Alice is in love with Bob. Bob goes and does something crazy heroic, risking himself. Once the crisis is over, Alice rips into Bob with utmost anger. Eventually, she comes out and admits she was worried about him. This frequently occur in the context of the After Action Patchup. It can also happen in cases where the person has disappeared without communicating at all for a while, in which case it may be accompanied by, "You could have called!"
Of course, this trope can apply to either gender on both the giving and receiving end; it's the caring that brings it about that makes the trope. It is also particularly common for parents to show this trope when their children return from whatever world saving adventure they've been on.
Related to How Dare You Die on Me!, except it's milder, as in, "how dare you put yourself in so much danger." May also involve a Slap-Slap-Kiss or lead to Calling Out for Not Calling. Contrast Tearful Smile, which occurs when Alice is still distraught even when she's happy. Good odds for a Punchy Love-type to be this if he/she is far enough on the "punchy" side. Compare I Have Just One Thing to Say and Arson Murder And Life Saving.
- Bulma from the Dragon Ball franchise tends to express her fears and worries for the protagonists' safety with eruptive rage. Goku, Vegeta, and especially Yamcha were the most common targets. A good example can be seen here.
- This is what happens in the end of Full Metal Panic!: The Second Raid, although Tsundere Kaname Chidori was afraid not only for Sousuke (who disappeared without a word in the middle of the series) but also for herself (since villains are constantly after her and Sousuke was supposed to protect her). The progression of fear to relief to anger causes her to deliver an epic Get a Hold of Yourself, Man! beatdown to Sousuke - himself in the throes of a massive Heroic BSoD - when they're finally reunited.
- Neon Genesis Evangelion played with this one in the Leliel/Dirac sea episode. Asuka is clearly aiming for the trope, but she keeps having to take a number as first Misato and then Rei "butt in", after Shinji reappears. She's left at a low simmer, but Shinji sees her the second time and seems to understand. Notably this is the only time we ever see Shinji laugh.
- In Ouran High School Host Club, Tamaki calls Haruhi an idiot for trying to take on a group of bullies by herself and nearly getting killed in the process. The rest of the episode has Haruhi and Tamaki giving each other the silent treatment until they make up near the end.
- Also in Ouran, the Creepy Twins Hikaru and Kaoru pull this off in the vacation episode to score Moe points through twincest subtext. Whether it was intentional or not is up to debate. Though in general, Hikaru is much more prone to this trope compared to the more level-headed Kaoru whenever there's actual conflict regarding them.
- Naruto goes to town with this. With only a few exceptions, Sakura always worries about Naruto's safety in a combat situation. This persists despite him proving his skills over and over, and her insistence that she genuinely doesn't feel that way about him.
- Possibly the best example is from Chapter 450 when Naruto returns after defeating Pain, Sakura punches him for being so reckless, then embraces him, thanking him. He did not hug her back, which, in retrospect, foreshadowed what was to come nineteen chapters later...
- Rin also seems to have felt this for Obito, as he would always try to act tough and hide his wounds from her, which greatly annoyed her.
- In Princess Tutu, Fakir constantly treats Mytho harshly and orders him around. When Mytho begins to finally grow a backbone and stand up for himself, Fakir starts getting so distressed that his harsh demeanor escalates until he finally snaps and slaps Mytho. At first it's played to show him as a control freak, but it's soon revealed that he's really a Jerk with a Heart of Gold and he's terrified of Mytho getting hurt because of past experiences. (He just has a very, very poor way of expressing himself when he's upset.)
- Chilchuck of Delicious in Dungeon gets pretty damn pissed off at Laios's insistence on continuing deeper into the dungeon, despite the party being very worn down in every possible sense after the fight with the Lunatic Magician. However it's obvious, Chilchuck is simply worried about losing his friends.
Kagome: I'm not crying because I'm sad! I'M CRYING BECAUSE I FEEL HUMILIATED!
- Kagome breaks down into tears when she thinks Inuyasha's dead, calling him "Idiot!" When Inuyasha shows up alive and well, she yells at him, causing him to think that she's mad at him at first before she says that she's just so relieved that he's alive.
- In the anime, a similar scene has Kagome yelling some more at him because she's embarrassed at having broken down in tears.
- And another after the defeat of the Thunder Brothers. When Inuyasha sees Shippo and Kagome surrounded in foxfire, and thinks they're ghosts.
- Ranma ½:
- Akane is wracked with worry over Ranma going to fight their first bonafide lethal opponent, who had locked him as a woman permanently. When he finally comes back, manhood restored (well, unlocked, anyway) he sneaks into the bathroom before greeting her. When she sees him, she's very obviously relieved to the point of tears, even as she's angry at him that he didn't go see her first.
- Shortly afterwards, Akane is the one who faces a legendary eight-headed dragon to repay a life debt, without asking for Ranma's help. After she's nearly killed, and Ranma rescues her, he berates her (albeit gently) for making him worry.
- After Shampoo and Akane have their first physical fight in the series, Ranma finds Akane unconscious on the grass. Thinking she might be dead, he urges her to wake up. When she does, he looks relieved, right before he promptly calls her an idiot and reprimands her for fighting Shampoo.
- In StrikerS Sound Stage X, Nove has this reaction when a severely wounded Subaru◊ meets up with her after fighting her way out of some ruins.
- Chisame from Mahou Sensei Negima! delivers one to Negi after he risks his life trying to study Evangeline's Black Magic. For all the chaos he has (unintentionally) brought upon her, she still cares about him more than she's willing to admit.
- Asuna does this to him quite often too.
- Miaka goes through a mild version of this in Fushigi Yuugi the first time Tamahome really risks his life saving her. When the tables are turned and she ends up risking her own life for her Seishi, Tamahome gives a Meaningful Echo.
- 7 Seeds: This is basically the meaning behind Semimaru's yelling. Since he made himself to be a tough guy, admitting that he was really worried in a heartfelt way would be too embarrassing, he opts to yell at people who made him worry. Particularly Arashi or towards Natsu.
- Happens in one episode of G Gundam involving Rain and Domon.
- Anemone from Eureka Seven, who has only just realized she is in love with Dominic when he leaves around the same time, goes to save him when she accidentally attacks him with her mech while he's falling from the sky, clinging to a ref board to try and save her. She admonishes him for doing something so reckless, even though they're both in a freefall at this point. Now she's normally been pretty harsh on poor Dominic until now, but fortunately for him, she lets it slide. Cue The Big Damn Kiss.
- In the Mai-HiME side novel "Natsuki no Prelude," after Natsuki returns to school after her first battle with an Orphan, covered in wounds, Shizuru is quite shocked to see her hurt, and (not being a Hime at the time) tells her that if falling off her motorcycle caused it, she will keep her away from it even if she has to hit her. Natsuki insists that she's all right, but is touched that Shizuru cares about her.
- In Kamisama Kiss Tomoe has a Bodyguard Crush towards the heorine Nanami who she keeps pulling stunts that send his blood pressure sky-rocketing and causing him to rip her a new one verbally. It doesn't help that Tomoe is a definite Jerk with a Heart of Gold.
- This is a possible explanation for Maka's reaction in the Soul Eater manga when her partner, Soul, is possessed by the Black Blood and starts attacking her and their teammates. She was clearly worried about him, but when he snaps out of it her response is to hit him on the head and then start kicking him. When asked, she claims it's payback for pulling her pigtails.
- In Code Geass, Shirley, who has a crush on Lelouch, gets frustrated over his delinquent tendencies, and worries that he doesn't apply himself.
- Tengen Toppa Gurren Lagann: Kamina and Yoko had a moment like this in episode seven, after facing particularly overwhelming odds in a fight and almost being killed in the process. A sad/bittersweet scene in hindsight as Yoko's worst fears come true one episode later when Kamina dies in battle, mere hours after they had kissed for the first time and revealed their feelings for each other.
Yoko: There's always been a method to your madness. I could always just tell myself, "if anybody can pull something off, Kamina can." But this afternoon was different. That wasn't reckless or even crazy; that was plain stupid! You rushed in there without thinking it through, and if Simon hadn't been there, you might very well have been killed!... I guess... that frightened me...
- In Black Lagoon, at the end of the "Goat, Jihad and Rock and Roll" arc, Revy, having managed to rescue Rock from kidnappers with a mixture of her characteristic ultraviolence and uncharacteristic guile, rips strips off him for being dumb enough to be kidnapped: "This isn't some feel-good movie! The cost of this is coming out of your paycheck! The next time this happens, the only help you'll get is from the Almighty!" And then they go off together.
- Later, in the Japan arc, after Balalaika comes very close to killing Rock, forcing Revy into a face-off with Balalaika and Boris, Revy punches Rock a good one for being so foolhardy: "Over here, I'm your gun! I could keep you alive through Tarawa or the Alamo! But I can't protect someone who's that anxious to die! ...If you weren't you, I'd have shot you myself for being so stupid!"
- Ian from A Cruel God Reigns has several instances of this after bringing Jeremy back to England to help Jeremy get his life back together. They usually occur after Jeremy has done drugs or prostituted himself, although sometimes they are in reaction to Jeremy's flippant behavior toward both and his original problems.
