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1[[quoteright:350:[[ComicStrip/BabyBlues]]]]≤[[caption-width-right:350:[[{{Understatement}} Rhonda doesn't handle her sister's pregnancies well...]]]]≤≤->''"You are asking me to choose between making a house payment and taking care of my sick child, and I do not appreciate it!"''≤-->-- '''Karen Pruitt''', ''Film/HomeAlone3''≤≤Most ''definitely'' an AlwaysFemale trope, as well as TruthInTelevision. Though one can legitimately question whether a man who spends all his time at the office is a 'father' in any but the biological sense.≤≤This one basically boils down to "how ''dare'' a woman be good at her career job '''''[[FalseDichotomy and]]''''' have a family, too!" Usually ends in the woman having to give up her job and be a {{Housewife}} to cater to the demands of her family. Some sort of [[IllGirl Ill Relative]] or DoorstopBaby may force the issue. If she hasn't already gone through CareerVersusMan, she'll go through this one. If a husband is present, asking him to help around the house is out of the question since, you know, [[DoubleStandard his work is more important and he deserves his rest]].≤≤Related to FeminineWomenCanCook, MaternallyChallenged, ChildrenRaiseYou, DotingParent, and WhiteCollarWorker.≤≤Compare MandatoryMotherhood, IWantGrandkids, and MyBiologicalClockIsTicking. Contrast ActionMom, who mostly points and laughs at this. Compare and contrast WhenYouComingHomeDad, a male-leaning counterpart where the balance between career and family tips too far in the direction of "career".≤≤----≤!!Examples:≤≤[[foldercontrol]]≤≤[[folder:Anime & Manga]]≤* ''Manga/YoureMyPet'' is a major deconstruction of this trope, with the main character eventually ending up with someone who tells her it's ''her'' decision whether she wants to keep her career or not (and means it!). She eventually ends up becoming a respected freelance journalist who travels around with her husband the internationally acclaimed dancer.≤* Inverted, or something like that, in a two-episode arc in the second ''VideoGame/SakuraWars'' OAV. The first episode centers around the other girls believing that Sakura is going to get married, which of course unquestionably means that she will [[QuittingToGetMarried quit her job]]. The second episode is Sakura, who is actually just attending a relative's wedding, moping over how she can never get married and have a family herself because she doesn't want to quit her job. The girls remark a few times on how glad they are that this is a "new era for women" where they can choose to have a career or a family (but not both). Well, it ''is'' the [[DeliberateValuesDissonance 1920s]]...≤* In ''Anime/HeartcatchPrettyCure'', Tsubomi's parents were both highly respected botanists who were majors in their field. However, it wasn't until Tsubomi had a major emotional breakdown that they realized by choosing their careers, they were hurting their family. So they quit their jobs, moved to Kibogahana, and opened up a flower shop. They're still both working, just that now they got more time with Tsubomi.≤* This is a major theme in the ''Franchise/LyricalNanoha'' series post-''[[Anime/MagicalGirlLyricalNanohaStrikers StrikerS]]'', as the lead ladies grow out of their Magical ''Girl'' status and become Magical ''Women'', although for the most part this trope is defied, as Nanoha herself and most of her friends manage to combine family life with successful careers. One major example, however, comes up right in the [[Anime/MagicalGirlLyricalNanoha first season]] and forms a huge part of Fate Testarossa's backstory: her single mother Precia focused so much on her career that [[spoiler:she wasn't there to save her ''first'' daughter Alicia when she died]], driving Precia borderline insane with grief and eventually leading to her excessively cruel treatment of Fate, [[spoiler:Precia's cloned ReplacementGoldfish of Alicia]].≤* This becomes an important plot point in ''Manga/TeamMedicalDragon'', where Doctors who has to take early leaves or long breaks in order to take care of their family gets a lot of flak from their colleagues, and this would severely hurt their careers.≤** Dr. Katou swears off marrying and starting a family, because she wants to focus on her goal to reform the highly obstructive medical system in Japan. She used to have a boyfriend, but her dedication to her career prevents her from having any meaningful love life with him, so they break up, and he goes on to marry someone else.≤** Dr. Fujiyoshi, a single dad, has to leave his young daughter in the care of her grandparents because his work takes up most of his time. He briefly considers leaving Meishin to be closer with his girl, but ultimately decides that his skills and talents are more needed in Meishin.