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Basic Trope: A Double Standard where the leading man of the show is sexually active, the leading lady...isn't and shouldn't be.

  • Straight: Bob has had many girlfriends in the past. He will end up with Alice, who has never had sex before.
  • Exaggerated:
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  • Downplayed: Bob is the most sexually active character in the series (compared to the others, who aren't promiscuous themselves), but ends with Alice, who only has sex with someone she truly knows and loves.
  • Justified:
    • Bob knows he'll eventually settle down and stop his reckless lifestyle, and wants to be with the girl that'll definitely be faithful to him.
    • Alternatively, All Women Are Lustful in this setting, therefore one that isn't constantly looking for sex is seen as a prize.
    • Bob thinks that promiscuous women have loose/big naughty-bits, something not valued in this setting, even if that wouldn't actually be the result In-Universe.
    • Alice and Bob are living during a time when there is no reliable birth control, and no such thing as a Daddy DNA Test (or where such things exist, but are difficult to access for one reason or another)...and where Lineage Comes from the Father. So it's important that Alice never have slept with anyone but Bob, to ensure that Bob (and everyone else concerned) know that any children she may have belong to Bob.
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    • ST Is are rampant, and either there's no such thing as antibiotics/antivirals (or even germ theory), or they've become resistant to all known antibiotic/antiviral drugs. It's just too risky to sleep around.
    • In this setting, a woman's place is in the home. Bob wants someone, accordingly, who will stay home and do her work and obey his every whim without questioning her place in society. If this is the only life she knows, she's not going to question Bob, or the "natural" order of things, or go off seeking "adventures".
    • Bob is insecure about his body, or his performance in bed. He figures that a woman who has never had sex won't know how bad he is or care, having (theoretically) no frame of reference for what constitutes "bad" sex or a Teeny Weenie.
  • Inverted: My Girl Is a Slut
  • Gender Inverted: Alternatively, the promiscuous lady will hook up with the male virgin.
  • Subverted:
    • It turns out that Alice has had sex before...
    • Alice was raped; she did not lose her virginity consensually.
  • Double Subverted: ...With Bob, of course. She'll always be faithful to him.
  • Parodied:
  • Zig Zagged: Bob only says he's been with other ladies to his guy friends, but we've never seen him...oh, never mind; he IS sexually active! But, look; so is Alice! Guess she's no longer the love interest...unless it was Not What It Looks Like and she is still dedicated to Bob.
  • Averted:
    • Bob and Alice are both virgins, or they've both had sex with other people.
    • Neither Alice's nor Bob's sexual histories are commented on in-story, as they are not relevant to the plot.
    • Being a slut or a virgin is neither seen as good or bad.
  • Enforced: "The guys will sympathise with Bob for being able to pick girls up so easily, and the girls will see Alice as a kind-hearted role model that'll win in the end. What could go wrong?"
  • Lampshaded: "Bob, if it wasn't for this little thing called the 'Double Standard', Alice would've mounted your head on a pike by now."
  • Invoked: Bob isn't officially dating Alice, and his best friend is having his bachelor party at the local strip joint...Alice will understand if his hormones kick in, right?
  • Exploited: ???
  • Defied: "If Bob thinks it's okay for him to fuck all these other chicks, why shouldn't I be able to pick up a few studs myself?"
  • Discussed: "If Bob knows that Alice will always be there for him, why is he always with other chicks he knows he'll only have sex with?"
  • Conversed: "Bob's such a hypocrite! Why can't he be as faithful to her as she is to him?"
  • Deconstructed: Because of the Double Standard, Bob suffers from a bad case of Madonna–Whore Complex and always thinks of other women when he makes love to Alice because he can't have sex with a woman he respects. He ends up cheating on Alice constantly and their relationship goes sour, especially after their kids find out his lifestyle. Both end up bitter and miserable.
  • Reconstructed: Acknowledging that such a relationship is hurtful to both and pretty much going nowhere, both part ways amicably before having kids and go searching for a more fulfilling relationship that both would enjoy.
  • Played For Laughs: Bob plans to have a romantic evening alone with Alice...until one of his old 'conquests' shows up at his door, wanting to start an actual relationship. Cue Bob arguing with himself and a possible Cat Fight between the two girls.
  • Played For Drama:
    • Bob's virility leads him to catching an STD, which he passes on to Alice. Even though Bob has had a lot of sex in the past, Alice has had only a little with him, and will never be able to enjoy it again.
    • One of Bob's girlfriends is pregnant with his child, and doesn't want an abortion. Will Bob choose to be with the mother of his child, or the still-faithful Alice?
    • Bob's activeness is due to a Freudian Excuse. He never felt loved as a child, and seeks to fill the void with physical pleasures. Alice's dedication to him causes a revelation that develops his character and they become a wonderful couple.
    • Bob finds out Alice wasn't a virgin when they met; she had sex once before with one person. Bob feels as though she has cheated on him, even though at the time, he didn't even know she existed.
    • Alice, a rape victim, is forced into marriage to her rapist, in order to preserve her and her family's reputation.
      • Alternatively, Alice thinks of herself as Defiled Forever and "dirty", because she's no longer a virgin, and that's what her society thinks.
    • Alice's family has her killed, pressures her into suicide, or disowns her for not being a virgin anymore, regardless of whether she lost her virginity through consensual sex, or through rape.

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