So you have a villain of the prejudiced variety. They have some kind of racism, whether fantastical or otherwise. They want privileges, they want segregation, and maybe even genocide. So it stands to reason they couldn't possibly have romantic or sexual desire for a member of the group they hate, right?
Maybe not. Despite all odds, whether it's the target's attitude, spirit, or just appearance, a character with this trope can't help but become fixated on them, often with disastrous results. Often leads to cognitive dissonance or Doublethink for the bigot trying to reconcile their beliefs with their romantic or sexual interest, or otherwise attempt to rationalize it by deeming the person an "obvious" exception to the group that they despise. On the other hand, it could also lead to Love Redeems with the character abandoning their old prejudices, with some possible Unfortunate Implications. If the entire society is in on the discrimination, it may result in a Forbidden Love relationship.
Compare to Sex Is Evil, and I Am Horny, where the sexual attraction itself is what the character is opposed to. Some examples of Predator Turned Protector overlap with this, the "predator" belonging to one social group that hunts another social group, then stops hunting them and starts protecting them because of the crush.
A possible Sub-Trope of Villainous Crush, and a definite subtrope of Bigotry Exception and Inconvenient Attraction. A supertrope to Armored Closet Gay and If It's You, It's Okay. Compare Boomerang Bigot and You Are What You Hate for when they are a member of the group they are prejudiced against. Also compare Not Like Other Girls (specifically when a misogynistic man says that to a woman he likes) and You Are a Credit to Your Race. See also Race Fetish. Contrast Star-Crossed Lovers, where the lovers aren't bigoted themselves but can't be together because they are from bigoted groups.
- In Osamu Tezuka's Adolf series, Adolf Kaufmann (who is in the Hitler Youth) falls in love with Eliza Gutheimer, a Jewish girl his age (they both have Asian ancestry, however).
- Flay Allister from Mobile Suit Gundam SEED hates the transhuman Coordinators, but begrudgingly falls in love with the Coordinator main character Kira Yamato.
- Tokyo Ghoul: Kaneki is a half ghoul and sides with his ghoul friends and allies. His former subordinate Mutsuki works for the CCG which is a organization against ghouls, and they become more so to a genocidal point when Numura becomes the leader and vows to exterminate all ghouls while sadistically showcasing the dismembered bodies of ghouls to the public. Mutsuki knows having ties to Kaneki is risky and they are technically against each other but he cannot help but feel romantically and sexually attracted towards his former beloved mentor.
- Zigzagged Trope in Requiem Vampire Knight. Heinrich is a Nazi soldier during World War II who discovers that his girlfriend Rebecca is Jewish. This leaves him angry and conflicted at first as he still passionately loves her, but once they both ascend to the hellworld Resurection after their deaths on Earth, they rekindle their romance. Heinrich abandons his Nazi beliefs after becoming a vampire, although his "friend" Otto (a former SS officer who killed Rebecca on Earth) most certainly hasn't and tries to kill both of them again for being "degenerates".
- Red Skull:
- Inverted in Red Skull: Incarnate. In his younger days he fell in love with a Jewish girl, whom he then murdered when she rejected him, and became a Nazi afterwards.
- Downplayed in Uncanny Avengers when he brainwashed Scarlet Witch (who happens to be Jewish, Romani, and a mutant) to participate in a short-lived Villain Team-Up. He is struck by her beauty and cradles her hair while she's unconscious, before reminding himself that she's still "subhuman".
- Blacksad: Inverted in Hans Karup's backstory. In the present, he runs a white supremacist organization responsible for lynching black animals, but he was once an incredibly sweet man married to a black-furred woman. The Arctic Nation poisoned his mind, leading him to frequently abuse his wife while they were still together until he dragged her out of their house in the middle of winter and left her for dead.
- Ms. Marvel supporting character Zoe Zimmer made her debut as a garden-variety Alpha Bitch who bullies our heroine and her friends. In Zoe's first scene, she is incredibly condescending to Nakia regarding her hijab, voicing her "concern" that Nakia might be being forced into wearing it. Through her Character Development, Zoe unlearns her bigotry and eventually comes out as a lesbian - and yes, she's got a giant crush on Nakia.
- Magneto is a mutant supremacist who has some very unflattering ideas about humanity in general. And yet most of the women he's been romantically and/or sexually involved with have been humans.