≤** Dr. Isaka's husband wants to have a child, but Isaka herself isn't too keen on the idea because she fears the repercussions that she will face from the other women if she takes a maternity leave. ≤** Dr. Beppu, another single dad, has to juggle between taking care of his patients and his sickly son. Choosing one would get him into trouble with the other. ≤[[/folder]]≤≤[[folder:Comic Books]]≤* In issue 30 of the [[UsefulNotes/TheSilverAgeOfComicBooks Silver Age]] ''ComicBook/GreenLantern'' comic, [[GreenSkinnedSpaceBabe Katma Tui]] decides to resign from the Green Lantern Corps to be with fellow Korugarian Imi Kann. Hal Jordan stages a fake monster attack on Korugar to test her loyalty as a Green Lantern. Katma ends up attempting to save Hal instead of her fiance, proving that her career was more important than family.≤* [[ComicBook/FantasticFour Reed Richards]] runs into this now and then. While there is no question that he loves his family, he sometimes has a hard time showing it and tends to get so caught up solving scientific problems that he unintentionally ignores them. The Council of Reeds consists of alternate universe versions of Reed Richards who as a rule have raised themselves to PhysicalGod levels through various means, and take on cosmic-level problems even more routinely than the Fantastic Four. They told the main universe Reed Richards the main difference between them is that adherence to human morality and social connections are holding him back from reaching his full potential. After a brief hesitation, Reed decided to turn away from the Council and return to his family.≤[[/folder]]≤≤[[folder:Comic Strips]]≤* One of the (many) reasons fans hated the ending of ''ComicStrip/ForBetterOrForWorse'' was because Elizabeth gave up an exciting and meaningful job (namely, teaching) to go running back into the arms of her high school boyfriend Anthony to marry and have a baby.≤* The page image comes from ''ComicStrip/BabyBlues'', in which [[ career woman Rhonda feels shafted by her mother]] because she has yet to settle down and have a family, compared to her sister Wanda, who as of this time has three children.≤[[/folder]]≤≤[[folder:Fan Works]]≤* Used in the ''Zootopia'' fan-comic ''Webcomic/IWillSurvive''. Judy gets pregnant by Nick and wants an abortion. One of her reasons is that a baby would be a detriment to her career. She wants to be promoted to lieutenant and realizes that raising a child would delay that by months, if not years.≤* This is how Creator/TeamFourStar interprets Towa's continued villain status in ''VideoGame/DragonBallXenoverse2'', despite that they concluded that she got together with Dumplin at the end of the previous game: while she does love Dumplin and their daughter Puddin, she is still committed to her plan to revive the Dark Demon Realm, regardless of the fact that she'll have to fight Dumplin and Pudding over it.≤* ''FanFic/OriginOfANonHero'' has a RareMaleExample alongside a straight version: All Might warned his protégé that he couldn't balance raising a family with being a Pro Hero. Despite this, Izuku and Ochaco get married, and both attempt to continue their careers. This doesn't go well, resulting in [[spoiler:the pair divorcing, and Ochaco getting slammed by the media for 'breaking his heart']].≤* The ''ComicStrip/ForBetterOrForWorse'' fanfic ''FanFic/TheNewRetcons'' explored Elizabeth and this trope further, with Elizabeth wanting to be defined as more than 'Anthony's wife, Francoise and James's mother', but thinking that she ''has'' to enforce this trope, and is surprised when Anthony suggests getting a job if she doesn't want to be just that. (It's only worse in that she's following in her mother's footsteps. Elly had the same feelings about this trope: hating it yet thinking it's ironclad. It was a contributing factor in her losing her mind.) Therese, meanwhile, admits she's MaternallyChallenged and in the end, would pick her career over her family, giving primary custody of Francoise to Anthony and emigrating to France to further it (though it's agreed she will have Francoise for one month every summer).≤* Justified in ''Fanfic/SonOfTheSannin''. Being a ninja is a high risk occupation, so couples who have children will sometimes have one member start taking lower level missions or retire altogether to ensure that the kids will have at least one parent survive. Whether the husband or wife steps down varies from couple to couple (examples of both show up in the story).