Ian: "You were beat until you passed out! Don't act as if it happened to someone else!"
- It's never specifically said, but this was no doubt the reaction of Mr. Koiwai after finding out Yotsuba had gone to Fuuka's school, by herself, without telling him where she was going. Absolutely justified, since there were at least two points on her adventure where she was very lucky she wasn't seriously hurt.
- There's a manga chapter in Doraemon where Nobita received this from his parents after coming home so late after playing outside. Unfortunately, Nobita being Nobita, it's too much for him and made him believe that his parents despise him. So he decided to leave his house. To made his action become much less sympathetic, he also stole some of Doraemon's tools and gadgets (including Bamboocopter) because he believe they will help him survive while living far away from his family. Predictably, it becomes much worse when he lost his bamboocopter and this caused him being trapped in a stranded island for the next ten years until Doraemon finds him, when Nobita already becomes a Manchild and has grown a Beard of Sorrow. From Bad to Worse, indeed.
- Puella Magi Madoka Magica: Downplayed example in Episode 3. When Mami and Madoka reach Sayaka and Kyubey, who had willingly let themselves be absorbed by a Witch's Barrier to prevent the Witch's escape, Mami berates Sayaka's rashness, but concedes that she's just relieved that they're both alright.
- Mekakucity Actors: Episode 10. After a very peaceful opening showing the scenery of Japan several centuries in the past, we cut straight to Azami - arms crossed and brow furrowed - yelling "He's late!" at her daughter Shion. After some reassurance from Shion, Azami admits that she is worried for Tsukihiko (her husband)'s safety, since he left for the (extremely xenophobic) village over three days ago. As it turns out, she was right to worry; as she'd feared, the villagers had captured Tsukihiko, tortured him for her whereabouts, and despite him not saying anything, found the trail he'd left himself to return home - and promptly come knocking to murder her and her daughter.
- In Aruosumente, Legna is known for getting angry whenever he catches His Majesty outside his duties, e.g. while trying out a new invention. However, that's because he's responsible for His Majesty's safety, and they're childhood friends besides.
- Waratte! Sotomura-san: Haruno reacts like this when Sotomura shows up at school in spite of having a fever.
- Interviews with Monster Girls: Takahashi ends up yelling at Machi when she almost drops her head out of carelessness and downplays the accident. He later apologizes for it.
- Berserk: When Casca attempted suicide by jumping off a cliff, Guts rushes in to catch her just as she's falling and manages to drag her back up and throw her a good distance from the edge. Afterwards, he angrily yells at her to never do something so stupid like that again, especially after having sustained injury himself. Casca approaches Guts, tearfully yelling how foolish he was for saving her at the risk of his own safety. From this point, they both calm down and realize how much they don't want to lose the other, and they share their first kiss. The rest is history.
- Snow White with the Red Hair: Zen is particularly prone to this as Shirayuki and Obi quickly learn and is especially annoyed when his friends try to hide or play down illnesses or injuries. Obi manages to earn this reaction out of Zen , Shirayuki, Mitsuhide and Kiki when he leaves during the night with one of his former associates without telling anyone where he's actually going just leaving a note under Zen's pillow saying he'll be back by morning. He seems both cowed and relieved when they track him down before dawn has even fully broke and he grins in response to Shirayuki and Zen's anger at learning he was injured since he never before had anyone he trusted and cared for the way he does the two of them.
- The reason Elma quarrels with Tohru for most of Miss Kobayashi's Dragon Maid is because they were close friends before Tohru disappeared without even giving her a peep. Tohru used to disdain human contact and went through great lengths to convince Elma to distrust humans; Elma found it very hypocritical of her when she found out that Tohru was openly living with a human as if nothing had happened (after having supposedly been killed in a battle with the gods). As such, Elma is offended at the fact that Tohru practically abandoned her.
- In Archie's Sonic The Hedgehog, this was Princess Sally's reason for dumping Sonic. He had just returned from a lengthy absence, during which he had been presumed dead, and yet he now continued risking his life at the drop of a hat. The fear of potentially having to mourn him a second time was more than she could stand.
- The Invader Zim comics have Gaz's tense relationship towards Dib become this as part of Adaptational Nice Guy; her regular anger and annoyance towards Dib is no longer from seemingly disliking her brother, but rather disappointment that he's wasting his life obsessing over Zim, who she thinks is an incompetent egomaniac doomed to Failure Is the Only Option, and thus isn't worth dealing with.
- During Secret Invasion, the Runaways got stranded in New York City at the very moment that the Skrulls were gathering for their final push against Earth's superheroes, and Xavin, being an apostate, and thus a very high-value target for the fanatical Skrulls, tried to abandon the team, including their fiancee Karolina, in the hopes that the Skrulls would rather chase after an apostate than waste a bunch of Earthlings. After the team caught up to Xavin, Karolina gave them an earful.
- Causes a massive relationship crisis between Rainbow Dash and Brownie in the later chapters of Rainbow in the Dark.
- A Crown of Stars: Asuka and Shinji argue several times the time where he disappeared inside Unit 01 for one month. During those talks Shinji apologizes for getting her worried and she angrily tells him if he ever makes so stupid again there will be... consequences.
- In chapter 26:
Asukas grip on his left hand tightened and she growled, You leave me hanging like that again, Ikari, and I get to rip your head and arms off. Her grip relaxed again. And dont you dare ever vanish for a month like what happened after that, either. You made me worry, Third. And youre sworn to watch my back from now on, until I let you go, got it?
- In chapter 28:
Shinji: And as for time apart... yeah, after the last three and a half years... Im sorry I disappeared that month. Id have come back sooner if Id been able to. I didnt know I made you worry so much.
Asuka: You start in on that philosophy crap and Ill make you disappear again. Yes, you worried me! [...] Dont you get killed on me, Third. You still owe me a life, and until you pay me back youre under orders not to die. Not after you say something like you said this morning. Got it?
- In chapter 26:
- The Child of Love: In chapter 7 Shinji gets struck during a battle and knocked out. In reaction Asuka completely loses her temper.
- Cry For Eternity. Twilight undergoes a procedure to become an Alicorn on Celestia's posthumous wishes. The procedure knocks Twilight unconscious for a whole week, and once she wakes up, the first thing her mother, Velvet, does upon seeing her is to make it clear how very displeased she is that Twilight took such a risk. Likewise, Applejack also flat out says how mad she is, and Spike yells at her to never scare him like that again. Fluttershy of course is too nice to be anything but concerned, so Angel Bunny takes care of the anger part for her.
- In The Dragon That Will Pierce the Heavens, protagonist Hikari is prone to this, mostly towards Zoro, as shown when she finds out he tried to cut off his feet to fight Mister Three on Little Garden.
- In Double Agent Vader, Leia gets angry when she learns what kind of tortures Palpatine puts Ekkreth through to punish unsatisfactory performance.
- HERZ: In chapter 10, Shinji got kidnapped. Asuka was so worried she was about to explode, but she tried to keep her emotions under control.
Asuka was obviously upset but was trying admirably to keep her turbulent emotions under control. Her first impulse was to run off and thrash wildly in an effort to find her husband. She didn't notice the blood beginning to drip through the patch covering her left eye. She took a deep breath.
- Higher Learning: Asuka towards Shinji after his nervous breakdown. Gets so bad that Misato has to pull one rather forceful Sorkin Relationship Moment.
- Last Child of Krypton: When Shinji reveals Asuka he is Superman she is furious because he has risked his life and he has been about to die several times to save her:
Asuka:"Why? You flew into that thing, what, to come after me? You could have died. Why would you do that? How could you be so stupid?"
- Scar Tissue: In chapter 8 Asuka gets angry with Shinji because he has reopened his wounds after yelling at their friends when they ganged up on her.
Terror, she was paralyzed in fear, her worn out brain darkened in utter fear; fear of herself, of what she was capable of. In her state of restless hysteria, the abused subconscious of the redhead activated it's most primitive defense mechanism. She attacked.
Ritsuko seemed to shut up with that. As a matter of fact, the entire room had gone deadly quiet when exposed to her rage, even Shinji, who seemed to have been dying to seconds before, straightened up and gulped.
"What the hell were you thinking, huh?! Do you realize how injured you are?!! And who told you I need to be protected? I could've handled those three asses myself!! Even if...! Even if it was... nice of... you..."
- The Second Try: Asuka to Shinji a good number of times:
- In the post-Impact chapters every time he was missing for hours (in episodes 4 and 6).
- In the post-time travel chapters, Shinji gets slapped by Asuka twice as he's waking up in the hospital for having her worried. The first time after the fight with the 12th, the second after his month-long stay in Unit-01. Each time is immediately followed by a kiss.
- Right before the JSSDF attack Shinji broke curfew to go back to their apartment, not telling Asuka was he was going to do or where he was going, and he left her worrying for hours. When he returned he got a well-deserved slap.
- In Superman story Superman of 2499: The Great Confrontation Alan dips in the ocean without warning Kath about saltwater being not anymore lethal to them. Kath got frightened... and when he resurfaced, she got real, real mad.
