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Eleanor: I'm not mad. I'm just disappointed.
Michael: Oh, come on! Everyone knows that's worse!

One character fails at something. Instead of being angry, another character is morose. They don't yell at the first character or ask them "What Were You Thinking?" or anything dramatic like that. Instead, they calmly, sadly and often regretfully tell the other person that they've let them down. Someway, somehow, they've set the second character's hopes for them high and then failed to deliver. May be worded as "I'm disappointed in you," "You disappoint me," or at a stretch "I expected better/more of you." However it's worded, the issue isn't one of outrage or indignation — merely that the speaker has been let down by the other and they feel like a fool for believing there would be any other outcome.

This usually has a greater effect on the person they are disappointed with. The recipient of this trope may be driven to a Heroic or Villainous BSoD, in extreme cases to the declaration of "My God, What Have I Done?". If they've become a bad person or are in the process of it, they may have a Heel Realization. Except in the case of an Ignored Epiphany, this character will typically be driven to atone for their failure. Only very, very rarely do they cross the Despair Event Horizon and become Driven to Suicide.

Compare What a Senseless Waste of Human Life, where someone is moved to regret by the death of a particular person, and You Could Have Used Your Powers for Good!, which may go hand in hand. This trope can typically get through to a Knight Templar or Well-Intentioned Extremist when angry callings-out and indignant diatribes fail. Contrast So Proud of You.


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    Anime & Manga 
  • In Boruto and its movie, Naruto expresses disappointment in his son, Boruto, after the latter gets caught using a scientific ninja tool during the Chuunin exam, which gets him disqualified from it.
  • In Demon Slayer: Kimetsu no Yaiba, despite Kaigaku treating him like dirt, Zenitsu always held a degree of respect towards him, noticing Kaigaku was driven to strengthen himself and reach the peak as the elder Thunder Breathing disciple, Zenitsu had honestly accepted Kaigaku would be the one to become the Thunder Hashira one day; which is why Zenitsu is disappointed at the fact their master Jigoro committed seppuku in repentance for Kaigaku's betrayal of the Demon Slayer Corps by becoming a demon, thus before truly engaging in combat Zenitsu wanted answers, desperately asking why ”the rightful successor” led their own master to such shame, Kaigaku dismissing Zenitsu's questions with mockery drives him to completely give up on talking, proceeding to try and kill Kaigaku for good.
  • JoJo's Bizarre Adventure:
  • In Kingdom Hearts II, Sora scolds his friends for allowing themselves into being captured by a bunch of weak Heartless when the trio are captured and zapped into a computer world called Space Paranoids. This is different from the game, where he simply tells them to "show 'em who's boss".
    Sora: Come on, guys! You let the Heartless get you?
  • In My Hero Academia, Aizawa gives his whole class one of these after five students decided to disregard pretty much all rules and regulations to conduct an unsanctioned rescue operation, and nearly the entire rest of the class knew about it and didn't report it. He tells them that their actions meant that it will be a long time before they can earn his trust again.

    Comic Books 
  • In The Avengers: Rage of Ultron, Hank Pym confronts his omnicidal robot son Ultron near the end. Ultron asks if Hank is going to stop claiming he loves Ultron as a son unconditionally and own his hatred. Hank denies hating Ultron and says that he's disappointed in him because he wants to hurt people.
  • In Eternals (2021), Thanos finally meets his great-uncle Uranos, who’s been imprisoned for hundreds of thousands of years. Uranos is perhaps the only relative who understands Thanos's genocidal career. However:
    Uranos: Ah, Thanos. At last. I hoped to meet you. To look another disappointment in the eye. You killed half the universe, boy. Fifty percent? What a lack of commitment. Do something or don’t do it.
  • Jew Gangster: With his final breath, Ruby's father expresses disappointment that his son became a gangster against his wishes.
  • In one issue of JLA (1997), Batman reacts this way when he finds out that Plastic Man had a son Luke whom he never met face-to-face. Batman claims that he had always thought Plastic Man would have been a decent dad and chews him out for not being there for his son. This leaves an impression on Plas — in a later storyline, after a particularly traumatizing experience, he decides to stop being Plastic Man (to the point of forgetting that he ever was Plastic Man) so that he can be a dad for Luke.
  • Subverted in MAD, during the parody of 7th Heaven. Cleric Crammed-in says he's very disappointed in his son, Simple, when the boy's caught shoplifting, but retracts that when it's revealed that Simple was shoplifting "The Best of Eight is Enough," since his show can steal material from that.
  • The Sandman (1989): Morpheus creates the nightmare known as the Corinthian as a "black mirror" to reflect everything humans aren't prepared to acknowledge about themselves. Then Morpheus gets waylaid and captured by a cult for decades. After he escapes, he finds that the Corinthian has been at large in the human world for some time — and is unimpressed that all he's done is inspire the modern Serial Killer.
    Morpheus: What have you wrought, Corinthian? NOTHING! Just something else for people to be scared of, that's all. You've told them that there are bad people out there. And they've known that all along.
  • An unintentional version serves as part of Spider-Gwen's backstory. While watching news about Spider-Woman's frivolous antics on television, Captain Stacy rants to his daughter about how deeply disappointed he is that someone with such abilities would selfishly use them for profit rather than to help others. His daughter Gwen, secretly being Spider-Woman, is visibly shaken and saddened by this, deciding to start off on the path to heroism that Peter's death later cements.
  • Superman: This is how Superman views Lex Luthor. Since he's an All-Loving Hero, Superman can't stay mad at him, but he will always be disappointed that Lex, with all his brilliance, wastes his talents on perpetuating a grudge instead of being the paragon Superman knows he could be.
  • Venom (2021): When a god-mode Carnage comes face-to-face with multiple versions of Eddie Brock, one leaps at him and declares himself Carnage's "Nietzsche", only he mispronounces it. Carnage effortless catches him and skewers him, but is more disappointed that those are Eddie's last words, since it's barely even a quip.
    Carnage: Dear God, Eddie. Dear me.

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Crossovers
  • #8024: After Nightwing and Red Robin's first attempt at interviewing Marinette goes horribly off the rails, Batman confronts them with footage of the whole confrontation, asking them to review it and detail just where they went wrong. He also states that he understands why they made the mistakes that they did, but stresses that he's disappointed in them both all the same.
  • In Cardcaptor Rad, with Optimus being something of a Team Dad, both Hot Shot and Rad can attest they find when he's disappointed in them to be worse than if he got angry.
  • A Hero's Wrath: After curb-stomping Re-Destro, Deus lectures him about how disappointing he found the fight, comparing him unfavorably to Destro.
  • In Hunters of Justice, Ruby expresses this sentiment to Weiss after learning the latter started a Bar Brawl while they were in The Wild West. Unusually, this is Played for Laughs, as Ruby had been prepared to give a "The Reason You Suck" Speech to her Alcoholic Parent (well, uncle) Qrow and Boisterous Bruiser sister Yang when she assumed that they started the brawl, and is absolutely incredulous that Weiss was the one who started the fight.
  • Infinity Train: Blossoming Trail:
    • Miss April is deeply disappointed when she catches her student Sara snidely declaring that Chloe doesn't deserve to have anyone looking for her, and that she hopes she never comes back. This extends to the rest of the class for making Chloe so miserable in the first place, contributing to her disappearance.
    • Much later, after the Unown incident and Chloe starting to have another one of her episodes, Lexi takes over for her to let Parker know how she's disappointed that he decided to perform something so horrible in her name, and how he essentially sabotaged the confidence she needed to face the Cage of Flauros.
    • Sometime after that, Chloe's mother, Talia, finally puts her foot down after being a passive woman the entire story, letting her daughter know that her constant back-and-forth Never My Fault diatribes are not going to work anymore, and she either works on herself for real, or she's not going to come home. No ifs or buts.
  • In A New Problem, Alfe imagines Horace saying "We're disappointed in you" and Roba corrects him saying they despise him.
  • The Night Unfurls: During the journey in the Badlands in the remastered version, Kyril, irritated at the infighting of the Great Escape group, tells Olga and Chloe, "I am most disappointed." Chloe attempts to talk back, only for Kyril to step into her personal space and give her a "Reason You Suck" Speech on why he is disappointed.
  • At one point in Cleolinda's The Secret Life of Dolls series, Cleo disciplines Edward simply by telling him she's disappointed in him.
  • Shadows over Meridian:
  • Temporal Anomaly: While she doesn't say it out loud, One's tone of voice expresses this towards Three when it comes to her refusal to properly confront the citizens of Forest Country to give them closure. While she decides to leave Three be for now, she firmly lets her know that she cannot escape facing the consequences of her actions forever.

Amphibia

Arrowverse

  • Arrow: Rebirth: After Emiko, Robert's illegitimate daughter, is publicly acknowledged as a member of the Queen family, Thea bitterly tells a reporter that Robert must have abandoned the Adachis because he was ashamed of them. Oliver angrily confronts Thea over this, revealing that Robert hadn't meant to abandon his secret family — he'd indicated in his will that he wanted Kasumi and Emiko to be taken care of, only for his wife to ignore his wishes, telling the Adachis point-blank that she intended to ensure they spent the rest of their lives living in squalor. Oliver then tells Thea that her callous remark to the reporter proved just how much she has in common with Moria, and that he's ashamed of her cruelty.

