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Nicole: I wish I could forget you forgetting our anniversary!
Richard: Sorry, kids, could you just cover your ears for a sec?
The Amazing World of Gumball, "The Disaster"

The wedding anniversary is very important to married couples - it signifies that they acknowledge how long they've been together and how far they've made it. It's like a marriage's birthday.

Woe befall the one who forgets the anniversary.

If one member of a couple forgets an anniversary it's considered a very big problem for the relationship (at least in fiction). Someone who forgets his/her wedding anniversary is either considered insensitive enough to not value the importance of a long-lasting marriage or unromantic in regards to not putting the marriage over his/her bad memory.

There are many variations on this theme:

  • One of them forgets. The other sees it as pathetic, but nothing major happens, even though the other may be bitter or prone to teasing the one who forgot for a while.
  • One of them forgets and is embarrassed in front of an old friend who was considerate enough to remember.
  • One of them forgets and gets Exiled to the Couch for being so inconsiderate.
  • One of them forgets the anniversary and the other is so mad that he/she storms out of the house to go drink off the sorrows/storms out of the house to go back to mom/mope about it in frustration. This continues until the one who's forgotten it improvises a gift or improvises something.
  • One of them seemingly forgets the anniversary and the other gets mad - but as it turns out, he/she hasn't forgotten! It's supposed to be a surprise gift or party, but now the one who's "forgotten" must deal with the ire of the other person...
  • One of them forgets and is forced to do stuff at the other's whim in order to "make up for it".
  • They both forget and later realize how pathetic they both are.

Oddly enough, in the one-person-actually-forgets scenario, it's usually the guy who forgets. Make of that what you will.

Usually (but not always) played for comedy. Nearly all TV sitcoms involving a married couple will fall back on this at least once in the run of a show. And it is by far more common for the husband to be one who either forgets or is pretending to forget.

May lead to some Convenience Store Gift Shopping. For a non-marriage example, see One-Person Birthday Party.


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  • A credit card commercial where a man at work is asked by his wife if he made any plans for their anniversary. Naturally he must scramble for an Ass Pull: "Uh, yeah...we're... " *glances at Chinese takeout box* "taking the Orient Express to..." *glances at stained tie* "a spot in...Thailand!" *glances out window, where a bird lands* "We're going birdwatching!" At the end of the commercial, on the trip that his credit card company was able to drum up on short notice, his wife remarks that "this is such a surprise", and he wholeheartedly agrees.
  • Another commercial had a guy's wife cook a fancy dinner, dress up, and light candles. Her husband then comes in, takes it all in with a wow, and asks "What's the occasion?" His wife then takes the steak back into the kitchen, probably to throw it away.
  • Another commercial (This one for the latest iPhone) has the guy at work reminded of their plans by his wife, and making a dinner reservation while he's talking to her.

    Anime and Manga 
  • In an episode of Wedding Peach this is the central problem; Hinagiku's mother attempts to leave the house because her father forgot, but as it turned out, the father was too busy with work and had hidden his anniversary gift so he couldn't present it to her the whole day. The girls try to get him to reiterate what he wanted to say in front of her, but then demons intervene and stuff tries to get in the way. They work it out.

  • In the UDON Street Fighter comic books, one issue showed Guile falling victim to the results of this—he forgot his and Jane's wedding anniversary because he and Charlie were sparring in a match that lasted days. At the end of the spar, on realizing he'd forgotten the anniversary, Guile tried to make it up to Jane, but...
    (Guile shows up at home with a bouquet, but Jane's extremely pissed)
    Guile: Happy anniver—
    Jane: Couch.
    Guile: I brought you flowers—
    Jane: Couch. (walks off, leaving a defeated Guile with his head hanging low)
  • At one point in Superman: Red Son, Lois Luthor visits her husband at work to remind him that it's their anniversary. Not only does Lex not have any plans to take a night off from his efforts to take down Superman to be with her or bothered to get her a present, when Lois leaves her gift on the table outside his lab designated for "things from wife", there are quite a few other presents already there, suggesting that not only has he been forgetting or deliberately not caring about anniversaries (and possibly birthdays and Christmas as well) for years, he can't even be bothered to take a minute away from his work to even open them.

    Fan Works 
  • In the second chapter of Aphelion, Mai reminds Azula that it's her fifth wedding anniversary with Ty Lee tomorrow. Azula has forgotten and has no clue what to give her wife.

