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"I know now why you cry... but it's something I can never do."

"Trunks... from the time you were a little baby, I've never once hugged you because I always wanted to make you a tougher man. I'll hug you now."

Some characters (and some real people) consider the very natural act of a father showing his love for his children to be un-manly and anathema. They so habitually maintain their stoic badass attitudes they never tell their children they love them or hug them, not till their dying hour.

Heroes or antiheroes who enact this trope have lived their entire lives true to the notion that emotion is weakness, still loving their children but never even saying so.

Yet, at the moment of death, such a father might find that his pride seems immaterial and insignificant compared to the crying child before him. Deciding that it's not worth it to go to his grave honorably with regret for it, he dissolves into the long overdue personification of love for the first and last time before facing the final journey.

The source of many Tear Jerker endings. Doing this means usually also to Go Out with a Smile. See also Last Kiss, Real Men Hate Affection, and Fond Memories That Could Have Been.


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    Anime and Manga 
  • Dragon Ball Z:
  • Ross Igorl and his estranged son Alan (also Laura, not strictly his child, but a war orphan the good guys have adopted) in Dancougar.
  • When Raoh of Fist of the North Star, broken-and-defeated by Kenshiro, holds the younger warrior's face for the first and final time like a big brother:
    Raoh: Come, let me see the face of the man who has defeated Raoh... You are magnificent, my little brother.
    Kenshiro: Big brother...
  • Happens during the apocalyptic season 1 finale of Mobile Suit Gundam 00: Christina and Lichtendahl die in each other's arms when the Ptolemaios is destroyed.
  • Arika and her mother Lena do this in My-Otome. It's a Tear Jerker in that this is the first time they met since separated when Arika was only a baby. Tragic in that Arika had to Mercy Kill Lena to stop Schwartz and get the Otomes' powers back.
  • Teru's father in Ginga Densetsu Weed had just risked his life to save his son from the Doberman assassins and ends up dying from his wounds. But before he dies, he tells his son he was sorry for mistreating him and that he loves him.
  • Played with in a disturbing way in Soul Eater. Medusa is an Abusive Mom to Crona for the entirety of the series... until she suddenly becomes incredibly kind to Crona, hugging him/her for the first time and prompting Crona to freak out and kill her. Of course, this was all part of Medusa's plan, and she dies not only revealing her Thanatos Gambit to Crona, but saying that she loves him/her.
  • Dragon Quest: The Adventure of Dai: Baran dies after hugging his son Dai.
  • Fate gave one to Alicia (the dead girl she was cloned from) before escaping a Lotus-Eater Machine near the end of Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha A's. It's also notable for being one of the few times that Fate cries.
  • Hello World: In the original timeline, Naomi and Ruri never progressed to physical affection before the fateful lightning strike. Near the end, as Ruri prepares to undergo conversion to return to the 2027 simulation, she embraces older Naomi, thanks him and bids him farewell. He breaks down crying afterwards.

    Fan Works 

  • Terminator 2: Judgment Day: The Terminator may not be able to cry, but his love for his "adoptive son" John is more than affirmed with his one and only embrace for him.
  • Perhaps not a hug, but the tone of this trope is certainly there in Return of the Jedi when Darth Vader asks Luke to remove his helmet so he can look at his son through his own eyes 'just one time'. Since they'd been enemies on the opposite sides of the war and all, and Luke's father was in the process of showing us that Redemption Equals Death, it's understandable why this was the first and final display of affection.
  • Near the end of Rogue One, Jyn and Cassian embrace each other for the first time near moments before the explosion caused by the Death Star kills them off.
  • In the 2007 Beowulf movie, it is revealed the the dragon Beowulf fights to the mutual death is actually his own son, by way of the same creature that was mother to Grendel. After the climax of the movie, wherein the dragon has mortally wounded Beowulf, and he has torn out the dragon's heart, they both crashland on the beach. There, the dragon's form melts away into the waves, revealing a shiny, golden humanoid. It's not quite a hug, but Beowulf looks his son in the eyes and lays a hand on his shoulder before his corpse washes away.
  • TRON: Legacy: The reintegration between Flynn and Clu looks a lot like this, with Flynn wrapping his arms around his "wayward son" even as Clu is being absorbed back into his body.
  • The Man from Nowhere has Cha Tae-Sik hug So-Mi at the very end. Subverted, however, because while Cha Tae-Sik isn't dying or in any danger, he still has to leave So-Mi to spend time in jail, possibly for a long time.
  • Marvel Cinematic Universe:
    • In Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 2, Yondu rescues Peter as Ego's planet collapses due to Ego's death. Sadly, there is only one spare spacesuit left, which Yondu uses to protect Peter from the vacuum of space, leaving him exposed. Peter is horrified and tearfully screams in denial while desperately trying to tear off the spacesuit so he can save Yondu, having only realized at that moment that Yondu was the dad he had always wanted. Yondu spends his final moments reassuringly patting his son's head, his first and last open display of paternal affection.
    • In Avengers: Infinity War: Tony Stark largely keeps himself emotionally distant from Peter Parker notably rebuffing a hug from him in Spider-Man: Homecoming, although they've still nurtured a strong mentor/protege bond creeping on Parental Substitute over the course of the films. When Thanos's Badass Fingersnap culls half the universe's population at the end of the movie, Peter is one of the victims, and all Tony can do is hold the terrified, crying boy as tight as he can as he disintegrates.
    • Finally, in Avengers: Endgame, once Peter has been brought back to life by Bruce, Tony, holding in the Manly Tears, embraces him before they take part in the Big Badass Battle Sequence. (It's worth mentioning that, as is the case for everyone who's been brought back in the Mass Resurrection, Peter doesn't clearly recall his actual dying moments.) The battle ends with Tony making a Heroic Sacrifice.