- Superwomen of Eva 2: Lone Heir of Krypton: Shinji is on the brunt end of this from Asuka after instinctively running to try and save a little girl from a collapsing building, only to be saved by Supergirl.
- In White Devil of the Moon, after Nanoha, who has recently been injured, collapses from using Divine Buster against Jadeite, Fate yells at her for using high-level magic despite her being warned about the strain on her Linker Core, before breaking down crying and telling her how worried she is about her.
- In Christian Humber Reloaded, Season-Bringer punches Blade for making him think that he'd died in the explosion that destroyed Chaos near the end of Part 2.
- In the Star Trek: The Original Series fanfic Insontis, kid!Kirk berates Spock for using a faulty transporter (which left injuries that nearly killed him) to go after him.
- In Kyon: Big Damn Hero Haruhi reacts this way to Kyon being injured after fighting some Yakuza with all his supernatural tools disabled.
- Earth and Sky: In the first chapter, Pinkie's relief that her daughter Tootsie is safe is immediately replaced by anger that Tootsie left the house without telling anyone.
- In Broken Facades, Light gets angry when he learns that Misa made the eye deal.
- Hit and Hug. Based on the episode "Putting Your Hoof Down", Rainbow Dash is really upset when she found out Fluttershy has Took a Level in Jerkass that she hits her in the head for it. She catches her before she falls from the ground and hugs her for being back to her old Shrinking Violet self.
- A Growing Affection: Tsunade and Sakura to Naruto in chapter 12. He nearly killed himself in the previous chapter by helping Sakura with a series of medical jutsus that essentially brought back Hinata from the brink of death, and both scold him quite thoroughly for it.
- Downplayed in Heroes: When Kirk is gone hunting for weapons material for a long time, Spock scolds him.
- If Thems The Rules, Harry doesn't speak to Tom for a week after Tom passed out after attempting a floating charm without a wand.
- In the Soul Eater fic Alive, Maka's reaction to Crona finally returning to Death City after running away and going back to Medusa is to hug him tight, make sure he's okay, and then Maka-Chop him.
Crona: (holding his head) Ow, why did you do that?
Maka: That's for making me worry about you!
- In A Snowflake In Spring, Anna undergoes an Angst Coma of sorts after her brother Hans loses his visitation rights. She crashes at Kristoff's house, losing contact with the world for three days. Her new friend Megara, who has no idea what's going on, sends her a series of texts that progress from annoyed to concerned to nearly hysterical. When Anna finally recovers and calls her, Meg practically explodes at her over the phone.
- NCIS fanfic Shards To a Whole does this three times:
- Shortly after Tim McGee and Abby Scuito move in together and begin planning a life together, Tim, Gibbs, Tony and Ziva nearly die of hypothermia after being locked in a walk-in freezer full of Sarin gas canisters by a group of terrorists. Once they are rescued, and after everyone has more or less makes a full recovery, Abby, after a few days of nursing Tim back to health, lays into him big-time, shouting, "You do not get to dangle this perfect fantasy life in front of me: married, house, kids, grow old together and then take it away by dying on me! You don't get to make me want that, need it, and then take it away!" Realizing how much his nearly dying upset Abby helps Tim decide to apply for the position of Head of Cybercrime, which he believed would be mostly a desk job.
- While trapped in the basement of CGIS headquarters, which is being stormed by the FBI, Gibbs takes a bullet for Abigail "Abbi" Borin, his Love Interest. She is none too happy about this and pretty much flays him open for it — particularly given that she is still a serving federal agent and he most decidedly isn't (having retired several chapters earlier) — but he can't wipe the goofy smile off his face, because if she's yelling at him, it means she's alive.
- Breena lays into Tim in a later chapter note after Tim had Abby, Jimmy and Breena take the kids and evacuate to Montreal while he remained in DC where he, Vance and others publically revealed a decades-long conspiracy between both the RNC and the DNC to control and manipulate Presidential and Congressional elections. This led to massive riots and looting, along with the wholesale resignation of the President and most of Congress. Tim, Gibbs, Vance and many others wound up trapped in a Naval base with dwindling food and potable water supplies, dealing with looters and rioters while the Coast Guard attempted to keep the peace. Finally Gibbs managed to get Tim out of DC to a safe haven in Virginia, from where he was able to drive up to Montreal to meet with his family. When he arrived he was emaciated and in the midst of a massive Heroic BSoD, but that didn't stop Breena from laying into him once he had some food in him.
- In Curses!, Lili finds Raz in the tree house and slaps him across the face as soon as he comes out of Fannie's mind. When she heard the wolves, she tried to call him, and he never answered.
Raz: I did what I had to to, y'know, not die!
Lili: Well how the heck was I supposed to know that you weren't dead?!
- Tsume and Hanabi exhibit this at different points to different people in Kitsune no Ken: Fist of the Fox. After Kiba risks his life rescuing Naruto from Mizuki's gang and Akatsuki's Monjin, Tsume slaps him and snaps at him for being so reckless...and then tightly embraces him moments later. A couple of chapters afterward, when a hospitalized Kabuto cheerfully greets the Hyuga family, Hanabi chastises him for being so flippant about his injuries, even while she's holding back her own tears.
- In chapter 12 of the Alex Rider fanfic Hell is Other People, we get this line, which essentially sums up the trope:
When Wolf arrived at the infirmary, he was worried, and consequentially, he was angry.
- In the The Familiar of Zero fanfiction,The Steep Path Ahead, Louise really gets angry with Saito when he's done something that could severely hurt him without her, most evident after he went on to deal with a Zombie Apocalypse while she was unconscious and came back covered in blood.
Louise: "He could have died. Do you know what it means? When you're dead, you're in Founder Brimir's arms forever. There's no coming back. You can't just turn back time. A dead person is dead forever, so I am angry. I am angry and I am hurt that he could not wait for me to wake up, and I don't care if he succeeded now, because if tomorrow he does the same and he fails, then I'll be the one left to pick up the pieces of his scattered corpse to sew them back together, and then I'll have to present it to his family saying that he died bravely, but they would rather have their son back."
- In Thousand Shinji, when Asuka nearly blows herself up to take down Sandalphon, Shinji got incredibly mad at her.
Shinji: (angrily) What the fuck were you thinking?
Asuka: (dazedly) I I did what I had to do, just like how you blew yourself up to take out Shamshel.
Shinji: Its called the Shinji Suicide Special for a reason.
Asuka: (grinning) Well they can call it the Soryu Suicide Special now.
- In Once More with Feeling, Ritsuko notes that Misato is angry at her charges after the quad bike race because she was terrified of them getting hurt.
- Code Geass: The Prepared Rebellion:
- Milly yells at Lelouch when she finds out he commanded the rebels during the battle in the Shinjuku Ghetto, terrified at the thought of losing her childhood friend.
- Later on, Lelouch gives Milly and Nina a tongue-lashing for their actions during the Lake Kawaguchi incident.
- With This Ring: Zatara isn't too impressed by Paul's association with John Constantine, mainly because he knows what happens to people who work with John or owe him favors. When he learns that Paul had John give him magical tattoos that will help him develop a soul he freaks out and rushes to the cave to make sure that Paul isn't about to suffer some horrible fate in the near future.
- In Sugar Plums Ume gets this from most of her adopted siblings. This is partially because Ume isn't afraid of dying, but will arrange things so the rest of them are almost always away from the danger so she's the only one who's truly at risk. This tendency is not only lampshaded several times, one character spends an entire chapter ripping her a new one because of it.
- The Inquisitors each tend to react this way if the other one gets hurt in the Twice Upon An Age series. It's especially evident with Mahanon, who has a powerful Big Brother Instinct toward Victoria.
- After Edward almost freezes to death in Whiteout, Mustang yells at him to the point of snarling before giving him the cold shoulder.
- A couple of examples from sidestories in Pokémon Reset Bloodlines:
- In the Gardenia Interlude, the title character gives Cheryl a piece of her mind for going into the Old Chateau alone.
- In the Ritchie Gaiden, it's mentioned that his mother, Regina, grounded him for two months for sneaking away to watch a battle between Silver's Salamence and Moltres and putting himself in danger.
- Escape From the Moon: In the sequel The Mare From the Moon, Spike starts to lose his temper with Twilight out of worry for her because she's been acting so oddly the last few days. Then he finds out why she's been acting that way and softens up.
- Asriel displays this to a decidedly unhealthy degree towards Chara in you can only use your own. He gets better.
- In My Huntsman Academia, Weiss has a tendency to tear into Izuku for his self-destructive heroic impulses and tendency to not place any value in his own well-being when other's lives are in danger. This gets to the point that she creates a "Prevent Izuku From Doing Something Stupid Kit" specifically to have all the tools she needs to chastise him (including Purely Aesthetic Glasses and a spray bottle) and threatens to hurt him if he even considers trying to take up a job in addition to the ridiculous amounts of training, studying, and meetings he's juggling because she knows it's unhealthy.
