Line #60 WesternAnimation/MaryAndMax


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2	[[caption-width-right:325:[[TagLine Sometimes perfect strangers make the best friends.]]]]
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4	->''"God gave us relatives... Thank god we can choose our friends"''
5	-->--'''Ethel Mumford''' ''(quote at the end of the film)''
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7	''Mary and Max'' is a 2009 Australian [[StopMotion clay-animated]] {{Black\|Comedy}} [[{{Dramedy}} Comedy-Drama]] written and directed by Adam Elliot, the Oscar winning director of the short film ''WesternAnimation/HarvieKrumpet''.
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9	Set in the 1970-90s, ''Mary and Max'' tells the story of a friendship between two unlikely pen pals: Mary Daisy Dinkle (Bethany Whitmore as young Mary, Creator/ToniCollette as older Mary), a lonely 8-year-old girl living in the suburbs of Melbourne, Australia, and Max Jerry Horowitz (Creator/PhilipSeymourHoffman), a 44-year old man with UsefulNotes/AspergerSyndrome living in New York City. The movie follows the story of their life and friendship over the course of Mary's childhood and adulthood. What appears to start out as a solely [[BlackComedy blackly humourous story]] soon turns into something quite dark and [[TearJerker often very depressing]], dealing with many bleak topics: [[AbusiveParents parental neglect]], insecurity, bullying, and even suicide.
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12	!!Tropes:
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14	* AbhorrentAdmirer: Marjorie Butterworth to Max. Max assumes the distress she causes him is because he doesn't understand love or courtship; he doesn't appear to grasp that he's actually being ''sexually harrassed''.
15	* AbusiveParents: Mary's are mostly neglectful and preoccupied, though her mother also calls her fat and ugly, telling her that she's "growing up to be a heifer". She even told her at one point "she was an accident". In a subversion, outside of those things, they do seem to love her.
16	* AccidentalSuicide: [[spoiler:Vera, who is depressed about her husband's death, [[DrowningMySorrows grabs what she thinks is some Sherry wine]]. It is actually embalming fluid, and she dies shortly afterwards.]]
17	* TheAlcoholic: Mary's mother, who is in denial about it.
18	** Mary herself seems to at one point become a alcoholic or at the least a borderline one.
19	%%* AnachronismStew
20	* {{Angrish}}: Max devolves into this [[spoiler: after receiving Mary's book]] - he doesn't even bother with coherent sentences in the first draft of his letter, instead opting to simply list the emotions he was feeling as he felt them.
21	* ArtisticLicenseHistory: Max is diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome in 1980 (based on the fact that he writes Mary four years after the film's beginning in 1976 and informs her of his recent diagnosis). While AS was known about back then, it didn't become a distinct diagnosis until 1992, so it's highly unlikely that Max would have been diagnosed.
22	* BabiesEverAfter: In the end, Mary has a baby while visiting Max in New York. [[spoiler: Unaware that Max died earlier in the morning.]]
23	* BerserkButton:
24	** Max feels ''very'' strongly about littering, confuzzled by the fact that people break the law so unthinkingly.
25	** He also doesn't like it when people talk about "curing" his Asperger's. This is [[TruthInTelevision a very good way to irritate people with Asperger's in real life too]].
26	* BeYourself: Probably the biggest moral in the movie.
27	* BigApplesauce: Where Max lives.
28	* BigEater: Max. When he [[spoiler:wins the New York Lottery]], he uses some of his money to buy a lifetime supply of chocolate.
29	* BirthDeathJuxtaposition: [[spoiler:Mary and her baby arrive to visit Max just after he died.]]
30	* BittersweetEnding: [[spoiler:Max forgives Mary and she comes to visit him for the first time with her newborn baby... only to find that he passed away, albeit peacefully, on the very morning that she arrives.]] And then [[spoiler:Mary looks ''up'' to see that Max has laminated all of her letters and attached them to the ceiling in his home. In his final moments of life, Max gazed at the ceiling smiling. Dying peacefully and happy in the end]].
31	* BlackComedy: Used to either to add levity to an otherwise dark film or to reinforce the mood.
32	** Perhaps the most extreme one was in an (spoofed) deleted scene on the DVD, where the ending has Mary [[spoiler:finding Max's body on the couch as in the real ending -- except this time, his pets are tearing it apart, as per her thoughts during Max's breakdown]].
33	** Max has named his snails after famous scientists. The snail with a cracked shell (or the disabled one) is named [[Creator/StephenHawking Hawking.]]
