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Bob hates Aerith. He makes it very clear that he hates her. However, for some reason, no matter how blunt he is with her, she is not only unaware that he hates her, but actually thinks they're friends.

A sub-trope of Mutually Unequal Relation. Oblivious to Hatred is when a character, usually The Ditz, a Cloud Cuckoolander, or has a Small Name, Big Ego, or is a Horrible Judge of Character, is blissfully unaware of how much another character hates them, despite how blatant they are about their feelings. This trope can often result in either an Insult Backfire or Insult Misfire.

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When a character does become aware of the other's dislike for them, it turns into Somebody Doesn't Love Raymond. For when a character can't accept that another isn't in love with them, see Mad Love. Compare Unknown Rival and contrast Oblivious to Love.


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    Anime and Manga 
  • In Bloom Into You, Chie Yuzuki, Sayaka's sempai and ex-girlfriend, seems to believe they are(or at least can be) Amicable Exes, since she apologizes for making Sayaka like girls, and acts relieved when Sayaka says she has no idea why she fell in love with Chie.
  • Blue Exorcist: Shiemi seems to be this at first with Izumo. She tries to be her friend, but Izumo would often insult her for her attempts. However, by the Impure King arc, it's revealed that she's fully aware of what she thinks of her, but still wants to help her and be her friend.
  • Arale from Dr. Slump. Dr. Mashirito wants to kill her and openly tells her to her face, but she just thinks of him as an another playmate. She has a moment of clarity in the second movie, but apparently just forgot about it later on. Towards the end of the anime, both Senbei and Obotchaman know about Mashirito's bad intentions, but she's still as oblivious as ever.
  • Fruits Basket: Kagura is madly in love with Kyo, but she tends to be violent when overcome with her emotions. Because of this, Kyo can't stand her, but she can never seem to take the hint.
  • My Hero Academia:
    • All Might seems to view Endeavor as an acquaintance. However, Endeavor hates him and always brushes him off due to his desire to one-up him. That being said, after All Might is forced into retirement and Endeavor becomes the #1 Hero as a result of that, Endeavor's hatred for All Might seems to have died down, since he's willing to ask All Might for advice (something he'd never have considered before).
    • Himiko Toga, a member of the League of Villains, seems to think Ochako and Tsuyu are her friends, despite being an Ax-Crazy Serial Killer with a serious case of Blood Lust. Tsuyu even tells her not to use a First-Name Basis with her since she only lets her friends do it, but she doesn't comply.
  • One-Punch Man: Puri Puri Prisoner's fellow prisoners hate him for all the abuse he put them through, to the point that they willingly become monsters just for the chance to kill him. He is completely oblivious to this when they finally meet in the Monster Association base, and promises to save them even after they outright tell him that they hate his guts and don't want to be saved.
  • In Useless Princesses, since Nanaki Fujishiro repeatedly picked on Kanade Kurokawa for being plain-looking, the fact that Kurokawa doesn't like Fujishiro should have been completely obvious. However, when Fujishiro discovers that her boyfriend is cheating on her, and said boyfriend cruelly dumps her after being caught, Kurokawa says that anyone would feel sad about being treated that way by the person they love. Fujishiro misinterprets that as Kurokawa trying to be nice to her in spite of their past history, while Kurokawa bears a grudge against her. Kurokawa doesn't try to correct Fujishiro, though, and they eventually do become friends.
  • Downplayed with Mitsuki and Kanoko in Yuri Is My Job. Mitsuki doesn't think she and Kanoko are friends, but doesn't seem to be aware that Kanoko is jealous of Mitsuki's closeness to Kanoko's best friend, Hime.