- In My Master Ed, Van gets upset and yells at Edward when he finds out he threw himself into the nearby river, risking drowning in the process.
- In Crimson And Emerald, Gran Torino attempts to kick Izuku in the face for running off in the middle of a Noumu attack. Hawks intervenes before Torino could land the hit.
- In The Flash Sentry Chronicles (My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic and My Little Pony: Equestria Girls): Twilight does this to Flash a lot due to him always putting himself in danger. This was especially after he almost died against Sombra.
- The Pieces Lie Where They Fell: In the sequel Picking up the Pieces, Vix-Lei knows Page would invoke this and get ticked if she found out Night tried to keep his health issues (his wing and heart checkup) from her. In order to avoid it, she informs Night that she'll be letting Page know the full results (with Night Blade's reluctant agreement) as soon as she can.
- In A Game Comes to Equestria, Yugi blows his top at Pinkie during Luna and the Little Game, though the anger is more so out of concern for Luna's self-esteem.
- In Peggy Sue fic Warp, Victoria Dallon gets to meet again her boyfriend Dean who had died in battle against a monster in the original timeline. Framing the original events as a nightmare, she berates him for charging ahead and getting himself killed.
"It's just... I had a dream Leviathan attacked here and you died."
"I'm here," he said.
I ignored him. "Because of course you went charging into a fight against an Endbringer. Of course you couldn't help yourself, or have the common sense to stick to the sidelines. Of course you had to go andand get yourself crushed. You dumbass."
It wasn't fair of me to blame him for his own death. Leviathan moved so fast there weren't sidelines to stick to. Still, I'd often thought of the ways things could have gone differently; he could have sought shelter with his family, or stayed paired with someone who could move him from danger, or done anything but try to face off against Leviathan.
But he wouldn't have had it any other way, and I wouldn't have had him any other way.
Didn't mean he wasn't a dumbass.
- In Starship on a Grill, the main heroine, looking for her lost son, follows her husband to a parallel world where the Hadean Era is in full swing. The latter is perfectly livid, since he is able to survive in such conditions and she can only spend there a couple of hours in a special suit (theirs is an Interspecies Romance). When he sees she has followed him, he bursts into a long string of curses in a dozen languages she doesn't even try to understand.
- In Fire Emblem Awakening story Golden Threads Tie Us, Lucina shoves Severa out of the path of a flying arrow and gets struck in the torso. Seeing Lucina getting wounded for her sake, Severa gets mad.
Lucina! she called as she scrambled to her feet and ran to her.
"Stop! There's an archer..." Lucina panted. Sweat beads had broken out on her forehead.
"Damn it!" Severa stood in front of Lucina, looking frantically for the hidden Risen. "Why did you do that!? You idiot!"
"You were in danger," Lucina mumbled. "Couldn't let you get hurt." She added something else, but Severa couldn't make out the words.
"Tch! You're the last person who should be putting yourself on the line for others!"
- Played for Drama in A Professor And A Student. In it, Delia [[Complaining About Rescues They Don't Like
- In Frozen II, both Anna and Elsa express this towards each other after Anna almost suffocates during the encounter with the enchanted flames.
Elsa: Anna, you can't just follow me into fire!
Anna: If you don't want me to follow you into fire, then don't run into fire!
- In The Lion King, Mufasa ripped into Simba for leading Nala into the Elephant Graveyard despite his explicit warning never to go there. He ended up teaching Simba a lesson in the real meaning of bravery.
Mufasa: You deliberately disobeyed me! And what's worse... you put Nala in danger!
Simba: I was just trying to brave like you.
Mufasa: I'm only brave when I have to be! Simba, being brave doesn't mean you go looking for trouble.
- In Monsters, Inc., when Sulley and Mike find Boo after she ran away in the office building and they presumed she got killed in a garbage masher, Sulley reveals his parental instinct toward her by sternly saying "Don't you EVER run away from me again, young lady!" Then he hugs her and adds "But I'm so glad you're safe...!"
- In How to Train Your Dragon, after Hiccup recovers from the final battle with the Green Death, Astrid punches him, saying, "That's for scaring me!" She then kisses him, clearly grateful that he was alive and well.
- Big Hero 6:
- The first thing Tadashi does when he rescues Hiro from some thugs is to ask if he is all right before chewing him out for getting in trouble.
Tadashi: Are you okay?
Hiro: Yeah, I'm fine.
Tadashi: *hits Hiro in the shoulder* Then what were you thinking?!
- After having to bail Hiro and Tadashi out of prison in the beginning, Aunt Cass swings between ranting at them about how worried she was and eating comfort food from her café.
- The first thing Tadashi does when he rescues Hiro from some thugs is to ask if he is all right before chewing him out for getting in trouble.
- The Little Mermaid:
- King Triton's arguments with Ariel over her interest in humans are based in fear for her safety, because he sees humans as fish-eating barbarians (and in the prequel, we learn that humans killed Ariel's mother). Eventually this leads to his destroying all of his daughter's human-related items, with horrible results.
- When Prince Eric's manservant Grimsby finds the former miraculously alive after the shipwreck, he scolds him with "You really delight in these sadistic strains on my blood pressure, don't you?"
- Kenai from Brother Bear 2 chews out Koda for running off to a dangerous mountain. Koda replies that he was just scared that Kenai would abandon him for Nita, calming Kenai down as he reassures him that he would never abandon Koda.
- In The Dark Knight, Jim Gordon pretends to be dead in order to capture the Joker and doesn't inform his family of this plan. Upon seeing her "dead" husband on the front porch, his wife immediately slaps him across the face, then starts sobbing and hugs him.
- In Thor, Odin gets furious at Thor when he foolishly goes to Jotunheim to pick a fight with the Frost Giants which nearly gets him, his brother, and his friends killed. This leads to Thor getting stripped of his powers and banished from Asgard to teach him some humility and wisdom on Midgard.
- Now and Then: Chrissy when Roberta had thought it would be a good prank to pretend she'd been killed jumping into a river. Touching as Chrissy only gets the punch in because she's bending over Roberta as the only one of the three girls who was prepared to give rescue breaths.
- In The Hobbit, Thorin furiously yells at Bilbo after the latter had put himself in danger to protect Thorin from Azog and his mooks. After listing all his potential failings and reasons why Bilbo doesn't belong with the company, Thorin then pulls Bilbo into a hug and declares "I've never been so wrong in all my life."
- After Aragorn was believed to be dead in Lord of the Rings and made it safely to Helms Deep, Gimli pushed past the crowd of Rohan people, all the while furiously exclaiming that he was going to kill Aragorn. But the second he saw Aragorn, his anger simply melts into relief and he happily proclaims he's glad to see that Aragorn was all right before grabbing him in a Man Hug.
- Katniss yells at Peeta in The Hunger Games after hearing a cannon and thinking he's been killed. Played up for maximum ship teasing.
- Mission to Mars provided a real winner when Phil, the designated Deadpan Snarker astronaut, as he is about to tearfully follow orders and abandon the rest of the team when time runs out and launch for Earth is interrupted by the team regaining radio contact with him. Breaking down into tears, Phil nevertheless snarks over the radio, "Phil isn't here right now. He left for Earth FIVE MINUTES AGO! Please leave a message after the beep!" before coming completely unglued in relief.
- Likely the case with the unnamed mother in the "Niagara Falls" sequence in Superman II. After Supes rescues the little boy from the falls, he's returned to his mom, who angrily reads the riot act to the kid as they walk off.
- In stark contrast to his usual serene temperament, Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire has Dumbledore roughly grab Harry and demand the truth after his name appears in the Goblet of Fire.
- The Room has Danny nearly getting hurt and/or killed by a drug dealer after failing to get him the money that was owed. Claudette, who is a mother figure to Danny, scolds him heavily for making her worry.
- In Dandelion Wine Mrs. Spaulding is worried when Doug goes off with some boys from the neighborhood and still hasn't returned by nightfall. She goes out to the ravine and calls out to him. When he answers back, she is furious with him for staying out so long and making her and Tom so worried.
- Camille from Super Powereds gets this way when Vince comes dangerously close to getting himself killed just to put in a good showing on a test. She even goes so far as to say that if he gets that badly injured again, she won't rescue him, just stabilize his wounds and leave him to suffer.
- C. S. Lewis's Voyage of the Dawn Treader: Reepicheep, herioc Talking Mouse Knight of Narnia, goes overboard, and Lord Drinian, the usually stoic and reserved captain of the eponymous ship, bursts into exclamations that Reepicheep's more trouble than the rest of the crew put together, and ought to be thrown into irons. The narrator lampshades this by pointing out that the captain is so angry because he likes Reepicheep very much — just like your mother will be much angrier with you for running into the street than a stranger would be.
- Belgariad: Polgara and Durnik, repeatedly.
Polgara: You great, clumsy, dear fool. Never do that again - never! You almost made my heart stop.
- In the third Kate Daniels book by Ilona Andrews, we get this exchange.
Kate: What the fuck is wrong with you? He was silver! I had it under control. What was going through your head? Here's a toxic silver golem; I think I'll jump on his back! That's a damn good idea!Curran: Were you worried about me?Kate: No, I'm ranting for fun, because I'm a disagreeable bitch!
