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People suffering from the condition retroactive jealousy feel bad because of their loved one's past. Retroactive jealousy happens with all genders, but apparently men have more sexual jealousy and women tend to have romantic jealousy. It often results in undue stress for everyone involved. The sufferers may even end up imagining their partner with someone else obsessively. Many blame themselves for having these feelings, but there are others who blame their SO, invoking this trope and DefiledForever. Retroactive jealousy is considered a form of pure O, a subset of OCD. The treatment/cure is working on self-esteem and realising that there is a reason your partner chose you, and that the past is irrelevant.

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People suffering from the condition retroactive jealousy feel bad because of their loved one's past. Retroactive jealousy happens with all genders, genders but apparently apparently, men have more sexual jealousy and women tend to have romantic jealousy. It often results in undue stress for everyone involved. The sufferers may even end up imagining their partner with someone else obsessively. Many blame themselves for having these feelings, but there are others who blame their SO, invoking this trope and DefiledForever. Retroactive jealousy is considered a form of pure O, a subset of OCD. The treatment/cure is working on self-esteem and realising that there is a reason your partner chose you, you and that the past is irrelevant.



* Invoked in the {{josei}} manga ''Manga/ParadiseKiss''. It is revealed two boys and a girl ([[spoiler:Arashi, Tokumori and Miwako]]) were in a LoveTriangle in the past. Around the same time, we also find out the guy who got the girl, [[spoiler:Arashi]], forced her to lose her virginity with him. This is a source of many issues for the couple, because along with the (''understandable'') massive guilt he feels for the act itself, he thinks by raping her he stole her chances to change her mind and get together with [[spoiler: Tokumori]] instead (it's even hinted he did it as a desperate measure to force her to stay with him in the first place). Then again, this series loves [[{{Deconstruction}} deconstructing]] shojo clichés.

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* Invoked in the {{josei}} manga ''Manga/ParadiseKiss''. It is revealed two boys and a girl ([[spoiler:Arashi, Tokumori Tokumori, and Miwako]]) were in a LoveTriangle in the past. Around the same time, we also find out the guy who got the girl, [[spoiler:Arashi]], forced her to lose her virginity with him. This is a source of many issues for the couple, because along with the (''understandable'') massive guilt he feels for the act itself, he thinks by raping her he stole her chances to change her mind and get together with [[spoiler: Tokumori]] instead (it's even hinted he did it as a desperate measure to force her to stay with him in the first place). Then again, this series loves [[{{Deconstruction}} deconstructing]] shojo clichés.



* Averted in ''ComicBook/SinCity''. When Marv learns that his one and only one night stand was a prostitute, it surprises him but he doesn't really care. Dwight, likewise, apparently doesn't care that his on-again-off-again flame is a prostitute as well.

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* Averted in ''ComicBook/SinCity''. When Marv learns that his one and only one night one-night stand was a prostitute, it surprises him but he doesn't really care. Dwight, likewise, apparently doesn't care that his on-again-off-again flame is a prostitute as well.



''Jerry's Narration''': I knew deep down that Annabeth was not a slut. Although she was a prostitute when she was under the controls of the false gods Zeus and Venus, since she had converted to Christianity she had stayed clean.

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''Jerry's Narration''': I knew deep down that Annabeth was not a slut. Although she was a prostitute when she was under the controls of the false gods Zeus and Venus, Venus since she had converted to Christianity she had stayed clean.



* ''[[Film/{{Porkys}} Porky's 2: The Next Day]]'': In the previous film, Pee Wee was so desperate to have his SexAsRiteOfPassage that he was happy to go with the easiest girl in the school and announce his new-found manhood with a Tarzan yell. Now he finds he likes her, and her reputation bothers him. "Before, I wanted it to be true, now I guess I don't," he says. Fear not, Pee Wee, Wendy's reputation was much exaggerated.

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* ''[[Film/{{Porkys}} Porky's 2: The Next Day]]'': In the previous film, Pee Wee was so desperate to have his SexAsRiteOfPassage that he was happy to go with the easiest girl in the school and announce his new-found manhood with a Tarzan yell. Now he finds he likes her, and her reputation bothers him. "Before, "Before I wanted it to be true, now I guess I don't," he says. Fear not, Pee Wee, Wendy's reputation was much exaggerated.



* Downplayed in ''Film/WatchIt''. After Rick and Ellen have finally have sex, she reveals she hasn't slept with anyone in a long time before him, nor has she slept with many people before him. This ends up freaking him out, because he realizes she only sleeps with people she really cares about, and he wants to keep the relationship casual. It ends up leading to some major {{jerkass}} behavior on his part, though he eventually gets better.

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* Downplayed in ''Film/WatchIt''. After Rick and Ellen have finally have sex, she reveals she hasn't slept with anyone in a long time before him, nor has she slept with many people before him. This ends up freaking him out, out because he realizes she only sleeps with people she really cares about, and he wants to keep the relationship casual. It ends up leading to some major {{jerkass}} behavior on his part, though he eventually gets better.