    Comic Books 
  • The Joker's relationship with Batman is this, Depending on the Writer. Sometimes, he views his crime spree on Gotham and Batman's attempts to stop him as a game, despite the serious damage he often causes. Other times, he actually seems to hate him just as much, but doesn't really show it outside of finding ways to torment Batman.
  • Poison Ivy: Another case of Depending on the Writer, Ivy is often depicted as having such a delusional infatuation with Batman that she is completely unaware of how he really feels about her. Some portrayals indicate that she sees herself as a princess of sorts, waiting for her knight (Batman) to free her from her prison (Arkham), without really comprehending the fact that he's the person who sent her there in the first place. Other stories have her claim that Batman's ability to resist her mind control indicates that he has strong feelings for her without her drugs to induce it. And others have her interpret Batman's tendency to save her life (even from accidents of her own making) as a tacit admission that he does "love" her on some level. Some stories even indicate that she sees Catwoman and Talia al Ghul as rivals for Batman's affections. However, while Batman definitely has been tempted by raw physical attraction to Ivy (because anyone remotely attracted to women is), her goddess complex, megalomania and disregard for human life utterly disgust him.
  • Catwoman: Deconstruction. Selina's childhood friend Sylvia Sinclair had a deep hatred for her because when they were teenagers working the streets together as prostitutes, Sylvia took Selina's place during their first time so Selina wouldn't have to go through with it. Selina didn't know how to handle Sylvia after the incident or attempt to comfort her, causing Sylvia to develop a deep hatred of Selina because she felt Selina abandoned her. Despite their shaky history - and also that in the past during a heist gone bad, Selina was forced to leave Sylvia to be arrested - Selina was in the dark about Sylvia's hatred for her and trusted her, even considering Sylvia her closest childhood friend. Sylvia abuses that trust by revealing her identity to her enemy Black Mask, who kidnaps Selina's little sister Maggie and her husband Simon Burton. Simon is tortured to death, while Maggie is tortured to insanity.
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    Fan Works 
  • In Neither a Bird nor a Plane, it's Deku!, Izuku is completely oblivious to how much Bakugou's cat, Dexter, despises him. He insists they're friends even as the cat does nothing but bite, scratch, and throw toys at him. Izuku continues to deny it even after Bakugou tells him flatly to his face that Dexter hates him.
  • In Amazing Fantasy, Tsukauchi wonders if All Might is faking ignorance of Endeavor's animosity for him to avoid creating tension or if he actually has no clue.
  • In Yugioh EQG:
    • When they first meet during the first round of the Celestic Cup, Flash very clearly dislikes Timber due to him flirting with Twilight. Timber however never seems to pick up on this, even when Flash challenges him to a duel, they get into an argument during it, and Flash tells for him to go away once it is over. When Timber reunited with Flash and Twilight in the sequel at the party before the final round, he acts as if he and Flash are old friends, when Flash is clearly annoyed at seeing him again.
    • Flash's parents, Trail Blazer and Misty Veil, both considered Sombra to be a close friend of theirs. Sombra however never liked Trail at all, believing him to be interfering with his attempts to ask out Misty himself. When Misty ended up marrying Trail instead of Sombra, Sombra saw it as a betrayal from both of them. Neither of them ever realized how bitter he felt towards them both until he prepares to sacrifice them both to begin the return of the Doom-Vaders.

    Literature 

  • Wings of Fire: Fatespeaker is convinces the other "false" dragonets are her friends, though they actually hate her and are happy when their next task assigned by Morrowseer allows them to potentially kill her.

    Live-Action TV 
  • Blackadder the Third: Prince George is completely clueless as to how much his entire country hates him. Parliament votes him a budget to spend on booze for the explicit purpose of drinking himself to death, and what he hears as "We hail Prince George!" is in fact "We hate Prince George!".

    Theatre 
  • In some productions of Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat, Joseph is portrayed as being cheerfully oblivious to how much his brothers resent his status as the favored son. Jacob also has no idea how much his favoritism towards Joseph enrages his other sons, to the point that when they sell Joseph into slavery and tell Jacob that he was killed in a fight with a goat, he sees no reason not to believe their obviously ridiculous story.

    Web Comic 
  • This is Fighter and Black Mage's relationship in a nutshell in 8-Bit Theatre. Fighter thinks he and Black Mage are the best of friends, but Black Mage hates Fighter's guts (primarily due to Fighter being for the most part dumb as a box of rocks). Black Mage even attempts to kill Fighter on more than one occasion.
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    Web Original 
  • Red vs. Blue: Caboose thinks Church is his best friend, but Church despises Caboose due to his dangerous stupidity, which had gotten him killed and turned into a ghost ( or an AI as it's later revealed).
  • Dragon Ball Z Abridged: Goku thinks that he and Vegeta are friends, despite Vegeta's not-so-subtle hatred for him. He even tells Goku to fuck off when he claims they're friends, to which he responds "the best."
  • Final Fantasy VII: Machinabridged: A rare example when the resident Jerkass is this. Tifa spends the majority of season 1 belittling and threatening Cloud, something he makes all to clear he doesn't appreciate when he occasionally verbally retaliates. At the end of season 1, she reveals that despite all that, she still believed Cloud had any ounce of respect for her, which triggers Cloud's Rage Breaking Point, leading to him delivering a huge "Reason You Suck" Speech.