34	** The other gag was after Len [[spoiler:had saved the day -- instead of crossing the street and narrowly avoiding the car, it instead hits and flings him offscreen]].
35	** The air conditioner falling on the mime.
36	** Every time the narrator gets the chance to introduce a foreign concept to Max, he compares it to Max's weight.
37	* BlindWithoutEm: Ivy, Max's neighbor. Then again, from what's implied, she can't see with them either.
38	* BrainyBrunette: Mary fits the trope well, although her hair is closer to black.
39	* BookEnds: Max stargazes near the start and end of the film, both times after having sent a letter off to Mary.
40	* BreadEggsMilkSquick: Max unintentionally does this in his letters.
41	-->'''Max:''' Do you have a pet kangaroo? When I was born, my father left my mother and me on a kibbutz. She shot herself with my uncle's gun when I was 6. Do you like chocolate hot dogs?
42	* BrutalHonesty: Max, occasionally, [[spoiler:as a symptom of his Asperger's]].
43	-->'''Max:''' I cannot understand how being honest can be... improper? Maybe this is why I don't have any friends.
44	* CannotTellAJoke: Max. It's partially because of his autism
45	* ChekhovsGunman:
46	** Damien's pen pal from New Zealand, [[spoiler:who he ends up leaving Mary for]].
47	** Mary's disabled neighbour, who overcomes his agoraphobia just in time to [[spoiler: save her from killing herself]].
48	* ChildrenAreInnocent: Mostly averted, as Mary's mother "borrows" things from the store, but Mary realizes that something about it is off.
49	* CoveredInKisses: Marjorie Butterworth does this to Max in her first scene with him.
50	* CrazyEnoughToWork: Max's suggestion that Mary tell a bully that [[spoiler: her birthmark is made of chocolate, which means she'd be in charge of chocolate when she got to heaven, and she would make sure that he didn't get any]]. This made the bully ''cry''.
51	* DelayedDiagnosis: Max is diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome as an adult in his 40's.
52	* DeliberatelyMonochrome: Scenes that follow Max in New York City are black and white while scenes that follow Mary in Australia are sepia-tone, with both having an occasional {{splash of color}}. Interestingly, once Mary comes to visit Max, she's still sepia-toned when everything around her is black and white, and their exchanged gifts retain their origin's coloration.
53	* DespairEventHorizon: [[spoiler:Max cuts off contact with Mary after the latter publishes a book about Asperger's syndrome with him as the subject, primarily because she'd expressed a desire to ''cure'' it when he'd explicitly stated in one of his letters that he saw nothing that needed "fixing".]] Mary becomes incredibly depressed and then [[spoiler:Damien leaves her for his pen-pal friend]]. Later, we see [[spoiler:Mary trying to hang herself]].
54	* DisappearedDad: Max's father, who left his wife and son on a kibbutz, and is otherwise never mentioned again.
55	* DitzyGenius: Max, to a T. He's capable of speed-reading two pages at once, has an amateur but clearly sophisticated understanding of mathematics and physics, and is generally a very skilled autodidact. However, because of his poor social skills and other quirks, people (especially Dr. Bernard Hazelhof) tend to assume he's stupid. [[spoiler:This includes the use of an extremely unflattering word in a local newspaper article about his institutionalization. ]] Most clearly demonstrated when Mary asks him for advice about love. Max wishes she'd asked about ''chaos theory'' instead.
56	* DoctorJerk: Played with for Doctor Bernard Hazelhof: Max's psychologist. He seems to insult Max a few times, over his low intelligence, and calls his dreams of owning the Nobblets and chocolate stupid. However, he does help Max through his problems and encourages his friendship with Mary, saying that it is beneficial to him. And after Max feels betrayed, he helps to convince him that no-one is perfect, and friends can sometimes say bad things or stuff out of ignorance, but you should forgive them if you really are their friend. He also tries to promote a healthier lifestyle to Max.
57	* DrivenToSuicide:
58	** [[spoiler:Mary. Almost. She would have succeeded had Len not knocked on the door at the very last possible second.]]
59	** Max's mother would be a straighter example, since she is said to have shot herself when Max was six years old.
60	** Possibly Mary's mother, it's unclear whether she realized that bottle was embalming fluid rather than sherry.
61	* ElectroconvulsiveTherapyIsTorture: One scene shows Max, who has Asperger's Syndrome in the 1980s, at a mental institution receiving some clearly painful electroshock therapy.
