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Nobody Over 50 Is Gay
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"Karen, all straight people age."
Jack McFarland, Will & Grace

LGBT characters are becoming more common on TV. However, they are still generally pretty young. This may be tied to the fact that characters over 50, whether gay, bisexual, straight, or asexual, rarely discuss (much less have) sex at all on television, as well as such people having grown up in a time very hostile to openly LGBT people.

Obviously not at all Truth in Television, but slightly justified in that most people from older generations grew up in a time where the expectation to being straight was so unquestionable, that many gay people lived their lives pretending to be straight and/or suppressing any gay urges, and are just now beginning to come out of the closet. In this past of such strict taboo, Nobody-Is-Gay was the more straightforward assumption. So now, Nobody Over 50 Is Gay. Even Heteronormative Crusaders generally acknowledge that gay people of diverse age exist, but that they should Get Back in the Closet — only those more strictly isolated from this information (such as older generations in the past, or media-restrictive religious communities) may actually fail to fathom the existence of gay people in their midst. This trope even applies in gay media, due to a heavy focus on youth and conventional beauty. If older gays appear at all, it's mostly to mentor the younger heroes or lecherously chase after them.


It may be on its way to a Dead Horse Trope - it doesn't really apply in the United Kingdom, thanks to a lot of publicity from celebrities such as Stephen Fry and Elton John, and in the US, this trope is slowly fading too as openly gay celebs get older. In addition, the general increase of openly gay characters in TV and film has led to a greater diversity of gay characters, including both middle-aged and elderly gay couples.

The one general exception to this rule is Immortality Bisexuality: Bisexual immortal characters who are extremely old — though played by young actors, and thus still largely fulfilling this trope. Also see Lesbian Vampire.

Since this trope is prominent, please only add notable exceptions.



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  • Averted in a TV ad for Google Chrome featuring LGBT people reassuring a character coming out over the Internet. Among them is a man who looks to be in his seventies who says, "It just gets better with age."

    Anime & Manga 
  • In Full Metal Panic!, Gauron looks to be around 50, and is very gay for Sousuke. Apparently, even at that age, he has no problems talking about his sexual fantasies to Sousuke (who reacts like any normal teenager would, Squicking at Too Much Information). Of course, it's even more disturbing for him, since Gauron's fantasies involve him — or, more accurately, his corpse.
  • An elderly lesbian couple show up in the Girls' Love manga Ame-iro Kouchakan Kandan and comment about the tea shop owner's growing attraction to her employee. The elderly couple admit that they've been together for 50 years.
  • The old merchant Yamatoya in Peacemaker Kurogane. He rapes Suzu after picking him up off the streets, as well as two twin kitty boys.
  • Old Lord Trancy from episode 8 in Black Butler II who rapes Alois and possibly other young boys as well.
  • Lil' Mama, a minor character from Space Dandy that lives on Planet Betelgeuse, looks around 50-ish, and is dating Meow's longtime crush, Katie. This is what supercharges Meow's determination in the group successfully getting out of the "Groundhog Day" Loop they're in at the time (with his acceptance phase of the resulting despair being to settle down with Katie).
  • Some Yaoi mangas have it as a plot point that the young main character is still inexperienced and confused with their sexuality, ending up to be seduced by a man around 50. Some even go so far to have the father of the later boyfriend be the gay post-50 man that seduces the main character.
  • Sada Hinomoto in Hisone and Masotan was, and is, in love with Yae, a miko; though her age is a bit vague, they met exactly 73 years ago. Their interactions shown could be written off as Romantic Two-Girl Friendship, but a dream about her causes the dragon Sada is flying to freak out and reject her, something that was previously established to only happen because of romantic feelings. This is also a case of Bury Your Gays, though, because her love interest died when they were young as a sacrifice to appease an ancient dragon.
  • The protagonists of What Did You Eat Yesterday? began as a gay couple in their early 40s. The series progresses in Real Time, so they've both since entered their 50s by chapter 101.