    Western Animation 
  • Danny Phantom: Throughout their lives since college, Jack always saw Vlad as his best friend and practically idolized the guy, unaware of the sheer hatred Vlad felt towards him for causing the accident that hospitalized him and gave him his powers, as well as for marrying Maddie, the woman Vlad wanted for himself. Only in the Grand Finale did Jack finally see what Vlad truly is.
  • SpongeBob SquarePants: Squidward notoriously loathes SpongeBob, but no matter how blunt he is, SpongeBob can never seem to get the picture.
  • The Simpsons:
    • Flanders is always friendly to Homer, despite all the times he tells him to shut up or go away and borrows his stuff without returning them and has either fantasized or actively plotted to make his life miserable and doesn't even bothers to keep it a secret. However, if Flanders is truly oblivious varies Depending on the Writer since there are some episodes that show Ned is fully aware of how much Homer dislikes him, but puts up with it for the sake of being a good Christian.
    • Martin believed that he was popular with his classmates, when in actuality, they find him annoying and laugh at him when he gets humiliated. He learns this the hard way in Bart Gets An F when Bart offers to help make him more popular in exchange for helping him study.
  • She-Ra and the Princesses of Power: Scorpia is always friendly, and at times, motherly, with Catra. However, Catra openly finds her annoying and incompetent, something Scorpia sees as just her playing around.
    Scorpia: Catra left me in charge! Can you believe it?
    Lonnie: Um, no. I really can't.
    Scorpia: She said "Scorpia, even you can't screw this up." Even me! Isn't she sweet?
  • Beavis And Butthead:
    • Stewart seems to believe Beavis and Butt-head are his best friends, despite how often they bully, insult, and get him into trouble. This is shown in the clipshow Series Fauxnale where his flashback remembering the duo had them hanging out like old friends and talking like they came out of an episode of Leave It to Beaver.
    • On the other hand, Beavis and Butt-head want to be friends with Todd, despite how often he bullies, insults, beats them up, and gets them into trouble. They don't mind being assaulted by him, and they think he only does it because he is "cool".
  • Steven in Steven Universe is an All-Loving Hero with an optimistic streak that borders on ignorance, so he usually ignores Lars' vitriolic behavior.
  • Futurama: Sometimes Dr. Zoidberg is oblivious to being The Friend Nobody Likes, and thinks all his co-workers are his close friends. In "The Six Million Dollar Mon", he's genuinely shocked when Hermes tells him he's not his friend, even if Hermes openly hates Zoidberg more than anyone and is always verbal about it. Yet the same episode implies he's subconsciously aware of it with his spot-on impression of what Hermes would say to him.
  • The Legend of Korra: Prince Wu is a rather sweet person and genuinely friendly, who considers New Team Avatar (Korra, Asami, and Mako) the best friends he has. However, Wu's bratty, ditsy, and overtly flirtatious attitude makes it hard for them to do more than tolerate him. It seems Wu is in the dark on how his behavior annoys them. He does get better as the season progresses. By the end of the season, Mako and Korra have warmed up to him and are proud of his decision to dissolve the monarchy.
  • On Invader Zim, Zim himself is completely blind to the fact that his entire species hates him, due to his insanity and big ego tainting his view of reality, and because during Operation Impending Doom 1, he nearly destroyed the Irken's home planet.
  • Todd from Code Monkeys claims he is the best developer at Game-O-Vision, he is very attractive, and is adored by his co-workers. In actuality, his games are no better or worse than anybody else's, he's an obese nerd, and his co-workers find his ego annoying. The only characters who tolerate him are Jerry or (Depending on the Writer) Black Steve.
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