≤* Deconstructed in ''Fanfic/ConversationsWithACryptid'' with [[spoiler: All For One]], which is arguably the crux of all their problems as they want to have both. They started a family, only to abandoning them with well-meaning intentions when their criminal activities caught the eyes of many enemies. This abandoment emotionally scarred their spouse and child for years. They attempted to purge all their enemies, leaving many heroes and civilians caught in the crossfire, while also leaving a successor to take over and take the blame of their actions. By the time [[spoiler: All For One]] does reunite with their family, all of Japan is on the verge of falling apart and the heroes are hardly able to control the criminal element which grows wilder without their leader's guidance. It's strongly implied for their family and for Japan that it would have been better if [[spoiler: All For One]] just stuck with one to begin with.≤[[/folder]]≤≤[[folder:Film]]≤* ''Film/BadMoms'': {{Averted}}. In the beginning, Amy Mitchel struggles to balance her family life with that of her career. Instead of choosing one or the other, Amy creates a balance between her two lives in addition to a third life - her personal life which had been nonexistent since she had kids - and ultimately becomes a much more happier, well-adjusted person. Of course part of the problem was that her bosses were making her work more than what was outlined in her contract. ≤* ''Film/OurMissBrooks'': Miss Brooks' intention in this [[TheMovie theatrical]] [[GrandFinale series finale]] is to leave her job as an English teacher once she achieves her SeriesGoal of marriage to Mr. Boynton. Family first for Miss Brooks, as her dream is to be wife and mother. [[spoiler:She marries Mr. Boynton at the end of the film.]]≤* In ''Film/AirplaneIITheSequel'', an early indication that we're not supposed to like Elaine's current man (aside from him not being Ted Stryker, of course) is that he very seriously expects her to quit her rewarding job as a computer officer on board the first passenger space shuttle and start making babies.≤* ''Film/{{Click}}'': Michael wants a better life for his family and tries hard to get a promotion. But due to abusing the power of the magic remote, he set himself on "auto-pilot" which seemingly made him obsessed with career, estranging him from his family.≤* ''Film/XMenApocalypse'': Agent Moira [=MacTaggert=] was married and has a son, but she got divorced because her priority is on her career at the CIA.≤-->'''Moira''': I had a husband, but it's hard to do this job and make it home in time for dinner.≤* In ''Film/TheSmurfs'', Patrick, enraged at the Smurfs' responsibility for ruining his business pitch, runs off to save his job and abandons his wife Grace when she defends them. He later has second thoughts when Grace texts him a sonogram picture of their upcoming baby.≤* ''Film/TheDevilWearsPrada'' shows Miranda going through another divorce because her husband can't handle the amount of time she devotes to her job. Her two daughters are shown spending most of their time with a nanny. ≤* Deconstructed in ''Film/TheIntern''. Jules is the head of a successful company and is considering hiring a CEO so she can have more time at home with her family. But it's then pointed out that hiring a CEO won't automatically fix any problems she has at home, and Jules herself is vital to the running of her company. [[spoiler: Her husband, who had been having an affair, calls it off and agrees to work harder to fix their situation]].≤* In the movie 'I Don't Know How She Does It', the principle character does have both a family and a career she loves, though she struggles to balance them both, implying she should choose (even though the company she works for bears responsibility for not understanding their employees have lives outside of work). Averted in that she keeps both her career and family, though one of her colleagues has an accidental pregnancy when before she was disinterested in anything outside her career. She keeps the baby and becomes enchanted with having a family the moment she gives birth. The film was panned for an abundance of stereotypes, and the title itself suggests having both a career and a family is a struggle principally women face.≤* ''Film/SpankingTheMonkey'': When Ray tells his mother that she could go back to medical school, Susan admits to Ray that his father Tom didn't want any children, and gave her a choice of either becoming a mother or continuing her career; she chose the former. It's easy to see why she's such an unhappy person, but this makes her actions all the more selfish when she later seduces her own son.≤* In ''Film/MissSloane'', the titular character has long ago made the choice to focus on her career 100%. She doesn't even date, preferring to regularly meet a male escort in a hotel room for sexual satisfaction and for a brief fantasy of a relationship.