- Twisted inside-out and upside-down by Darken Rahl in Wizard's First Rule. While brainwashing a young child whom he intends to sacrifice, he asks about the boy's dog. The boy tells him that his dog once ran away, but was greeted lovingly when he was found. But one time the boy ran off without telling anyone and was punished with a belt when he returned. Darken Rahl asks him if his parents really love him, if they're willing to beat him and Pet the Dog for the same offense. While the boy's parents undoubtedly abided by this trope, Rahl managed to convince him that it was inverted just for him, causing the boy's love for them to be shaken.
- In Patricia A. McKillip's The Book of Atrix Wolfe, when Tanis was unhorsed and injured, and then had to kill a boar, his brother descended on him, dragging him away, and pounded him — only when Tanis recovered from his shock did he realize he was saying that he thought Tanis had been killed.
- In The Battle Of The Labyrinth, the fourth book of Percy Jackson and the Olympians, Annabeth has this reaction when Percy returns from Calypso's island, having been thought dead after an explosion in Hephaestus's workshop.
- And again in The Heroes of Olympus when Annabeth is reunited with Percy at Camp Jupiter.
- In John Connolly's Charlie Parker series, side characters Angel and Louis are lovers, gay, comic relief, snarky, kind of sort of insane, and just happen to be incredibly badass. Near the end of their own book where they act as main characters rather than supporting cast, there is a moment where Louis pretends to be dead to fake out the antagonist. Angel, wounded, weaponless, is pretty convinced Louis is dead, too, and has to fight to put aside emotion and focus. When it's revealed, then, that Louis was a big fat lying liar who was barely wounded, rather than being pleased, Angel kicks him, repeatedly, and without being gentle about it. It's made rather obvious this reaction is born of fear and adrenaline, and Louis takes it all in semi-amused stride.
Louis: I got shot!Angel: Not shot enough!
- In Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets, Mrs. Weasley's reaction to her children and Harry arriving at the Burrow is "Beds empty! No note! Car gone—could have crashed—out of my mind with worry—did you care?" (She then makes a point of telling Harry that it's not his fault.)
- In Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, Ron finds Harry and Hermione in the woods after leaving them several weeks prior. He saves Harry's life and destroys a horcrux before actually returning to the camp. Hermione greets him with nearly hysterical anger.
- In Seanan McGuire's October Daye novel Rosemary and Rue, Toby comments on how Luna is generally angry only when she's worried.
- In Tamora Pierce's The Immortals series, Numair is prone to this trope with Daine, her safety being his Berserk Button in general. In the first book, Wild Magic, he throws an epic fit after she accidentally stops her own heart with her powers and needs to be magically resuscitated, and has similar (though milder) reactions to her endangering herself throughout the series. Soon it becomes a running joke between them, with him threatening to do outlandishly horrible things to her if she doesn't come back safely from her missions. Eventually, in The Realms of the Gods, they have this exchange soon after their Relationship Upgrade:
"Don't you ever—ever—frighten me that way again!" He shook her for punctuation, then wrapped his arms around her so tightly that she thought she might just pop. "Ever," he added, and kissed her thoroughly before releasing her."I don't know," she said impishly, smiling up at him. "I like this particular kind of tantrum."
- At one point in Uninvited by Sophie Jordan, Sean chews out Davy for going to his house to check on him despite how dangerous that was. She thinks he's just annoyed because he doesn't care about her, when he's obviously scared and worried for her because he cares more than he's letting on.
- In the Judge Dee novel Murder in Canton Tao Gan explodes in fury when he hears the blind girl he just met is missing, ranting to Chiao Tai about her naivete and how she belongs in jail where she'd be protected. Chiao Tai raises an eyebrow. He is experienced enough to know what this means.
- In Cold Days, Harry commits suicide-by-proxy and, much to his surprise, is resurrected several months later. His brother Thomas, who knew nothing about this except that Harry had been assassinated practically tears into him when Harry has finally gotten around to telling him the truth.
- In The Goblin Emperor, the one time Csevet yells at Edrehasivar VII (alias Maia, the protagonist and eponymous emperor) is after Maia did something very reckless that he did not consider dangerous, but which landed him in a position wherein he could easily have been assassinated. Since yelling at the emperor is just not done, Csevet prostrates himself on the garden path immediately after this outburst. Maia generously forgives him.
- In Komarr when she and Miles are rescued by Captain Toumonen mother Ekaterin Vorsoisson instantly recognizes the Impsec man's furious 'Thank God you're safe/I'm going to strangle you with my bare hands' reaction as this trope.
- McAuslan: The reason Baronet MacKenzie is so dissatisfied with his son joining the "Regiment" rather than the Scots Guards. MacNeill originally assumes he is just angry with his son for going his own way rather than follow in the family tradition. Later, he realises that this trope is in effect; if his son had joined the Guards, the elder MacKenzie could have used his connections to keep tabs on his son and maybe pull a few strings if necessary. However, since he has no contacts inside "the Regiment", he can't do anything for his son except worry.
- The Last Dogs: In Dark Waters, when Rocky the dachshund had been separated from his friends (Max the Labrador retriever and Gizmo the Yorkshire terrier), Rocky is later seen at the zoo, eating hot dogs with Barbs the hyena. Max's first thing to do at seeing this is snapping at Rocky for making them worry, even accusing him of abandoning his friends. But Gizmo tells Max that there's no need to yell at Rocky (whom she says is making the best of a bad situation), and Max sees how afraid Rocky was of him at the moment and apologizes, explaining that he was just worried for him. Rocky accepts the apology and apologizes too for making Max and Gizmo worried for him.
- Towards the end of the second Shades of Magic book, Kell goes off on Lila for collapsing during a tournament battle after not heeding his warnings about over-using her powers. Kell's brother Rhy later tells Lila that Kell would only react that strongly towards people he loves.
- In The Valkyrie by Maria Semyonova, Mstivoy constantly hints to Zima her place is to Stay in the Kitchen and calls her stupid on a daily basis, and don't you even remind him she wants to fight in his army. It turns out he is deeply in love with her and doesn't want to lose her like he lost his first wife.
- Subverted at some point in almost, if not every Disney Channel original movie and series made since at least the 2000s where this is supposed to happen, but instead of just being glad the main character is okay, the parent(s), or other authority figuresnote either directly or sarcastically, instead preach at / reprimand the main character for (in some cases) not doing what they were told, or otherwise breaking some kind of rule, which often, but may not always end with the main character being told "You Are Grounded!", all in order to teach the "impressionable" viewers the importance of following the rules / obeying the signs / doing what your told no matter what. It doesn't help that in some cases, the main character has to keep what they do a secret, and thus literally can't defend themselves.note
- Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D.:
- In "FZZT", Simmons gets infected with a Chitauri virus that's already killed others, and all the anti-serums she and Fitz come up with have failed. Knowing she's putting the plane at risks if she stays, she jumps out without a parachute, right as Fitz discovers one of the anti-serums actually works. Fortunately, Ward is able to jump out of the plane, inject her and save her, but that doesn't make Coulson any less pissed when they return.
- In the 4th season episode "Boom", Simmons gets mad at Fitz for heroically helping to throw Shockley out of the plane, because he could have been blown up.
- Brennan on Bones punches Booth when it turns out he wasn't really dead. She claimed it was because he didn't tell her. According to him, he requested that she be told, but his superiors decided not to. The audience can probably figure out why.
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer: In "Passion", Buffy gets a moment of this after saving Giles when his Roaring Rampage of Revenge against Angelus goes wrong. She straight-up decks him in the face and chews him out for doing something so stupid... then collapses and hugs him in tears.
Giles: Why did you come here?! This wasn't your fight!
[Buffy punches him in the face, knocking him down]
Buffy: Are you trying to get yourself killed?! [tears up, collapses, and hugs him] You can't leave me... I can't do this alone...
- The Cosby Show: Possibly the greatest (or worst, depending on who you asknote ) example in fiction comes from the episode "Off To See The Wretched". To provide context, Vanessa and her friends went to Baltimore for a concert, but didn't tell their parents. Clair learned that Vanessa's friend's apartment caught fire, so she spent a long time thinking Vanessa was dead. When Clair learned that Vanessa instead went to Baltimore, she was less than amused, and loudly berated her for lying and making her worrynote :
Clair: You bring yourself into this house right now! And, if you think that 30-minute ride home was something, believe me, honey, we've only just begun! Here we think you're lying in the floor of some burning building dying of asphyxia and you're down in Baltimore, having BIG FUN! Weren't you, Vanessa? Isn't that where you were? Didn't you go down there to Baltimore to have big fun, Vanessa? Tell me, didn't you go for big fun?
Clair: SHUT UP! Don't you DARE open your mouth when I'm asking you a question!
- Daredevil (2015):
- Throughout the show, Matt shows himself to be very protective of Karen. On a few occasions where she goes off on her own and does something dangerous, Matt gets mad at her because he's scared that she could have gotten hurt.