  • In The Voyage of the Dawn Treader, Lucy thinks Reepicheep (a talking mouse) looks very cuddly, but she knows it would be a dreadful insult for her to treat him like a cute little pet. She finally gives him a hug at the end when he sails off to Aslan's country.
  • In Grandmaster of Demonic Cultivation: Mo Dao Zu Shi, it's not explicity stated whether Yu Ziyuan has ever hugged her children before, but given her entire personality, the chances are low. She only hugs her son when sending him away from the attack on Lotus Pier, which she then dies in. It's a sweet moment...until she pivots into giving a Dying Declaration of Hate to Wei Wuxian that blames him for the attack, further deepening the considerable psychological scars she had been inflicting on him and her son their whole lives.

    Live-Action TV 
  • Sam and Dean in Supernatural would die for each other, have killed for each other, would sell their soul for each other but when do the fans finally get to see them hug? When Sam's just been stabbed in the back and dies in Dean's arms. Oh Kripke, you Magnificent bastard! I watched your show!
  • The X-Files:
    • In episode "Anasazi", Mulder visits his estranged father, who gives him a big hug shortly before he is killed in his own bathroom. Earlier in the season, he had noticeably declined to hug his son. Probably not the first hug ever, but likely the first in a long while.
    • In season 8, Mulder only gets to see his son William for two days before having to leave to go into hiding. Originally intending just to be a long absence, this turns out to be the only time he ever got to see William.
  • On Lost, Jack's father is hard on him believing this will mold Jack into a great doctor. Their "final first hug" occurs in the finale, after they are both dead.

    Video Games 
  • Big Boss of Metal Gear Solid 4: Guns of the Patriots hugs his cloned son for the first and final time as he dies in front of the grave of The Boss, his adoptive mother and teacher. Notable since Solid Snake and Big Boss were enemies in the original Metal Gear games, Metal Gear and Metal Gear 2: Solid Snake.
  • In Halo 4 In a variation, the first time that Cortana manages to physically touch John-117 (by making a Hard Light body for herself following the detonation of the Havok nuke) is what is assumed to be the final time they see each other ever again.
  • Undertale:
    • A non-fatal example: the player character gets a hug from Toriel, the friendly creature that saved their life and was acting like a mother to them, if she is still alive after the battle with her. However, she told the player character not to return, explaining why this is a last hug. They can meet again later on, subverting the trope, but she is not expecting this at the time.
    • Finally, there is the moment with Asriel, whom the player can hug after defeating him in the True Final Boss battle. This comes with one extreme Tearjerker line... "I don't want to let go." because he'll revert back to a flower form and be alone again.
  • The ending of Klonoa 2: Lunatea's Veil has Klonoa and Lolo having a big, long hug before the former is forced to leave Lunatea.

    Web Animation 
  • Happens towards the end of The Life of Death: Death can't hug anything normally, as anything he touches would die, so, when the Doe he befriends is too weak to keep up with her herd, she gives Death one, dying in his arms.

    Western Animation 
  • Parodied in the South Park episode "Make Love, Not Warcraft". Within the game, Stan's father's character is killed in combat, and the two avatars play out a tearful Final First Hug. Meanwhile, Stan and his father are both alive and well in front of separate computers. (Not to mention that Death Is Cheap in the video game, and Randy can revive his character with only minor inconvenience.)
  • One the American Dad! episode "Pulling Double Booty", Stan reveals that withholds from telling Hayley "I love you" specifically to invoke this should she ever be on her deathbed.
  • In Adventure Time "The Light Cloud", Finn hugs his mother Minerva in virtual reality (she only exists as a Virtual Ghost uploaded into Founders' Island's computer network). Sadly, he is doing this as he is sailing away from the Island, and Minerva's signal can't go too far from it. As the signal fades and his virtual mother vanishes in his arms, Finn whispers "Goodbye" and sheds a Single Tear.