≤* ''Film/{{Proxima}}'', with the chosen angle being the particular estrangement and strain brought upon a mother/young daughter relationship when the mother is an astronaut who has months of training to do without seeing her daughter and has to literally leave this world for a full year.≤* ''Film/WildRose2018'': The prevalent conflict is that Rose-Lynn has difficulty balancing her dream and caring for her family, and Marion at one point chews her out for focusing on her performance after her son breaks his arm. In this case, however, it's more indicative of Rose-Lynn's immaturity, and she later wisens up and finds a good balance.≤* Regina from ''Film/UnderThePiano'' gave up a promising career in opera to raise a family. She admits that she did it because she was scared of success and thought marriage was the safer option and views Rosetta's mental disability as punishment for throwing away her gift.≤* ''Film/SonRiseAMiracleOfLove'': In a RareMaleExample, Barry quits his job as an ad executive so he can spend more time working with Raun.≤* ''Film/FieldersChoice'' has another male example. Philip struggles to care for his autistic nephew and work on his advertising career at the same time. In the end, he realizes he doesn't want to end up like his boss, sixty-three years old with lots of money but no wife or kids, and passes up the promotion he's been after for years.≤* ''Film/DarkWaters:'' Robís wife is a former workers comp lawyer who is now a stay at home mom. ≤[[/folder]]≤≤[[folder:Literature]]≤* In ''Literature/DragonQueen'', Trava is conflicted between taking care of her tavern and going after her mother.≤* Joanne Bertin's ''The Last Dragonlord'' has Maurynna, recently made a ship's captain and loving the work, find out that she is actually a [[OurDragonsAreDifferent weredragon]], meaning she has to leave that work and go to the place where weredragons live with her OneTrueLove. In ''Dragon and Phoenix" she's not happy about giving up her ship and makes this clear repeatedly, getting angry with her true love when she finds out that even if she hadn't been required to give up her ship, he would have tried to convince her. For her the issue is of freedom versus love, and as much as she appreciates the love she misses the freedom. In the end, she doesn't get her ship back, but she does get the ability to [[VoluntaryShapeshifting take her dragon form at will and fly]], which helps.≤* In ''Literature/TheGirlsSeries'' by Creator/JacquelineWilson, there's a subplot where Ellie's father and stepmother Anna argue because Anna has launched her own business and doesn't have so much time to be at home. Ellie also accuses her father of forcing her mother to give up her career, even though he says that Ellie's mother ''wanted'' to stay at home.≤* In ''Literature/VampireAcademy'', this is mentioned to be the reason so few dhampir women choose to train for a career as guardians. They opt instead to have children. ≤* Bluestar in ''Literature/WarriorCats''. After she gets pregnant she realizes that having to raise the children will make her look like a less fitting candidate to be the Clan deputy than her rival, Thistleclaw. A bit unusual in that she decides to go for the career path instead of family, by giving away her children and making it look like they died in an accident.≤[[/folder]]≤≤[[folder:Live-Action TV]]≤* ''Series/OurMissBrooks'': Several episodes (i.e. "The Wrong Mrs. Boynton") suggest that Miss Brooks' intention upon marrying Mr. Boynton is to quit her job and become a fulltime wife and mother. [[spoiler:Miss Brooks finally marries Mr. Boynton at the end of TheMovie GrandFinale.]]≤* The entire third season of ''Series/UglyBetty'' has been about this message. This is especially ironic since (a) Betty doesn't even have children or a husband, and (b) the family member screaming for the attention is her sister, who already is home with their ill father on a daily basis anyway. ≤* Sarah in ''Series/BrothersAndSisters'' constantly struggles with this. Originally she was a working mom with her husband staying at home to take care of the kids. After her divorce, she lost the job with the family business, her ex tried to take custody away from her because of how long she works, and she increased the hours she puts in because she started working for an internet start-up. ≤* Cuddy on ''Series/{{House}}'' seems to be falling victim to this trope via her adopted baby. In this case, Cuddy ''is'' a single mom, and doesn't really have a husband to help her take care of the baby, so it's a little more justified.≤* Aaron Hotchner of ''Series/CriminalMinds'' might be a rare male example. His wife all but demanded he gives up his position at the BAU so he could be home more with her and their young son, Jack. He didn't, and they got divorced over this.