  • In the movie The Family Man, when the main character forgets his anniversary, he forgets it because he hasn't technically been married to his wife yet, but she doesn't know that...
  • One scene in The Sixth Sense looks like this, with Bruce Willis showing up late to an anniversary dinner with his wife at a fancy restaurant; she barely acknowledges him before leaving. Subverted, though, because he's actually a ghost and she can't even see or hear him.
  • In the 1949 Milton Berle film Always Leave Them Laughing, a guy buys a watch for his wife, and she has no idea what the occasion is. He lampshades the usual nature of the trope by saying something to the effect of, "Folks, you're witnessing a historical event. Usually, it's the man who forgets the first anniversary." His wife feels bad about it for a moment but then gives him a kiss for always being so good to her.
  • Carry On Cabby from the Carry On film series bases its premise around this. The workaholic taxi driver Charlie Hawkins forgets his wedding anniversary, so his wife creates a rival taxi business to get back at him.

  • In Atlas Shrugged:
    • Lillian Rearden wants her husband Hank's assurance that he'll attend one of her parties on a particular date, which she ends up reminding him is their anniversary.
    • The fact that James Taggart can't remember his wedding anniversary contributes to his Villainous Breakdown.
  • In a Sweet Valley Twins book, both of the Wakefield parents forget. In a Sweet Valley High book, Jessica is hoping that Elizabeth will forget so that she can surprise her parents with her gift and look like the better one.

    Live-Action TV 
  • Our Miss Brooks: In "24 Hours", Miss Brooks talks to an irate Martha Conklin; she's furious that Osgood Conklin hadn't bought a present or even mentioned their anniversary. Miss Brooks tries to patch things up by buying a pair of andirons and sending it as a gift in Osgood Conklin's name. Later, Miss Brooks is surprised to find Martha Conklin is angry at Osgood Conklin for buying an expensive pair of andirons. It's made worse when she receives the pair of andirons Osgood bought for her. He hadn't forgotten after all.
  • In an episode of Fawlty Towers, Fawlty plans a surprise party for his wife for their wedding anniversary. Sybil storms out of the house because she thinks he has forgotten it, and for the rest of the episode he tries to pretend to the party guests that nothing is wrong and that his wife is merely ill.
  • In I Love Lucy, Lucy thinks Ricky gave her a mink coat and says she thinks it's an anniversary gift. At the end, this is subverted when it turns out she lies about that, to the point of forgetting their real anniversary date, in order to get things from him.
  • Leo McGarry does this very early in The West Wing. The forgotten anniversary is used to establish that he's Married to the Job with an intensity that clearly leads one to believe that he's using work as a substitute for booze; it leads to his divorce.
  • Played with in one of the first season episodes of Sports Night: Dan is pissed off at Casey for forgetting their "anniversary" (the date of their first show together).
    Dan: I remember what you were wearing. Do you remember what I was wearing?
    Casey: I remember not thinking at the time that you were a woman.
  • White Collar: In the pilot, Peter has an embarrassed moment when Neal remembers his anniversary before he does. He then spends the rest of the episode desperately trying to think of a gift for his wife that will make up for having forgotten last year.
  • Invoked the Studio C sketch, "Celebirthsary" where the wife has deliberately decorated as ambiguously as possible so that her husband has to figure out what was special about the day. In actuality, there was nothing to celebrate, since it was a test to see if the husband really did remember everything.
  • Leverage has Nate get in trouble with Sophie when he claims they met eight years earlier, while she insists it was ten. It later turns out that they first saw each other ten years earlier, when she was stealing art and he was chasing her, but he considers the first time they met to be two years later when they first spoke. Unfortunately, he also screws up the location of an event, which means she's still got something to hold over his head.
  • In an episode of The Big Bang Theory, both Leonard and Penny forgot their anniversary. Leonard made a cake for Penny, worried she was feeling left out after the attention given to Bernadette's pregnancy and Sheldon and Amy getting engaged. Penny thought it was for their anniversary, and after Leonard checked his phone to confirm it WAS their anniversary, Penny already had a mouthful of cake while exclaiming "Happy anniversary!"
  • An episode of Keeping Up Appearances has Richard forgetting his wedding anniversary, but managing to think fast on his feet and bluff his way into getting a security system installed last second and convincing her he planned it all along as an anniversary gift. It works almost perfectly until he comes home late that night and is unable to remember the password, which Hyacinth set to their wedding date.
  • In an episode of Modern Family, Mitch forgets his and Cam's anniversary - Cam acts normal the whole day, kisses Mitch goodnight, lays in bed...and, the moment midnight passes, he says "You've officially forgotten our anniversary." That's brutal.
  • In the M*A*S*H episode "Point of View," Col. Potter is beating himself up for forgetting to call his wife Mildred on their anniversary because he was so busy with a rush of wounded. The situation is resolved with the featured patient of the story telling Hawkeye who gets Radar to call Mrs. Potter to explain the situation. Apparently, she gave Radar instructions to bring her husband to the phone with her reassurances that she understands the weight of Sherman's responsibilities.
  • Subverted in the first episode of WandaVision. The eponymous couple sees a heart on the calendar but they can't remember what it means. Agnes visits Wanda and suggests that the heart signifies their wedding anniversary, while at work Vision learns that the heart actually meant that his boss, Mr. Hart, is coming over for dinner. And it actually is a representation of the heart Vision drew on the deed for the property he bought for himself and Wanda in Westview prior to his death in Avengers: Infinity War.
    • Additionally, Agnes laments that her husband, Ralph, doesn't remember their own anniversary.
      Agnes: The only way Ralph would remember is if there was a beer named June 2nd!
  • Alma Gêmea: Since Raul forgets the wedding anniversary every year, Olívia decides to throw a surprise anniversary party and invites the whole city... only for him not to show up, because not only did he forget, but he was also cheating on her with Dalila. This is the starting point of their marriage's ruin.
  • That '70s Show: "Backstage Pass" provides a rare example of both parties forgetting the day they met with Kitty and Red realizing that neither of them remembers their first encounter.
  • Nowhere Boys: Downplayed. In the first episode, Sam initially fails to realise it's his and Mia's one year anniversary. She doesn't get angry, but she's clearly not thrilled.
  • My Rosy Life: What's bad? Sung-moon asking his long-suffering wife Soon-yi for a divorce. What's worse? He does it on their anniversary, which he forgot.
  • Radio Enfer: One episode has Carl forgetting the sixth month-anniversary of him dating Maria (which is very important to the latter, due to the fact she never had a relationship that lasted that long), which causes him to try to find a gift for her before the end of the day.