* OlderThanFeudalism: Odysseus of Creator/{{Homer}}'s ''Literature/TheOdyssey'' slept with both Circe and later Calypso (although it may not have been voluntary, as he is described as trying to fight her desire, but she "compelled him") without any criticism from other characters, the gods, or the narrators. Back at home, Odysseus's wife Penelope remained faithful for 20 years, which was sort of the minimum acceptable behavior for a woman -- the unfaithful women in the story, Helen and Clytemnaestra, are viewed as responsible for some pretty major tragedies. After Odysseus returns, he goes as far as killing all of the '''maids''' who slept with the suitors even though they just worked for him. Plus, you have three virgin goddesses (Hestia, Athena, Artemis) but ''definitely'' no virgin gods. Calypso even complains about this double standard -- male gods take human lovers all the time, but they object when a goddess does the same.
** Margaret Atwood's ''The Penelopiad'' takes Penelope's point of view and starts each chapter with poems from the maids, lamenting their unjust deaths. Though in the case of the maids, it's less about sleeping with the guests (which was a part of their work, and not frowned upon) and more about them spilling them ''vital'' information that could've gotten the kingdom as a whole in trouble, which equalled to ''high treason''. One of the girls told one of the suitors about Penelope's BatmanGambit to buy time through the veil she sewed and then destroyed each night to keep the guys away from her.
** The story of Penelope's cousins Helen and Clytemnaestra is a little more complex. Helen may be considered partly responsible for the Trojan War, but is not punished, but reinstated as Menelaos' queen, with the prospect that both of them will not die but travel directly to the Elysian fields. Of course it helps that Helen is Zeus' daughter. Clytemnaestra is not just guilty of cheating on her husband with Aigisthos -- the murderer of her husband's father -- but also Aigisthos' accomplice in the murder of Agamemnon and herself the murderer of Cassandra and her children. And the way things were presented in the Odyssey (there are various non-Homeric alternate stories), Odysseus as a mortal could not prevent [[DoubleStandardRapeDivineOnMortal goddesses Circe and Calypso]] [[DoubleStandardRapeFemaleOnMale having their way with him]], but did refuse the offer of mortal Nausicaa's hand in marriage.
** In one version Clytemnestra's first husband was Tantalus, King of Pisa, who was killed by Agamemnon. Agamemnon then took her as his wife forcibly and also murdered her infant son. Then comes the part that every version agrees of: he sacrificed their daughter Iphigenia to the goddess Artemis after telling Clytemnestra he was going to marry her off to the hero Achilleus. Doesn't make what she did alright, but double standards are working here, too. No old myth would have questioned a man's right to turn axe happy after being crossed repeatedly and so cruelly.

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* OlderThanFeudalism: Odysseus of Creator/{{Homer}}'s ''Literature/TheOdyssey'' slept with both Circe and later Calypso (although it may not have been voluntary, as he is described as trying to fight her desire, but she "compelled him") without any criticism from other characters, the gods, or the narrators. Back at home, Odysseus's wife Penelope remained faithful for 20 years, which was sort of the minimum acceptable behavior for a woman -- the unfaithful women in the story, Helen and Clytemnaestra, are viewed as responsible for some pretty major tragedies. After Odysseus returns, he goes as far as killing all of the '''maids''' who slept with the suitors even though they just worked for him. Plus, you have three virgin goddesses (Hestia, Athena, Artemis) but ''definitely'' no virgin gods. Calypso even complains about this double standard -- male gods take human lovers all the time, but they object when a goddess does the same.
** Margaret Atwood's ''The Penelopiad'' takes Penelope's point of view and starts each chapter with poems from the maids, lamenting their unjust deaths. Though in the case of the maids, it's less about sleeping with the guests (which was a part of their work, work and not frowned upon) and more about them spilling them ''vital'' information that could've gotten the kingdom as a whole in trouble, which equalled to ''high treason''. One of the girls told one of the suitors about Penelope's BatmanGambit to buy time through the veil she sewed and then destroyed each night to keep the guys away from her.
** The story of Penelope's cousins Helen and Clytemnaestra is a little more complex. Helen may be considered partly responsible for the Trojan War, but is not punished, but reinstated as Menelaos' queen, with the prospect that both of them will not die but travel directly to the Elysian fields. Of course course, it helps that Helen is Zeus' daughter. Clytemnaestra is not just guilty of cheating on her husband with Aigisthos -- the murderer of her husband's father -- but also Aigisthos' accomplice in the murder of Agamemnon and herself the murderer of Cassandra and her children. And the way things were presented in the Odyssey (there are various non-Homeric alternate stories), Odysseus as a mortal could not prevent [[DoubleStandardRapeDivineOnMortal goddesses Circe and Calypso]] [[DoubleStandardRapeFemaleOnMale having their way with him]], him]] but did refuse the offer of mortal Nausicaa's hand in marriage.
** In one version Clytemnestra's first husband was Tantalus, King of Pisa, who was killed by Agamemnon. Agamemnon then took her as his wife forcibly and also murdered her infant son. Then comes the part that every version agrees of: he sacrificed their daughter Iphigenia to the goddess Artemis after telling Clytemnestra he was going to marry her off to the hero Achilleus. Doesn't make what she did alright, but double standards are working here, too. No old myth would have questioned a man's right to turn axe happy axe-happy after being crossed repeatedly and so cruelly.