    Comic Books 
  • Steve Traynor, the police captain in Top 10, is around 50-60 years old, and is gay (albeit largely closeted). His boyfriend, Wulf, is about five-to-ten years older. They were WWII super-heroes, and started seeing each other when Steve, a.k.a. Jetlad, was 16.
  • Hellblazer:
    • Ray Monde is an elderly gay man who is friends with the protagonist, John Constantine.
    • For that matter, Constantine himself is bisexual and has (sort of) aged in real time, he was calculated to have turned 56 on May 10, 2009.
  • Alex Burgess and Paul McGuire in The Sandman, though they're young on their first appearance and age over the course of the story.
  • Ultimate Edwin Jarvis, Tony Stark's butler.
  • Played with with the guy who turns out to be the murderer in Green Arrow: Quiver. He wasn't actually gay, just faking to earn the sympathy of the title character.
  • In Circles, Paulie is well over 50 and gay. He also has AIDS.
  • Steve "Captain America" Rogers' childhood best friend, Arnie Roth, was revealed to be gay when the two met up again for the first time since World War II. As Steve was born in 1917, and the meeting occurs in 1982, Arnie was probably around 65 at the time.
  • It was eventually revealed that two of Marvel Comics's WWII heroes, the Destroyer and Union Jack, were lovers before the war and kept up the relationship while fighting the Nazis.
  • As most of the cast are lesbians who, unlike some comic strip characters, age, this is naturally averted in Alison Bechdel's Dykes to Watch Out For. Most of the regular characters are now pushing middle age, and Sydney had an ongoing affair with her former literature professor Madeleine who is probably in her 60s.
  • Destiny and Mystique are bisexual, though the latter doesn't naturally age, so it's easy to forget she's almost 100.
  • In Small Favors, Sage is interested in meeting a cute girl for sex and romance, somehow not noticing that she's in an Improbably Female Cast and that some of those she passes by are checking her out with obvious attraction. And then she sits on a park bench and we see that the fifty-plus woman at one end of the bench is picturing Sage naked.
  • Brian from Locke & Key.
  • In the Doctor Who Magazine story "The Woman Who Sold the World", it's all but outright stated that the two elderly women the plot focuses on are partners. The collected edition confirms it and notes that the story was written before "Gridlock" gave us the Cassinis.
  • Wolverine, of all people, is this in the X-Treme X-Men alternate universe, where he's the same age as his mainstream universe counterpart (making him over 100 years old) and in a relationship with Hercules.

    Comic Strips 

  • A Gargoyles fanfic briefly features a gay gargoyle named Kashi. He is 120 years old. (That's 60 in "gargoyle years")
  • Averted by Touhou Ibunshu's versions of Kaguya and Eirin, who have been partners before they even left the Moon (and in fact Lunarian intolerance factored into their decision to leave). At the time the fic starts focusing on them, they've been partners for well over a millennium.

    Film — Live-Action 
  • The hero's quasi-mentor figure in French comedy The Closet is gay and quite old.
  • Never explicitly stated, but in The Grinch, it's implied that the Grinch was adopted by two older lesbians.
  • In Victor/Victoria, Carroll "Toddy" Todd is clearly over 50. His age isn't mentioned exactly, but there were a few "old queer" comments he made about himself and the actor playing him was 63 when it was filmed.
    "There's nothing more inconvenient than an old queen with a head cold."
  • The Birdcage, or La Cage aux Folles, the French movie that it was a remake of; both movies very prominently featured middle aged gay couples. The major plot point of the movie being of course that these older gay men understand very well the "expectation to be straight" of their son's prospective parents-in-law (even though they have been 'out' all their lives) and attempt to 'play it straight' for them.
    • Armand deserves an additional mention for being a bi-curious 50+ gay man.note 
  • The 2007 remake of Poseidon had a number of middle-aged gay men on board the ship, having attended as a group.
  • The Broken Hearts Club: A Romantic Comedy has John Mahoney and his partner.