- Throughout the whole story of The Hunchback of Notre Dame, Claude Frollo expresses nothing but distaste for the Romani population of Paris, hunting them down for the flimsiest of reasons and eventually planning to kill them all. But this doesn't stop him from lusting after Esmeralda. He's honestly conflicted by his feelings, but eventually decides to just burn her at the stake if she won't be with him.
- This is actually the situation in the darkest of ways with the Big Bad Edwin Epps towards his slave Patsey in 12 Years a Slave. Edwin is a deeply vicious racist and bigoted slave owner who becomes infatuated with and constantly rapes his high-breadwinning slave Patsey, but Word of God is that he actually does love Patsey but his mindset only allows him to express it in violent ways. It's even worse in the book it's based on, where Patsey is a teenager.
- Calvin Candie is one of the most unapologetically racist characters in Django Unchained, owning a plantation's worth of slaves and organizing death matches between them. This doesn't stop him from keeping one of them, Sheba, as a mistress. Meanwhile, Sheba herself clearly enjoys the privileges she derives from being one of his favored house slaves.
- Played very darkly in Hotel Rwanda. The Hutu militia led by Georges Rutaganda plans to wipe out the country's Tutsi population, but not before keeping the women as Sex Slaves for a while.
- The Night Porter was controversial in its day because of its subject matter: a Nazi SS officer and a Jewish concentration camp inmate become lovers during the war, and when they run into each other again years later, rekindle their old BDSM relationship.
- In Schindler's List:
- Early in the film, one high-ranked Nazi officer can be seen attending a party with his Polish mistress, in an occupied country which the Nazis intended to depopulate for German expansion.
- Nazi commander Amon Goeth is not happy to realize that he has a Villainous Crush on his Jewish maid Helen, accusing her of manipulating him. When he's informed that the camp is going to be closed down and all the inmates shipped off to Auschwitz, he considers taking her out into the woods and shooting her in a Mercy Kill. Instead, Schindler convinces him to bargain her away in a card game, which Schindler wins.
- Who Framed Roger Rabbit: A rare heroic example, Eddie starts the film as a Tragic Bigot who hates Toons because one killed his dear brother. However, he finds himself strongly attracted to Jessica Rabbit and acts chummy with his old friend Betty Boop, which shows that there's more to Eddie and his hatred fully ebbs away by the end as he becomes Fire-Forged Friends with Roger.
- Gridlestone from Within Our Gates is highly racist towards black people, however he was once married to a black woman and had a child by her. His daughter, the protagonist Sylvia, only learns about her parentage after Gridlestone almost rapes her. This character point isn't explained and contradicts most of Gridlestone's character, so historians believe that it was added in by censors to hide that Sylvia's a Child by Rape.
- The main protagonist of Jojo Rabbit is a young child in Nazi Germany that dreams of becoming a member of Hitler's personal guard. However, he later finds out his mother was hiding a Jewish girl in their house. As the film goes on Jojo's distaste for Jews and obsession with Nazis starts to waver as he slowly falls in love with her.
- Deconstructed with "Him", who forces Veronica to live with him despite being horrifically racist and abusive to black people. Although crush might be giving him too much credit, since he rapes Veronica and values her solely as an object. In fact, he actually jeopardized his full-scale re-enactment of slavery by specifically choosing to kidnap Veronica.
- Daniel is a subversion. He is, at first, implied to be one of these, as he chooses to act out the role of a Confederate soldier but is also bashful and tongue-tied around Julia. When she later actively tries to appeal to this part of his personality, though, he brutally beats her.
- In A Fine Balance, it's shown that despite the village insisting on using the caste system while the rest of India changes, it's not uncommon for higher-caste men to lust after untouchables. One married woman was publicly humiliated for refusing a landlord's advances, and another man pulled a Scarpia Ultimatum on Roopa when her son was facing starvation.
- In Evernight, Lucas Ross is a sympathetic example. He's a vampire hunter raised since birth to think of vampires as soulless, cold-hearted murderers...then he finds out Bianca, his kind, Endearingly Dorky girlfriend, is in fact a vampire. He decides he doesn't care because he loves Bianca and ge slowly starts to realize his views on vampires aren't entirely accurate, though his prejudice against them does cause issues with the couple's relationship (Bianca's overly-idealistic view of vampires doesn't help either).
