The Asexuality Archive is a collection of all things Ace. In these pages, I hope to provide a comprehensive and uncensored look into what asexuality is, what it means to us and how it shapes our lives. My intention is to provide information that is approachable and informative, whether or not you're asexual.
— Their answer to what the site is
Asexuality Archive.com
is a website created by an asexual, single, somewhat socially awkward, American man that seeks to define asexuality, describe what being asexual is like, and clear up misconceptions about asexuality. It has a few sections:
- Asexuality 101: A section full of articles about asexuality, which includes the fact that asexuality is not a disorder, an article for parents, an article about demisexuality and grey-asexuality, a list of myths about what asexuality is, a list of possible signs of asexuality that's split into three parts (about you, about sex and about others), a Q & A, an article about asexuality in men, an article about different kinds of attraction, and one about sex.
- Asexuality in the World: A section full of articles about how asexuality relates to the rest of the world, such as what things such as black rings mean, and about parades. It also talks about asexuality and celebrities and fictional characters.
- An Asexual's Guide To: A list of articles describing sexual topics (from anatomy to actual sex) geared towards an asexual person.
- Ace Images: A list of images relating to asexuality.
- Asexual Life: A section of articles on how asexuality affects life, and what people can do/say about asexuality (like how to tell someone you're asexual and other stuff like that).
- Asexuality and Me: A section of articles about the author's experience with asexuality.
- Love, Romance and Other Relationships: A section of articles about relationships and the difference between romance and sexuality. It also features an article about being single.
- Sex, Masturbation and Other Activities: A section about sexual activities, how to do them, what they are, and the author's experience with them, especially in relation to asexuality.
- Quick Questions: A Q & A where the answers to the questions are relatively short.
- The Comment Section: A project where the author analyzes negative comments about asexuality and groups them into categories (claiming it's too complicated, that it's political, that nothing bad happens, trying to play the role of a doctor/psychologist/scientist/etc, being self-centered, being apathetic, claiming they know more about the asexual person than them, or claiming that asexuality should not be part of LGBT+.).
- Ask an Ace Guy: A series of questions sent in to the author about being an asexual guy.
- North American Asexuality Conference and Asexuality Unconference: Two sections about topics discussed during meetings about asexuality.
- An Exploration of Doubts: A list of reasons why people might doubt being asexual and whether those are legitimate reasons to doubt.
Asexuality Archive provides examples of:
- All Men Are Perverts: The author talks about how he is an asexual man, but the media seems to think that all men should be obsessed with sex.
- Artistic License – History: One picture made by the author states that Nikola Tesla "invented" electricity. Discovered new uses for it, yes. Invented, no.
- And That's Terrible: The female masturbation guide tells you not to put random objects around the house into your vagina because they might have sharp edges, be home to bacteria, or "they might belong to someone else, which would just be rude..."
- Athletically Challenged: In one article, the writer mentions that he's never felt emasculated before, and while he was more interested in crafts than sports in high school, he attributed that to being an "uncoordinated nerd who sunburns easily".
- Better than Sex: The author talks about how asexuals might find sex boring compared to other activities. He also states that Red Alarm is "more awesome than sex".
- Bigger Is Better in Bed: The author remembers that he never cared about his "size" and used to wonder if men did too or if it was all an act.
- Bread, Eggs, Milk, Squick: The author once lists hypothetical reasons for sex as being because it's against your religion, because you can't find anyone or because you're in prison.
- But Liquor Is Quicker: The author occasionally states that getting drunk is a reason why people might have sex with people they're not sexually attracted to.
- Cactus Cushion: There is a line that says that you don't have to try sex to see if you'd like it if you have a strong aversion, just like you don't have to hug a cactus to know that'd be unpleasant.
- Cargo Ship: In-Universe, the author talks about how inanimate objects are sometimes called "sexy" and about how some people think using a sex toy means you "have the hots for an inanimate object".
- Conspiracy Theorist: The author says that some comments that are against asexuality sound like conspiracy theories made by people who aren't "within our plane of reality".
- Denied Food as Punishment: The author states that asexual people can have sex in all the ways non-asexual people can and "it's not like there's some universal ace code of conduct that says asexual women must lie passively and asexual men must thrust in the missionary position and any deviations from these standards is punishable by no cake for a month."