Karen Page: No, I-I trust Ben as much as I do you or Foggy, Matt. I know what I am doing. I am not some kid!
- In "Stick", two of Wilson Fisk's men jump Karen after she visits Elena Cardenas. She is saved when Foggy shows up and takes them both down with his softball bat. In the beginning of the next episode "Shadows in the Glass," Matt lectures Karen on her recklessness.
Matt Murdock: Then don't act like one! Both of you. I know you're just trying to do the right thing here, but we have to be smart about this.
Foggy Nelson: We?
Matt Murdock: First rule, no more skulking around, asking to get hurt. We do this, it's gonna be on our turf. The legal system.
Karen Page: You know, that's not nearly as heroic as you might think-
Matt Murdock: I don't want anyone to be a hero, Karen! I want you to be safe! And I want to protect this firm and everything we're trying to build here! We know the law. We'll use it to our advantage. Agreed?
Foggy Nelson: Do we have a choice?
Matt Murdock: Not so much.
Karen Page: Yeah, okay. So, what's the second rule?
Matt Murdock: ...I don't know, I'm making this up as I go along.
- In "Penny and Dime", Karen slips out of the office and secretly breaks into Frank Castle's house, taking with her a photograph of Frank and his family. The next morning, in "Kinbaku", when she tells the guys about her little investigation, they're both angry at her; Foggy because she committed illegal activity, while Matt because she could have been hurt. Once Foggy leaves the conversation, Karen apologizes to Matt for pushing too far, but Matt calmly says, "I don't think you're wrong about Castle. But, its really simple, Karen. I dont want you to get hurt." This scene is an interesting parallel to the aforementioned scene from "Shadows in the Glass", because its the same configuration with the same characters and, once again, Karen is the bold one. The one difference is that even though Matt is upset, he more openly admits its because hes afraid something bad could happen to Karen. He felt the same as in that previous moment, but its even stronger here because, after their kiss in the rain the night before, he now knows he has deep feelings for her.
- Foggy is pissed at Matt once he learns that Matt is the Devil of Hell's Kitchen, and his anger stems from different things. First is his obvious anger at the fact that Matt's kept a big secret hidden from him for the five years that they've been friends. Second is the fact that Matt is proving himself a great hypocrite, preaching about going after people through the legal system then beating the shit out of strangers. But third of all, is the fact that Foggy is afraid that one day, Matt's going to get himself killed. For a good example of this, when Matt's recuperating on his couch from a concussion after Frank Castle shoots him in the head (the bullet is stopped by Matt's helmet), Foggy isn't lecturing him about his activities but about the fact that Matt came that close to dying. Given Matt seemingly is killed in Midland Circle during The Defenders (2017), Foggy's fears are not unfounded.
- Throughout the show, Matt shows himself to be very protective of Karen. On a few occasions where she goes off on her own and does something dangerous, Matt gets mad at her because he's scared that she could have gotten hurt.
- The Defenders (2017): Karen is annoyed at Matt for dropping the bombshell that he's starting up Daredevil again to take down the Hand, just days after she had been led to think he'd left that behind, but is understanding when Matt says he has to do this. She takes a harsher tone, though, when Matt tells her that the Hand may know that he is Daredevil, because this is incredibly reckless of Matt to do and Karen doesn't want him to get hurt or all the work they did to put away Wilson Fisk get undone.
- Doctor Who:
- Sarah Jane Smith had a lot of this when she travelled with the Fourth Doctor. A classic example is "Pyramids of Mars" she thinks he's dead and starts weeping over him, only to be flustered when he says, "You're soaking my shirt." When she meets up with the Doctor in the New Series, after her initial joy her reaction is: "I thought you died! I waited for you and you didn't come back and I thought you must have died!"
- "The Poison Sky": After the Doctor almost commits a Heroic Sacrifice only for another character to take his place, Martha immediately hugs him. Donna whacks him on the arm before she does the same.
- The Eleventh Doctor is rather prone to this he can be quite harsh with Amy and Rory when he's exceptionally frightened for their safety.
- "The Impossible Astronaut": River Song greets the Doctor with a slap as she's just seen his future self die.
- Inara does this to Mal in Firefly. She even gave his unconscious-but-alive body a kiss; however, it was also played with when her relief turns to anger when she realizes that the knockout agent Saffron used was on his lips, and she passes out moments later while halfway through insulting Mal's parentage.
- At the end of the episode, just as she is about to admit that she kissed him, Mal assumes she instead kissed Saffron. Inara doesn't deny this, because she would rather not face the consequences of kissing Mal.
- The Flash (2014): When Barry angrily confronts his childhood-bully-turned-metahuman before the team has worked out how to beat him and gets badly injured as a result, Dr Wells yells at him for it. When Barry tries to justify his recklessness with his Healing Factor, Wells angrily tells him that he can't heal when he's dead. With the reveal of Wells' true reasons for training the Flash, scenes like this have the added dimension of him needing Barry alive for his own purposes, rather than being purely concerned for his safety.
- Played for laughs in "Legends of Today", when Barry, Cisco and Kendra visit Ollie and Felicty:
Felicity: Barry, it's good to see you. (hugs Barry)
Barry: Felicity. Good to see you, Felicity.
Felicity (swats Barry on the chest): How come you didn't tell me Zoom broke your back? (hugs Barry again) I'm so glad you're okay.
Barry (to Ollie): So this is what it's like dating her?
Ollie: More bruises from her than from Deathstroke.
- Played for laughs in "Legends of Today", when Barry, Cisco and Kendra visit Ollie and Felicty:
- Jules in Flashpoint gave Team Dad Parker a What the Hell, Hero? after he had put himself in danger to protect a girl from one of his previous cases and almost died because of it. Half of the lecture was about Parker placing himself in that situation without calling for backup. The other half was causing the team to go frantic with worry.
- Spike gets one from Parker in "Shockwave".
- In Game of Thrones, when his brother Jaime picks up a spear and attempts to charge down Dany and an actual dragon, all Tyrion Lannister can do is murmur, "Flee, you fucking idiot," in equal parts frustration and horror.
- Played with with Bronn, who is also livid with Jaime for the above stunt... because he almost saw his paycheck go up in smoke along with his employer.
- In Gotham, when Alfred finds out Bruce was burning himself intentionally to "test his own strength", his first reaction is to hit the boy and call him a "stupid boy" before immediately hugging him tightly and trying to reassure him.
- Helix: Downplayed between CDC coworkers Alan and Julia. For the first two days of their mission at research base Arctic Biosystems, Alan needlessly bickers with ex-wife Julia while pulling rank as mission lead and dictating where Julia focuses her efforts at containing an outbreak of Synthetic Plague. He later apologizes and reveals that he's snappish because he feels he can't protect her from The Virus if he doesn't know her whereabouts. She chides him mildly, but its made clear that, in their brief time together, he's reignited his old torch.
- Nina gets like this a lot during House of Anubis in season 2. She had a tendency to get mad at her friends for trying to help save her life, because it was putting themselves in danger, too.
- Kamen Rider:
- The events of Kamen Rider Den-O 's first movie has three out of four of Ryotaro's partner Imagin disappear from the timeline. When they reappeared just fine later the fourth Imagin, Momotaros (a possible male Tsundere), shows up how much he missed them. It involves a lot of yelling.
- When Taiga finds out that Nico infected herself with the Game Disease later on in Kamen Rider Ex-Aid, his first reaction is to yell at her for being reckless. He is very good at hiding that he cares about her, but he does.
- Kamen Rider Build: How can you tell that Ryuga cares about Sento? He stomps in, slams the door behind himself, drops into his seat like a bomb and starts a rant with That Sento. On the flipside, how can you tell that Sento cares about Ryuga? He stalks into the room, drops into his seat like a bomb and starts a rant with That Banjou or That meathead. Other times, he tears into Ryuga like father would into his rebellious son and has actually called him his wayward lamb in the movie Heisei Generations Final. He tries not to feel anything, which usually comes to bite him and Ryuga just feels too much at once, so it naturally ends badly if they are truly mad at each other.
- Luke Cage (2016): After Luke tracks down Chico as a favor for Pop, and brings him back to the barbershop, Pop is furious with Chico...and hugs him a second later. He can't help but smile in relief as he chastises him.
- In Misfits, once the team has learned that Nathan is still alive and actually immortal after getting impaled on a fence post and being buried in the local cemetery for the past few weeks, Kelly immediately flies into a rage and starts hitting him.
- Ziva and Tony on NCIS have a tendency to yell at each other and get really annoyed when they were worried about the other person. They'll both deny it's worry, though.
- Also Diane, the mutual ex-wife of Gibbs and Fornell. After her third (and current) husband is rescued, she goes off on him for being reckless. Knowing that this trope was in effect, he calms her down by telling her he's okay. She immediately breaks down and embraces him - much to the shock of Gibbs and Fornell, who have never seen that side of her.
- In the first episode of season 3 of Sherlock, the titular character reveals himself to be alive after a 2-year absence. John proceeds to punch, strangle, and headbutt him after each attempt at an explanation. The creators of the show agreed that this is a far more natural reaction than that of Watson in the book (he faints).