* ''Literature/MemorySorrowAndThorn'' contains a somewhat complex version. Simon, raised a kitchen scullion, harbors an UnrequitedLove for [[RebelliousPrincess Princess Miriamele]]. Believing her to be out of his reach, he tries (unsuccessfully) to "make time" with other girls. On a mission as her knight protector late in the story, as Simon finally works up the nerve to kiss her, Miriamele [[MomentKiller rebuffs him brutally]] with the knowledge that she slept with a Nabbanai nobleman while she was held captive on his ship. Simon is made furious by this perceived betrayal and rejection, and behaves so recklessly as a result that he nearly gets them both killed. For her part, Miriamele does this intentionally, believing herself to have been DefiledForever even though Aspitis effectively raped her. It takes several more chapters before they reconcile these issues.

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* ''Literature/MemorySorrowAndThorn'' contains a somewhat complex version. Simon, raised a kitchen scullion, harbors an UnrequitedLove for [[RebelliousPrincess Princess Miriamele]]. Believing her to be out of his reach, he tries (unsuccessfully) to "make time" with other girls. On a mission as her knight protector late in the story, as Simon finally works up the nerve to kiss her, Miriamele [[MomentKiller rebuffs him brutally]] with the knowledge that she slept with a Nabbanai nobleman while she was held captive on his ship. Simon is made furious by this perceived betrayal and rejection, rejection and behaves so recklessly as a result that he nearly gets them both killed. For her part, Miriamele does this intentionally, believing herself to have been DefiledForever even though Aspitis effectively raped her. It takes several more chapters before they reconcile these issues.



* The ''[[Literature/PsyChangeling Psy/Changeling]]'' novels by Nalini Singh can't decide if they are this or not. On one hand, the narration tells us that sex is healthy for both sexes, and changeling women are very sexually liberated. On the other hand, every single hero has been wildly sexually experienced, while every heroine has been virginal or had a cold, unfulfilling love life. The one woman (Tally) who has had other lovers before the hero is [[FamilyUnfriendlyAesop berated by him]] for [[DoubleStandard "selling herself so cheaply"]] -- despite his own sexual experience. The trope becomes so pervasive that it leads to a ''literal'' [[spoiler:virgin mother. Her marriage was a sham concocted to explain her test tube baby.]]

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* The ''[[Literature/PsyChangeling Psy/Changeling]]'' novels by Nalini Singh can't decide if they are this or not. On one hand, the narration tells us that sex is healthy for both sexes, and changeling women are very sexually liberated. On the other hand, every single hero has been wildly sexually experienced, while every heroine has been virginal or had a cold, unfulfilling love life. The one woman (Tally) who has had other lovers before the hero is [[FamilyUnfriendlyAesop berated by him]] for [[DoubleStandard "selling herself so cheaply"]] -- despite his own sexual experience. The trope becomes so pervasive that it leads to a ''literal'' [[spoiler:virgin mother. Her marriage was a sham concocted to explain her test tube test-tube baby.]]



* Inverted with glee in ''Literature/AtlasShrugged'': Hank Rearden is successfully blackmailed over his extramarital affair with Dagny Taggart by Dr. Ferris, who says that the shame of their affair being made public would be ''hers'', not his. However, when the same information is used to blackmail Dagny, she proudly confesses to having slept with Rearden. It's probably a case of WriterOnBoard as Ayn Rand was famous for her views on total sexual liberation and free love. (Something forgotten by many of her modern fans...)
** The subject of sexuality is one of many examples of the novel's MoralDissonance. Earlier, Hank flies into a homicidal rage over Dagny's relationship with Francisco; later, he [[spoiler: finds out she's leaving him for John Galt]] and is perfectly sanguine about it. Rand applauds Dagny and Hank's extramarital affair, but still considers "whore" to be a [[SlutShaming terrible insult]]. (Come to think of it, the knee-jerk aversion to prostitution also conflicts with Rand's belief that capitalism is the best system for ''everything''...)

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* Inverted with glee in ''Literature/AtlasShrugged'': Hank Rearden is successfully blackmailed over his extramarital affair with Dagny Taggart by Dr. Ferris, who says that the shame of their affair being made public would be ''hers'', not his. However, when the same information is used to blackmail Dagny, she proudly confesses to having slept with Rearden. It's probably a case of WriterOnBoard as Ayn Rand was famous for her views on total sexual liberation and free love. (Something that's forgotten by many of her modern fans...)
** The subject of sexuality is one of many examples of the novel's MoralDissonance. Earlier, Hank flies into a homicidal rage over Dagny's relationship with Francisco; later, he [[spoiler: finds out she's leaving him for John Galt]] and is perfectly sanguine about it. Rand applauds Dagny and Hank's extramarital affair, affair but still considers "whore" to be a [[SlutShaming terrible insult]]. (Come to think of it, the knee-jerk aversion to prostitution also conflicts with Rand's belief that capitalism is the best system for ''everything''...)