≤** And JJ is an aversion; as of season four, she has a baby and a boyfriend (later husband) who gave up his job (as a detective) to stay at home with their son.≤** Unlike most crime shows, the characters of this series are constantly travelling to different states, which makes the situation even more difficult.≤* This was the central theme of an episode of ''Twice In A Lifetime''. A man convinces his wife to give up her career to stay home and take care of their daughter while he climbs the corporate ladder. The result is that the marriage falls apart, the daughter grows up to be a delinquent and his career goes nowhere. When the guy is given the chance to go back in time and fix things, he realizes that his wife was great at her job and on the fast track for a major promotion. He convinces his past self that the right choice is for him to stay home and support her. In the new timeline, their marriage is saved, the wife is a successful corporate executive, the daughter had a happy childhood and is now going to college and he found his own happiness as a stay-at-home dad.≤* ''Series/StargateAtlantis'':≤** Played straight in season three, where we meet Jeannie Miller, Rodney [=McKay=]'s sister. She had left a promising career in theoretical physics to raise her daughter, much to her brother's consternation. Jeannie makes it clear that she chose to be a wife and mother and is happy with her decision. But despite being a {{Housewife}}, she's still a HotScientist (and even occasional ActionGirl) who solved a problem that had baffled [=McKay=] for years "in [her] free time, with fingerpaints."≤** Subverted in season five when Teyla struggles to decide if she should rejoin Shepherd's team after her pregnancy and risk leaving her son without a mother, or if she should give up fighting for the freedom of the galaxy which is also very important to her. In true ActionGirl fashion, she does both (it certainly helps to have a HouseHusband in these sorts of situations.)≤* This happens a lot in shows PoliceProcedural shows, such as ''Series/ColdCase'' and ''Series/CriminalMinds'' as mentioned above, with. As the cops are usually MarriedToTheJob, it puts a strain on their relationship with their families, especially their spouses. Sometimes the older characters are mentioned to have gotten married/divorced more than once because of this.≤* ''Series/GreysAnatomy'':≤** Bailey's husband (a HouseHusband) got upset at her for not having enough time for their son. When she has to choose between general surgery and a pediatrics fellowship (she originally wanted to go for general, but realized she had an interest in peds, which would have her working more hours), her husband outright tells her that if she takes the pediatrics fellowship, [[CareerVersusMan he'll divorce her]]. [[DefiedTrope She refuses to even make the choice]], deciding to divorce her husband for treating her that way, but has to choose general surgery since she would then become a single mother.≤** Chief Webber's wife keeps telling him that if he doesn't retire then she will leave him since he kept promising to do it and kept putting it off. (HilariousInHindsight, in that she ''did'' leave him -- first by getting Alzheimer's, and then by, y'know, dying.)≤** Cristina and Meredith's desire to not have children is implied to be partially due to not wanting this situation to happen, especially Meredith who doesn't want to end up being a bad parent like her mother was. Meredith eventually gets over this and has a child with Derek (with another on the way), and there isn't any conflict. Most of the couples on the show are made up of people who work together, so the trope is usually averted. The hospital also has its own daycare center, which makes things easier.≤*** Invoked, however, by Cristina when she and Meredith have a big fight in Season 10. She claims that, because Meredith by now has two kids (the son is named Bailey), she has naturally had to cut back on her surgery hours and is probably not at the top of her game. Because the two are carrying the ConflictBall during this season, Meredith is obliged to take offense at this.≤** RareMaleExample in the tenth season, once again involving Bailey. Her SecondLove Ben Warren had a surgery residency in UsefulNotes/LosAngeles but quit because the show takes place in Seattle and he wasn't getting any screen time -- err, was far away from his family. Bailey (understandably) worries that her new marriage is going to end the same way the old one did. Ultimately, the situation is resolved by Ben enrolling in the residency program at [[IHaveManyNames Seattle Grace Grey Sloan Mercy Death]]. Ben eventually decides to become a firefighter (see spin-off show ''Series/StationNineteen''). Bailey is at first upset but eventually learns to accept his new dangerous career.