Azur Lane

  • Chronicles of the Siren War: After Brooklyn witnesses how Thorson treats Fredrick Miles, she remarks that racism in the Union must be quite severe for a man of Thorson's caliber to be so cruel to somebody simply because they happen to be black, suggesting that he should give Fredrick the same chance that he gave his kansen. Thorson is caught off-guard; unable to defend his actions, he begins treating Fredrick with far more respect.

Bleach

  • Unohana does this in chapter 35 of Uninvited Guests, when she uses her Team Mom status to guilt trip Soi Fon into surrendering her hold on Soul Society.
    With immeasurable sadness in her eyes, she said, "I just want you to know... I'm not angry, Soi Fon. I'm disappointed."
    Soi Fon recoiled as if physically struck. "Wh-what... what was..." She muttered. What had just happened? Unohana had done nothing of note; she'd spoken a few words. They weren't even kido. And yet Soi Fon felt as though a spear of ice had been driven deep into her soul, a deep, crushing chill that permeated her entire being.
    "I've done so much for you. I work tirelessly, day in and day out, to keep you and your little friends healthy and happy." Unohana said, still sadly. "I do this because I care, Soi, I really do. And to see you respond by treating me like this... it hurts."
    Soi Fon fell to her knees. "S... stop it..." She muttered. "What are you... what are you doing to... to me..."
    "Look me in the eyes when I talk to you, young lady." Unohana said firmly. "I want you to understand just how much your selfishness has hurt the people who care about you."
    "Oh... oh God..." Soi Fon said weakly, tears in her eyes. What was going on? What was this woman doing to her? She hadn't been so much as scratched, but she felt so weak and terrible and... guilty.

Buffyverse

  • Xander indirectly tells Buffy how disappointed he is in Hunter when after they both agree to share their dirty little secrets with the group (that Xander had Ethan Rayne mystically empower him and that Buffy has been hiding that Angel's back), he reveals his secret first and she refuses to say anything.
    Xander: Well, I guess no one else has anything to say. I guess we can all go back to our so not normal lives.

Danganronpa

  • Danganronpa 2: Goodbye Denial:
    • Gundam is deeply disappointed when he learns that Teruteru had ulterior motives for trying to help Kazuichi out of their traumatized state; namely, that he wanted to get the mechanic to fix something for him.
    • Following the second trial, Byakuya calls Teruteru out for how he encouraged Nagito to drink poison.
  • or did it eat the little girl?: Before Korekiyo is executed, Tenko attacks them in a fit of rage when they prove to be The Unapologetic. Afterwards, she fears that the other students were disappointed by her lack of control. Kokichi using this incident to paint her as an untrustworthy, unhinged maniac certainly doesn't help matters.

Diabolik Lovers

  • Played With in Lover of the Sacrificial Bride: While Karlheinz is disappointed that none of his sons and in-laws have treated Yui well enough for her to fall in love with one of them, this is entirely because of how invested he is in his Adam and Eve Project. Along similar lines, he becomes a Shipper with an Agenda when Tamotsu starts falling for Yui, wanting the boy to win her in order to teach the others a lesson about "the fragile human heart".

Dragon Ball

  • What If Bulma Trained Like Goku?: Guru doesn't approve of Nail's decision to fuse with Piccolo, believing it to be A Tragedy of Impulsiveness. This proves to be the elder's last words before passing away from his grief, leaving Piccolo deeply shaken.
  • In What If Krillin Became a Saiyan?, Master Roshi scolds Krillin for wishing to become more like Goku, accusing him of not changing at all from the Bratty Half-Pint who'd first come to him seeking a shortcut to success all those years ago. Ironically, Roshi himself was the one who suggested he make that wish in the first place, though he wasn't really paying attention to what his student was asking, too distracted by his 'movies'.

Fate Series

  • Fate/Black Dawn: The key turning point in Morgan le Faye's relationship with Shirou is how he takes her to task for being a terrible mother to her homunculus Mordred. "She deserves a decent mother. And you deserve to be a great one." While Morgan has had people hating her and her ambitions her entire life, she's never had anyone disappointed in her because they expected her to do better.

Fire Emblem

  • A Chance for a New Dawn: After working through her Identity Amnesia, Sothis is deeply disappointed by the actions of the church that purports to worship her. She's especially angry at her daughter Rhea for being such an extremist.

Girls und Panzer

  • In Boys und Sensha-dō!, Miho expresses the sentiment to Mako when a mistake by Mako as driver results in Miho almost getting run over by their Panzer IV.

Gunslinger Girl

  • In Marisa 20: First Day of Spring by Professor Voodoo, the cyborg girls have to tell their handlers that they've been ticketed for speeding. Triela complains about getting Standardized Handler Speech #134: I'm not angry I'm just disappointed from Hilshire, whereupon the other girls groan in sympathy.

Harry Potter

  • Perfectly Normal: Aside from some of the residents of Slytherin, most of the people who learn about Harry's truce with Voldemort react this way.
  • Princess of the Blacks: Lily attempts this with Jen, saying she's "better than this" when the latter admits that "if [she] can only stay afloat by pushing someone else under, then that's just the way it goes." Unfortunately for her, not only does Jen not care, Lily called her Jenny.
  • In Sorting Sideways, Malfoy winds up in Hufflepuff. He's his usual bullying self, and at one point insults Harry and Hermione's parents particularly horribly. Professor Sprout overhears but doesn't punish him, she instead gives him a look of such profound disappointment that even Harry feels guilty. Malfoy doesn't insult anyone for three whole days as a result.

How to Train Your Dragon

  • Bound: While trying to salvage his reputation, Hiccup goes behind Astrid's back to invent the Mangler. After its demonstration goes horribly wrong, he's able to tune out the familiar jeering and taunting of his peers... but the disappointed look Astrid gives him stings far worse.

KanColle

  • Ambience: A Fleet Symphony: In chapter 105, Murasame saying this to Suzukaze is the cherry on top of the preceding Et Tu, Brute?, the straw that breaks the camel's back and causes the latter to abandon the fleet.

The Loud House

  • Losing Him: After learning his daughter Rita and the rest of her family kicked Lincoln out of their house due to their belief that he was bad luck, Albert tells them all that he's deeply disappointed in them. However, he reassures them that this doesn't mean that he despises them; he's just upset at how they treated their son and brother.
  • Syngenesophobia: Lynn Sr. and Rita both make clear to their daughters how disappointed they are at how they beat their brother so badly that he wound up hospitalized.
    • Lynn Sr. Loud angrily rips into his daughters, stressing that he and Rita had trusted them to handle themselves. Since they've shown that none of them can be trusted, given how rapidly things flew out of control, he declares that from now on, he and his wife will handle their disputes as they see fit. He also admits that he lost a lot of trust and respect for his daughters.
    • While her husband is discussing matters with Dr. Lopez, Rita asks how they handled the Sister Fight Protocol; while initially believing that the fight must have been over something serious, she's disappointed to learn it all started over a dress. She's also angry to learn that the Sister Fight Protocol involved them taking over Lincoln's bedroom, stealing his bedsheets, and refusing to explain anything about the Protocol as it was 'a sister thing'. She explicitly calls out Lori and Leni for arguing over something so trivial, and informs Luna and Luan that she's disappointed at how they got dragged into the fight when it didn't concern them at all.

Love Hina

  • An Alternate Keitaro Urashima:
    • Granny Hina tries guilt-tripping Keitaro into taking over the Inn by declaring how disappointed she is in the person he's becoming. This doesn't work, as he realizes that she's only 'disappointed' about not getting her way.
    • She attempts the same tactic on Keitaro's parents; they turn it around on her, expressing their disappointment at her manipulative and self-serving tactics.
  • For His Own Sake:
    • When she learns that Keitaro left the Inn, Hina plays this card on him, only to find that it doesn't work thanks to him growing a spine while she was off on her vacation.
    • Tsuruko feels this way towards Mokoto after learning how her sister secretly disapproves of her marriage; the rest of their family is similarly disenchanted with Makoto upon learning of her misbehavior.
    • Ida, Naru's school advisor, is deeply disappointed when Naru impulsively attacks a man for teasing his wife. Her disappointment only grows when Naru refuses to apologize, blaming the victim instead.
    • Marumi is bitterly disappointed at how Hina broke her promise to let her inherit the Inn, foisting the responsibility off onto Keitaro as part of her manipulations.