- Star Trek: The Original Series: Kirk and Spock are all over this one. In the episode "The Apple", Spock takes a poisoned dart for Kirk. Upon Spock's waking up, Kirk berates him for putting himself in danger, then afterwards adds "but thanks." This would be a Crowning Moment Of Ho Yay for any other couple, but for Kirk and Spock, for whom the original Slash Fic was written, this sort of Ho Yay is just par for the course.
- Dean Winchester of Supernatural is the poster boy for this trope. His brother, his father figure, his best friend—if they put themselves in danger, they can expect to get snarled and yelled at.
- Uchuu Sentai Kyuranger: Stinger/Sasori Orange shuns Kotaro/Koguma Sky Blue after he joins the team and generally acts meaner around him than usual. Kotaro is put off by this because the former's earlier actions made it look like he has a soft spot for Kotaro. Later events reveal that Stinger was worried about him because of his reckless behavior that reminded Stinger of his older brother, Scorpio, who got drunk on power and things just went downhill from there.
- On White Collar, this is Peter's reaction every time Neal does something heedless... so it happens every episode.
- In Terrahawks, the episode "Mind Monster" ends with Tiger trapping the eponymous monster by allowing it to invade his brain and then having it wiped out, risking permanent brain damage in the process. Mary has a few choice words for him on the subject:
Mary: Tiger...what you did was a marvelous, brave, foolhardy, pigheaded, stupid thing to do!
- Into the Woods: Most of Jack's interactions with his Mother are a cross between this and My Beloved Smother. Less so in the Movie.
- In Dynasty Warriors 5, if you're fighting on the side of Wei and your character takes a beating, Cao Cao will berate you, all the while sounding concerned for your well being.
Cao Cao: Are you trying to kill yourself!? Fall back!
- In Super Robot Wars Original Generation, Arado covered Seolla from fire and almost died for it. Seolla then angrily chews out Arado.
Seolla: Do you know much I am worried!?Arado: ...As big as your breasts, maybe?
- Cue to a slap and more chewing from Seolla. But shortly after she expresses that she is thankful for the cover.
- In the end to Star Ocean: The Last Hope, the party is forced to leave Edge behind in the collapsing dungeon because he was slowed down trying to help Faize. When Edge walks back into the ship after escaping by other means, Reimi immediately slaps him (again), then falls into his arms crying in relief.
- In Mega Man Zero 3, Ciel pulls something similar. After Zero leaps onto a launching missile in an attempt to stop it from destroying innocent lives (he fails to stop the missile, though), she tells him to promise that he'll never do anything like that again. His response? "I'll think about it." Considering what happens to him in the next game, he never learns. Also consider that, technically, Ciel is Zero's superior, and that both times he's acted against her orders...
- In Baldur's Gate II, one event that shows up if you try to romance Jaheira is for the party to be ambushed by bandits who take her hostage to rob you. If the protagonist tries to exchange himself with her as a hostage, you'll get arrowed for half your current hit points, Jaheira fights free, and this trope will get evoked once the bandits are dead.
- Final Fantasy IX: Zidane has opted to stay behind and rescue his brother Kuja, and, after a year, was presumed dead. Cue this touching ending.
- In Grandia, Justin must go through one of two magical portals. The right one will let him put an end to the deadly, acidic rain that's harming the locals, while the wrong one will kill him outright. When he doesn't immediately come back out, Feena (who chose the portal) begins to panic. He only shows up again as they're leaving the collapsing dungeon, and Feena responds as expected.
- In the True Ending for BlazBlue: Calamity Trigger, Noel Vermillion manages to save Ragna the Bloodedge from a long fall into the Cauldron and a horrible fate as the Black Beast. As soon as she manages to haul him out of the Cauldron, she begins screaming at Ragna about how scared she was that he was going to die, repeatedly calling him stupid and punching his chest. It actually manages to get through the stoic attitude he tries to wear fairly quickly.
- Noel does it again in the True Ending of Continuum Shift after Ragna frees her from Terumi's brainwashing and loses his arm in the process.
- In Solatorobo, after Red takes on Nero and Blanck for the first time, he barely escapes with his life. Once he wakes up and everyone is sure he's okay, Elh socks him a few times for being such an idiot. Then they comment on how it's good to see each other again after several months.
- Yang's ending in Street Fighter III Third Strike has his childhood friend Shaomei mentioning the trope to him when him and Yun come back home and her older sister Houmei gets pissed at them.
Shaomei: My sister can be so clumsy... She has been worried. She just has a hard time showing her relief. You know, she didn't eat a thing while you were gone.
- In the Mass Effect 3 DLC "Leviathan", if you brought Shepard's love interest along as a squadmate to 2181 Desponia, they will chide Shepard with this after he/she surfaces after meeting the titular Leviathan and is barely conscious.
- Elara Dorne, the Republic Trooper's Combat Medic companion in Star Wars: The Old Republic, will often angrily berate you for not standing still while she is trying to heal you—especially if you are in a relationship with her.
- Similarly, soldiers equipped with medpacks in XCOM: Enemy Unknown will angrily scoff at lower-ranked teammates while restoring their health.
- Resonance of Fate: After saving Zephyr from being killed by Lagerfeld, Leanne slaps him upside the head and angrily berates him for his death wish... only to collapse and tearfully beg him to at least "die with courage."
- In Sands of Destruction, after the Front travels to the Temple of Light to visit the Crimson Sun and ask him to bring Kyrie back from death, Morte is at first overjoyed to see Kyrie, but soon switches to screaming at him. She even punches him, much to the amusement of their teammates.
Morte: Did I ask you to die for me!?
- In Persona 3, if you're playing as a female protagonist, later on in Yukari's Social Link, you can protect her from getting hit by a car, at which point she'll become quite angry about you risking yourself for her. She later calms down and admits that she's starting to realize why it was so hard for her mother to lose someone important to her.
- Persona 4:
- Early on, the protagonist and Yosuke get stuck inside a dungeon, leaving Chie panicked and wondering what happened to the two. When they return several hours later, she's holding back tears and angrily ranting about how much they suck before storming off.
- Later on in the game, after Naoto allows herself to be kidnapped in order to set a trap for the culprit, Kanji's the angriest with her, pointing out how reckless it was. The fact that he has an apparent crush on Naoto may influence this.
- In Kanji's third Social Link event, he invites the protagonist to his house, only to learn that his mother went to the hospital. Once the two of the two of you get there, Kanji learns that his mother actually took a young boy who was injured, and is infuriated at the misunderstanding, but is embarrassed about how he overreacted once he calms down.
- In Naoto's eighth Social Link event, the two of you encounter a man with what looks like a knife, and you can choose whether to protect Naoto, flee together or fight the man. Naoto knows that the "knife" isn't real, but says that if it was, you might have been in danger if you'd offered yourself as a shield.
- When Teddie returns to the group after a long absence shortly after the group discovers that Adachi is the killer, Rise pulls this off, hugging him and crying while chewing him out for disappearing:
Rise: You idiot! Bad bear! Bad! You're so late! Who do you think you are?!
- Persona 5:
- Ryuji gives the Phantom Thieves quite a scare after his apparent death in Shido's Palace. When he did return, what follows is a beatdown from the female party members for causing them to cry over his apparent death, and were so furious that he was teasing them for crying that they leave Ryuji slumped unconscious against a lamp post.
- Not five minutes later, Joker and Futaba arrive back at Leblanc to find the place trashed, Sojiro missing, and a news report suggesting he has been killed. Futaba starts crying again, and when Sojiro strolls through the front door as though nothing had happened, she chews him out, though not quite as harshly.
Futaba: You're just the same as Ryuji!
- When Sojiro finds the calling card that had been given to Futaba by the Phantom Thieves in Futaba's room, he grills her and Joker about it to the point that Futaba starts crying from stress. Sojiro does calm down, but only after seeing how upset Futaba is and Joker sticking up for her.
- Fire Emblem Fates: The A-ranked support conversation between Midori and Kiragi has the latter retrieving a rare flower for the former (a possible call back to Fire Emblem Awakening which had Morgan do the same for Nah). The flower only grows over dormant volcanoes, which are nevertheless covered with poisonous gas. Naturally, Midori tears into Kiragi for risking his life for her.
- Dorian, in Dragon Age: Inquisition, will unleash this on an Inquisitor who has either romanced him or maxed out their friendship, after the latter returns from falling physically into the Fade. At first the anger is completely bewildering, as he's throwing a tantrum about books, but then he explains what's really got him upset - he almost lost one of the only people in the world he truly loves, and it shook him to his core.
- In Xenoblade, when Sharla rescues her younger brother Juju from the Mechon after he got caught by them trying to get back to Colony 6, she first slaps him before embracing him.
- Kingdom Hearts II: At one point in the game, Goofy gets bashed in the head by a rock and apparently killed. One battle with Heartless later, Goofy turns up alive and well, having just been knocked out. Donald's response is to whack Goofy in the kneecap with his staff.
Donald: Don't you ever do that again!