  • Eddie Argo in WΔZ.
  • Fool's Gold (2008) featured a couple of middle-aged gay chefs who'd been together for years.
  • Though the character lacks screen time on account of it being his funeral, the family patriarch in Death at a Funeral had been secretly seeing a man (played by Peter Dinklage) for some time before his death.
  • In the British comedy Four Weddings and a Funeral, a boisterous charismatic party lion played by Simon Callow in his mid-forties drops dead from heart failure during the third wedding, which leads to the titular funeral and the very moving eulogy given by his male partner.
  • In Shortbus: Ceth speaks with a man named Tobias while at the club. He says he used to be the mayor of New York, is quite old, and talks about what it was like to hold that office while gay and closeted during the AIDS epidemic, among other things.
  • A particularly brutal example of this trope in Milk, about real-life Harvey Milk. He was murdered before he turned 49, along with the pro-gay rights mayor, George Moscone.
    • The trope is slightly lampshaded early in the film with "Harvey, you are too old to be a hippie!"
  • In Boat Trip by, of all people, Roger Moore. He plays a gay man in his late 60s.
  • In the movie The Kids Are All Right Annette Bening, who was 51, played one member of a lesbian couple. Her partner was played by Julianne Moore, who was 49.
  • In Gods and Monsters, the gay actor Ian McKellen plays the real-life gay film director James Whale (most famous for directing the 1931 movie adaptation of Frankenstein), who develops feelings for his young gardener (played by Brendan Fraser). McKellen was 59 when the movie was released, and Whale in the movie is even older.
  • Christopher Plummer's character in the Ewan McGregor film Beginners is a septuagenarian who came out after his wife died and embraces the gay lifestyle, even taking in a younger man as a lover.
  • The documentary "Valentino: the Last Emperor", which focuses on Italian designer Valentino and his business partner/life partner, with whom the designer has been in a relationship with for nearly 50 years.
  • Avant que j'oublie (Before I Forget), which is all about aging as a gay man.
  • In a deleted scene from Love Actually, Bernard's headmistress going home to her sick partner to tell her all about her day.
  • 101 Reykjavík. Two middle-aged women fall in love and have a kid.
  • In Bent, Max has a conversation in the park with his Uncle Freddie, who is a closeted gay man. Ofcourse this takes place in 1930's Nazi Germany so it's a tad understandable.
  • J. Edgar depicts John Edgar Hoover and his deputy Clyde Tolson as two men in love with each other well into their old age. Whether or not this was true of their real-life counterparts is still a matter of debate.
  • In The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert Terrence Stamp plays a transsexual character called Bernadette.
  • Julia's friend Cesar in Uncovered.
  • Averted in Bad Education (2004). Father Manolo is played by Lluís Homar, who was 47 at the time the film was released.
  • The Hongkong action comedy Pantyhose Hero has Sammo Hung as one of two cops with the task of infiltrating a gay community. They bring in a female therapist to 'train' them, and she mentions how older gay men do exist, usually having to do everything on the sly to protect their reputation. What follows is a couple of Whose Linestyle improvised re-enactions as Sammo and his partner get into their roles, one age level at a time.
  • Lily Tomlin's (age 76) character in Grandma broke up with another woman at the beginning of the film.
  • In Independence Day: Resurgence Dr. Okun is in a same-sex relationship; Brent Spiner, the actor who plays him, was sixty-seven when the film was made. Not sure about the age of the actor (John Storey) who plays his partner, but he doesn't look much younger.
  • An Englishman in New York, the 2009 sequel to the 1975 biopic of openly gay Quentin Crisp The Naked Civil Servant, is set in The '80s, a time when Crisp was in his seventies.
  • Upheld and just barely averted in The Killing Of Sister George. Coral Brown who played Mercy was 55 when the film was released while Beryl Reid who played George was a few months shy of her 50th birthday.