≤** An interesting case with Owen Hunt. He starts dating a woman. But when she reveals that she will gladly become a stay-at-home mom after marriage, he breaks off the relationship, claiming he wants a working woman for a partner. Eventually, he adopts a baby boy, before discovering that he will also be having a girl after a one-night-stand with an ex.≤* ''LiveActionTV/TheKnowledge'': While studying for the legendarily difficult exam which London taxi drivers must pass, the candidates sometimes do this to the exclusion of everything else in their lives.≤* ''Series/{{Scrubs}}'': Carla thinks about staying home with the baby for a while. After taking a six-week break after the birth of her child, Carla realizes she can't stay away from her job for a whole year because she loves working there. Turk isn't too happy about the decision but quickly gets over it. By the end of the episode, Carla starts working again but feels sad about having to leave Izzy with a nanny.≤** In season 8, JD takes a job at another hospital to be able to spend more time with Sam, though with him it's more about being not being able to see his friends from his old job.≤** When Dr. Cox becomes Chief of Medicine, he struggles with juggling his new responsibilities on top of taking care of patients (something he really doesn't have to do but wants to) and picking up his son Jack from school. Jordan tells him she understands that he'll need time to figure out how to balance things out since he refuses to give up on anything, and she doesn't care if he has time to pick Jack up from school, just as long as he's there to read him a bedtime story and tuck him in at night.≤* In ''Series/MalcolmInTheMiddle'', Lois and Hal married young and kept on having kids. Lois had ambitions of being a concert pianist but had to abandon them to take care of the children and work two hours a week short of full-time at a supermarket to help pay the bills. She is actually bitter about this, which manifests as meticulously controlling every single aspect of [[KidGenius Malcolm's]] life to live vicariously through him, and possibly unconsciously sabotaging [[ChildProdigy Dewey's]] piano contest to prevent him from surpassing her.≤* ''Series/MadMen'':≤** It's implied that Betty's less-sympathetic traits stem from high intelligence - she has an anthropology degree from Bryn Mawr - socially constrained from having a career outside the home.≤** Joan is expected to leave her office manager job and start pumping out babies when Greg makes chief resident. She actually does resign even when he's passed over. Since Greg is an awful husband even by the standards of this show, the arrangement doesn't last.≤* At the end of ''Series/PrettyLittleLiars'', ALL of the principal cast's main plans revolve around starting families/getting married. Somewhat subverted as the cast did get fulfillment out of their respective employment while they had them, particularly Hanna who had her own business, they just don't seem to believe a career is important past your early twenties.≤* A fairly common conflict in ''Series/JaneTheVirgin''.≤** Rafael struggles to balance his commitment to Jane and their child and his commitments to the hotel, which he considers his father's legacy.≤*** [[spoiler: In season 3, we learn that he is not biologically a Solano.]]≤** When he and Jane get together, Michael is pressured by Rafael between his dangerous career as a cop, and Mateo's safety. He is willing to choose Jane and Mateo, but Jane stops him from quitting his job and lets Rafael know that.≤** Season 2 focuses on Jane struggling to balance her new baby, her tangle of personal relationships, and going to grad school.≤* ''Series/ParksAndRecreation''≤** This shows up in the seventh season episode "Pie Mary" when Leslie is criticized by some members of the public for being a working mother and not quite fitting the conventions of a candidate's wife, with one competing candidate's wife even scoffing that she's "trying to have it all". At the end of the episode, she and Ben [[TranquilFury angrily but calmly]] call out their critics, with Ben in particular pointing out that no one ever asks him if ''he'' misses the kids when he's away working or who's looking after them when he's not home. They get a crowd that half cheers and half boos them.≤** This is {{Defied}} for their campaign manager Jennifer Barkley, who makes it very clear she's not one for motherhood and likes it that way.