Seeing those I think I'm just plain old aro. :/

I do hate being aro though :(

May I ask why?

Because romance seems so super amazing. It's always hyped up as the best thing ever, and people involved in romance seem like they couldn't be happier.

Whenever I express this I always get told "well there are other ways to love" I get that. But I don't consider myself a loving person, never have. I think I might just have different feelings than most people.

I feel you. When this issues get into the public mind, maybe we should start hiding away romance stuff too. Or maybe disclaimers too or sumfin'.

I absolutely disagree. Hiding romance is not the answer and I am 100% against that. It would be silly to put a content warning for something so extremely common and naturally occurring.

I may not care for romance in media, but I hate censorship.

I meant that so that peeps who are aro won't see it, but others can still buy romance stuff.

Aegoromantic might be another label to try, however. You seem to enjoy the concept of romance and are disappointed that you can't have it. But I don't know if I'm the right person to label you.

I doubt it. Seeing romance in media or in real life can often make me uncomfortable out of envy.

Edited by arimothereindeer on Jun 22nd 2021 at 12:13:39 PM

Ouch. I'm sorry it can be like that.

I feel that envy sometimes, but part of it might be that I'm anxious to even fall in love with anyone.

But honestly, I know that sexualities can change with experience or changes in hormones. I'm not suggesting that your being aromantic is unnatural or needs to be cured; I'm just saying things can change.

Edited by TheWhistleTropes on Jun 22nd 2021 at 3:24:34 PM

I wouldn't want to censor romance stuff because you know damn well it would be disproportionately applied to LGBT romance. Just like all the anti-sex laws targeting sites common with LGBT people.

Hey, I don't want censorship. I meant more of a filter of some kind.

Sex should by all means be censored, however. Oftentimes the act of sex adds nothing to the plot and seems to be only there to keep the audience invested in the often-obligatory romantic subplot.

I'm referring more to stuff like the SESTA/FOSTA laws, and homophobic laws that label LGBT content as sexual content, even if it's totally innocuous. That's why we need to be wary of banning sex and romance.

Plus, there's a difference between a content warning and censorship. While gratuitous sex scenes are a dumb thing, sex is a part of a lot of relationships and stories and can be reasonably integrated into a plot. An adult-oriented movie can feature sex cuz a lot of adult lives do involve sex, even if it's obviously not necessary in every story.

If it is just for the arousal, boo. If it serves a purpose, .

Hello, I don't believe I've introduced myself here. I am a bisexual — about equally attracted to both sexes. (Maybe pansexual? Panromantic? I'm not really clear on all the definitions.)

On the topic of sex in media, I agree with mightymewtron that it shouldn't be censored, but also shouldn't be used gratuitously. Besides the often prurient and sleazy nature of those sort of scenes, I'm not really a fan of that sort of audience manipulation — it feels cheap to me.

Watcha mean by audience manipulation?

I mean there does need to be some limits though obviously, they can't show full-on nudity in most media (like ones intended for the general audience).

I mean obvious, unsubtle audience manipulation — like what you said about sex scenes that are included "just for the arousal".

All fiction is meant to manipulate the audience's emotions, of course. But I think that good fiction is more subtle about it, while a bad work of fiction will make it very very obvious what you should be feeling at any point, whether it be fear, sadness, triumph or, well, arousal.

I've been flip-flopping between being bigender/genderfluid, even though I've not actually had much chance to express that due to COVID and social distancing.

I'm AMAB, for now using he/him pronouns.

My romantic preferences haven't changed- still attracted to feminine women mainly.

I have a small attraction to men, but my attraction to men is rarely acted upon, partially because I live in a small area and LGBTQ-related issues aren't a major issue here.

I'm not really as clear on what my preferences are in men.

Edited by Merseyuser1 on Jun 27th 2021 at 10:59:03 AM

Hm. Interesting.

Was this about my post or the one above?

Your's

Makes sense.

Probably would have declared my love for shipping if I could go girlmode in real life.

I've not really had much chance yet to explore the girlmode side of me despite discovering in 2019 I was bigender/genderfluid.