"Be yourself?"
No. No no no. In the long term, yes. Once a girl latches onto you, there's a good chance she'll put up with your flaws. Eventually, love may even bloom. But in the short term, you have to be as charming and as ideal as possible.
I say this because I've been nothing but myself for as long as I can remember, and it has gotten me absolutely nowhere with women.
edited 16th Jan '11 2:47:17 PM by InkyQuills
In the same place I was that one time, all the timeI apologize about the shitposting.
In general, just be yourself + 1, if you get what I'm saying. Always be at your finest, most confident, and generally most pumped when you're talking to a girl you're interested in.
My name is Cu Chulainn. Beside the raging sea I am left to moan. Sorrow I am, for I brought down my only son.The only things I can think of that probably wouldn't be too subjective:
- Able to sustain themselves.
- Capable of getting a decent source of income, or having a ridiculous amount of money that can probably support several lives anyway.
- Not abusive.
He just likes incest.
[1] This facsimile operated in part by synAC.Experience is NOT necessary if there's a willingness to explore. *grin* There's definitely something to be said for discovering things together.
My list: Patience, curiosity, persistence, generosity, humility, contentment, frugality, responsibility, and a wry sense of humor tempered by an overall positive outlook.
It depends, some women like a goofy dude who is doing his best, they think the inexperienced and nervous effort is cute.
Other women get kind of lazy about it and don't want to put out the effort, they just want a dude who is attractive and can be a benefit to them financially, in exchange they end up sleeping with them, it's a contract of sorts.
Dating and prostitution have lots in common.
Personally I despise all the money being involved, I'm not getting serious with any woman who can't support herself the way I can support myself, I view relationships as partnerships, sex doesn't compensate for bringing in some of the bacon, both partners have to contribute or there is no point.
Since females are posting lists has anyone seen the comparative list of what males look for in a partner vs what females look for, and the well disparity in how long they are? Yes yes 'it's an ideal mate etc etc'
You've been on craigslist too long. Again depends on the girl. You shouls specify.
Also @ Barkey. I see thank you.
edited 16th Jan '11 3:09:38 PM by BalloonFleet
WHASSUP....... ....with lolis!W Hy do all girls like jerks... I'm not 100% sure because I generally don'T even like to be lumped into one category with them but... Besides the obvious demonisations: I think they are more pragmatic since they value money or influence of their partner more than your average female. They know they are being exploited and they exploit right back so no problem. Perhaps they've given up on "true" love? Maybe it's part of their kink? Maybe they rely on gender stereotypes that need to be overhauled? Maybe they don't think their partner is a jerk? *sigh*<p>
And about experience... No every girl is automatically involved in sex after a certain age, even if it may seem so to disheartened guys. Next to the blonde bombshells there are enough normal/geeky/not willing to hook up with the first jerk hitting on them girls who ask themselves if they will ever meet someone. Take it from a 20 year old virgin.
edited 16th Jan '11 3:37:22 PM by myrdschaem
Yeah, but that differs widely. As it was poited out before as long as you're taking a bit care of your self/body(like regularly washing), not being a total jerk, being able to start commnication with them/confident/open and a bit attentive to them you have a basis for most of them.
Maybe if you specific what kind of girl someone can make better recommendations but apart from "Be yourself.", "Have some confidence/self esteem" and all typical lines it's hard to give good advice.
"Since females are posting lists has anyone seen the comparative list of what males look for in a partner vs what females look for, and the well disparity in how long they are?" - Balloon Fleet
Actually, IIRC from 1st-year psychology, females tend to be a bit more careful who they mate with than males (as in "eggs are expensive sperm are cheap" and all that) therefore females will tend to have a higher variety of traits they select for than males will.
The way one of my professors put it was: "A woman walks into a building where they are surveying women about what they would want in a man. The first floor had a sign saying "these men are good-looking," the second had a sign saying "these men are good-looking and successful" etc... and each floor added another desirable trait to the list. When she got to the sixth floor, all she saw was a sign telling her that most women get to this floor. Meanwhile, the opposite side of the street had a building surveying men for what they would want in a woman. The first floor had a sign saying "these women are good-looking" and the second had a sign saying "these women are good-looking and they like sex." The third, fourth, fifth and sixth floors have never been visited."
Of course, it was an exaggeration to make a point, but he did say it was reflective of the general differences between male and female sexual selection.
In any case, even in the context of that story I would to assume that "likes sex" probably has more to do with it than just looks; I've often seen guys go out with some rather plain-looking girls they met in online communities because they appreciated said girls' personalities. When I see stuff like that, I'm inclined to doubt that guys are as shallow as they're made out to be. o.o

The types of females who just want a handsome dude with some disposable income and an arrogant attitude. They tend to throw all their own interests to the wayside when they start to date those guys that they are looking for, and it becomes all about the type of things he's into, I rather despise that, since I'm more of a giver and appeaser in a relationship.
But I'm pretty happy with my girlfriend, it's a shame our future is uncertain due to both of us being military and in different branches. She likes discussing religion, politics, and philosophy with me, and likes to make fun of weird people in the mall with me. I love the shit out of her.
edited 16th Jan '11 2:46:21 PM by Barkey