  • The Trials of Apollo has the ex-hunters Emmie and Josephine, who are a couple and noted to be old enough to have gray hair, subverting this trope. Josephine was an 1920s gangster, while Emmie was even older, being from the time of Ancient Greece.
  • According to Word of Gay, the kindly, eccentric mentor figure Dumbledore from Harry Potter, who was over 100 years old. As his heart was broken early on, turning him into something of a Celibate Hero, this could be a Double Subversion.
  • The uncle in Lauren Weisberger's Everyone Worth Knowing is an old, gay, politically conservative newspaper columnist.
  • Jennifer Crusie's Crazy for You involves the heroine's (late fifties) mother coming out about her relationship with her best friend.
  • In the Hurog duology, there is king Jakoven, who is known for taking young men (or boys) as lovers. He has completely grey hair at the beginning of the series, and is still gay some years afterwards. And would probably still be gay some years after that, but he's killed by a former "lover". Turns out people don't like being coerced into sex with an adult when they're just a frightened fifteen-year-old.
  • 83-year-old Mabel Schneider in Survivor by J.F. Gonzalez. Granted, she also happens to be a sadomasochistic, cannibalistic Psycho for Hire, but she still fits here.
  • In Julian Clary's novel Murder Most Fab, the only two characters who are really out of the closet in the whole novel are in their seventies.
  • Sourmelina, the main character's grandmother's cousin, in Middlesex. In fact, she didn't technically come out until after she was already over 50. (Though it was an Open Secret.)
  • Chronicles of the Kencyrath: Lesbian relationships are very traditional among Highborn women. Adiraina is over 120 (Highborn are long-lived, but that's still old), lesbian or bi, and still in love with the late Kinzi. They were Schoolgirl Lesbians back in the day, and by the time Kinzi died, the were Little Old Lady Lesbians.
  • In Reginald Hill's Dalziel and Pascoe series, DS Edgar Wield is now about fifty and his partner, Edwin Digweed, is sixty or thereabouts.
  • Sweet Tea: Black Gay Men of the South makes a point of including gay men of all ages, including a very old man who recounts the gay scene of the 1920's.
  • Agatha Christie's A Murder Is Announced features two old (probably over 60) ladies (Hinchcliffe and Murgatroyd) living together. Although of course never explicitly stated to be lesbians, their behaviour strongly hints at this. (It's also possible that Blacklock and Bunner are another such couple, although it's not nearly as clear-cut in this case.)
    • A similar arrangement occurs in the backstory of the Lord Peter Wimsey story Unnatural Death — the victim's wealth was inherited from the lady she lived with. Her niece, in turn, plans on settling down on a farm with a female "friend" who clearly worships the ground where she walks.
    • One character in The Mousetrap is a "flamboyant" elderly man (who also, according to his description in the script, bears a superficial — and deliberately misleading — resemblance to Hercule Poirot).
  • In John Morgan Wilson's Benjamin Justice mysteries, Justice's landlords, Fred and Maurice, are in their eighties. They've been together since shortly after WWII. Or they were, until Fred died in Spider Season.
  • Outlander: Lord John is presumably in his forties, if his age is anywhere near that of Jamie's. Since the books don't seem to stop quite yet, he may very well live quite a bit longer.
    • The Duke of Sandringham is also quite old, although his age is never revealed.
  • Joseph Hansen's detective Dave Brandstetter is closing in on seventy in the final novel of the series.
  • Alan in Old Man's War is 75, and his "arousal test" was administered by a naked man. Of course, it's a couple centuries in the future.
  • Dr. Aaron Rothman is in his thirties when he's rescued from a band of Eaters in the first volume of the Emberverse, but is still around for the later series, two decades later. He's gay, stylish, and thinks you look downright butch in those jeans and flannel shirt. Delia de Stafford's husband Rigobert appears to be somewhere in his 50s, a handsome and dangerous Manly Gay. By the current point of the series, Delia's lover Tiphane has also reached her half-century.
  • In Smiley's People, Connie Sachs, who is well over 60, has a younger girlfriend.
  • In The Curse of Chalion, Saint Umegat is gay. His first lover was dead before the story began, but it's heavily implied that he has a new one now: his mute assistant in the menagerie.
    Umegat: [on being a saint] Lust, I'm glad to say, seems largely unaffected.
  • Wally Lamb's novel She's Come Undone features minor characters Fabio and his partner, gay men who are implied to be early middle aged. Of course, both of them are dead of AIDS by the end of the book, so it's not the most cheerful of portrayals.
  • In Miranda July's short story "The Sister", Victor Caesar-Sanchez is probably gay, while the main (male) protagonist is bisexual. They're both in their late sixties.
  • Averted in Glory in the Thunder, where major character Rashk is an old Mad Oracle and openly gay.
  • The Charlie Parker Series has Angel and Louis, the former born around 1952, the latter about a decade younger which would still put him in his fifties in the most recent novels.
  • Though this gets Played Straight for the most part in the first six Tales of the City novels, which are set in the 1970s and 1980s, the three post-hiatus novels from the 2000s and 2010s follow the same cast and, therefore, this trope naturally gets averted. Most notably there's Michael — who's in his early twenties in the first book and in his late fifties by the end of the series.
  • In Someone Killed His Boyfriend by David Stukas, Robert and Michael are aided in their search for Michael's fiancé's murderer by Beyonda Sea, a septuagenarian drag performer.
  • These Words Are True and Faithful:
    • "If you want to meet gay men over 50, just go to any public place and have David paged."
    • The unnamed old man in the restaurant discusses gay history with Sam in a way that makes government in general and the police in particular look bad. Ernie, who is a police officer, is not amused and dismisses it as "ancient history."
  • Averted via Word of Gay for Coraline. When a fan asked author Neil Gaiman if the elderly ladies downstairs, Miss Spink and Miss Forcible, were a couple, he confirmed it. In the film, they're very much Like an Old Married Couple, so Gaiman's confirmation likely applies to the adaptation as well.