* [[Literature/{{Reckless}} The Mirrorworld Series]]: Jacob and [[spoiler:Clara's]] mututal attraction is left nicely ambiguous, but they're both ashamed of [[spoiler:KissingUnderTheInfluence]]. Becomes vitally important seeing as [[spoiler: [[ThePowerofLove Clara needs to be Will's True Love for their quest to succeed]]]]...

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* [[Literature/{{Reckless}} The Mirrorworld Series]]: Jacob and [[spoiler:Clara's]] mututal mutual attraction is left nicely ambiguous, but they're both ashamed of [[spoiler:KissingUnderTheInfluence]]. Becomes vitally important seeing as [[spoiler: [[ThePowerofLove Clara needs to be Will's True Love for their quest to succeed]]]]...



* Averted in ''Literature/TheGoblinEmperor'': Maia is a virgin himself, and at one point in the narrative thinks that perhaps he should have asked his advisors to [[ArrangedMarriage arrange]] his marriage to a widow, so that at least one of them would know what they're doing. It also didn't help Maia's mother any to have come to her marriage bed a virgin - all that did was to ascertain that the emperor was indeed Maia's father, and having to acknowledge the half-goblin as potential heir was not something the elven emperor was happy about.
* In ''Literature/{{Corpies}}'', Bubble Bubble's [[CorporateSponsoredSuperhero corporate-sponsored]] public image is that of a demure, wholesome girl. She always wears sensible, conservative clothing. Then a paparazzi reveals that she slept with a movie director 2 years ago. Said director had failed to mention that he was already in a relationship with a well-known actress. When the paparazzi released the photos, the director, facing flak from both the public and his girlfriend, decided to shift the blame entirely to Bubble Bubble, claiming that, as a [[DifferentlyPoweredIndividual Super]], she might have used some kind of mind-control power on him. Despite Bubble Bubble's abilities being well documented, the non-Super public is clearly leaning towards the director's story and begins to [[SlutShaming slut-shame]] Bubble Bubble. Titan asks his agent Lenny to take Bubble Bubble on as a client. Instead of trying to rescue her "quiet girl" image, which he could do, he suggests that, instead, she owns having consensual sex with a man she thought was single. The fact that ''he'' cheated on his girlfriend says absolutely nothing about her, since she didn't know. When she goes on a talk show, the host, predictably, attacks her, only for her to turn the table on him and aggressively attack this outdated trope, pointing out that the's absolutely nothing wrong with a woman having consensual sex with someone she likes. The host doesn't know what to say, having clearly not been prepared for this.

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* Averted in ''Literature/TheGoblinEmperor'': Maia is a virgin himself, and at one point in the narrative thinks that perhaps he should have asked his advisors to [[ArrangedMarriage arrange]] his marriage to a widow, widow so that at least one of them would know what they're doing. It also didn't help Maia's mother any to have come to her marriage bed a virgin - all that did was to ascertain that the emperor was indeed Maia's father, father and having to acknowledge the half-goblin as potential heir was not something the elven emperor was happy about.
* In ''Literature/{{Corpies}}'', Bubble Bubble's [[CorporateSponsoredSuperhero corporate-sponsored]] public image is that of a demure, wholesome girl. She always wears sensible, conservative clothing. Then a paparazzi reveals that she slept with a movie director 2 years ago. Said director had failed to mention that he was already in a relationship with a well-known actress. When the paparazzi released the photos, the director, facing flak from both the public and his girlfriend, decided to shift the blame entirely to Bubble Bubble, claiming that, as a [[DifferentlyPoweredIndividual Super]], she might have used some kind of mind-control power on him. Despite Bubble Bubble's abilities being well documented, the non-Super public is clearly leaning towards the director's story and begins to [[SlutShaming slut-shame]] Bubble Bubble. Titan asks his agent Lenny to take Bubble Bubble on as a client. Instead of trying to rescue her "quiet girl" image, which he could do, he suggests that, instead, she owns having consensual sex with a man she thought was single. The fact that ''he'' cheated on his girlfriend says absolutely nothing about her, her since she didn't know. When she goes on a talk show, the host, predictably, attacks her, only for her to turn the table on him and aggressively attack this outdated trope, pointing out that the's absolutely nothing wrong with a woman having consensual sex with someone she likes. The host doesn't know what to say, having clearly not been prepared for this.



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* Played with in ''Radio/GoodnessGraciousMe'', the skit show from the people who later made ''The Kumars at Number 42''. A Pakastani woman is telling another that she heard the other's son was sleeping around. The other begins to defend him, but soon changes tactics - "My son is a stud!" - and goes on to describe his manly sexual exploits.

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* Played with in ''Radio/GoodnessGraciousMe'', the skit show from the people who later made ''The Kumars at Number 42''. A Pakastani Pakistani woman is telling another that she heard the other's son was sleeping around. The other begins to defend him, but soon changes tactics - "My son is a stud!" - and goes on to describe his manly sexual exploits.