- Warframe: If the Grustrag Three show up in the middle of a mission, the Lotus will uncharacteristically freak out and order you to abort the mission and get out of there. If you succeed in fighting them off anyways, she'll somewhat reservedly praise your skill, and then tell you to follow orders next time.
- At the start of The Legend of Heroes: Trails of Cold Steel II, Rean gets angry at Celine for choosing flight over staying at Trista in the previous game because he ended up separating from his friends to save him from the Big Bad of the previous game. He also ends up being angry at his students in Cold Steel III when they decided to follow him unannounced while he was doing his military duties for the empire, especially since this is only their first month in his class.
- In Resident Evil 2 (Remake), Marvin is far more harsh and stern with Leon in their final encounter, as Marvin knows he is badly wounded and will succumb to the zombie infection soon, despite Leon's attempts to bring him to a hospital. Marvin even pointed a gun at Leon to make him leave but it's clear that he did so as he was more concerned about Leon's safety.
- Saber from Fate/stay night has this reaction whenever Shirou puts himself in danger. Makes a lot of sense, since she is essentially his bodyguard and he's less than cooperative with her efforts to protect him.
- Rin goes so far as to attack Shirou, out anger that he could be so thoughtless about the dangers of the Grail War that his ability to survive it worries her, which feeds back into anger about her worry about him. Though many of her attacks are lethal, the one that gets him actually protects his life by removing his Servant and his memory about the War.
- In his route of In Your Arms Tonight, Ginnosuke Oguri warns the protagonist to be wary of Ai Yashima. When her failure to follow his advice gets her drugged and almost raped, Ginnosuke quickly comes to her rescue - and once she's safe, he slaps her across the face and berates her for not paying attention to his warnings.
- Tyrna spends a lot of Sword Daughter in various forms of danger, and Gavin spends a lot of his time yelling at her about it, contributing significantly to their general dynamic of Belligerent Sexual Tension.
- If the player makes Wildfire choose her man over her best friend in War: 13th Day, she will berate Chase for not defending himself against Brooks's attack.4
- In Zero Time Dilemma, Akane constantly implores Junpei to be more compassionate (as he will unhesitatingly murder others to preserve their own lives). Then Junpei makes a Heroic Sacrifice that involves his body dying and his consciousness shifting over to another timeline. Akane tearfully explains to him that that was not what she meant.
Akane: Being the sole survivor does not make me happy!
- The Letter: When one of main characters of the novel, Ashton did something reckless and almost got himself killed he can be greeted by his friend Isabella with slap across the face.
- Jake of Magical Border Patrol is often guilty of this, fretting over the safety of his far more rash and far less experienced team mates, Pepper and Sarah.
- In MGT School, an episode had Akira obsessed over a theme. Nana is worried that Akira won't enjoy other themes, so she tells Akira off for it. She apologizes after Akira confronts her about it.
- From Homestuck, Karkat Vantas' fussy anger and caustic snark is a near-perpetual state of being. This is partially due to his ego and anti-social attitude, but in the main because he's constantly worried that his friends (be they Alternian Troll or human) won't get out of Sburb alive, and fears that he's the reason for it. He's not entirely wrong, either.
- Sar'nel of Drowtales is Post Time Skip the officer of a squad with Ariel, Faen, Kau and Shala. He is at almost all times annoyed by Shala, who keeps making mistakes and general screw ups. Faen points out his constant state of annoyance is because he cares about her and the girl just keeps on screwing up.
- El Goonish Shive: The first panel of this strip, in which Mr. Verres expresses his feelings after the kids get back from defeating Damien.
- In Wapsi Square Amanda yelled at Monica for making her worry due to a little basement debacle. Monica in turn was smart enough to realize that this showed how much Amanda cared about her.
- The Inexplicable Adventures of Bob!—This is how Princess Voluptua let slip to Hibachi that she has feelings for him.
- This Girl Genius strip involves the Baron calling out his son for a foolish and risky move, mostly out of concern for his safety.
- In Faux Pas, Penny returns after they feared she'd been eaten to a hug and a scolding.
- In Archipelago Paolin does care lots about Credenza. The symptoms of this are yelling, Sand In My Eyes, refusal of a Cooldown Hug (denied) and
Paolin: That's it! You're grounded! Everyone's grounded!
- In Kevin & Kell, Leona's upset over Frank's bid to take over HerdThinners.
- Stand Still, Stay Silent: Reynir realizing that he needs to go somewhere that is just off the path that his group is travelling on results in him running away from everyone else without any kind of prior explanation. When Mikkel and Sigrun catch up with him, their first reaction is to take turns yelling at Reynir and claiming he almost gave the other a heart attack.
Sigriður: My perfect, sweet little STUPID IDIOT CHILD!
- Reynir's mother has a similar reaction when they are re-united.
- In Carmilla, this is Danny's reaction to a lot of what Laura does, particularly when she learns Laura's untied Carmilla. This is also what leads to their unofficial breakup, since Laura doesn't want anyone worrying about her. It didn't help that the reaction was rather unfair to Laura, especially since she didn't untie Carmilla. Carmilla's adoptive brother did, and Carmilla punched him out when he tried to kill Laura, proving that she's not quite as bad as everyone (Danny in particular) thinks.
- Justice League Unlimited (2004):
[after Flash narrowly survives a death-defying fall]Hawkgirl: [shouting] Don't you ever scare me like that again! [stalks off]The Flash: [to Fire] She loves me. She's like the big sister I never had. Only, you know, short.
- Another example:
Big Barda: "Scott! I thought you were dead! ... You insufferable showboat! I thought you were dead!"
- In that same episode, we have this exchange between Barda and Scott's assistant Oberon:
Barda: Always were more trouble than you were worth, little man.
Oberon: All legs and no heart.
Barda(smiling warmly): You're just too far away to hear it. (kneels down and hugs Oberon)
- Another example:
- Rocko's Modern Life: At the end of "Put Out to Pasture", Heffer comes out of his Pasture Puffies-induced coma, and all his friends and neighbors are glad he's alive... which quickly turns to them getting angry and leaving in a huff over the scare.
- The Secret Saturdays:
Drew: [angrily] Do you have any idea how DANGEROUS that was?!Zak: [a little bewildered] Mom... you taught me that move!Drew: [calming to look sheepish] I know... I'm... just so proud you nailed it.
- The Spectacular Spider-Man: Peter has to sneak off to fight the Sinister Six as Spider-Man, and Gwen thinks he has been crushed by the giant tree in Times Square. When he shows himself again, complete with lame excuse, she throws her arms around him and exclaims "PETE!" Then she starts with the "Where have you been, I thought you were dead!"
- Then there's Sally Avril, who, despite strongly disliking Peter, is genuinely horrified when she thinks he's been killed in the episode "Probable Cause". She does hug him when he reappears—then demands, "Wait! How come you're still alive?!", and then punches him, saying, "Do you know what you put me through?" Peter, taken aback, says that he didn't know she cared. Sally says that she doesn't, but she didn't want him blown to bits either—she's not a monster. Then she tells him that if he told anyone that she'd hugged him, he'd wish that he'd died.
- In the SWAT Kats episode "Mutation City", when it's revealed T-Bone can't swim (and the city happens to be flooded), Razor has to rescue him from the rising water-levels. His reaction;
Razor: If you drown, I'm gonna kill ya!!
- Spongebob Squarepants: Mr. Krabs does this during the episode "Hooky", when he believes Spongebob and Patrick were caught on hooks and fished.
Mr. Krabs: I wasn't quick enough.. They're gone! Oh, if I could only hold 'em in me arms again... I.. I'd.. (Spongebob and Patrick float safely back down) I'D THROTTLE 'EM!
- In the Courage the Cowardly Dog episode "The Lady in the Puddle", after Courage saves Eustace from being seduced and eaten by the eponymous Lady, Muriel goes from distraught to relieved, then to clocking Eustace with the usual rolling pin and angrily asking "Where have you been?!"
- In DuckTales (1987), "Hero for Hire", Scrooge's joy that Launchpad was only Faking the Dead soon becomes rage.
Scrooge: Launchpad, you're alive! I'm going to kill you!
- Kaeloo: In Episode 100, Kaeloo voluntarily gets put in a Lotus-Eater Machine which she never wants to leave. When her friends decide to get her to stop, they find out that she has undergone Sanity Slippage. Mr. Cat starts angrily screaming at her to stop using the machine because he's worried for her safety.
- An example of this occurred with a British teenager travelling in Australia. He went out for a trek alone without a mobile phone or supplies and got lost. He survived two weeks in the wild. His dad, on hearing the news, said he felt partly, "Yay! My son is alive and well!" and partly, "OMG! What a fucking idiot! I am going to kick his arse!".
- An Australian man who went on a trip to one of Australia's Nature Parks and got lost for five days. He was drinking from river and eating eucalyptus leaves (those things are not nutritious enough even to Koalas and they eat nothing else). His wife has reacted to it by saying I am gonna hug and then slap him. It's probable that her actual response would have to be heavily censored by the newspaper so they wrote this instead.