62	* EveryoneHasStandards: Vera is a neglectful drunk, but her horror upon seeing a 44-year-old man write to her 8-year-old daughter, regardless that Max meant no malicious intent, is ''very'' understandable.
63	* EveryoneHatesMimes: Except for someone with a mental disorder, apparently.
64	* EyesAlwaysShut: Ivy, on account of her blindness. Except for [[spoiler:when Max gave her the rest of his lottery winnings, which elicited an EyePop]].
65	* FingerInTheMail: Parodied. It's a key from Max's typewriter.
66	* {{Foreshadowing}}:
67	** The narrator explains that Max would iron, laminate, then store all of Mary's letters in a special place, which is revealed at the end of the movie - [[spoiler: Max's gaze upward while ironing hints toward where he put her letters, along with the placement of his Life Goals list earlier in the movie.]]
68	** The subject of [[spoiler:Damian's sexuality is foreshadowed as well -- he wanted to be in theater, he wore a shirt that advertised him as a fan of Boy George, he made Mary's wedding dress, they honeymooned at Mykonos, and the aforementioned ambiguous attitude towards his and Mary's consummating their marriage]].
69	* FreezeFrameBonus: When [[spoiler:Ivy dies]], a tombstone nearby has the director's name on it.
70	* FriendshipTrinket: One of Mary's first gifts to Max was a little red pom-pom she'd made, which he puts on top of his yarmulke for the rest of the film [[spoiler: except for when he and Mary have their falling out when she graduates from college]].
71	* GoOutWithASmile: [[spoiler: Max is found dead staring at the ceiling filled with the letters Mary sent to him, with a content smile in his face]].
72	* GraveHumor: On the headstone for Mary's grandfather; "Born in a barn in the hills of Baronia/ lived a full life, then died of pneumonia." [[spoiler: Later, similarly appropriate quips are written on those of her parents.]]
73	* HappierTimesMontage: One plays in the background as Mary prepares to [[spoiler: commit suicide]].
74	* HeroicBSOD: Max and Mary each have one.
75	* IdeaBulb: Both characters get this when they come up with an idea to help the other out.
76	* IJustWantToHaveFriends: Both of the main characters.
77	* ImaginaryFriend: Max has one, "Mr. Ravioli", who quietly sits in the corner reading books since Max's psychologist said it wasn't healthy. [[spoiler: His eventual departure from Max's apartment is what kickstarts his first reconciliation with Mary.]]
78	* ImagineSpot: Mary has several, such as a baby struggling to get out of a cola can and pondering if Max hasn't written her back in a while because he was killed by his pets.
79	* InherentlyFunnyWords: Max asks Mary what she thinks of the word "Kumquat" before detailing his other favorites.
80	-->'''Max:''' My top-five are "ointment," "bumblebee," "Vladivostok," "banana," and "testicle."
81	* InnocentlyInsensitive:
82	** Max apparently has a tendency to unintentionally offend others due to his Asperger's.
83	** Mary accidentally pisses off Max when she tries to "cure" his Asperger's Syndrome.
84	* InsistentTerminology: Max tends to lapse into this when addressing people (e.g. Mary Daisy Dinkle, Doctor Bernard Hazelhof), though only refers to himself by his full name once. TruthInTelevision: People with Asperger's Syndrome tend to state things using the most precise terms possible, out of fear that they won't communicate their point properly otherwise.
85	* TheInsomniac: Max becomes this whenever his life is thrown into disarray.
86	* IntergenerationalFriendship: The very premise of the film is about a young girl becoming pen pals with a 44-year-old man.
87	* InterruptedSuicide: [[spoiler: Mary nearly commits suicide, but is stopped by Len.]]
88	* ItsAllJunk: After her DespairEventHorizon, Mary has her book pulped before publication, even though it would have made her a famous psychologist.
89	* JerkassHasAPoint: While Mary's mother isn't exactly a shining beacon of parenthood, she isn't exactly wrong to object to the idea of her eight-year-old daughter being pen pals with a strange 44-year-old man, especially with the two exchanging pictures.
90	* LadyDrunk: Mary's mother Vera enjoys "tasting" the cooking sherry.
91	* LaserGuidedKarma: Mary's years of kindness towards Len, her disabled neighbor with a fear of going outside, pays off just in time. Len makes sure Mary's package from Max gets to her by actually going outside at her door, just like how she would get him his mail as a kid. This act alone stops Mary from [[spoiler:committing suicide, killing both herself and her unborn child]].
