#13: Feb 28th 2012 at 5:45:22 PM

He Major Tom, as someone who's been in the military, do you think they would care if I'd used lsd in the past? Would I even have to tell them about it if I wasn't caught?

MarkVonLewis Since: Jun, 2010
#14: Feb 28th 2012 at 5:49:15 PM

New Geek: Yeah I hear ya, man. Ah well, things should improve once I leave here for basic training soon enough. Provided life doesn't fuck me over again, knock on wood.

Seriously, if Life was a person, I would drop kick the son-of-a-bitch in the chest.

MajorTom Since: Dec, 2009
#15: Feb 28th 2012 at 6:04:05 PM

^^ As long as it doesn't show on a drug test they won't really care. So long as you don't do it while you're in.

Only if you have a (criminal) record for such things will they care. To be brutally honest it's one of those things where if only you know about it, keep it to yourself, nobody else needs to know.

edited 28th Feb '12 6:05:18 PM by MajorTom

randomtropeloser Since: Jan, 2001
#16: Feb 28th 2012 at 6:23:27 PM

[up] Thanks, I guess that means I shouldn't have any trouble.

ElRigo I'm freezing! Send help! from Baja Since: Nov, 2010 Relationship Status: Awaiting my mail-order bride
I'm freezing! Send help!
#17: Feb 28th 2012 at 6:45:44 PM

And that is why I dont have any life goals.

johnnyfog Actual Wrestling Legend from the Zocalo Since: Apr, 2010 Relationship Status: They can't hide forever. We've got satellites.
Actual Wrestling Legend
#18: Feb 28th 2012 at 7:08:29 PM

[up][awesome]

I'm a skeptical squirrel
Leradny Since: Jan, 2001
#19: Feb 28th 2012 at 8:36:22 PM

Giving in to despair is the one thing you can't do when times are hard, and the easiest way to combat it is to find something else to do.

In any business you have to start from minimum wage and work your way up. Even fast food gives a raise every six months or so. It's just that the minimum for some jobs and regions is higher than others.

Most importantly, if you have time to complain about your problems on the Internet, you have time to make some change that solves those problems instead.

I get the feeling that you just don't know how.

Join a group if you want a good start to revitalizing your social life. Writing group, book discussion, running, baking, whatever. You can find one on http://www.meetup.com/ since you're already here. Form one of your own off-campus if you find the ones at your college disheartening and can't find a meet up in your area.

As for your life goals, you can't really complain about having too much time to solve them. Do all of your research, compile a list of agents and publishers, organize it carefully, proofread your query letters, and start sending them out.

edited 28th Feb '12 8:42:51 PM by Leradny

MarkVonLewis Since: Jun, 2010
#20: Feb 28th 2012 at 8:41:52 PM

And it's also important to not stop believing. If it helps, randomly belt out "DON'T STOP! BELIEVING!" Or just listen to the song by Journey.

randomtropeloser Since: Jan, 2001
#21: Feb 28th 2012 at 8:44:17 PM

Yeah, or you could try gathering cans until you have enough to buy a pull-up bar and get super buff.

MarkVonLewis Since: Jun, 2010
#22: Feb 28th 2012 at 8:45:37 PM

Which reminds me, I need to hit up that rec center in my trailer park tomorrow.

Aondeug Oh My from Our Dreams Since: Jun, 2009
Oh My
#23: Feb 28th 2012 at 8:46:08 PM

Damn you Mark I have to listen to it now.

If someone wants to accuse us of eating coconut shells, then that's their business. We know what we're doing. - Achaan Chah
randomtropeloser Since: Jan, 2001
#24: Feb 28th 2012 at 8:48:18 PM

Is this going to turn into another one of those threads where we just quote the lyrics from songs?

MarkVonLewis Since: Jun, 2010
#25: Feb 28th 2012 at 8:49:06 PM

Aon: but it is statistically one of the most inspiring songs of all time. No one with a soul can listen to "Don't Stop Believing" and NOT feel inspired and pumped up.

Random: no, I was just offering some choice words of encouragement.

edited 28th Feb '12 8:49:31 PM by MarkVonLewis


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