    Live-Action TV 
  • On 2 Broke Girls, Caroline and Max go to the funeral of Caroline's old nanny and discover that the woman was a lesbian and had been in a committed relationship with another woman for many decades. Since the woman never liked her own family very much, she simply chose not to come out to them. Since her family was never interested in her life, they did not find out that she was openly gay until her lover showed up at the funeral.
  • In 30 Rock, Jack's mother enters into a lesbian relationship with her live-in nurse during her golden years.
  • The Amazing Race had a middle-aged gay team in its first season—Joe and Bill, more commonly known as "Team Guido". When they returned for the All-Stars season, they even referred to themselves as "two gay grandpas".
    • Also with Kate & Pat, the lesbian ministers on Season 12, and Mel on Season 14.
  • Mr Humphries, of Are You Being Served?, although given the the times, his orientation is never explicitly mentioned. (Neither is his age; if he were the same age as his actor John Inman, he technically only qualified in the last series in 1985, but Mr Humphries is implied to be slightly older given Inman's prematurely grey hair.)
  • In Swedish series Bonus Family, Martin's mother is in a lesbian relationship with someone the same age. After the former has a heart attack, they get married in the Season 2 finale.
  • In Brooklyn Nine-Nine, Captain Holt made detective in 1979, meaning that his character must be mid-fifties at least by 2013 (the year the series premiered; the actor playing him was fifty-one at the time). The fact that he's been openly gay since the 1980s and Happily Married for nearly as long are implied to be the reason it took him so long to get his own command after making detective, despite what was by all accounts a stellar career in his youth.
  • Saul Holden from Brothers and Sisters. He had a few beards in his time and still has a beard of the hair variety. Born in 1939, he was in the closet for most of his life, but is now out and recently joined a dating site for "gay men of a certain age".
    • One of his former lovers from the 80s is still alive, though he has AIDS so he is no longer as sexually active.
  • In one episode of Casualty, Toby treats one half of an elderly gay couple (initially believing their cover story that they're "brothers-in-law"); there are hints of this trope at play though, as being told that they're actually a couple weirds him out enough that it puts the brakes on his romance with Ben and general Coming-Out Story.
  • An early episode of Cold Case which dealt with a 1964 gaybashing. Both an elderly drag queen and a Straight Gay lawyer show up.
  • Sid of The Cool Kids lives in a retirement community. He came out to his wife near the turn-of-the-millennium and is out to almost everyone (except his son, as shown in the fourth episode).
  • On Cosby, Hilton got onto a gay men's softball team because he didn't know what the team's name, "Older and Out", meant.
  • Although Reginald Hill averts the trope in the novels, the TV adaptations of Dalziel and Pascoe embrace it wholeheartedly: Wield's partner Edwin Digweed, closing in on sixty in the novels, pops up as a man in his early thirties.
  • Dead Like Me: In "The Bicycle Thief", Mason has to reap a middle aged gay couple.
  • On Desperate Housewives, Lynette reconnects with one of her mother's ex-husbands. He comes out of the closet much to Lynette's surprise, as Lynette had simply blamed her mother for driving the only loving father she had away. Her stepfather (played by Richard Chamberlain, see below) also mentions having a lover who had been recently deceased but offers to be his ex-wife's caretaker out of friendship.
  • Doctors did an episode in which Ronnie suspected that the 70-year-old Gwenyth's equally old girlfriend was after her money. He turned out to be wrong.
  • Doctor Who:
    • Amelia Rumsford and Vivian Fay in "The Stones of Blood" are heavily hinted to be a lesbian couple.
    • Millington and Judson in "The Curse of Fenric" have Word of Gay from the writer of that serial.
      • It's also hinted at in the novelisation.
    • In "Gridlock", there is an elderly lesbian married couple. They are conspicuously treated as nothing to bat an eyelid about — except by the "old-fashioned" cat-man Thomas Kincaid Brannigan, who insists on referring to them as sisters. His embarrassment and prudishness is played for ironic laughs — Brannigan himself is a giant anthropomorphic cat, married to a human woman. With a brood of half-human children "played" by kittens. Talking kittens. Not to mention that they all live about 5 billion years in the future.
    • "The End of Time" Part One sees the Doctor getting admired and hit on by a group of Wilf's elderly friends, including one of his male friends.
  • An episode of The Drew Carey Show once featured Drew taking on an elderly gay couple as boarders. Even better, they were Adam West and Max Gail.
  • Drop the Dead Donkey averts this in the form of Helen's mother revealing that an aunt wasn't really an aunt.
  • Ed had an episode in which the title character discovered that elderly Charlie Hudson was gay, a secret Ed then had to keep from Charlie's family until the will was read. This lasted until Charlie's just-as-elderly boyfriend showed up to the funeral.
  • In the Elementary episode "No Lack Of Void", there is a subplot involving Sherlock's old friend Alistair, a senior gay man.
  • In Ellen, one of her father's old plumber friends turns out unexpectedly to be Straight Gay.
  • ER:
    • John Mahoney guest-starred as a gay man whose lover was dying. The episode ended with him doing a drag act in a gay club.
    • Another episode had an elderly lesbian couple being brought in. Thanks to laws at the time, Kerry was forced to acknowledge one woman's brother's (legally, her next of kin) wishes that she be put on a ventilator, despite her partner's insistence that she wouldn't have wanted that.