92	* LiteralMinded: Max. He even lampshades this trait of his.
93	* {{Malaproper}}: Mary, to humorous effect -- though only when she's a child. She knows her neighbor is afraid of the outdoors, but thinks it's called "homophobia".
94	* MamaBear: For as much of a drunken lout as she is, Mary's mother does show ''some'' parental instinct by not wanting her daughter to be receiving mail from a strange grown man from the other side of the world. Max was obviously no threat to Mary, but you can't really blame her mom for reacting the way she did when she saw Max's first letter and threw it in the trash.
95	* ManChild: Max somewhat as he can have a rather childish view of the world (for instance, he passed his time as a garbage collector by pretending to be a robot). Justified though in that not only does he have to deal with having a mental disability but he's had to pretty much take care of himself since he was six years old.
96	* MissedHimByThatMuch: [[spoiler:Max passes away the very morning before Mary was finally about to meet him.]]
97	* MistakenForInsane: Max pretends to be a robot while he's picking up trash. A nearby woman clearly assumes he is crazy and calls 911.
98	* MoodWhiplash: It bounces back and forth between sad, upbeat, funny and disturbing throughout the entire movie.
99	%% * MoodDissonance: "Que sera, sera".
100	* MundaneMadeAwesome: [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rmviZ04mqc0 The definitive using-a-typewriter scene, people.]]
101	* MythologyGag: There are some references to Adam Elliot's short film ''WesternAnimation/HarvieKrumpet''.
102	** Max's air conditioner that kills a mime is labeled "Krumpet".
103	** When Max was a child, he wore a book titled "faces" around his neck to help him understand facial cues, which is similar to the book of "fakts" Harvey carried with him when he was a child.
104	* {{Narrator}}: The film is narrated by Creator/BarryHumphries.
105	* NationalGeographicNudity: Max likes to read ''Magazine/NationalGeographic'', but the nude pictorials in it don't faze him in the slightest, since he's asexual.
106	* {{Neologism}}: Max indulges in this heavily, detailing three examples in a letter to Mary. "Confuzzled" meaning confused/puzzled, "Snirt" for a snow/dirt mix, and "Smushables" - groceries that were smushed at the bottom of the bag.
107	%% * NerdGlasses: Mary has them.
108	* NervousWreck: Max becomes one anytime his life is "disrupted". This meant that Mary's first letter resulted in him rocking in a corner before staring out the window in thought for 18 hours, and [[spoiler: her letter asking him about sex sent him to a mental ward for almost a year]].
109	* NoJustNoReaction: Vera's response to seeing a letter from a 44-year-old man addressed to her daughter.
110	* NoSocialSkills: Both of the title characters aren't very socially competent, but Max especially.
111	* NonStandardCharacterDesign: In contrast to the other characters' {{Gonk}}-ish, bug-eyed looks as per Adam Elliot's style, Mary has a notably cuter appearance with BlackBeadEyes.
112	* ObliviousToLove: Max. It's partially because of his Aspergers but also because he has zero interest in it in general.
113	* OddFriendship: The plot of the whole movie.
114	* OneWomanWail: When Vera finds Max's first letter.
115	* OnlyFriend: Mary for Max.
116	-->'''Max:''' You are my best friend. You are my ''only'' friend.
117	* ParentalAbandonment: Max's folks. His father left him and his mother when he was four and his mother shot herself when he was six.
118	* ParentalNeglect: Mary' parents are guilty of this, with her father spending his homelife by stuffing dead birds and her mother by "tasting tea" (a.k.a. drinking sherry).
119	* PenPals: Mary discovers Max' name in a phone book and decides to write to him, leading to a friendship through correspondence that endures for several decades.
120	* PlumbersCrack: Max sports one when sitting down at the typewriter.
121	* PunnyName: Many of the minor characters, eg. Max's dentist.
122	* RageBreakingPoint: Max explodes when he sees a homeless person littering after picking up cigarette butts throughout the film (his personal BerserkButton).
123	* ReadyForLovemaking: Mary does this after marrying Damien. [[spoiler:His ambivalent reaction is the first clue that he's not exactly straight.]]
124	* RealIsBrown: For the scenes in Australia.
125	* RedScare: Max lost his job in the Army because he had been a Communist at one point.
126	* ReplacementGoldfish: Literally. Several, in fact. Moments after we are introduced to Henry the Eighth, we are informed that there have been seven Henrys before him. We see the demise of future Henrys throughout the film.