- Harry Potter: Severus Snape, despite holding a prejudice against Muggles going back even before his Hogwarts days, harbored feelings for muggleborn witch Lily Evans. Given that Snape apparently saw no issue with his prejudice against other muggleborns, Lily quite understandably broke off contact with him.
- In Hunchback Of Notre Dame, Frollo embodies this trope, along with Sex Is Evil, and I Am Horny. That said, it's subverted by the fact that Esmeralda is not actually Romani, but a white girl who was abducted/adopted by them when she was a baby.
- In Ivanhoe, Sir Brian de Bois-Guilbert, who despises Jews, (in)famously develops feelings for the Jewess Rebecca. These feelings start as mere lust, but grow into more than that as he starts to see her character beyond her beauty. He never reaches a full Heel Realization, however, and ends up dying of a heart attack brought on by "his conflicting passions".
- Jack Reacher: In the Back Story of Die Trying, Right-Wing Militia Fanatic Beau Borken and his four childhood friends/co-founders of his group crucified a sixth friend of theirs for falling in love with a Mexican girl.
- The Kite Runner
- Sanaubar was part of the oppressed Hazara group in Kabul, but her beauty attracted many men, including those of the dominant Pashtun group.
- Played for Squick in regards to Assef's character. He professes a strong hatred for Hazara people, but he rapes Hassan and harasses him afterward. When Hassan is killed, Assef takes in his prepubescent son Sohrab in as his "companion."
- In Noughts & Crosses, the sequel Knife Edge sees Jude, a nought terrorist who vehemently hates all crosses, inadvertently fall in love with wealthy cross Cara. He however murders her in a fit of rage when attempting to reconcile the cognitive dissonance in his head, and when Jude is eventually murdered, his last thoughts are of Cara.
- In October Daye, Tybalt dislikes changelings (Hybrids of Fae and humans) due to his beloved human wife having died in an attempt to give birth to their changeling son. It's why he he initially didn't like Toby due to her being a changeling as well. Over time though he genuinely falls in love with her and even evntually lets go off his prejudice to be with her.
- Alpha from Survivor Dogs is heavily Fantastic Racist towards Fierce Dogs, yet he becomes mates with one.
- In Warrior Cats, Tigerstar is racist against kittypets (cats owned by humans) and cats who are half-Clan by birth, to the point that he wants them all dead or driven out of the Clans. Despite this, he falls in love with Sasha, a kittypet who recently lost her owner. He says that she's not like any other kittypet and guesses that her mother might be Clanborn or rogue-born, insists that she's not really one anymore anyway since she lives in the woods, and orders her to tell his Clanmates that she's a rogue and to never reveal the truth.
- In Wings of Fire, Winter is very prejudiced against NightWings even more than the average IceWing is (because of an It's Personal backstory in addition to the general hared the two tribes have for each other). He also has a crush on Moonwatcher, a NightWing, which he feels guilty about. The bigotry part gets better after a lot of Character Development, though.
- Curb Your Enthusiasm: Played for Laughs when Larry, who's Jewish, has a brief fling with a stridently anti-semitic Palestinian woman and has to decide whether a bit of Category Treason is worth the best sex — and roast chicken — of his life.
Marty: [after overhearing them in the act] When did you have your orgasm? When she said she'd "fuck the Jew outta you"?
- Played for Horror in Euphoria, where Nate Jacobs, who has extremely fucked-up ideas about how women should look and behave, becomes obsessed with trans girl Jules, who he knows would not meet his exacting standards, and sets about trying to force her to "reform" under threat of having her arrested for underage sexting.
- Done platonically in The Flash (2014). As a villain from the future, Eobard Thawne has no regard for the lives of the past humans except for Barry Allen and Eddie Thawne, and even then only because they're essential to his current existence. Fifteen years of being stuck in the past, however, are enough for him to develop some camaraderie with Team Flash.