  • The subject of the "Anniversary Song" by Da Yoopers. The wife asks her husband if he remembers what day it is, and he guesses "trout season?" and later her uncle Ernie's funeral, where she got sick. In the second verse, she fills in the details a bit, but the only thing he remembers is someone in the congregation passing gas.
  • In one children's song, the singer's mother gets back at her husband for forgetting their anniversary by giving the children a bowl of ripened fruit. The father sits at the low end of a table on a slope, and Hilarity Ensues when the fruit rolls onto him.
  • Mentioned in the Straight No Chaser Christmas medley "Nutcracker": "I'm watching the game but something's wrong/Staring is my wife, her face looks long/I know that look, it must be me/It's not our anniversary/I shrug, no clue/What did I do?/She stares in disbelief"

  • Variation in The Male Animal: Tommy fails to recall that it's his wife's birthday, even when she meaningfully asks him what day it is, until her Old Flame shows up and mentions the fact in Tommy's presence.

    Theme Parks 
  • In a rare non-marriage example, the Despicable Me: Minion Mayhem ride at Universal Studios has Margo, Edith, and Agnes briefly believing that Gru had forgotten their first anniversary together as a family; though it turns out that Gru was only preparing his ultimate gift to the girls for the occasion.

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    Web Comics 
  • Spoofed in the webcomic PvP. The author admitted (via Twitter) that he'd completely forgotten about characters Jade and Brent's first anniversary, so didn't do a strip for it. The next day, he started a storyline about how Brent and Jade had themselves both forgotten the anniversary.
  • In The Order of the Stick, Thor explains that while the Outer Planes are made of beliefs, the Astral Plane is just made of thoughts, and the far Astral is made of thoughts that nobody remembers. As he says this, one of the floating phrases is "My wedding anniversary is tomorrow."

    Web Original 
  • On The Lot had a short film called "Sweet" where the man makes an epic effort in getting last-minute plans together for his anniversary. Hilarity Ensues.
  • Random Assault: The secret ending sound of episode 042 is a very un-enthusiastic message from Alex reminding listeners of the show's one-year anniversary.