** Except that there was an episode called ''Are We Sluts?'' were the characters questions whether they are too promiscuous and Charlotte worries because "nobody wants to marry a whore" and in another episode she's reluctant to try anal sex because "men don't marry up-the-butt girl."

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** Except that there was an episode called ''Are We Sluts?'' were the characters questions whether they are too promiscuous and Charlotte worries because "nobody wants to marry a whore" and in another episode episode, she's reluctant to try anal sex because "men don't marry up-the-butt girl."



* ''Series/GoodTimes'' plays with this trope. When Florida finds a term paper called "Sexual Behaviors in the Ghetto", she assumes that it's dirty and thus belongs to JJ. JJ denies it. When Florida tells James, he gives JJ an attaboy and pats him on the back and is proud of him. However, when it's revealed that it belongs to Thelma, James goes beserk and basically puts her on lockdown without allowing her to explain that it belongs to her boyfriend who wrote the paper for his master's degree program. Florida sets James straight, but he is still angry until the boyfriend reveals that Thelma is still a virgin because she has a good support system at home and a strong father.

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* ''Series/GoodTimes'' plays with this trope. When Florida finds a term paper called "Sexual Behaviors in the Ghetto", she assumes that it's dirty and thus belongs to JJ. JJ denies it. When Florida tells James, he gives JJ an attaboy and pats him on the back and is proud of him. However, when it's revealed that it belongs to Thelma, James goes beserk berserk and basically puts her on lockdown without allowing her to explain that it belongs to her boyfriend who wrote the paper for his master's degree program. Florida sets James straight, but he is still angry until the boyfriend reveals that Thelma is still a virgin because she has a good support system at home and a strong father.



* Angela Montenegro of ''Series/{{Bones}}'' averts this one: she has more sex than anyone else on the show, but doesn't get punished for it. Neither does Brennan, who isn't chaste herself. The only time Brennan's promiscuity is portrayed in a negative light is when she is dating two men simultaneously without telling them. There's also the mother of Booth's first child, who refused to marry him but has no problem with an occasional hookup with Booth despite dating someone at the time. This finally stops, when Bones intervenes and tells her that it isn't fair to the Catholic Booth.
* ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer''. Terms like 'slut' and 'ho' are used to describe female characters while promiscuous or woman-chasing men get no criticism for their behavior. In fact when Buffy and Xander spy a couple of teenagers dancing provocatively Buffy calls the girl - [[spoiler: who turns out to be Dawn]] - a slut but says nothing about the boy. Similarly Cordelia called Faith "slut-o-rama" for dancing flirtatiously with a man but said nothing about him except about his fashion sense.

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* Angela Montenegro of ''Series/{{Bones}}'' averts this one: she has more sex than anyone else on the show, show but doesn't get punished for it. Neither does Brennan, who isn't chaste herself. The only time Brennan's promiscuity is portrayed in a negative light is when she is dating two men simultaneously without telling them. There's also the mother of Booth's first child, who refused to marry him but has no problem with an occasional hookup with Booth despite dating someone at the time. This finally stops, when Bones intervenes and tells her that it isn't fair to the Catholic Booth.
* ''Series/BuffyTheVampireSlayer''. Terms like 'slut' and 'ho' are used to describe female characters while promiscuous or woman-chasing men get no criticism for their behavior. In fact when Buffy and Xander spy a couple of teenagers dancing provocatively Buffy calls the girl - [[spoiler: who turns out to be Dawn]] - a slut but says nothing about the boy. Similarly Similarly, Cordelia called Faith "slut-o-rama" for dancing flirtatiously with a man but said nothing about him except about his fashion sense.



* ''Series/StepByStep'': In the season six episode "It Didn't Happen One Night," the trope becomes My Sister Is Not a Slut when Karen grudgingly decides to defend her sister Al, after she had gotten a reputation at school as being "easy." Earlier in the show, Al and the school hunk, Kyle, had gone on a date, but when they began to share a kiss, Kyle used a trick seat to jump on top of Al; she fought him off, but the next day at school, Kyle brags that the two had sex, leading to Al gaining an unwanted reputation as a slut, and her emotional breakdown at school. Karen's way of getting to the truth -- when all of Kyle's friends and (ex) girlfriends are around -- is similar to the "Rumor Has It ..." episode of ''Family Matters'', and in the process averts Al's threatened nervous breakdown.
* ''Series/TheSopranos''. Almost all the gangsters cheat on their wives and have sex with prostitutes while expecting 100% faithfullness from their wives -- a rumor of infidelity leads to one woman being brutally beaten while already injured from a car crash -- and viewing prostitutes as worthless.