- A French Village: Jean is a French policeman who helped round up Jews and holds antisemitic views. He falls in love though with a Jewish woman named Rita, getting into a relationship and saving her from deportation to the East. They conceive a child and discuss marrying. After this, he grows more sympathetic to Jews, and helped a Jewish family to escape. This doesn't mean he entirely becomes a better person though. Rita leaves him in anger when she learns he let her mother be shipped away to Poland, and when she's back from Switzerland (where Jean sent them for safety) doesn't want him to have any part of their son's life. However, he still saves them from being sent to a death camp, this time even shooting a German officer in doing so.
- The Jerry Springer Show: There was an episode featuring a trailer trash family who were avowed white supremacists. A fight erupted between the father and son when the daughter revealed that her brother was sleeping with a black girl. More humorously, a black girl in the audience then offered the father a hug, which he rejected.
Audience: Give him. A hug! Give him. A hug!
- The slave owner Collins from Legends of Tomorrow is suggested to have these tendencies, with his men trying to capture the African-born Amaya as a Sex Slave on his behalf.
- Noughts & Crosses: Kamal loathes Noughts even more than most other Crosses, but it's revealed he previously had an affair with and fathered a child by a Nought woman.
- Star Trek: Deep Space Nine: Despite being prejudiced against Bajorans and once heading the occupation of their planet, Gul Dukat has slept with several Bajoran women including Major Kira's mother Kira Meru and Tora Naprem, the mother of his half-Bajoran daughter Tora Ziyal. Then he sired another half-Bajoran child again when he formed a cult where Bajorans would worship him. He was also an Abhorrent Admirer for Kira herself for awhile. He seemed to have a (creepy) Race Fetish for Bajoran women as a whole. Of course, all the ones taken during the Occupation were actually Sex Slaves, which his detractors seem to think was his real fetish.
- The Tribe: Ram actually marries Ebony after spending much of the season deriding her and any other city dwellers who aren't Technos as worthless "Virts".
- Juliana Everheart in Valkyria Chronicles II is openly racist against Darcsens (the settings Fantasy Counterpart Culture of WWII-era Jews), but has an obvious Tsundere crush on Zeri. This one ends up being of the Love Redeems variety, where she slowly grows out of her prejudice. Unfortunately, she's killed right as she does, and in her final words she manages to call him by his name for the first time.
- Homestuck: Equius Zahhak looks down on those lower on the hemospectrum. However, he has a massive crush on Aradia Megido, of the lowest blood color. He is fond of both how she behaves ideally for her caste, yet is also suited to have indigo blood so he can feel more right loving her. Thus he puts indigo blood in the robot he built to house her soul.
- The Order of the Stick: In a debate with Durkon, Redcloak states that he would be killed on sight if entered any town or city because he's green and has fangs. He supplements this by adding that orcs would get the same treatment if humans weren't always having babies with them.
- Uncle Ruckus from The Boondocks is a black man who loves white people and hates anyone who's not white, including other black people. Not surprisingly, Ruckus is very attracted to white women and looks down on black women. However in "The Lovely Ebony Brown", Ruckus begrudgingly develops a big crush on the titular character, who is an extremely beautiful black woman. Though it's all part of the episode's running joke about how Ebony Brown is just so charming and perfect that every single one of the main characters on the show seem to like her.
- Dracula from Castlevania (2017) is a very big offender of this trope. Despite being an evil vampire lord with an extreme hatred for humans in general, he deeply fell in love with a human woman named Lisa, even marrying her and having a son together. When Lisa was eventually executed on trumped-up charges of witchcraft, Dracula became so enraged and vengeful that he declared a genocidal war to exterminate all other humans.
- Bender from Futurama is a robot who openly hates humans, to the point that his famous catchphrase is "Kill All Humans!". However he's also a big pervert and womanizer, and while he usually dates female robots, he has also been seen chasing after human women as well; there was even one episode ("Proposition Infinity") where he briefly became Amy Wong's boyfriend, and they both were given grief for it (as robosexual relationships were taboo at the time).
- As with his comic counterpart, Gorilla Grodd from Justice League hates humans. Despite this, all of his love interests were human, and he even turned one of them, Giganta, from an ape to a human. This fits with his general Can't Live With Them, Can't Live Without Them relationship with non-apes.
- Queen Miraj from Star Wars: The Clone Wars thinks of every non-Zygerrian as a potential slave, but starts a cordial business relationship with the human Anakin before falling for him and blackmailing him into becoming her bodyguard.