Miraculous Ladybug

  • Chloe's Lament: After sincerely believing that his Childhood Friend was simply misunderstood by her classmates and spending so much time defending her, Adrien is horrified to realize just how little regard she holds for others, to the point that she legitimately doesn't see anything wrong with the notion of Mind Controlling everyone to serve as her personal slaves. Chloé notices that he keeps giving her incredibly disappointed looks, but struggles to understand why, even when he spells it out for her and declares that he regrets everything he did to defend her from their classmates.
  • He Can Only Blame Himself: After Adrien cheats on Marinette with Lila, Gabriel promptly fires hers from his company. Fortunately, Adrien's aunt Amelie promptly snaps her up to work for her as a costume designer for Graham Films. At a film premiere, a reporter asks Amelie if she'd like to say anything to her nephew, just in case he's watching:
    Amelie: (looking into the camera) There is only one thing I can think to say and it is something he deserves to hear. I'm very disappointed in you, young man.
  • The Karma of Lies:
    • After his father is exposed as Hawkmoth, Adrien tries to argue for a lighter sentence, claiming that most of his terrorist acts 'don't count' because Ladybug used her Miraculous Cure to repair the damage. His bodyguard fixes him with a deeply disappointed stare upon hearing this.
    • Ladybug's disappointment in her after her stint as Miracle Queen proves to be the reality check Chloé needed to kickstart her Character Development, as she finally realizes what a Spoiled Brat she was and starts making serious effort to change her ways.
  • Karma's a Bitch: Marinette admits that she didn't tell Adrien about how Lila had threatened her because she assumed he'd pull this tactic on her, shaming her for daring to disagree about how to handle the Bitch in Sheep's Clothing. Once he learns the truth, Adrien reassures her that he'd much rather know when she's hurting than have her pretending to be fine just to avoid an argument.
  • In LadyBugOut, Ms. Bustier attempts to talk Marinette into deleting the titular blog behind Ladybug's back (unaware that she is Ladybug). When Marinette refuses and calls her out on her bully-coddling, Bustier attempts to shame her by saying this. It promptly blows up in her face as most of her class proceeds to back Marinette up, calling her out for her underhanded tactics.
  • Leave for Mendeleiev: After Chloé is publicly exposed and humiliated for attempting to steal one of Marinette's designs, Adrien attempts to guilt-trip Marinette and Nino for being obviously happy at her suffering consequences for once by glaring and chiding them in this fashion. It doesn't work.
  • Long Con:
    • Ms. Bustier loves to employ passive-aggressive tactics against her students, implying that she'll be deeply disappointed in them if they don't do what she wants. For instance, when Bustier asks Lila if she'll accept Marinette's apology, she uses a tone that Marinette recognizes as a warning, making clear that she fully expects Lila to accept... or else.
    • Max's mother expresses this after he reveals to her everything that's been happening at school. Including the napkin incident, as she scolds her son, saying that he should have been smart enough to realize that said napkin wasn't capable of inflicting an Eye Scream on anyone.
  • Marinette Dupain-Cheng's Spite Playlist: Remix:
    • Marinette expects Adrien to pull this card after she transfers out of their school, since he'd told her to 'take the high road' and just ignore Lila's antics. Instead, Adrien apologizes to her, having realized that his advice wasn't the support she'd needed... or that he'd promised her.
    • Chloé pulls this when she tries to guilt-trip Marinette into helping her take down Lila, regaling her with all the ways the Manipulative Bitch is exploiting their classmates. When Marinette doesn't cave, Chloé sneers that she thought she'd care more about her friends.
    • Later, Adrien worries that Marinette will be disappointed if she learns that he's cooperating with Chloé to deal with Lila. This proves doubly ironic; not only is this part of his efforts to grow a spine and make up for his past mistakes, but he's unaware that Marinette is cooperating with them as Ladybug.
  • Miraculous Ladybug Salt-Shots:
    • Emotionless has Marinette publicly expose Lila as a Bitch in Sheep's Clothing, then reject Alya's attempt to apologize; in the process, she reveals that she's long since fallen out of love with Adrien, having realized she was Loving a Shadow the whole time. Adrien is left wondering why she doesn't like him anymore, even as he plans to lecture her about how deeply disappointed he is that she informed everyone of how Lila was decieving them.
    • In The "High Road" Doesn't Work on Everyone, Adrien starts telling Marinette off for exposing Lila... in front of the whole class, who are dismayed to learn of his Betrayal by Inaction.
    • Bitter Victory has Lila become the new class president, only to be caught off guard by how everyone expects her to do all the things Marinette used to do for them without any support at all, not even from their teacher. The only thing Mme. Bustier does is scold Lila about how disappointed she is by her failures to step up and "set a good example".
    • In My Compensation, Otis and Marlene are dismayed to learn how Alya has been exploiting Marinette's giving nature by making her handle all of her babysitting duties while Alya pockets the money. Otis tells her outright how disappointed he is by the debt she's racked up at the Dupain-Cheng bakery by helping herself to "free pastries".
  • The One to Make It Stay:
    • After Alya accidentally ditches her babysitting duties, her older sister Nora is utterly furious with her. By contrast, her mother is much quieter and calmer, explaining why she's disappointed not just by this incident, but by how skewed Alya's priorities have become in general. While Alya has been incredibly stubborn up to this point, rejecting the idea that she could be responsible for any of her problems, this marks a turning point, as she finds herself more frustrated by how she can't blame them for being upset.
    • Eventually, Alya admits to Ladybug that her fear of this was a major motivation behind how she was acting. In essence, she didn't want to admit her actions were wrong, or that Lila wasn't who she believed her to be, because acknowledging that would mean facing the idea that she'd disappointed everyone who trusted her. The irony of how this has only made matters worse isn't lost on her.
  • Of Patience and Pettiness:
    • Ladybug uses this on both Lila and Alya at the same time after the former is akumatized into Volpina again, chastising her for falsely claiming that they were friends and chiding the reporter for providing an easy platform for her lies by posting them on the Ladyblog.
    • Adrien attempts to guilt-trip Marinette and the rest of his classmates by expressing how deeply disappointed he is that she exposed Lila's deception to everyone. This completely blows up in his face, as none of the others knew that he already knew about her true nature, and don't appreciate his high-handed moralizing.
  • Sins of the Past:
    • When Lila successfully makes it look like Marinette assaulted her, several of their classmates tell their former friend they're disappointed that she's sunk so low. One comments that "I thought you were supposed to be our 'Everyday Ladybug'?"
    • Adrien follows this up with an even nastier example. Marinette confides in him about how Lila threatened her, only for him to lecture her about how disappointed he is that she's still trying to expose the liar, claiming that she's no better than a bully herself.
    • Both of Kamela's parents are deeply ashamed after learning about how she had an altercation with Amicia.
  • Tales of Karmic Lies Aftermath: When Majestia learns how Alya conducted herself after Marinette was unmasked as Ladybug — mainly by acting entitled to exclusive interviews and other perks despite having abandoned her for Lila, then throwing a fit upon learning she'd been replaced and outing herself as Rena Rouge — she doesn't call her out. She simply expresses her disappointment, which proves to be enough to pierce through Alya's stubborn insistence that she hadn't done anything wrong and recognize her mistakes.
  • Truth and Consequences: Tikki treats Marinette this way after the latter makes a deal with Hawk Moth in a misguided attempt to protect Adrien.
  • The Wolves in the Woods:
    • Ms. Bustier makes clear to Marinette that she's deeply disappointed by her decision to transfer to St. Catherine's in order to escape the bullying at Francoise Dupont, as she would prefer Marinette to remain there and continue trying to placate her classmates.
    • Adrien also tries guilt-tripping Marinette in the same fashion for daring to try and escape the abuse, declaring that she brought it upon herself by trying to expose Lila.
    • After she hears Alya threatening Ben, Marlene tells her daughter that she's ashamed of her. She and her husband are even more disappointed later when they learn that Alya not only organized much of the bullying campaign against Marinette, but knew all along that Lila was lying.
    • Alix's father also tells her this after learning about the way she was treating Marinette. While discussing the matter with him, Mireya notes that she uses this tactic on Amaia as well, and it's never failed her.
  • In this what-if scenario, Adrien rejects Marinette's Anguished Declaration of Love because he doesn't like how she's continued trying to expose Lila's true nature even after he told her that it didn't matter that she was tricking everyone else so long as the two of them knew the truth. He's especially disappointed that she defended her family's bakery from Lila's Malicious Slander, insisting that she wasn't hurting anyone by insulting their livelihood and that standing up for them made Marinette a bully herself.
    • In this follow-up, Felix forces Adrien to expose his true colors to his classmates by making him publicly choose which girl to side with, with Adrien's efforts to Take a Third Option only making matters worse. Afterwards, Felix gives him a "The Reason You Suck" Speech which Averts this sentiment:
      Adrien: I know I upset you—
      Felix: Upset? No, Agreste. 'Upset' is nowhere near an adequate descriptor for what I feel for you right now. What I feel just by looking at you... Disgust, certainly. Anger, definitely. And I wish I could say I was disappointed, but that would require anything you did to actually come as a surprise to me. And you... Well, I had already known you were capable of such cowardice, but at least now everyone else knows it, as well.