  • Averted plenty of times on Extras in which there are several Camp Gay and Straight Gay characters, including George Michael and Ian McKellen as themselves.
  • In the Taiwanese film, Formula 17, Bai and Tien encounter a sexagenarian who gives them dating advice and happens to be gay himself.
  • Frasier had an episode where Marty pretended to be gay and date the uncle of one of Frasier's crushes.
    • And there was the episode where Frasier himself ended up accidentally dating Patrick Stewart.
  • Ghost Whisperer when it was revealed that Eli's mother had a very long-term affair with her husband's business partner's wife, which they once hid by pretending she was having an affair with the husband. This comes out after Eli's father dies (the mother had died several years earlier); cue both ghosts haunting the couple out of anger (the husband) and fear of exposing the affair (the wife, because she had died during one of their rendezvous).
  • When Rachel Berry's two gay dads finally appear on-screen in Season 3 of Glee, they're both grey-haired and well into their fifties, visibly older than the few parents of other teenage characters shown to date.
    • Glee also has the one-off characters of Liz and Jan ("All or Nothing", season 4), and Kurt briefly dates a much older man in Season 6 (played by Harry Hamlin).
  • Blanche's little brother in The Golden Girls. It's never specified how old he actually is (Blanche never revealing her real age plus the show's generally loose time line doesn't help), but he's at least in his late 40's.
    • Dorothy's friend Pat, who actually developed feelings for Rose.
  • In the Dutch documentary series Golden Oldies, in which older people form a choir that sings modern songs, two women, well into their seventies, got married on screen. Especially notable since both women had been married to a man before.
  • Grace and Frankie: The title characters' husbands, Robert and Sol, leave their wives for each other. Both are well into their seventies.
  • In Grace Under Fire Grace's ex-husband's father (Emmett) was gay. Which Grace found out when she and her then boyfriend accidentally wandered into a gay bar. Emmett and his long term partner had been meeting secretly for decades, as Emmett didn't want to come out to his wife. The lover then shows up at Emmett's funeral a few episodes later.
  • Grey's Anatomy has averted this at least twice. Keith David appeared in the first season as a patient with a failing liver who kept flirting with George, and an elderly lesbian couple was featured in "Almost Grown"(7x05).
    • A more recent episode had an older gay married couple, one half was played by James Avery.
    • Another episode had an older gay couple who had recently become a couple, one of the men had been in the closet and married to a woman for years. They plan to spend the rest of their lives together, but the patient dies.
  • Holby City has Berenice "Bernie" Wolfe and Serena Campbell, played by the over-50 Jemma Redgrave and Catherine Russell, respectively. Not only are both characters openly gay (or, in Serena's case, most likely bisexual), but the attraction between them is not downplayed. In the slightest. They get just as racy as any other couple on the show, and quite evidently are very attracted to each other not just emotionally but physically.
  • In a short-lived 70's series, The Hot L Baltimore, the residents of the hotel included a middle aged gay couple, George and Gordon.
  • In a later episode of Jackass, Johnny Knoxville and Spike Jonze dressed up as a ninety-year-old gay couple to engage in a public display of affection.
  • In the Spike TV original series The Kill Point, the elderly hostage Bernard is revealed to "have come out of the closet in 1953". At the end, after the hostage situation has ended, we see him reuniting with his partner.
  • In an episode of Law & Order, a man is found murdered outside a gay bar. One of the people questioned is the bartender, a grey-haired Straight Gay who actually calls out this trope by talking about how the "pretty boys keep to themselves." In another episode, Detectives are re-interviewing suspects in a 30 year old unsolved murder case, one of whom is a gay man who's now in his 60's.
  • Obsidian from Legends of Tomorrow mentions his male lover when the Legends meet him in his 80s.
  • In Little Britain, but only for laughs: practically everyone in Llandewy Brefi has some inclination for gayness regardless of age, much to the annoyance of Daffyd Thomas, who claims to be the "only gay in the village".
  • In Lost, there's Tom, whose actor is 61.
  • The 80s sitcom Love Sidney, in which a Tony Randall played a gay man in his 50s, who takes in a single mom and her daughter.
  • The L Word's lesbians are generally young, but seasons 4 and 5 have featured Cybill Sheppard as a college dean who realizes she's gay and has to deal with the impact of her coming out on her children and husband of many years.
  • Discussed in Metrosexuality. Max is pushing 40 and, in addition to his own angst about getting older, explains a few times that queer culture is incredibly harsh towards old people and that growing old is basically a ticket to loneliness.
  • Midsomer Murders, where it's not too uncommon for 60-80-year-olds who are pretending to be sisters to turn out to be a lesbian couple, and an aged, retried, and flamboyantly gay actor decided to chop off people's heads with a guillotine.
  • In Modern Family, Cam and Mitch go to a gay nightclub full of 20-somethings, but they hate it. They eventually spend New Year's at a gay bar where everyone is at least 60.
  • The short-lived 2000 Normal, Ohio was about a midwestern Straight Gay played by John Goodman.
  • Dr. Cooper's mothers in Nurse Jackie, played by Swoosie Kurtz and Blythe Danner.
  • Orange Is the New Black presents Carrie 'Big Boo' Black, who is obviously fiftyish and being a promiscuous Butch Lesbian is her main characteristic. The trope is, however, still in play: most of the (numerous) gay characters are young and attractive, and all of the ladies of Boo's age and older are straight and/or celibate. Not to mention, despite there being many scenes of lesbian sex, Big Boo isn't actually shown in any — only occasionally hitting on attractive and uninterested fellow inmates.