    Western Animation 
  • In the Phineas and Ferb episode "Dude, We're Getting The Band Back Together," Lawrence Fletcher forgets his wedding anniversary, and his wife is angry with him. Phineas and Ferb help their dad make up for it by duplicating the rock concert at which the couple had their first kiss.
  • Chowder: In "Mung on the Rocks", Truffles gets mad at Mung Daal when he forgets their anniversary, and tells him off so thoroughly he falls into a depression. Chowder has to lift Mung's spirits and get him and Truffles to make amends.
  • Cosmo tries to leave the fishbowl in an episode of The Fairly OddParents! when he believes Wanda is angry at him for no reason and has forgotten their anniversary. Turns out, it was the False Anger Anniversary (once every some odd years) and Wanda had remembered, but it's too late - he's gone home to his mom. They work it out anyway, only for Cosmo to forget it was their anniversary at the end of the episode.
  • In The Simpsons , Homer Simpson does this several times.
    Marge: "He forgets [all] holidays, both religious and secular..."
  • The plot of the Danny Phantom episode "Prisoners of Love" is driven by Danny's mother Maddie being upset that her husband Jack has been so engrossed with researching ghosts that he's forgotten their anniversary. Danny had lost Jack's apology gift and he had to go retrieve it in a ghost world. It's revealed that Jack has forgotten his and Maddie's anniversary eighteen years in a row because he's so obsessed with ghost hunting.
  • In The Flintstones, Fred often had difficulty remembering his and Wilma's...except whenever it fell on Trash Day.
  • The American Dad! episode "Francine's Flashback" has Stan forget his and Francine's anniversary. Roger reminds her about when he forgot last year, in which Francine gave Stan a No-Holds-Barred Beatdown so bad that it became an episode of COPS.
    Francine: I am sure he is just waiting for the perfect time to surprise me. After all our anniversary isn't till midnight.
    Stan: This midnight fishing is great.
    Bullock: Sounds to me like someone doesn't want to go home.
    Stan: Yeah, I'm, uh, laying low. Today is the anniversary of a huge fight me and Francine got into last year.
    Jackson: Yeah? What about?
    Stan: Oh, I forgot our anniversary. Huh! I'm never gonna do that again.
    Jackson: I—eh?
    Bullock: (signals Jackson to not say anything)
    (Stan takes a sip of his beer, casts his line, and time passes. A few seconds later...)
    Stan: AAAAAAGH!
    Bullock: There it is.
  • In Father of the Pride, one year prior, Larry had promised to never forget the wedding anniversary ever again. Guess what happens. Though getting married on Jimi Hendrix's birthday may have had something to do with it.
  • In Dan Vs. "The Fancy Restaurant", Chris and Elise both assume the other is trying to remind him/her of their wedding anniversary. Eventually, they both come clean and realize that neither of them actually remembers the date of their anniversary. Chris declares he doesn't care because he doesn't need to wait for a certain day to show Elise how much he loves her.
  • Bob's Burgers: In the premiere episode "Human Flesh", Bob forgets his and Linda's anniversary, and when Linda gets angry Bob protests that he's just not good with dates. A montage of flashbacks reveals he's also forgotten Linda's birthday (while at her party), his own birthday (while at his own party), and Linda's due date (while holding their newborn).
  • On Daria, it's Quinn who points out that Daria and Tom's six-month dating anniversary is coming up, and Daria begins to get annoyed that Tom doesn't realize it. Of course, she's also forced to admit that a) she didn't remember it either, and b) neither of them really like traditionally romantic stuff anyway. Mostly she's just projecting her insecurities about their relationship onto an unimportant issue.
  • A platonic(ish) variant is teased in one episode of the Beetlejuice cartoon. Every year, Beetlejuice and Lydia celebrate the anniversary of the day they met, but one year Lydia is convinced BJ forgot. He pretends he has no idea what she's talking about...and then pulls out his gift, assuring her that he was only pulling her leg.
  • In The Amazing World of Gumball episode "The Fuss", Richard forgets his and Nicole's wedding anniversary, and he and their kids can't tell why Nicole is fuming because she's being completely ambiguous about it. Then it turns out that today wasn't their anniversary after all because the calendar was upside-down, much to Nicole's embarrassment.
  • In the Star vs. the Forces of Evil episode "Diaz Family Vacation", Star forgets to give Marco's parents a gift for their anniversary. So she went through all this trouble taking the Diazes to Mewni as a last-minute anniversary present while avoiding Star's royal dad because she's not allowed to leave Earth.
  • It comes up in the She-Ra and the Princesses of Power fifth season episode "Perils of Peekablue". Netossa notices Spinarella's oddly distant behavior, remembers the date, concludes that her wife is upset over her blanking on their wedding anniversary, and resolves to make it up to her. Unfortunately, the situation is rather more dire.
  • In the Ada Twist, Scientist episode "Cake Twist", Ada, Rosie, and Iggy bake a cake for Mrs. Twist when she forgets her anniversary.

    Real Life 
  • Many people will testify. (Although at the same time there are many instances where both parties forget...)


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Judy Fills in For Picture Day

hen it's Picture Day at Lone Moose School and Ham and Moon have to go retrieve Dagmar, Judy fills in for both of them for their photo and Crispin fills in for Ham when Judy and Ham are supposed to get their picture together for "Best Siblings".

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