My Hero Academia

  • Actions of a Hero plays this for Drama in its alternative take on Izuku and Katsuki's End of Term Exam. All Might condemns Izuku for "abandoning his teammate" in order to cross the gate and finish the exercise, ignoring how Katsuki had not only been refusing to work with Izuku, but actively beating the crap out of him. Aizawa also acts disappointed in Izuku's decision, emphasizing how he only technically passed the exercise. Learning about this spurs Inko to confront Principal Nedzu and Aizawa in a meeting, calling U.A. on its blatant Double Standards and blaming her son for Katsuki's cruelty.
  • Adalheidis: Both All Might and Gran Torino are deeply disappointed upon realizing that Sir Nighteye is a selfish and hypocritical Control Freak who's been trying to manipulate Toshinori into letting Nighteye decide how the legacy of One For All is handled.
  • Apotheosis: After his classmates at 1-A learn about Katsuki's past as a Barbaric Bully, as well as the role he played in driving Midoriya to villainy, they all stop associating with him. Kirishima, his Only Friend, breaks off their bond while telling him just how deeply disappointed he is.
  • In Build Yourself Up (Don't Let Them Break You Down), Endeavor privately notes to himself that the principal at Shoto's school is surprisingly good at delivering the "I'm not mad, just disappointed" look — much more effective than Endeavor's own father was at it.
  • Deku? I think he's some pro...: Sir Nighteye confronts Toshinori after the USJ Incident, declaring that he's disappointed by how he's been treating Izuku. He's even more Disappointed by the Motive; Toshinori accidentally admits that he's against Izuku becoming a Quirkless Pro Hero because he couldn't manage it himself.
  • Deku in Class 1-B:
    • After Katsuki's parents finally learn about his history of Barbaric Bullying, Masaru calls his son out on refusing to admit his faults, declaring how disappointed he is... and that he blames himself for having so much faith in his son's ability to be a good person. Hearing this shocks Katsuki into silence.
    • Tenya becomes an Adaptational Jerkass, blaming Izuku and Kamikiri for "getting in [his] way" during his attempt to kill Stain and lashing out at his partner Reiko during their final practical exam. His older brother Tensei lets him know how unhappy he is about his recent behavior.
  • A Hero Rises: Played for Laughs when Izuku and his polycule run into Shigaraki and the League during a date. Izuku scolds Shigaraki for breaking Moonfish out of prison, acting like the villain's disappointed older brother, while both the League and Izuku's girlfriends are left wondering just what kind of conversation they're watching here.
  • Midoriya, Plus Three-Sixty-Five: Aizawa gives Oto Kenji a deeply disappointed look after they decide to transfer out of the Hero Course, believing that they're wasting their potential.
  • Nemesis: Implied with Ejirou; while he doesn't confront and call out Katsuki directly, the look he gives him after learning about his past as a Barbaric Bully speaks volumes.
  • Think Before You Speak: Tensei says too much during an interview, blaming one of Tenya's classmates for getting his brother injured during a training exercise. Both his parents and Tenya are deeply disappointed in him for this; his mother reads him the riot act for not watching his words, while Tenya gives him the silent treatment.
  • Toward A Bright Future: After Mineta pulls his usual perverted antics at the Summer Camp, Y/N sits him down and gives him the full-fledged "disappointed teacher" talk. When this finally seems to help him recognize how unacceptable his behavior is, Y/N wonders if she should have had this discussion with him sooner, rather than simply shutting him down each time.
  • Type-2 Hero: After learning about how he treated Izuku, Melissa stops referring to Toshinori as her uncle, referring to him solely by his hero name. While All Might was already going through his Heel Realization, her disapproval and rejection still hits him hard.
  • Yesterday Upon The Stair:
    • Played With during the End of Term Exam. Izuku invokes and weaponizes this in order to pass the exam; when All Might confronts him afterwards and starts to lecture him, Izuku throws him off balance by declaring he needed to do something All Might wouldn't anticipate in order to win. All Might is so unsettled by his Armor-Piercing Response that he starts to realize that something is seriously wrong.
      All Might: (coldly) Midoriya... (pauses as he takes in his bloodied, battered state, then continues) My boy, it seems you've missed the point of this test.
      Izuku: You're disappointed in me. Good.
      All Might: Good?
      Izuku: Means it worked, didn't it? I can't beat you. Not without help, and—and Bakugou wouldn't help. So I knew I'd have to trick you instead. Or at least I'd have to surprise you. I'd have to do something you wouldn't expect. And you'd never expect me to do anything to disappoint you, right?
    • When Toshinori learns that Sir Nighteye has been treating Izuku coldly and callously during his apprenticeship with him, he reacts with disappointment rather than outrage. Nighteye muses that he finds the former much, much worse.

My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic

  • Both Twilight Velvet and Night Light scold Shining Armor for how he treated his sister in A Canterlot Wedding: Aftermath.
  • Bitterness:
    • When Spike protests that he didn't defend Twilight because of how everyone else was dogpiling her, Twilight gives him a disappointed look and declares he should "think for [himself] next time."
    • Cadence tells Celestia that she doesn't resent everyone the same way Twilight does, but is disappointed in them all.
    • Twilight and Shining Armor's parents are similarly disappointed in their son after finding out what happened at the rehearsal.
  • The Negotiations-verse: In Regeneration, all of the Element Bearers are horrified to see the massive devastation called by the Harmony Cannon. When Applejack, Rarity and Rainbow Dash all refuse to power it up again, Agent Sweetie Drops declares that she's disappointed in them all.
  • Sophistication and Betrayal: When the protagonist admits to Rarity that he doesn't love Fluttershy in the same way, Rarity puts a slight twist on this; rather than expressing disappointment towards them, she admits how much she dislikes feeling disappointed in general.
  • Twilight expresses her extreme disappointment over TD and Celestia's animalistic behavior in TD the Alicorn Princess, which hits both quite hard. Celestia is also shown to be disappointed in herself.

Naruto

  • A Case Study in the Sturdiness of the Rookie 9:
    • While Chouji already feels guilty for how he, Sakura and Shino chose to tackle the Forest of Death, he feels even worse about it when Shikamaru calmly admits that after that incident, he doesn't want to work with him on missions anymore, feeling he wouldn't be able to trust him.
    • When Inoichi finally learns how Ino was misusing their clan's bloodline techniques to terrorize her teammates, he blames himself for not teaching her better, lamenting that all his efforts to impress upon her how dangerous their abilities were ultimately amounted to nothing. Hearing him blame himself just makes her feel worse.
  • After Yuugao almost kills Suzume for poisoning Naruto in Eroninja, Naruto tells her he's disappointed in her, which Suzume notes nearly drives the Anbu captain to tears.
  • After twelve years of inhabiting his son's body in The Fire Quenched, Kakashi notes that Minato doesn't seem so much angry with the village as deeply disappointed for how they treated "Naruto".
  • The Kakashi Way: When Hiruzen reveals the Awful Truth behind the Uchiha Massacre to him, Kakashi swiftly pieces together that Hiruzen chose not to act against the one truly responsible for the clan being all but wiped out. He proceeds to stare at the Sandaime in silent horror and mounting disgust, his former regard for the man firmly shattered.
  • Princess of Konoha: While sparring with Hinata, Naruto is disappointed by how much she holds back, wondering if this means they were never even friends in the first place — for why else would she disrespect him so much by not fighting at her fullest?
  • sunflower: During a squabble, Itachi refers to Mangusu by her real name. Inu then berates him for doing so while she's wearing her ANBU mask, stating that he should know better. (Though it doesn't help that Itachi's code name is the same as his real name...)

OMORI

  • Time to Disinfect: When scolding Mari in private, her mother caps it off by proclaiming how disappointed she is. This is the line that hits Mari the hardest, with her mentally comparing it to being stabbed in the stomach with an icicle, and she spends the rest of the night obsessing over the word.

One Piece

  • Crossed Lines: After beating Buggy, Luffy and Nami both express their disappointment at how comically weak he turned out to be despite being a former member of the Roger Pirates.
  • Specks of Seafoam includes the one-shot Advantages, where Nami talks Sanji into retrieving a treasure from an underwater tunnel. This almost gets Sanji killed. The rest of the crew, especially Zoro, are aghast by Nami's actions; however, hearing Luffy himself tell her point-blank how disappointed he is makes the guilt fully hit home.
    Luffy: Nami. I'm disappointed in you.
    And in that moment, Nami felt like the world had ended.

Persona

  • In Continuance, Souji Seta convinces his father, Yuuma to let him visit Inaba for Golden Week, under the pretext of gathering business information. Yuuma, upon seeing Souji's portfolio, says this is "far beneath what (he) expect(s) of" his son. Souji, unfazed, snarkily replies that Yuuma's been saying that ever since Souji was thirteen.

Star Wars

  • In Patron of the Art of War, Sabine thinks that the Ghost Crew would be disappointed by her giving in to any of Thrawn's demands.
  • A Wound in Time: After stopping Sidious' scheme to send the Jedi Council after him, Plagueis declares this, claiming that the two of them could have ruled the Galaxy together if the other hadn't attempted to stab him in the back. The two then insult and belittle each other before formally becoming enemies.

TRON

  • The Patchwork Fic Up And Apart has Jet Bradley hanging a lampshade on this trope.
    He has the mental image of his father staring at him over his spectacles, and the words "Jethro Eugene Bradley, I'm very disappointed..." When it comes to his dad, "disappointed" covers a lot of things other people use four-letter bombs to express.

