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Crying at Your Birthday Party

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Judy and Johnny just walked through the door
Like a queen with her king
Oh, what a birthday surprise
Judy's wearing his ring
It's my party and I'll cry if I want to
Cry if I want to, cry if I want to
You would cry too if it happened to you
Lesley Gore: "It's My Party"

Why is Bob crying at his own birthday party? Shouldn't this be a happy occasion?

A character celebrating their birthday, for whatever reason bursts into tears during their party. Whatever the reason for the person of the hour, it's usually unexpected and takes people aback.

Can sometimes result from a One-Person Birthday Party, or because the party has gone badly wrong. Compare A Birthday, Not a Break. In rare instances it can be Tears of Joy. Can occur during a Birthday Episode (of course) or an Ageless Birthday Episode.



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    Films - Animation 
  • Shrek Forever After: During the ogre triplets' first birthday party, the triplets start wailing after the Three Pigs confess that they ate all the cakes.
  • In Sleeping Beauty, Aurora bursts into tears at what was supposed to be her surprise birthday party when she learns she is a princess and can never see her beloved again (she thinks).

  • The Berenstain Bears: The cover art for the book "Too Much Birthday" shows Sister Bear crying as her guests celebrate. In the book, Sister Bear cries because her party went wrong.
  • The Singaporean novella anthology Classic Singapore Horror Stories have two such examples:
    • 12-year-old Katherine from Stepchild is shown breaking into tears after her attempt at performing a musical number for her guests is hijacked by the titular stepchild, who began playing pop songs - improvised - on her piano instead. Things quickly goes out of hand until Katherine's eldest brother Augustine slams the piano shut, telling the stepchild to stop crashing his sister's birthday, but at that point the party is ruined.
    • Exaggerated example with Emma from Skin Deep, a Spoiled Brat, who is shown crying at her party... because she overheard a friend of hers, Sharon, saying her nose is too big.
  • In Lia Geraskina's In the Land of Unlearned Lessons-3, Vitya cries twice during his birthday. For the first time, when he thinks he has to give away his parrot (the parrot was entrusted to the family by a friend who went away, but as he was away for long, they grew to love the parrot and the parrot grew fond of them; the friend gallantly says the parrot in that case will be his birthday gift to Vitya). For the second time, after the party, Vitya blurts out he can hear his pets talking (when they think nobody hears them), and they sadly say they won't talk anymore if that's the case.
  • In Karlsson on the Roof, Lillebror's brother and sister give him a toy dog as a joke gift for his birthday, though they know how he longs for a real puppy, and Lillebror cries inconsolably. His parents decide to get him a real dog after all.
  • My Best Friends Exorcism: Abby runs away and cries at her birthday party after she gets stood up by everyone for Margaret's horse riding excursion...and then Gretchen shows up and gifts her a Children's Bible. This is the final straw for Abby and makes her cry (in the bathroom), until Gretchen comes to her, and reassures Abby that she didn't want to go to Margaret's birthday party, and she doesn't think Margaret is a nice person anyway.
  • In one book in The Baby-Sitters Club, the Arnold twins get upset at their birthday party because the whole thing makes it clear that they're being seen as two halves of a set rather than as individuals. The only time they show any real happiness is when they open Mallory's presents, as she's the only one who bought something different for each twin instead of giving identical gifts.

    Live-Action TV 
  • All in the Family, A very infamous example: Edith narrowly escapes a rapist and runs next door where a surprise party is being held for her. While everyone is singing for her, Edith breaks down crying. Everyone seems to assume emotional Edith is happy crying, but Archie knows that something is very wrong.
  • Awkward.: Played with. Jenna was revealed to have been sobbing on her bed during her surprise birthday party in the third season... because she herself ruined the party by wandering into the room while cheating on Matty with Collin.
  • The Big Bang Theory: In Amy Farrah Fowler's Imagine Spot of what her life would be like without Sheldon, she is having a One-Person Birthday Party where she sings to herself while crying into her cupcake... until Stuart interrupts by blowing a noisemaker in her face, to IRL Amy's annoyance.
    Amy: (singing sadly while fighting tears) Happy Birthday to me... Happy Birthday to me... There's tears in the frosting... Happy birthday to me.

