A single unified LGBTQ+ conversation

Okay, controversial question.

There's a video about Ezra Miller and, rightfully, tears them apart. However, the comment section straight up decides to misgender them BECAUSE they are an awful person. Does that make the commenters just as bad since the video makes it clear their pronouns.

I wouldn't say it's just as bad as shit like physical assault. But it's still bad as it implies you have to "earn" the right to be gendered correctly, a standard never expected of cisgender people.

RE: https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/posts.php?discussion=13058949630A67253100&page=9233#comment-230801

Not just as bad, but it is not a good thing to do.

It also sends the message that your transition is conditional based on if you're a particular type of person, or are considered acceptable, but can be revoked the moment people decide you don't 'deserve' it.

Like 95 percent of this comment section straight up misgenders them on purpose and it's sickening. Like, they ACTIVELY go misgender them despite me actually sending Ezra's wikipedia...I'm beginning to think those people are going to change their pronouns to the 'correct' one.

What's next? They're going to start misgendering people in their own life on purpose and have the mind to ask, "What they did wrong?" DESPITE being corrected multiple times and they. Just. Don't. Care.

It's Youtube commenters. It's probably best not to even engage.

Ugh. It just makes me cringe and get upset.

I wanted to make a new account just as a clean slate so I have to look back at my cringe teenage self, but it was rejected and I think it's because my username had the word gay in it and I'm like there's no way to contest it and I'm like urrrrggggh.

Also gaystarboyco is a hilarious name of you're as big into Succession as I am.

I guess we'll just have to remember everything you did, then.

NVM. Moved to PM

Edited by MacronNotes on Jul 11th 2022 at 7:29:48 AM

Can you not have "gay" in your username? Even if you're using it as a gay person and not as a slur?

I am pretty sure the account wasn't denied because of the name. It was mostly likely because multiple accounts under one person isn't something we allow anymore as Get Known states. Your old account has to be deleted before you make a new one.

Edited by MacronNotes on Jul 11th 2022 at 8:32:01 AM

marcen12: Like 95 percent of this comment section straight up misgenders them on purpose and it's sickening. Like, they ACTIVELY go misgender them despite me actually sending Ezra's wikipedia...I'm beginning to think those people are going to change their pronouns to the 'correct' one.

Just had a look at the Elliot Page, and it seems to be surprisingly clean. Either Wikipedia cleans up edits that get reverted/removed, or they were hidden/buried.

Then again, they seem to have already locked it, so it's possible that they anticipated/had an edit war over that previously, and prevented that kind of thing going forward.

According to anecdotal evidence, yes. If you wear a badge with your desired pronouns on it, and they're the typical he/him|she/her ones, some transphobes will take a look at it, squint at you, and deliberately refer to you using the exact opposite ones, even if you're not trans. If you use ones that aren't that, they do seem to get a little confused/tripped up.

mightymewtron: It's Youtube commenters. It's probably best not to even engage.

Agreed. Unless you're in some nice communities, YouTube comments tend to be a cesspool, either from users, or just the sheer volume of bots.

Edited by techno156 on Jul 11th 2022 at 9:33:36 PM

Yeah people who treat pronouns as a conditional thing is awful, but also yes Youtube comment sections are a cesspool.

I forgot my tranniversary... (or, really, my egg-hatching day).

Happy late Egg Hatching Day.

PEOPLE CALL IT EGG HATCHING DAY?! I call my T date my manniversary.

wait i absolutely love "egg hatching day"

for trans femmes i also love "anniv-her-sary"

I also love hrtmas (since the cis has been removed).

I was reading about some of the history of the unbanning of LGBT topics on Neopets.

I was amused at someone coining "Assigned Female/Male At The Create-A-Pet Screen" in the comments.

I also like this comic that was linked in the comments. (For context: the lab ray can change a pet's "gender" attribute, male pets don't have eyelashes while females typically do, and paintbrushes change a pet's color. The one in the comic is a royal paint brush, which gives a prince or princess look, depending on gender.)

Ah, hobby drama. The firm proof that if you group a bunch of people together, they will eventually get into an argument.

But yeah, sure. Neopet trans rights.

I might be aromantic??? But it could just be that my bipolar makes relationships hard.

Edited by trashconverters on Aug 26th 2022 at 8:35:21 PM

Isn't it written as Christmas to begin with?

Edited by Delibirda on Aug 26th 2022 at 12:38:19 PM

RE: https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/posts.php?discussion=13058949630A67253100&page=9233#comment-230821

If it helps any, aromanticism is less that relationships are difficult, and more that you don't feel the need for one, or that one doesn't do anything for you.

RE: https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/posts.php?discussion=13058949630A67253100&page=9233#comment-230822

Correct. Now remove the letters 'C', 'I', and 'S' from Christmas.

Edited by techno156 on Aug 26th 2022 at 9:12:16 PM

Ah, now I get it. Maybe.

Hello everyone. So earlier this year I came to terms with being bisexual after being in complete denial about it for years. I am quite happy about it, but it came with a lot of confusion about my romantic oriantation.

I never had real interest in actually starting a relationship with a woman, (I'm male btw.), but since I still felt physical atraction to them did I never consider what that might mean for my identety since I also did not know that romantic and sexual attraction are different things for the longest time.

But since I realised that I'm bi I have been switching between beleving that I am full aromantic, homoromantic, or maybe was just not interested in solely being with a woman and am actually polyarmarous.

The only thing I'm sure of is that I am not heteroromantic, but with me having zero experiance with dating I have no real idea where I should start to actually figure out what I really want in regards to love.

Sorry if I'm rambling, but this has been messing with my head a lot lately.