    Films — Animation 
  • Brother Bear: After Kenai kills the bear (AKA Koda's mother) out of anger for supposedly causing Sitka's death, the spirits his people worship turn him into a bear as a punishment. During the transformation scene, Sitka's spirit appears to Kenai and gives him a sorrowful look, not happy at all that his youngest brother had needlessly killed the bear.
  • A Bug's Life: The Queen is the first to admonish Flik for deceiving the colony about the circus bugs' identity, and for not disclosing that the makeshift bird was his idea.
    "I never thought I'd see the day when an ant would put himself before the rest of his colony."
  • Towards the end of The Chipmunk Adventure, Miss Miller delivers this to Theodore once she finds out about Alvin's ruse to go on a world quest.
    Miss Miller: (crying) I can understand this deception from Alvin, but not you, Theodore.
    Theodore: (tearing up) I'm sorry, Miss Miller.
  • The Lion King:
    Mufasa: Simba, I'm very disappointed in you.
    Simba: I know.
    Mufasa: You could have been killed! You deliberately disobeyed me! And what's worse, you put Nala in danger!
    • And again later in the film:
      Nala: You're not the Simba I remember.
      Simba: You're right, I'm not. Now are you satisfied?
      Nala: No. Just disappointed.
      Simba: You know, you're starting to sound like my father.
      Nala: Good! At least one of us does.
      Simba: Listen! You think you can just show up and tell me how to live my life? You don't even know what I've been through!
      Nala: I would if you'd just tell me!
      Simba: FORGET IT!
      Nala: FINE!
  • The Lion King II: Simba's Pride doesn't show this part in the movie, but a recording of James Earl Jones voicing Mufasa hints at a scene of Mufasa calling Simba out for unfairly banishing Kovu, which had led to Kiara telling him "You will never be Mufasa!".
    Mufasa: You have let your family break apart, and in doing so, you have broken the Circle of Life.
  • The Prince of Egypt: Queen Tuya sorrowfully turns away from her adopted son Moses in shame after he humiliates a slave girl at the royal banquet. Given how she was ashamed of her son for humiliating what other Egyptians would consider a lowly life form, it is clear that she was one of Moses' major moral compasses in his early life.
  • Subverted in Turning Red. When Ming finally finds out that Mei has been hustling her panda form, it's right after Mei has just lost her temper and physically attacked Tyler after he finally insulted her family one time too many. Ming shows up at Tyler's party, shocked at Mei's behavior, and Mei visibly cringes, preparing to be scolded. But Ming doesn't scold her daughter, she just walks past Mei without a word; she instead scolds Mei's friends, believing that Mei is only "hustling the panda" because her friends manipulated her into doing so.

    Films — Live-Action 
  • Black Rain. After his partner is murdered the protagonist, an NYPD detective, admits to a Japanese detective that he stole money from drug dealers.
    Masashiro: Did Charlie [his dead partner] know this?
    Nick: No.
    Masashiro: (quietly) You shame him. And me. And yourself.
    Nick: (long pause) I know.
  • In the mockumentary The Compleat Al, every time Al's parents appear, they start off complimenting him and his life... before shortly veering into disappointment at his present state.
  • Gettysburg. General Lee's mild-mannered rebuke of his cavalry commander Jeb Stuart cows the flamboyant general so much he tries to resign on the spot.
  • In Inception, the last thing the dying Corrupt Corporate Executive Maurice Fischer says to his son Robert is simply "Disappointed." Robert, a "Well Done, Son" Guy and the inheritor of his company, naturally assumes this trope, until Cobb and his Caper Crew, as part of a scheme to get him to sell off said company, implant a false memory in his mind where Maurice elaborates:
    Fischer, Jr.: I know. You're disappointed that I didn't turn out to be like you.
    Fischer, Sr.: No. No, nonono. I was disappointed... that you tried.
  • Steve-O lampshades this in the first Jackass movie just before a stunt when he remarks that when parents say "I'm not angry, just disappointed", it hurts so much more.
  • Kingsman: The Secret Service:
    • Arthur tells Charlie this once he fails his Secret Test of Character. Especially noteworthy as Charlie was the only remaining candidate who fit his vision of what a Kingsman agent should be.
    • When Eggsy fails his last Secret Test of Character by refusing to shoot the dog he adopted, Harry sees it as Eggsy throwing away everything he'd been working towards over something trivial — even worse because, turns out, the gun was loaded with blanks. This is particularly sad because it's the last exchange he and Eggsy have before Harry's death.
  • Marvel Cinematic Universe: Quiet expression of disappointment by those Loki cares about has more effect on him than any amount of angry shouting ever would. In Thor, when Odin condemns his actions with a Little "No", he lets go of Odin's spear Gungnir and his former life, apparently committing suicide by letting himself fall to his death, but survives and then is Jumping Off the Slippery Slope in The Avengers. In Thor: Ragnarok, when Thor calmly admits that he once thought the world of Loki but has given up on him because Loki refuses to change, Loki makes a Heel–Face Turn.
  • A subplot of Nutty Professor II: The Klumps has Sherman's dad taking Sherman's youth formula to be younger and skinner. When he tries to get his wife to take it, she's angry because she thinks it means that he's grown tired of her. After exiling him to the couch, she says that she's disappointed in him.
  • RoboCop (1987), following a disastrous test run of ED-209 leaving an OCP executive riddled with bullets.
    OCP Chairman: Dick, I'm very disappointed.
  • Spawn (1997): Wynn calls him a disappointment for having a conscience as a professional killer.
  • In Stand Clear of the Closing Doors, Carla blows off her responsibility to walk her autistic brother home from school. When he goes missing, their mother blames her and says, "I can't even look at you."
  • X-Men Film Series
    • X2: X-Men United: Xavier is disgruntled by Pyro's mischief at the museum.
      Professor X: The next time you feel like showing off, don't.
    • X-Men: First Class:
      • Xavier is upset when the mutant teens are behaving like party animals, and he rebukes them with a frown.
        Xavier: I expect more from you.
      • After Havok insults Hank by calling him "Bozo," Charles' terse delivery of "Thank you, Alex" is his very polite way of saying, "Shut up."
    • X-Men: Days of Future Past:
      • Magneto believes that Mystique has grown soft when he sternly asks her, "What's happened to you? Did you lose your way while I was gone?"
      • It's subtle, but there is resentment in Charles' voice when he says, "Goodbye, Erik."
    • X-Men: Apocalypse:
      • Xavier isn't at all pleased that Magneto has reverted back to his violent ways.
        Professor X: You're going to take part in all this killing? Destruction?
      • Archangel receives this posthumously when Apocalypse disparages him as "Useless."

    Gamebooks 
  • One Narnia Gamebook uses this. Aslan sends the Player Character to investigate an island where some of the water can turn everything it touches to gold, which is otherwise indistingishable from all the other water there. If the hero decides to join a gang exploiting the water to get rich quick, Aslan appears, tells them how disappointed he is, and sends them back home, along with their ill-gotten wealth. The hero's deeply upset, realizing too late the folly of their greed, and it's implied they'll never get a chance to atone or return to Narnia.

    Literature 
  • Absolutely Truly: Truly's mother says she's disappointed in her when she sees Truly's report card and discovers she failed math.note 
  • In A Brother's Price, the punishment for Corelle's irresponsible behaviour is very calmly delivered. The Whistlers don't yell at kids or beat them ... they just strip Corelle of all possessions she doesn't need to survive. As they're not that rich, and are a large family, Corelle doesn't have much to begin with, but it's still a harsh punishment.
  • Dark Shores: Killian's father High Lord Calorian, when he hears about his son's failure to hold the wall.
    High Lord Calorian: You were meant to be my greatest achievement. Instead, you've been my greatest disappointment.
  • In Frozen Tie-In Novel A Frozen Heart, Prince Hans' father tells him that he should be more like his brothers and warns him "Don't disappoint me - again."
  • In Harry Potter, this is a recurring theme in Harry's interactions with his role models.
    • In Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets, Dumbledore calmly expresses his disappointment with Harry and Ron for flying the Ford Anglia to Hogwarts — Harry would rather he had shouted.
    • In Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban, Lupin is quietly disappointed in Harry over the fact that he sneaked out of Hogwards and didn't hand in the Marauder's Map, "leaving [him] feeling worse than he had at any point in Snape's office."
    • In Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince, when Harry disappoints Dumbledore by not making much of an effort to get a memory from Slughorn, he again would have preferred him to yell; "this cold disappointment was worse than anything."
  • One of the quotes on the Quotes page comes from one of Jeremy Clarkson's car review collections, while discussing the Mazda 3.
  • In Mistborn: The Original Trilogy, Vin initially refuses to help Kelsier rescue a group of prisoners on their way to be executed, on the grounds that said prisoners are heavily guarded and the odds are strongly against them. The usually very passionate Kelsier simply tells Vin that she has never really understood what he's trying to accomplish, and she still has a lot to learn about friendship.
  • Presidential: Emily tells Connie this after learning that she gave up on passing universal healthcare in order to focus on pushing a ban on automatic weapons. Emily is convinced that Connie could get both measures passed, rather than having to pick and choose her battles, but won't spend the political capital.
  • This is how Joe's cultist parents react to his betrayal in The Tenets of Futilism. Rather than punishing him directly, they "teach him a lesso" by hurting the woman he loves in the hope of molding him into the son they want. It doesn't work.
  • In Tom Sawyer, there is a passage where Aunt Polly starts crying and berating Tom. He thinks that for a moment, he hoped she'd just beat him.
  • This is very much Granny Helga's reaction to Jan's panicked actions in Unique. It takes a heartfelt appeal from Charles to convince her to stop her quiet yet seething rant at him in favor of further training to prevent a repeat.
  • Welcome To Wonderland: Gloria tells P.T. she's disappointed in him in "Beach Battle Blowout" because he made Dill intentionally lose a Frolf game against Geoffrey, just because Geoffrey's a son of one of the judges.