  • Berlutti's mother on The Practice came out in an early episode.
  • Private Practice has Addison's mother come out and have a long-term relationship with a woman.
  • In Psych, Lassiter's mother is married to a woman and they both walked him down the aisle at his wedding.
  • The Chilean soap opera Puertas Adentro, of the year 2003, presented a gay couple played by two actors who were both over 60 years old.
  • Bernard in the British Queer as Folk is quite plainly over 50 and still apparently active.
  • The U.S. version of Queer as Folk
    • In the first season, after David asks Michael to move in with him, Mikey has mixed feelings about it, so David takes him to meet two seventy-something gay partners who met in World War II and have been together for over fifty years to show him that a long-term gay relationship can work.
    • Michael's Uncle Vic is well into his fifties and he's openly gay.
    • George Schickle, Emmett's love interest for season two, is over 70-years-old.
  • Robson Arms has a mostly Straight Gay couple; the drama in their relationship comes not from their being gay, but because it's a May–December Romance. Another elderly resident of the eponymous apartment believes them to be father and son.
  • Roseanne's very conservative sixty-something mother eventually let her attraction to women slip out during Thanksgiving dinner, shocking everyone (including the gay couple she had been yelling at moments before). Afterwards she comes out and starts dating a woman.
    • Of course, this was in the last season, which turned out to be actually just be a novel Roseanne was writing... Technically, this never happened. But it still kind of counts.
  • An Saturday Night Live digital short features Jonah Hill confessing to Andy Samberg that he's been sleeping with his father — complete with scene of Jonah Hill making out with a 53-year-old man.
  • In the later seasons of Scrubs, thanks to fliers from the Janitor, JD's deck (no, he doesn't own a house, just a deck) becomes a hotspot for gay seniors.
  • Six Feet Under features an older gay couple in the episode "Nobody Sleeps"; Keith's boss Roger Pasquese is at least middle-aged and quite flaming; and in the finale, Keith dies in his sixties while David survives into his eighties and is shown having met another man.
  • In Skins third generation, Frankie's older father is obviously over 50.
  • Slings & Arrows has at least three older gay characters: Those Two Guys, Frank and Cyril, who are an elderly gay couple, and Oliver, the ghost and former director.
  • Eddie, the vampire played by Stephen Root for a few episodes of True Blood.
  • Chelsea's father, Tom (Stacy Keach) on Two and a Half Men comes out of the closet and leaves her mother for his old war buddy, Ed (John Amos).
    • Evelyn has a tryst with another woman (played by Georgia Engel) and both are well into their 60s, also averting the No Bisexuals rule.
  • Frank Pickle on The Vicar of Dibley came out partway through the series as gay after forty years in the closet, and did so over the local radio show set up by the vicar. The only problem? Frank's normally so very, very dull that everyone in town turned off their radios as soon as he came on. He was thrilled with how accepting everyone was the next day.
  • The ITV sitcom Vicious features Ian McKellen and Sir Derek Jacobi (both gay and in their seventies at the start of the series) as a couple.note 
    "Did you finally tell [your mother] about us?"
    "I'm waiting for the right time."
    "It's been forty-eight years!"
  • Lampshaded on Will & Grace, in the episode "Cop To It", when Jack (who was the host of a talk show on a gay-themed cable channel) received a letter from a closeted 16-year-old boy who lived in a small Ohio town, who wanted advice on how to come out. Jack went to Ohio to visit the boy in person, convinced that if he could get the boy to come out to his family on his show, he'd have all of the ingredients for a heartwarming Very Special Episode. When he got there, he realized that the "boy" was actually a 60-year-old, who was embarrassed that at his age he still hadn't worked up the courage to come out. Jack abandoned the project without any hesitation, convinced that no one in the audience could possibly relate to an older person, until Karen convinced him that a 60-year-old was just as deserving of his attention. (In a funny moment, he convinced the man to take the first step out of the closet by coming out to a stranger at a bowling alley - unaware that the stranger he chose was the man's son.)
    • In a straight example, Michael Douglas guest-starred as a police detective who becomes attracted to Will while investigating the theft of his laptop. He takes Will to a gay nightclub, ostensibly as an undercover operation but really as a date because he finds it hard asking men out.
    • And in another episode Will attracts the attention of a wealthy older man played by Hal Linden.
      • Frequent guest character Leslie Beverly's age is unknown but he certainly appears to be over 50.
  • In The Wire, the hard-ass Deputy Commissioner Rawls is spotted in the background of a gay bar with an uncharacteristic grin. He's in his fifties, and Word of God confirms that he is indeed gay.
  • In The Worst Week of My Life, Mel's sixty-something Uncle Fraser angsts about coming out after decades of repression. In the second series he is involved with Gerard, a confident and unabashedly gay dance instructor. Gerard's ditched him for a younger model in the Christmas special, but while the relationship lasted it was refreshing to see an older couple on TV, complete with all the jealousies and affectionate moments usually reserved for their younger counterparts.
  • The X-Files: Middle-aged African American couple Steve & Edy from "X-Cops", a Straight Gay and a Performance Artist.