≤* ''Series/TheTwilightZone1985'': In "Little Boy Lost", the photojournalist Carol Shelton must decide whether to accept her dream assignment abroad or marry her long-time boyfriend Greg and have children. The day after the job offer, she meets a strange boy named Kenny at the zoo and she assumes that he was sent by a modeling agency to work with her. The two of them spend the day together and quickly form a bond. The next day, Carol breaks it to Greg that she has decided to take the assignment. Immediately afterwards, she finds Kenny at her apartment and he pleads with her to remain in the US. Confused, she asks him how he knew about her conversation with Greg and where she lived but Kenny runs away. He mysteriously vanishes before Carol can catch up with him. The following morning, Carol sees Kenny in the park and questions him once again. [[spoiler:She discovers that Kenny is the son that she would have had if she had chosen to turn down the assignment and marry Greg. Carol explains that she does want children but there are other things that she wants to do first. Kenny says that she might have a son one day but it won't be him. He then fades away, calling Carol "Mom" just before he disappears forever.]]≤* Discussed in ''Series/ChariteAtWar'', which is settled in the early 1940s in Germany. It's a source of conflict between Doctor Margot Sauerbruch and young, pregnant doctoral candidate Anni: Margot tries to scare Anni away from her patient Lohmann by noting she's probably more of a candidate for a motherhood award than a dissertation. Contemptuously, Anni replies that Margot is not the role model she'll take -- Margot has one daughter who's currently in a boarding school and doesn't plan on having more whereas Anni wants to quit working in a few years to raise a whole bunch of babies. They get over this when Margot empathizes with Anni's concerns about her baby. [[spoiler:Anni winds up divorced, raising an only daughter alone and thus supporting herself.]]≤* ''Series/ForLife'': Used as an excuse by [[spoiler: Glen Maskins when he steps down as Attorney General-elect. (In fact he was [[ResignInDisgrace pressured into resigning]] due to his [[AmoralAttorney unethical and illegal actions]])]].≤[[/folder]]≤≤[[folder:Music]]≤* The 1982 song "I've Never Been to Me" is about a jet-setting woman telling another woman how despite having travelled the world and lived the sweet life, she also laments the fact that she gave up the idea of getting married and having children of her own.≤[[/folder]]≤≤[[folder:Myths & Religion]]≤* In Myth/MayanMythology, there's the fertility and healer goddess Ix Chel, who is [[TheHecateSisters seen in three forms]]. She starts off as a young woman who practices healing arts, then she has a slightly older form who has taken time off from her career as a healer to focus on her marriage, having children, tending to her family, etc. (In this form, she holds a rabbit, symbolizing fertility.) Then she appears as an old woman who has returned to her career now that her children have grown up and she herself is no longer capable of reproducing. ≤[[/folder]]≤≤[[folder:Radio]]≤* Subverted in ''Radio/NewDynamicEnglish'', where Max decides to ''change his job'' from a travelling businessman to a radio worker because he missed his family. This was already foreshadowed in the software version where it's stated that he'd always miss his family even though he had been travelling.≤[[/folder]]≤≤[[folder:Video Games]]≤* In ''VideoGame/MortalKombatX'', Sonya chose her career over spending time with her husband and daughter, causing their relationship to become quite strained.≤* Lee's past before the ZombieApocalypse struck in ''VideoGame/TheWalkingDead'' had a strained relationship with his wife. [[spoiler: She wanted to advance her career and move to another area while Lee wanted to settle down and start a family. The two have a big fight over it. One day, Lee comes home early from work and catches his wife sleeping with a state senator. Lee kills him in a fit of rage, causing him to get arrested and sentenced to life in jail for murder. Lee was on his way to jail by the time the game starts.]]≤[[/folder]]≤≤[[folder:Web Comics]]≤* In ''Webcomic/{{Supermom}}'', Liza struggles with her desire to get back into superheroing. Eventually, she reaches a compromise with her family where she'll hero part-time.≤[[/folder]]≤≤[[folder:Web Novel]]≤* ''Literature/CanYouSpareAQuarter'': [[spoiler:Graham decides to request extra vacation time, and eventually retires from his job. He needs the time to take care of Jamie.]]