    Live-Action TV 
  • Parodied on 3rd Rock from the Sun when Tommy has to pretend to be a juvenile delinquent to keep up the Masquerade:
    Tommy: Why me?
    Sally: Well, you're a minor. They'll go easy on you. Besides, we all have to make some sacrifices around here.
    Tommy: Okay, what sacrifice are you making?
    Sally: The shame of having a juvenile delinquent for a nephew, okay? (leaves)
    Harry: I'm not angry, Tommy, I'm just disappointed.
  • Arrow: In Season 6, John Diggle takes up the Green Arrow identity so Oliver Queen can concentrate on his family and being the Mayor of Star City. However he failed to mention he was suffering major nerve damage that prevented him aiming a weapon, and which he coped with using illegal drugs bought from Ricardo Diaz. Given that Diggle has always been well regarded for being the most moral member of Team Arrow, no-one is happy when they discover he has feet of clay.
    Oliver: I've been mad at you before, John. This is the first time I've been... disappointed.
  • Garibaldi and Sheridan in the Babylon 5 episode "The Wheel of Fire":
    Sheridan: I'm not angry with you. Not now. I was. .. But Delenn has a .. way of looking at things.. No. No, I'm not angry with you. But I am very disappointed, Michael.
    Garibaldi: I'd rather have you yelling at me or angry. Anything but disappointed. I know I failed...
    Sheridan: I didn't say I was disappointed in you because of your failure. I'm disappointed because I didn't pick up on this earlier. Disappointed because you felt that you couldn't come to me about this on your own.
  • In black•ish after deliberating over whether or not to spank Jack, Andre instead decides to talk to him. When he says the line, Jack is devastated. Even Pops, the guy encouraging Andre to spank Jack thought he went too far.
    Pops: I told you to spank him, not crush his spirit.
  • Buffy the Vampire Slayer:
    • Discussed and subverted in "All the Way":
      Giles: We need to have a conversation.
      Dawn: This the part where you tell me you're "not angry, just disappointed"?
      Giles: Pretty much. Except for the bit about not being angry.
    • And averted by Giles in "Innocence", after Buffy's decision to sleep with Angel releases the evil Angelus, who Buffy (at that point in time) is unable to bring herself to kill.
      Buffy: You must be so disappointed in me.
      Giles: No. (Buffy looks bewildered at him) No, no, I'm not.
      Buffy: But this is all my fault.
      Giles: No. I don't believe it is. Do you want me to wag my finger at you and tell you that you acted rashly? You did. A-and I can. I know that you loved him. And... he... has proven more than once that he loved you. You couldn't have known what would happen. The coming months are gonna, are gonna be hard... I, I suspect on all of us, but... if it's guilt you're looking for, Buffy, I'm not your man. All you will get from me is my support. And my respect.
  • Community: In "Comparative Religion", Shirley, as the group mother-figure, tries to guilt Jeff out of fighting a bully on (or near) Christmas.
    Jeff: Oh, come on, Shirley, don't be mad!
    Shirley: I'm not mad, I'm disappointed.
    Jeff: That's mom for "mad"!
  • In The Crown (2016), the recently-crowned Elizabeth II learns that Winston Churchill has kept secret the fact he's had two strokes. On the advice of her private professor, she takes this tone with him whilst reminding him that the monarch must be able to trust Parliament for constitutional law to function properly. Any Englishman of a certain age and social class, it seems, is vulnerable to a stern telling-off from Nanny.
  • Fellow Travelers: Hawkins Fuller is ashamed at his son Jackson for stealing a gold pocket watch.
    Hawk: You've really disappointed me, Jackson.
    Jackson: What else is new?
  • In the (first) finale of Foyle's War, Andrew Foyle comes back to Hastings, having broken up with the girl at his base and eager to get back together with Sam, whom he'd dumped via letter. When he talks about wanting to look Sam up again, Foyle pauses, and simply says "you were unkind to her."
  • The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air: Jazz is normally considered a nuisance, and usually thrown out of the house when he gets too annoying. But one episode, he ends up damaging Uncle Phil's campaign by putting his name on Will's tickets. Will is so hurt that he doesn't throw Jazz out of the house, telling him he is not worth it.
  • Go On:
    Ryan: You know, this would be better if you just yelled at me.
    Joyce: That's why I'm not yelling.
    (later)
    Ryan: I was wrong. It was better when you weren't yelling.
  • House of the Dragon: In "The Lord of the Tides", when Alicent learns that Aegon raped a servant girl and he shows no remorse for it, with it being implied that this isn't the first time it's happened, she slaps him and says that he's no son of hers.
  • Interview with the Vampire (2022):
    • "Like Angels Put in Hell by God": During their second chess match, Lestat de Lioncourt (who taught Claudia how to play the game) is unimpressed by the strategy she has employed.
      Lestat: The Dutch Defense. Stonewalling again. You've become quite predictable, my sister, disappointment.
    • "The Thing Lay Still": Louis de Pointe du Lac is Lestat's protégé in vampirism, and the latter is exasperated by his fledgling's refusal to embrace his vampire nature, which includes not consuming a sufficient amount of human blood as part of his daily diet.
      (Lestat is about to refill Louis' empty wine glass with human blood from a decanter)
      Louis: I've had my fill.
      Lestat: (scoffs) Louis has never honored the blood as he should. (tersely) Blame the teacher, not the student.
  • Played for Laughs in Liv and Maddie. After Maddie loses Liv's bracelet, Liv tells her she's not mad, just disappointed. Maddie tells the audience "The Disappointment card? That's not fair!". The mother, Karen, in her own fourth-wall-break says: "Liv played the disappointment card without my permission? I'm not mad, I'm just disappointed..."
  • In The Magicians (2016), when Persephone saves her son's life, in spite of the many gruesome murders and other crimes he has committed against her followers, she slaps him across the face and tells him she's disappointed in him.
  • Mohawk Girls: Sose, Bailey's father, accepts Anna fully when many other full-blooded Mohawks reject her due to being half white and thus cannot become a band citizen. He therefore chews her out when Anna joins a protest against a white woman there on the reserve with a Mohawk husband (which she'd done largely to fit in), noting they have a son, asking her how she's different from that boy.
  • In an early episode of Night Court, when Harry's past as a juvenile delinquent surfaces, he decides to tell about what had happened. He took a car for a joyride only to crash into a liquor store. He notes the two nights in jail and a couple of weeks in reformatory were nothing compared to his trial, where his father just sat there staring at him, and after it was all over, all he could say was, "You disappointed me, Harold." It haunted Harry ever since, especially since his father died before he could see him turn his life around.
  • In an episode of Punky Brewster, Punky and Alan are discussing the possible fallout of not doing well on a school test; Alan considers a spanking the worst thing his parents could do, but Punky says Henry's method is much more effective: he just looks at her and says, "Punky... I'm very disappointed in you." Just from her delivery, Alan agrees this is much worse.
    • Sure enough, after Punky confesses to cheating on that same test, Henry delivers the line. Punky bows her head and mimes stabbing herself in the heart.
  • The Queen's Gambit: When Beth shows up late and hungover to a tournament and plays extremely poorly, especially compared to her usual standards, her opponent Borgov fixes her with a stony, disappointed stare. He doesn't say a word, but it's clear he honestly expected much better of her, since he considers her to be his Worthy Opponent.
  • In the Sherlock episode "The Reichenbach Fall", Moriarty reacts with a mixture a disappointment and anger when Sherlock reveals he bought into his BS about a computer program that could break into any computer in the world.
  • Star Trek:
    • Star Trek: Deep Space Nine: After Jadzia Dax goes on an unauthorized mission with the elderly Klingons Kor, Kang, and Koloth to kill the Albino in the episode "Blood Oath", Dax returns to the station to find Kira and Sisko looking at her with disappointment clearly visible on their faces.
    • Star Trek: Voyager: Captain Janeway can fall into this trope if one of the crew screws up badly enough. The downside to being Team Mom is that when your crew-slash-surrogate-family lets you down, it hits hard.

    Professional Wrestling 

    Roleplay 
  • In Ink City, Yosuke repeatedly ignores Souji's wishes to lay low and not draw undue attention to themselves, including signing both of them up as the headliner of a 'Butler Fight'. When he plasters posters with their images and names across the City in order to promote the fight, Souji responds this way.

    Theatre 
  • In the musical Hamilton, Alexander tries to head off a national scandal when he is accused, as an immigrant, of embezzling National funds to pay off a blackmailer. When he publishes the details of the affair, he openly admits to something that was just a nasty rumor. He had hoped his honesty would be taken into account, but the action kills his chances of any more public trust. As everyone around him is joyfully saying how, now that Hamilton admitted the affair, he ruined his chances to become President, George Washington, his friend and mentor, simply looks at the pamphelt and gives him a look as if to say, "Didn't I warn you about history having its eye on you?"