    Professional Wrestling 
  • Possibly subverted by Mary Lillian "Moolah" Ellison and Mae Young, who lived together at Ellison's retreat in South Carolina for 16 years, the friendship ending only with Ellison's death in 2007. The only other person regularly at the house was a younger female wrestler whom the two older ones had trained. It can't be confirmed if Ellison and Young were in anything more than a platonic relationship, but given their hard-living, outspoken ways (both were infamous "bad girl" characters for the majority of their careers) and the Les Yay overtones that commonly swirl around the WWE Divas, it wouldn't be surprising. Both Ellison and Young were in their late sixties when Young came to live with Ellison.

  • Rob Halford. was born in 1951, and didn't come out as gay until he was 47. He's still kicking ass today!
  • Barry Manilow didn't come out as gay until he was in his 70s.

    Tabletop Games 
  • In Exalted, the Realm doesn't care about sexuality as long as you do your family duties and get an heir, so there are definitely a fair number of gay and bisexual nobles and other powerful people well past their 50s - especially since many of those powerful nobles are likely Exalted themselves, with lifespans measuring in centuries (or longer). A lot are still fairly young-looking, though, as Exaltation usually happens when one is in the prime of life, and keeps them from visibly aging until near the end.

    Video Games 

  • Friendly Hostility features an adorable middle-aged gay couple (Hans and Mr. Cohen) who own the sandwich shop that Bootsie works at.
  • Questionable Content has Marten's father Henry, and his partner Maurice. Dora's immediate response to meeting Henry is the observation that Marten is going to be hot when he goes gray. Henry gloats over this indirect compliment to Maurice, who happily agrees.
  • In Something*Positive:
  • The Annihilator, preeminent supervillain of The Young Protectors, averts the trope in his first appearance: 58, flirtatious, and quite casual about visiting gay bars from time to time.
    "I became the most powerful and feared supervillain on the planet. After that, "the gay thing" really didn't seem to matter so much."
  • In Bandette, the elderly Madame Francaster is Bi the Way. Even Monsieur, a sophisticated Gentleman Thief, is a bit surprised that a woman of her generation would be bisexual and so happy to talk about her liaison with another woman.

    Web Originals 
  • Not Always Right has this as the punchline of "UK Is Okay", after the protagonist's manager kicks out two nativist customers:
    Customer #3: On behalf of the United States Of America, I just wanna apologise for the way those two morons just treated you. I been a citizen here for 78 years, an’ I ain’t never let nobody tell me howta treat people. I served alongside a British guy in a the last war and I never had a problem wi’ him. Far from it. ... Woulda married him too if people like that wouldn’t make such a fuss about it.
    • The elderly customer in this story is buying books to read to her wife.
  • In A World Less Visible, Ted doesn't even come out of the closet until he's 50.

    Western Animation 
  • The Simpsons
    • An elderly man comes on to Grampa in one episode.
    • In another episode, the rest of the family find a blond wig and a feather boa among Grampa's old things and jump to the conclusion that Abe has been gay all this time and has been hiding it because people of his generation were expected to be straight - just like he had hidden his black great-great-grandfather because people of his generation were supposedly racist - and encourage him to stop being ashamed. Abe gets very indignant and tells him that he's not gay, and never has been; the wig and the boa were part of his costume when he was a Gorgeous George-type professional wrestler in the 1950s.
  • Woodhouse in Archer is likely the oldest man alive, and still mourning the death of Reggie from The Great War. It's implied most of his unit was gay.
  • Dr. Z (a pastiche of Jonny Quest's Dr. Zin) on The Venture Bros. is revealed thus in a blink-and-you'll-miss-it comment from his wife, both of whom were quite elderly, as she reminds him that she was supposed to be The Beard.
  • Kya from The Legend of Korra, revealed via Word of Gay. Whether she's GAY, specifically, is debatable - she was stated to be LGBT+, rather than specifically a lesbian - but she's still an aversion, given that she's in her mid to late fifties by the end of the show.
    • In the Comic book Turf Wars it was confirmed when Kya talks to Korra and Asami about their relationship, and how she went on vacation like they did with her first girlfriend.
    • In the same comic it is revealed that the Avatar Kyoshi was openly bisexual and came to live 230 years.
  • Rick Sanchez from Rick and Morty is 80+ and pansexual, according to Word of God. So far, it's only come up in one episode ("Auto Erotic Assimilation"), though.

Alternative Title(s): Nobody Is Gay, Nobody Over Fifty Is Gay


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