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* ''Series/StepByStep'': In the season six episode "It Didn't Happen One Night," the trope becomes My Sister Is Not a Slut when Karen grudgingly decides to defend her sister Al, Al after she had gotten a reputation at school as being "easy." Earlier in the show, Al and the school hunk, Kyle, had gone on a date, but when they began to share a kiss, Kyle used a trick seat to jump on top of Al; she fought him off, but the next day at school, Kyle brags that the two had sex, leading to Al gaining an unwanted reputation as a slut, slut and her emotional breakdown at school. Karen's way of getting to the truth -- when all of Kyle's friends and (ex) girlfriends are around -- is similar to the "Rumor Has It ..." episode of ''Family Matters'', and in the process averts Al's threatened nervous breakdown.
* ''Series/TheSopranos''. Almost all the gangsters cheat on their wives and have sex with prostitutes while expecting 100% faithfullness faithfulness from their wives -- a rumor of infidelity leads to one woman being brutally beaten while already injured from a car crash -- and viewing prostitutes as worthless.



* Any time female rapper sings about sex. Khia's sexually explicit song "My Neck My Back" is put on Youtube, the comments are full of people calling Khia a whore for releasing a song about a woman's desire and demand for sexual 'fulfilment'. A few people will always point out that Khia's lyrics are hardly any more shocking or explicit than any number of songs released by ''male'' rappers.

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* Any time female rapper sings about sex. Khia's sexually explicit song "My Neck My Back" is put on Youtube, the comments are full of people calling Khia a whore for releasing a song about a woman's desire and demand for sexual 'fulfilment'.'fulfillment'. A few people will always point out that Khia's lyrics are hardly any more shocking or explicit than any number of songs released by ''male'' rappers.



* In the rap song "Slow Down" by Brand Nubian, the speaker is upset that his ex-girlfriend had been stealing from him to pay for her crack habit (and evidently continued to do so after the breakup, because she sold his sneakers to "Woolly Willie," presumably her dealer), and the fact that crackheads and dealers come to his apartment, and the fact that her addiction has radically changed her looks and personality. The thing he is ''most'' upset about and disgusted by, however, is the fact that she has been selling her body to pay for her habit. He gives her a WhatTheHellHero for it, and takes it upon himself to warn other men about her.

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* In the rap song "Slow Down" by Brand Nubian, the speaker is upset that his ex-girlfriend had been stealing from him to pay for her crack habit (and evidently continued to do so after the breakup, because she sold his sneakers to "Woolly Willie," presumably her dealer), and the fact that crackheads and dealers come to his apartment, and the fact that her addiction has radically changed her looks and personality. The thing he is ''most'' upset about and disgusted by, however, is the fact that she has been selling her body to pay for her habit. He gives her a WhatTheHellHero for it, it and takes it upon himself to warn other men about her.



* Jim Jefferies says that this double standard isn't as unfair as it sounds, due to women on average being far more sexually selective than men, [[AllMenArePerverts who will basically screw anything with a hole and a heartbeat]]. Therefore a man sleeping with a lot of women is a much greater accomplishment than the other way around, because he actually had to put in some amount of effort. In his words:

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* Jim Jefferies says that this double standard isn't as unfair as it sounds, due to women on average being far more sexually selective than men, [[AllMenArePerverts who will basically screw anything with a hole and a heartbeat]]. Therefore a man sleeping with a lot of women is a much greater accomplishment than the other way around, around because he actually had to put in some amount of effort. In his words:


* Bernard Marx and John the Savage in ''Literature/BraveNewWorld'' are both bothered by the promiscuity of Lenina (who Bernard was with for a time, and who John pines for). However, this being a society where everyone is conditioned to accept that MyGirlIsASlut, their attitudes are seen as abnormal. (To compound the ValuesDissonance Lenina is seen as rather ''conservative'' in her promiscuity, and is considered a little weird for sleeping with Henry too often.)

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* Bernard Marx and John the Savage in ''Literature/BraveNewWorld'' are both bothered by the promiscuity of Lenina (who Bernard was with for a time, and who John pines for). However, this being a society where everyone is conditioned to accept that MyGirlIsASlut, their attitudes are seen as abnormal. (To abnormal (to compound the ValuesDissonance Lenina is seen as rather ''conservative'' in her promiscuity, and is considered a little weird for sleeping with Henry too often.)often).
* ''Literature/TheHanSoloTrilogy'': Han is very upset when he finds Bria is the (apparent) concubine of a Moff, saying he never imagined she'd be so "cheap". Later he learns the truth (Bria was just {{the beard}} to the Moff as cover for spying on behalf of the Corellian Resistance). In fact, she hasn't even ''been'' with any men after Han, but he's had about four different girlfriends since her.


* ''Manga/{{Kannagi}}'' had a meta version of this, after finding out Nagi had a boyfriend before, [[InternetBackdraft Japanese otaku were NOT AMUSED.]] The fact that the reveal was rather trollish and a CreatorBreakdown (the author got sick, so the manga's on hiatus indefinitely) left an unresolved cliffhanger didn't help.

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* ''Manga/{{Kannagi}}'' had a meta version of this, after finding out Nagi had a boyfriend before, [[InternetBackdraft Japanese otaku were NOT AMUSED.]] AMUSED. The fact that the reveal was rather trollish and a CreatorBreakdown (the author got sick, so the manga's on hiatus indefinitely) left an unresolved cliffhanger didn't help.