    Video Games 
  • In Atelier Ayesha: The Alchemist of Dusk, if you fail to complete the game's main goal by the end of the third year, then Keith arrives with Nio in tow and tells Ayesha to consider what it is that she lacks that she wasn't able to save Nio on her own.
  • While hallucinating from a powerful poison in Batman: Arkham Origins, what does Batman see? Any of the enemies he's fought so far? No. He sees Alfred expressing utter disappointment in him. There's something both touching and sad in that.
  • Due to past events in Blaz Blue Chrono Phantasma, Ragna is brimming with anger and thoughtlessly takes his aggression out on random objects and was about to do the same to a bystander, had it not been for the intervention of Rachel. She expresses her disappointment in his behavior, but due to his aformentioned anger, Ragna has none of it and tells her off. It goes downhill for him from that point onward.
    Ragna: "Disappointed?" I don't recall you expecting anything from me, so get the hell out of here!
    Rachel: Don't presume to speak to me. I don't need you sullying me.
  • In Cyberpunk 2077, if V chose to kill themselves, a compilation of a messages left behind by their friends will be shown in the credits. Unlike most companions who are either accepting, upset, depressed, or angry, the way Kerry Eurodyne delivers his "The Reason You Suck" Speech makes it clear that he is extremely disappointed by V's decision rather than being angry considering that he also considered killing himself in the past.
  • Destiny 2: In the Forsaken DLC, after finding and possibly killing Uldren, while he doesn't say it outright, Zavala's dialogue and tone of voices makes it perfectly clear to the Young Wolf that he’s not happy with what they’ve done, and that their actions will have consequences.
  • Fallout:
    • Fallout 3: If the player decides to detonate the nuke in Megaton, your father will later confront you and say to you "You're still my son/daughter, and I love you, but I can't begin to tell you how disappointed in you I am."
    • Fallout 4:
      • If you lower your affinity with character companions, they'll start getting irritated with you. Examples include Hancock (who growls whether he's mad at you or himself...and settles for you), and Codsworth (who wonders if he's disappointed in you or himself for believing in you).
      • Subverted with Nick Valentine if your affinity drops very low, and he'll have this to say.
      Nick: I'm not mad at you. I'm just disap— No, you know what? I am mad!
  • Fire Emblem:
    • In Fire Emblem Fates, Xander and Laslow's C support has Xander scolding Laslow for hitting on women and getting into a bar brawl. He then reminisces about how Garon had appointed Laslow as his retainer, and how Laslow had impressed Xander with his swordsmanship.
    Xander: I'd never seen someone like you before. You came from nowhere and possessed such incredible power. I imagined you to be a person of great fortitude and discipline. It saddens me to know you are nothing more than a lowly womanizer... How you became so strong when you spend all your time chasing girls is beyond me.
    • Fire Emblem: Three Houses
      • If Dorothea is recruited to the Blue Lions or Golden Deer and fights an unrecruited Ferdinand after the Time Skip, she will call him out on what she perceives as his Blind Obedience to Edelgard, who became Emperor of Adrestia and declared war on the Church of Seiros, and mentions that she "had real high hopes for" him.
      • Ingrid uses the phrase verbatim if she fights Byleth in the Crimson Flower route, condemning Byleth for his/her choice to join the Empire.
  • The ending of God of War III has Athena say this to Kratos when he runs himself through with the Blade of Olympus, giving the power to the humans instead of her.
  • Metal Gear Solid: If Snake loses enough times against Ocelot before beating him, Ocelot will declare Snake a disappointment and that he will be no match for Liquid.
  • In Obsidian, at the end of the first dream world, Lilah Kerlins finally breaks every rule in the Bureau Realm to reach their boss. When she does, the Bureau Chief morosely shrugs and says, "Lilah...too bad. I am very disappointed in you," before checking a memo over what you just did. Then he slides into a Villainous Breakdown before finally showing you information about your partner Max.
  • Persona:
    • Persona 4: After Dojima discovers a Mysterious Note sent to Yu, he questions Yu directly on telling him on what he has been involved in. Yu can choose to be honest, but Dojima instead thinks he's making it up and calls it a shame their time spent together wasn't enough to trust him.
    • Persona 5: In the game over scenes for not finishing a Palace in time, Joker hallucinates some policemen arriving to take him into custody for breaking his probation, with Sojiro citing his disappointment.
  • Pillars of Eternity II: Deadfire: If you try to escape Rymrgand by offering up Ydwin as a sacrifice, not only is your entire party enraged, but Ydwin's only response is to bitterly remark on how thoroughly you've disappointed her.
  • Red Dead Redemption: John Marston has just rescued his son Jack from an attacking grizzly bear and takes him home, scolding him for putting himself in danger. While they argue, Jack begs his father not to be angry at him, and John replies, "I'm not angry; I'm disappointed. Don't you ever run off like that again."
  • In Rosenkreuz Stilette, two characters say this.
    • In the original game, when Freu asks Tia if she thinks she can stand against all of RKS on her own, Tia resolves to do just that. In response, Freu will say this.
      Freu: ...A foolish decision. You disappoint me. If you will not rethink your answer, then... I shall end your life with my own hands!
    • Freu will also say this again if Tia uses up her last life against her.
    • Similarly, in Grollschwert, Raimund will say this to Grolla if she uses up her last life against him in the first phase of the boss battle against him.
  • Shin Megami Tensei:
    • Shin Megami Tensei III: Nocturne: Hikawa says this towards the Demi-Fiend should he refuse his offer and side with Yuko.
    • Towards the end Shin Megami Tensei IV, if have chosen the Law or Chaos routes you receive a particularly stinging one during your already painful battle with Isabeau if you choose to express doubt in your alignment path during her mid-battle dialogue.
    • In the followup, Apocalypse, a similar scene occurs when Nanashi battles his former friends should he agree with Dagda and follow the Anarchy route, with each one voicing their disappointment in him as he strikes them down. Some, like Nozomi and Gaston are very vocal about it while Halleujah and Toki deliver the more quiet version. Even Danu voices her disappointment over how far she thinks Dagda has fallen. Dagda, meanwhile, does the exact polar opposite.
  • Shovel Knight: In the King of Cards campaign, the final kick in the nuts to King Knight is that his own mother, beforehand very doting and supportive to her son's goal of becoming a king, leaves him in disappointment after he betrays everyone to the Enchantress.
  • Uncharted 4: A Thief's End: How Sully feels about Nate lying to Elena and wanting to continue the journey for Henry Avery's treasure with Sam after Elena arrives at Madagascar and confronts him.
  • Unemployment Quest: Chris' father says this to him because he can't find a job.
    "I just want you to know that as your father, I'm very disappointed in your apparent unwillingness to work. Have you really tried to get a job yet? Gone out to apply? Anywhere? Because I don't think you're trying hard enough."
  • In World of Warcraft, Thrall says this to Garrosh Hellscream (the exact words are "You disappoint me, Garrosh.") after Garrosh picks a fight with Varian Wrynn at a meeting with Rhonin to discuss their efforts against the Old God Yogg-Saron, who's a threat to the entire world, resulting in Varian walking out and not wanting to cooperate with the Horde. Although Garrosh seemed unrepetant at the time, in the short story "Heart of War" (which you can read here) he admits to himself that he does feel bad about hearing those words.
    • Much later, Thrall uses that phrase again as an Ironic Echo. After Garrosh is defeated at the end of the Siege of Orgrimmar Thrall says, once again, that Garrosh disappoints him and adds for good measure, "You are not worthy of your father's legacy."
  • XenoGears: Fei's response after finding out Bart was the one who shot down the carrier he and the others were riding in, which nearly got them killed.
    Fei: I'm so disgusted, I don't have anything to say.

    Visual Novels 
  • Ace Attorney:
    • Phoenix Wright: Ace Attorney:
      • At the end of "Rise From The Ashes," the bonus case of the first game, the Judge sadly tells the culprit, Police Chief Damon Gant, that while the latter was once an upstanding police officer, he's sad to see that the culprit is no longer that person.
      • Toward the end of the second case of Justice For All, the Judge will ask why the culprit committed the crime. If you present the wrong piece of evidence regarding the culprit's motive, Mia tells Phoenix, "I feel embarrassed for you for even thinking of showing that piece of evidence," then provides a brief answer as to why the culprit committed murder.
    • A minor case happens in Phoenix Wright: Ace Attorney – Dual Destinies during the first trial where the Judge expresses disappointment in Gaspen Payne for not being able to find a crucial piece of evidence during his investigation. Payne can only meekly apologize in response.
  • In Melody, when the title character makes a poor choice, there is sometimes an option to react with either anger or disappointment. The latter is generally more impactful.
  • At the climax of Shinrai: Broken Beyond Despair, if you insist that Kamen is not the culprit behind the murderers but fail to identify the mastermind behind the murder plot, Taiko will say that he's disappointed in Raiko and stop listening to her, resulting in a bad ending.

    Web Animation 
  • In Camp Camp, this is apparently the standard punishment for inmates at "Super Guantanamo." Cameron Campbell finds it worse than torture and beatings. When David finally accepts his former mentor's true nature and tells him the same thing, Campbell has a full-on breakdown and flees into the woods.
  • Red vs. Blue: Sarge tells Grif this in a voting PSA when the latter fails to cast the deciding vote on which team is best.
    Sarge: Grif, I'm extremely disappointed in you! Not for the usual list of reasons, but an entirely new set altogether!
  • In RWBY Volume 4, episode 11, the villain Tyrian returns sobbing and in fear to the Big Bad Salem to report his failure in capturing Ruby Rose. Rather than pull a You Have Failed Me, Salem simply walks past him and states that he's disappointed her in a soft yet cold tone. Tyrian, who reveres Salem like a goddess, is left sobbing in heartbroken despair.