- Does Not Like Spam: The author has a psychological condition that makes him averse to a lot of foods, but it's less like disliking them and more like thinking they're not even food, however, he does have one run-of-the-mill food dislike with Thai food.
- I Do Not Like Green Eggs and Ham: The author points out, sometimes referencing the Trope Namer, that sometimes, people will think asexual people need to try sex because "maybe they'll like it", and in one case, he has had similar experiences with food due to an eating disorder (not like anorexia or bulimia, one called A.R.F.I.D.). He points out that if you think you definitely won't like sex, you probably won't, and even if you do like it, then that doesn't mean you're not asexual.
- It's Not Porn, It's Art: In the article "Missing a Permission Slip", the author mentions how the media's attitude is that if you have depictions of nudity, you're a pervert unless it's an oil painting, a sculpture, or a soft-focus photograph and you don't get aroused by it, because then it's "art".
- Fridge Logic: In-Universe, the author actually discovered he was asexual by seeing a scene in a TV show where it's implied that two people have just had sex, but they're in a position where sex would have been hard, if not impossible.
- Group-Identifying Feature: Defied by this site, which states that asexual people don't have something that sets them apart, such as extra ribs, pointy ears, T-shirts that identify them as ace, or black rings. They look like everybody else does.
- Immodest Orgasm: In the orgasms article, the writer points out that it's a stereotype and not often true that people scream while having an orgasm.
- Insane Troll Logic: One almost-joke article points out how the same things people can use to deny asexuality's existence can be said about Chicago, which can get pretty ridiculous.
- I Want Grandkids: One of the things parents are listed as not being supposed to say to their asexual kids is "What about grandchildren?".
- Lie Back and Think of England: The writer says that sometimes, asexuals will have sex with non-asexuals to please them or because it's what they're "supposed" to do.
- Long List: The author, in one article, states that it might be a sign of asexuality if you'd rather "read a book, watch TV, stargaze, play a video game, go to a movie, stargaze, walk the dog, go shopping, organize the books on the bookshelf by date of the author's birth, go bird watching, build a Lego tribute to the Prime Ministers of Canada, work on the car, mow the lawn, learn Esperanto, fly a kite or eat cake" than have sex.
- Mistaken for Gay: One of the questions on the "Q & Ace" article is "Oh, so you're gay?".
- Nocturnal Emission: The author lists wet dreams as an example of random ejaculation.
- Not Where They Thought: Discussed in the article "The Great Chicago Conspiracy", which notes that denying the existence of asexuality because you once thought you were asexual but were wrong is like saying, "I once thought I was in Chicago but I was wrong — I was really in New York all along. Therefore, there's no such place as Chicago."
- Phony Degree: In the Comment Section analysis, the author says that some people act like doctors/scientists/psychologists when they're really not.
- Post-Coital Collapse: Conversed. The author discovered that he was asexual after analyzing such a scene in a movie. Namely, two characters fall back into bed naked and panting with the implication they had sex, but from their positioning, they wouldn't have been physically able to.
- Sex Is Evil: The author points out that a lot of people think sex is sinful/dirty, but that there is nothing wrong with sex and that most asexuals aren't anti-sex.
- Shout-Out:
- The author often references Green Eggs and Ham when he's talking about being told to try sex because "maybe you'll like it".
- One article is called "That word...I do not think it means what you think it means", which is a line from Inigo Montoya in The Princess Bride.
- One joke article wonders if Mario is asexual.
- The author once read Sherlock Holmes.
- The author compares asexual teens thinking that everyone is pretending to like sex just to fit in to The Emperor's New Clothes.
- The author once states that an asexual person, if given the chance of a "no-strings, no-regrets, no-consequences sexual encounter", they might hesitate because Fringe is on.
- The author once half-jokingly states that Red Alarm is more awesome than sex.
- In the same article, he says that, "[Saying life must suck for him without sex] would be a bit like [him] telling you that your life must suck because you don't want a copy of a game like Space Squash."
- The author once writes a story about a Pac-Man ghost.
- The author mentions that some people might think asexuality comes from a brain tumor due to watching House.
- The Teetotaler: The author compares masturbation to avoid prostate cancer to drinking wine to avoid heart disease and states that, just like if you don't want to masturbate, you don't have to, you don't have to drink wine if you don't drink.
- You Keep Using That Word: Some articles point out that people misuse the word "asexual" and/or confuse it with other words. One of them even references the Trope Namer.