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* In the ''Series/YediYuz'' episode "Eşitlik", Kaan ardently defends his fiancée Dilek against gossip, reassures her she did nothing wrong, and even sucker-punches Alihan, whom he suspects of watching (and laughing at) her sex tape.


For the last few hundred or more years, sexually active men have often been admired for their virility and sexual "conquests" (unless he is a cad, or [[UnusualEuphemism picking only low hanging fruit]])[[note]]It's not like things were always been that way for everyone. Culture in [[UsefulNotes/DynastiesFromShangToQing Ming Dynasty China]], for instance, held that a man was manly either by being a chaste warrior or an incredibly promiscuous and scholarly/cultured [[{{bishounen}} pretty-boy]]. One's life expectancy was supposed to be ''radically'' shorter if one was in the latter category, in part because medical science speculated that male ejaculation entailed transferring some of one's finite store of (male) life force to the receiver (which is why male masturbation was avoided by anyone with good sense), but largely because of all the jealous lovers and husbands, not to mention [=STIs=].[[/note]] while a sexually active woman is more likely to be seen as being a trashy whore. For a man, the loss of his virginity is an achievement. For a woman, it is a surrender or, if outside of marriage, a filthy defilement. Before birth control became readily available, this DoubleStandard probably had something to do with how a man can have hundreds of partners without any discernible consequence (barring [=STDs=]), whereas a woman in the same position would most likely be irreversibly changed into a mother forever.

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For the last few hundred or more years, sexually active men have often been admired for their virility and sexual "conquests" (unless he is a cad, or [[UnusualEuphemism picking only low hanging fruit]])[[note]]It's not like things were have always been that way for everyone. Culture in [[UsefulNotes/DynastiesFromShangToQing Ming Dynasty China]], for instance, held that a man was manly either by being a chaste warrior or an incredibly promiscuous and scholarly/cultured [[{{bishounen}} pretty-boy]]. One's life expectancy was supposed to be ''radically'' shorter if one was in the latter category, in part because medical science speculated that male ejaculation entailed transferring some of one's finite store of (male) life force to the receiver (which is why male masturbation was avoided by anyone with good sense), but largely because of all the jealous lovers and husbands, not to mention [=STIs=].[[/note]] while a sexually active woman is more likely to be seen as being a trashy whore. For a man, the loss of his virginity is an achievement. For a woman, it is a surrender or, if outside of marriage, a filthy defilement. Before birth control became readily available, this DoubleStandard probably had something to do with how a man can have hundreds of partners without any discernible consequence (barring [=STDs=]), whereas a woman in the same position would most likely be irreversibly changed into a mother forever.


* ''Series/{{Merlin}}'' plays out the Lancelot/Guinevere/Arthur LoveTriangle by having Morgana resurrect Lancelot from the spirit world as her mindless slave. He's sent to seduce Guinevere on the eve of her wedding to Arthur, and when she doesn't reciprocate, Morgana and Lancelot MindRape her with the use of an enchanted bracelet. Arthur catches her [[KissingUnderTheInfluence making out]] with Lancelot and all hell breaks loose. Eventually, Lancelot (on orders from Morgana) [[spoiler:commits suicide]] and is [[spoiler:given an honorable funeral]] while Guinevere is banished from Camelot on pain of death.

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* ''Series/{{Merlin}}'' ''Series/{{Merlin|2008}}'' plays out the Lancelot/Guinevere/Arthur LoveTriangle by having Morgana resurrect Lancelot from the spirit world as her mindless slave. He's sent to seduce Guinevere on the eve of her wedding to Arthur, and when she doesn't reciprocate, Morgana and Lancelot MindRape her with the use of an enchanted bracelet. Arthur catches her [[KissingUnderTheInfluence making out]] with Lancelot and all hell breaks loose. Eventually, Lancelot (on orders from Morgana) [[spoiler:commits suicide]] and is [[spoiler:given an honorable funeral]] while Guinevere is banished from Camelot on pain of death.


* Creator/RoseMcGowan invoked this trope when it came to her character Paige on ''Series/{{Charmed}}'' specifically in season 5. Paige was often seen with a different guy every episode, including one that only appeared in a brief raunchy scene on the couch with her. She claims to have gone to the writers and said "Paige isn't a ho". All of Paige's love interests from then on are fairly long term.

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* Creator/RoseMcGowan invoked this trope when it came to her character Paige on ''Series/{{Charmed}}'' ''Series/{{Charmed|1998}}'' specifically in season 5. Paige was often seen with a different guy every episode, including one that only appeared in a brief raunchy scene on the couch with her. She claims to have gone to the writers and said "Paige isn't a ho". All of Paige's love interests from then on are fairly long term.


* The movie ''[[Literature/TheHistoryOfTomJonesAFoundling Tom Jones]]'' is a particularly good example of this trope taken to its extreme. [[CrossesTheLineTwice It's more funny than offensive, though.]]

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* The movie ''[[Literature/TheHistoryOfTomJonesAFoundling Tom Jones]]'' ''Film/TomJones'' is a particularly good example of this trope taken to its extreme. [[CrossesTheLineTwice It's more funny than offensive, though.]]