  • Lesley Gore's song "It's My Party (and I'll cry if I want to)" is about the singer getting dumped by her boyfriend Johnny for another girl in her birthday and Johnny arriving to the party with said other girl, driving the singer into a Heroic BSoD as she sees them enjoy themselves.
    • A sequel song (appropriately-named "Judy's Turn to Cry") has the singer realize how silly it is for her to react that badly, kissing another boy at the party - who Johnny promptly punches, reuniting with her while dumping Judy.
  • The Taylor Swift song "The Moment I Knew", is about the time her then-boyfriend didn't show up to her birthday party.
  • "Pity Party" by Melanie Martinez from Cry-Baby, which interpolates Lesley Gore's "It's My Party," is about Cry Baby having a One-Person Birthday Party despite her best efforts to invite many guests. She doesn't take it well at all.
    I'll cry until the candles burn down this place
    I'll cry until my pity party's in flames

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    Western Animation 
  • Bob's Burgers: In "House of 1000 Bounces", Regular-Sized Rudy breaks down sobbing in anger because Louise and the others had forced him to go along with stealing a bounce house for his birthday party when all he wanted was to perform a spoon puppet show.
  • Chip and Potato: In "Chip's Birthday", Nico comes to Chip's birthday party and tearfully admits that Potato has disappeared, causing Chip to cry, too. Fortunately, Potato comes by just then.
  • Family Guy: At Lois's birthday party in "Lois Comes Out of Her Shell", Peter gives a speech which boils down to him insulting her for getting old using unflattering metaphors. After the speech concludes, Lois bursts into tears and runs away from the party.
  • The Loud House: Twice in "Strife of the Party", though the first time, it's downplayed. Lana is furious with Lola for ruining her party planning and tears up for a brief moment before cycling away on her bicycle. Lola then starts crying out of guilt as her her makeup starts running.
  • My Gym Partner's a Monkey: In "Supplies Party", it is mentioned that Adam once peed his pants at his sixth birthday party and cried about it. During this episode, he accidentally spills soda on his pants, which Chad mistakes for him peeing his pants again. Adam then begins to bawl like a baby (complete with a baby wailing sound effect).
  • My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic S4 E20 "For Whom the Sweetie Bell Toils": One of the reasons Sweetie Belle thinks Rarity is trying to humiliate her all the time is because of a ruined birthday party when she was a filly. Sweetie Belle spent a while making herself look beautiful, but when she came down to the party, she heard the others talking about how cool Rarity was. From her perspective, Rarity had intentionally stolen the attention. From Rarity's perspective, she was trying to stop the guests from leaving, and even tried to make them think Sweetie Belle was the one who prepared the whole party. Either way, it ended with Sweetie Belle running back to her room in tears.
  • The Powerpuff Girls (2016): In "Super Sweet 6", the Powerpuff Girls escape from a candle that was going towards the sun during Princess's birthday party. The indignant Princess tries to squirt them with a giant icing bottle, only for it to burst and cover her in icing. She then starts to wail.
  • Rugrats:
    • In "Three Jacks and a Beanstalk" from the Tales from the Crib series, Giant Angelica wails enough to accumulate several puddles after the babies escape her castle. It's then revealed that today is her birthday and she has nobody else but Giant Harold to celebrate with.
    • In "Tommy's First Birthday", all Tommy wants to do is eat dog food after seeing a commercial for it on television, believing that eating dog food will turn him into a dog, so that he can do whatever Spike, his pet dog does. Tommy's every attempt to eat Spike's dog food is foiled by the adults, and at one point, it's time for him to open his presents. When Didi tells Tommy that he still has many more presents to open, Tommy cries, and Didi tries unsuccessfully to calm him down as she complains to Betty how the party has been a disaster thus far. Tommy stops crying when some caterers arrive at the door with the puppet stand that Didi rented for a puppet show she planned to put on.
    • In "Angelica's Birthday", Angelica wants to avoid the responsibilities that come with growing up, so she dresses and acts like a baby, which of course, includes crying like one instead of talking like a big girl. When Drew sees this, he complains to Charlotte that whenever Angelica wants something, she just cries. Charlotte then tells Drew, "It's her party and she can cry if she wants to."

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