127	* RhythmTypewriter: [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rmviZ04mqc0 Max on his typewriter.]]
128	* RippedFromThePhoneBook: How Mary got Max's address; she just picked a random name from the listings at the post office.
129	* RunningGag:
130	** Every so often, one of the Henrys gets flushed (or blended, or flops out the window, or into a toaster).
131	** And whenever Len makes an attempt to conquer his agoraphobia, something happens that makes it ''entirely'' justified.
132	* SameClothesDifferentYear: Max's wardrobe is a justified case, as he has 8 identical vinyl tracksuits.
133	* ShoutOut:
134	** One to ''WesternAnimation/ACharlieBrownChristmas'' (the doctor is "in").
135	** Another to Oliver Sacks; Mary is seen reading his book ''The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat''.
136	** Another to Creator/AudreyHepburn in ''Film/BreakfastAtTiffanys''.
137	** At one point, Max wears a shirt saying "Aspies for Freedom", which is the name of a real Asperger's rights organization.
138	** A boy on the bus-stop bench is wearing a "[[Film/FerrisBuellersDayOff Save Ferris]]" t-shirt.
139	** The fast, musical typewriting scene [[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ozd6W1wyzo echoes Jerry Lewis]] in ''Who's Minding the Store?''.
140	** ''The Nobblets'' seem to be a parody of ''Franchise/TheSmurfs''
141	* SkewedPriorities: PlayedForLaughs during Max's letter [[spoiler:post-breakdown]].
142	-->'''Max:''' P.P.S. -- Not much has happened since I last wrote, except [[spoiler:for my manslaughter charges, lotto win, and Ivy's death]].
143	* SoundtrackDissonance:
144	** Que Sera Sera, covered by Portland based Music/PinkMartini. You will ''never'' hear the song in the same way.
145	** "A Swingin' Safari", a jaunty instrumental tune by Bert Kaempfert plays during the credits after [[spoiler:a rather somber BittersweetEnding where Max is found dead by Mary when she finally visits him]].
146	* SpinningPaper
147	* StealthPun: As young Mary watches the Noblets, she curls up with Ethel, a rooster. [[DontExplainTheJoke Or cock.]]
148	* StronglyWordedLetter: Writing them is a pastime of Max's.
149	* StrongFamilyResemblance: [[spoiler:Mary's baby has Damian's ears and Mary's birthmark]].
150	* SuperFlyReflexes: Max has them, surprisingly, which he then puts into a glass bottle labelled "Henry's Flies".
151	* ThemeNaming: Max has 3 snails named after famous scientists -- Einstein, Edison, and one with a cracked shell named Hawking.
152	* ThereIsNoKillLikeOverkill: [[spoiler:Mary tries to commit suicide by swallowing pills and hanging herself at the same time.]]
153	* TimeshiftedActor: Bethany Whitmore plays Mary as a child. Toni Collette plays her as an adult.
154	* TimeSkip: Takes place after Max and Mary first rekindle their friendship.
155	* TooDumbToLive: Lots of unwise decisions get made, but none worse than that of the mime. If he had time to dig out an umbrella and open it tremblingly, he could've used that time to get out of the way.
156	* TrademarkFavoriteFood: Chocolate, for both of them. Then (after Mary suggests it) Sweetened Condensed Milk straight from the can is added to Max's favorites. Chocolate hotdogs ([[ShapedLikeItself a candy-bar in a hot-dog bun]]) is definitively Max's, though.
157	* TheUnsmile: Max's attempt to display "happiness" freaks out the hobo in front of his building [[spoiler:though partially because Max had recently attacked him for littering]].
158	* VeryLooselyBasedOnATrueStory: The only thing true part of this film is the 20+ year friendship between an autistic man and an Australian; based on Adam Elliots actual relationship with his friend. Everything else is made up.
159	* WartsAndAll: Coupled with BeYourself as the main message of the movie, and name-dropped a couple of times by Max (and by extension, Dr. Bernard Hazlehof).
160	* WhaleEgg: When Mary asks Max how babies are made, he says his mother told him that Jewish babies hatch from eggs lain by a rabbi, Christian babies by nuns, and atheists by prostitutes.
161	* WhatHappenedToTheMouse: Max rubs himself with onions in the hopes that it'll repel Marjorie Butterworth. We never find out if it worked or not.
162	* YiddishAsASecondLanguage: "Gey gezunterheyt" ("Go with good health") is Max's send-off to his letters.

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