People suffering from the condition retroactive jealousy feel bad because of their loved one's past. Retroactive jealousy happens with all genders, but apparently men have more sexual jealousy and women tend to have romantic jealousy. It often results in undue stress for everyone involved. The sufferers may even end up imagining their partner with someone else obsessively. Many blame themselves for having these feelings, but there are others who blame their SO, invoking this trope and DefiledForever. Retroactive jealousy is considered a form of pure O, a subset of OCD. The treatment/cure is working on self-esteem and realising that if your partner is with you, it's because they like you and the past does not matter.

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People suffering from the condition retroactive jealousy feel bad because of their loved one's past. Retroactive jealousy happens with all genders, but apparently men have more sexual jealousy and women tend to have romantic jealousy. It often results in undue stress for everyone involved. The sufferers may even end up imagining their partner with someone else obsessively. Many blame themselves for having these feelings, but there are others who blame their SO, invoking this trope and DefiledForever. Retroactive jealousy is considered a form of pure O, a subset of OCD. The treatment/cure is working on self-esteem and realising that if there is a reason your partner is with chose you, it's because they like you and that the past does not matter.is irrelevant.


People suffering from the condition retroactive jealousy feel bad because of their loved one's past. Retroactive jealousy happens with all genders, but apparently men have more sexual jealousy and women tend to have romantic jealousy. It often results in undue stress for everyone involved. The sufferers may even end up imagining their partner with someone else obsessively. Many people blame themselves for having these feelings, but there are people who blame their SO, invoking this trope and DefiledForever. Retroactive jealousy is considered a form of pure O, a subset of OCD. The treatment/cure is working on self-esteem and realising that if your partner is with you, it's because they like you and the past does not matter.


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People suffering from the condition retroactive jealousy feel bad because of their loved one's past. Retroactive jealousy happens with all genders, but apparently men have more sexual jealousy and women tend to have romantic jealousy. It often results in undue stress for everyone involved. The sufferers may even end up imagining their partner with someone else obsessively. Many blame themselves for having these feelings, but there are others who blame their SO, invoking this trope and DefiledForever. Retroactive jealousy is considered a form of pure O, a subset of OCD. The treatment/cure is working on self-esteem and realising that if your partner is with you, it's because they like you and the past does not matter.

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People suffering from the condition retroactive jealousy feel bad because of their loved one's past. Retroactive jealousy happens with all genders, but apparently men have more sexual jealousy and women tend to have romantic jealousy. It often results in undue stress for everyone involved. The sufferers may even end up imagining their partner with someone else obsessively. Many people blame themselves for having these feelings, but there are people who blame their SO, invoking this trope and DefiledForever. Retroactive jealousy is considered a form of pure O, a subset of OCD. The treatment/cure is working on self-esteem and realising that if your partner is with you, it's because they like you and the past does not matter.


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* ComicBook/SheHulk in her current series sleeps with quite a few other supers (who else is going to survive, really? Woman of Gamma, man of Kleenex) and has some issues with this trope. She's very irritated whenever people ask about her night with Juggernaut, then a member of the ComicBook/XMen but still a known a supervillain (this has since been retconned into her genuinely not sleeping with him). She also asks Tony Stark how he gets away with sleeping around (while in bed with him).

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* ComicBook/SheHulk in her current series sleeps with quite a few other supers (who else is going to survive, really? Woman of Gamma, man of Kleenex) and has some issues with this trope. She's very irritated whenever people ask about her night with Juggernaut, then a member of the ComicBook/XMen but still a known a supervillain (this has since been retconned into her genuinely not sleeping with him). She also asks Tony Stark how he gets away with sleeping around (while in bed with him).

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* In ''Film/TheMansion'', to Stéphane's horror, and growing rage, his ex-girlfriend, Sam, is established through the film to have slept with practically every male member in the cast at some point.


* This trope is quite frequent in the Shojo genre. The male lead is usually a stud, a player, a lady's man. He doesn't always sleep with other women (since for, whatever reason, he gets a lot of girls but is not interested in sex or is only truly interested in the female lead?). However, the female lead will usually always be a virgin, at least until the end of the series where she slept with the guy who she likes, expect her to be utterly embarrassed from her first time. However, in less optimistic cases, it is considered Sex As Drama.



* Just about every Bollywood Movie in existence to the point that a female lead who isn't a virgin until marraige would be considered a averted. It would be easier to note exceptions here but this is changing.


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* Anna from ''Film/WayDownEast'' ends up impregnated by a womanizing man who promised to marry her just to get her into bed. After learning of her pregnancy he runs off. Being an unwed single mother, Anna receives a lot of scorn [[spoiler:even as her baby lies sick and dying]].


* "[[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m-HVP01goE4 I'm That Kind Of Girl]]" by Patty Loveless is all about this {{Trope}}:

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* "[[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m-HVP01goE4 I'm That Kind Of Girl]]" by Patty Loveless Music/PattyLoveless is all about this {{Trope}}:

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