≤[[/folder]]≤≤[[folder:Western Animation]]≤* Helen of ''WesternAnimation/{{Daria}}'' deals with this too. She wants to be the perfect lawyer, mother, and wife but tends to ignore the latter two in favour of work and her daughters' needs are often brushed off. To the show's credit, the general aesop seems to be that Helen is overworking herself by choice as a means of generating self-satisfaction due to the emotional neglect she received from her own mother and this behaviour is what is negative, not the fact that she's a working mom.≤* Mocked in an episode of ''WesternAnimation/FamilyGuy'', in which there is a spoof of the "busy businesswoman who's busy but who doesn't notice her life is missing a little special something because she's so busy with business!"≤-->'''Handsome Male-Lead:''' Shh shh shh... Over the next 90 minutes, I'd like to show you that all your problems can be solved by my penis. ''[romantic music plays]''≤* This was addressed in an early episode of ''WesternAnimation/KingOfTheHill''. When Bobby is diagnosed with ADD (when really, he had consumed far too much sugar) old-fashioned Hank suggests that Peggy quit her job as a substitute teacher and become a stay-at-home mom to give Bobby more attention. Peggy reluctantly agrees and stays home, but quickly grows bored. By the end of the episode, Hank realizes that Peggy isn't happy when she has so little to do and supports her decision to return to teaching.≤* Sadly averted in ''WesternAnimation/{{Archer}}''. Malory prioritizes her career over her son, leaving Woodhouse to raise young Sterling. On the rare occasions when she did spend time with him, she usually tormented him in order to teach him a lesson.≤* An episode of ''WesternAnimation/AmericanDad'' tackles this. When Stan befriends a senator, he leaves Roger to take care of Steve to focus on climbing the political ladder. However, when Roger's antics cause the senator's daughter to be taken by drug lords and doped up, the senator reveals he doesn't give a crap about her and only cares about his job, making Stan realize that his family comes first.≤* A variation occurs in ''WesternAnimation/{{Jem}}''. At the start of season 2 Pizzazz and Roxy threaten to kick Stormer out of the band if she doesn't get her brother Craig to find out Jem's secret identity. She gives in but Craig doesn't take it lightly when they find out what her friends said to Stormer.≤* Averted in the ''Franchise/TheFlintstones'' movie ''Hollyrock-a-Bye Baby''. When Pebbles' and Bamm-Bamm's twins are born, Pebbles immediately goes back to work at her advertising agency. Since Bamm-Bamm is a screenwriter, he is able to work from home and be a full-time dad.≤[[/folder]]≤≤[[folder:Real Life]]≤* This typically happens with most female politicians who have young kids; people usually use "concern for their children" as an excuse to dismiss a female candidate. Because, you know, [[SarcasmMode fathers don't need to play any role in parenthood other than being the breadwinner]].≤** In the 2008 U.S. presidential election, VP candidate UsefulNotes/SarahPalin was often accused of neglecting her family, even though UsefulNotes/BarackObama's daughters were also young at the time.≤** Taken a step further in the early speculation for the 2016 Presidential Election, with critics wondering whether UsefulNotes/HillaryClinton would run for president and if she can handle running a country and being a ''grandmother''. No such concern was expressed about Creator/DonaldTrump, who is a grandfather himself as well as his youngest child still being a minor.≤* The United States during UsefulNotes/WorldWarII. Just because you're working 12 hour shifts in a factory "to free a man to fight" doesn't mean you don't owe it to your family to provide a nutritious home-cooked breakfast and supper, plus pack a balanced lunch, plus keep the house spotless, plus take care of the Victory Garden...≤* Jan Kuehnemund, the founding member and lead guitarist for the all-female glam metal band ''Vixen'', speaking from bitter experience said this trope (along with CareerVersusMan) is the reason why she was reluctant to join an all-female band. Because eventually those tropes would often come into play causing the break up of the band.≤* Maureen "Rebbie" Jackson-Brown, the eldest child of the Jackson family, faced an inversion of this trope. She ''wanted'' to get married and become a homemaker, preferring a stable domestic life over the hectic world of show business, but her StageDad of a father Joe Jackson wanted her to become a pop singer like [[Music/TheJacksonFive her]] [[Music/MichaelJackson younger]] [[Music/JanetJackson siblings]]. Her mother Katherine supported her, but when Rebbie got married, Joe refused to walk her down the aisle at the wedding. While she did release four albums in the 80's and 90's and had a top 40 hit, "Centipede," her primary focus was always on being a wife and mom.≤[[/folder]]≤----


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