    Web Comics 
  • In El Goonish Shive, Adrian Raven tells his mother that his father would have been disappointed in her. Given that Pandora considered her husband to be her moral compass in life and bases her morality on what she thinks he would have wanted her to do after his death, this serves as a Wham Line for her, makes her think My God, What Have I Done? and triggers a Heel Realization.
  • In General Protection Fault, during the climax of the Surreptitious Machinations arc, Ki finally succeeds in revealing Trudy's role in GPF's collapse, true plans and years of duplicitous behavior. In response, Nick calmly tells Trudy that since he can no longer trust her, he can't return her feelings for him, but he can forgive her, and asks her to turn herself in. In response, Trudy pulls out a gun and points it at Nick, threatening to kill him the same way her future self did in the Bad Future, but backs down when he simply stares at her fearlessly and invites her to do what she has to do. Trudy's reduced to tears, and when Ki asks if Nick's angry or said, he says he's neither- "Just... disappointed," with a look on his face that haunts Trudy for a long time.
  • Homestuck:
    • Trickster mode naturally ends in self-disgust.
    • Jane's dad showing STERN FATHERLY DISAPPROVAL upon seeing Jane's antics.
    • Subverted when Dirk expresses disappointment at Roxy falling Off the Wagon, as he admits to Jane that he's actually proud of her for buckling down with the sobriety.
    • Kanaya expresses both anger and disappointment when Rose takes up drinking, as she feels that Rose is both wasting her talents and hurting herself.
  • In PvP Online, Francis, after revealing to Cole his plan to fool the world into thinking that he's waiting for Star Wars Episode III since Episode II's release with a robotic double of himself, expects Cole to lay into him for this, but instead gets a simple statement that he's disappointed at him. As Cole walks away, Francis realizes that it's even more effective than yelling at him.
    Francis: Please yell at me?

    Web Original 
  • The internet meme "Son, I am disappoint" is based on this.
  • A poster on Reddit related this brief anecdote.
    It's funny how Mr. Rogers's words end up carrying through to your adulthood. I was once had a co-worker who was being a total jerk to everyone. When he turned on me, I let him have it! I said, "You are not acting like the person Mr. Rogers knew you could be." He stood there flat-footed in shock. .... "Damn, that was harsh man." About 30 minutes later he personally apologized to each person, one by one.

    Web Videos 
  • In Artificial Attorney, during "Turnabout Quiz," the judge says this to Gumshoe when the latter fails to identify Mr. Big.
    Daryan: I am very disappointed in you, Dick. You were chosen to be a police officer, and I thought you would be a better, more competent cop than this.
  • Critical Role: Inverted during Campaign 3 Episode 10, after learning Dorian gave away one of their sending stones to his brother, Ashton tells him, "I'm not disappointed, I'm just angry."
  • The Nostalgia Chick declares during the She's All That review that she's not angry at the nineties it for the bad movies it has, just disappointed.
  • Outside Xbox: In "6 Annoying Kids Who Make Us Glad We Don't Babysit Anymore", Ellen says "I'm not angry, I'm just disappointed." Beat. "FURIOUSLY disappointed."

    Western Animation 
  • In The Amazing World of Gumball episode "The Console", when Gumball summons allies against the Final Boss of Inverted Paradox: The Enemy Within, one of them is Nicole, whose attack is just a stare of disapproval titled "I'm Not Angry, Just Disappointed".
  • In "Arthur the Wrecker" on Arthur, Mrs. Read is "not mad, just disappointed" that Arthur disobeyed her by playing on her computer when she asked him not to. This isn't the only instance of her using this or a similar line in the series.
  • In Batman: The Brave and the Bold, Joker has gained reality warping powers and has Batman at his mercy. Harley asks Joker if he's going to take off Batman's mask, and Joker says "And reduce my primal enemy to a mere man? Harley my dear, I'm so disappointed in you! Where's the fun in that?"
  • Beavis and Butt-Head:
    • In a segment of the revived show, the two are watching an episode of Jersey Shore where Snookie talks about how someone saying they're disappointed in you hurts a lot worse than if they were just angry. Beavis disagrees. People say they're disappointed in him all the time, and it doesn't bother him none.
    • In one episode the two end up at a feminist meeting, under the impression that they're a bunch of chicks who do it for free. Beavis asks Butt-Head why there aren't more guys there if they do it for free.
      Butt-Head: Damn it, Beavis, we've got a room full of chicks here who do it for free, and all you can think about is how come there aren't more guys here?
      Beavis: Um, yeah, how come?
      Butt-Head: Beavis, I'm a little disappointed in you.
  • In one episode of Braceface, Sharon gets caught shoplifting, and when she gets home, she expects her mom to be angry at her, but instead she looks sad and disappointed, but doesn't say anything. Naturally, this just makes Sharon feel even worse.
  • Family Guy: After Peter engages in some alcohol-induced mischief, Lois says that she isn't mad, just disappointed. Still blitzed out of his mind, Peter considers this a good thing.
  • Hazbin Hotel: Sera has so far been the only one able to make Adam display anything close to resembling shame when she admonishes his needlessly cruel behavior. Whether this is because he holds her in high regard as a Parental Substitute or just because she's his boss, has yet to be clarified.
  • He-Man and the Masters of the Universe (1983): Prince Adam usually receives some variation of this comment once per episode, normally from either his father King Randor or Teela. Both of them clearly love Adam, but they're frustrated since Adam seems to never take his duties as a prince seriously and is rarely around when danger strikes. Their views are understandable since they, unlike the viewer, don't know that Adam is secretly He-Man, who is responsible for saving the world a hundred times over. Furthermore, it's hinted that Adam's apparent lack of responsibility is him needing to relax during quiet moments in-between the various crisises that plague Eternia. Thankfully, there are times where Adam and not He-Man gets the credit he deserves and gets to make his father proud of him, most notably in the He-Man/She-Ra movie "Secret of the Sword".
  • In Justice League, Batman's Justice Lord counterpart is giving Batman a tour of the universe to demonstrate the peace and security the Justice Lords had created. Batman remarks that their parents would be so proud of him.
  • The Earth Empire from The Legend of Korra has captured Zaofu, and Bataar Jr. tries to force his father and one of his brothers to bow to Kuvira. Bataar Sr., however, calmly retorts that he was disappointed in what he had done.
  • My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic:
    • In the episode "Owl's Well That Ends Well", Spike was already on edge from being worried that Owlowiscious would replace him as number 1 assistant, and in turn, take away some of the admiration that went towards him, and when Twilight Sparkle finds out that Spike lied to her about the book he was asked to get, she says he is very disappointed in him.
    • Princess Celestia throws this at Twilight Sparkle when she accuses Princess Cadance of being evil with flimsy, easily explained "evidence". This is after having, throughout the episode, expressed anger and resentment towards her brother about not being told about the wedding sooner, causing the whole thing to come off as petty and childish on Twilight's part. Once it turns out that Twilight was correct and Cadance has been replaced by a villain, everypony's quick to apologize.
    • In the episode "Every Little Thing She Does", Twilight comes home to find her student, Starlight Glimmer, has resorted to mind control in an attempt to make her friendship lessons go more smoothly. She tells Starlight that she's less mad than disappointed to find her taking such a huge step backwards.
  • The Owl House: In "Through the Looking Glass Ruins", when Amity and Luz are caught in the Forbidden Stacks by Malphas, the master librarian, he menacingly floats up to them and... cuts to them outside, where he tells Amity how disappointed he is in her (in a much more casual and higher-pitched voice) and takes her staff card away.
  • The Simpsons:
    • "Marge Be Not Proud", from Season 7: Marge is clearly at the end of her patience with Bart after he had been caught shoplifting a video game from a local discount store, but instead of yelling at or lecturing him, she just shuns him. The clear disappointment Marge has with Bart says far more than any punishment could.
    • It happens again in "Bart the Mother", when Bart kills a bird. Even worse in that he was trying to miss, but the sight on the pellet-gun was already off-mark.
    • Parodied later, with an inversion of how the trope would normally go. Someone is forced to bring bad news to Fat Tony, and says that he know Tony will be disappointed. Tony responds that "I am not so much disappointed as I am blinded by rage!"
  • In the SpongeBob SquarePants episode "Bossy Boots", this is what Pearl feared would happen with her and Mr. Krabs.
  • Star Wars:
    • Star Wars: The Clone Wars episode "Storm Over Ryloth"; Anakin starts his sad lecture of Ahsoka after her refusal to listen to orders right away resulted in heavy losses by telling her he's disappointed in her. As it's clear she's disappointed in herself for the outcome of her actions he's not too harsh, and he acknowledges that part of the reason she didn't immediately follow orders is that he does the same thing but it still sends her deeper into her Heroic BSoD.
    • Star Wars Rebels:
      • In the tie-in comic "No Sympathy", this is how Agent Kallus reacts when his former student Swain attempts to defect out of disgust for the Empire's cruelty. Considering that he would later have a Heel–Face Turn for similar reasons, this becomes Harsher in Hindsight.
      • On that note, in "Through Imperial Eyes", at the end, Colonel Wullf Yularen is extremely disappointed that Kallus, who was one of his best students, has become The Mole.
  • What's New, Scooby-Doo?: In "Roller Ghoster Ride", Chris says this upon learning her own sister Terry plotted against her.

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