Romance

Ohhh. I vaguely remember that. Man, I was really ambivalent about that movie.

I mostly remember him from 28 Days Later. Good times.

You know what really warms my heart? Seeing a couple who have obviously been married for several decades just walking by.^note Bonus points if they're holding hands. In an era where the divorce rate is roughly 50%, it's just insipiring to see two people who've managed to navigate life's ups and downs together for such a long time. That's the kind of marriage I want to have — one in which my wife and I can create a happy life together that doesn't end until we die.

Does anyone here have any experience with online dating sites that you have to pay for? Supposedly, the people on these sites are more serious about finding love, and thus, are less likely to flake out on you, but I really don't know if I should believe that. Otherwise, I'm at my wit's end here.

I have profiles on a couple such websites, but I don't have their memberships because I'm not exactly rolling in money. Don't really see much point in some of them, since most paywalls hold messaging services behind them. Ok Cupid let's you message for free, though your results may vary.

I asked about paying websites specifically because I've been on OK Cupid for YEARS with no luck, and I wanted to see if I would have to deal with the same type of bullshit on paying websites.

I mean, the paywall theoretically screens out a lot of the people looking for a night's hookup.

And they say you can't buy love!

My sister used eHarmony for a few years. She's still very single and lonely.

I imagine your luck with dating websites is gonna vary about as much as your luck IRL. I guess it depends if you're willing to do a more long-distance relationship, but for something physical you'd still be mostly limited to the people in your town/small driving distance at most.

And well, obviously how attractive (not just physically mind you) you are to other people is going to matter as well, but you all already know that :'p

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I've been feeling (relatively) good about the possibility of starting a new relationship recently. A while back I was worried about a lot of personal hangups that were stewing in my head, but oddly enough a lot of that has subsided at least for the moment. I guess enough time has passed that a lot of that stuff isn't weighing on me so hard anymore. Part of it is I feel like I've managed to develop a healthier and more well-defined self-image in the last few months, which I feel has been a big problem with all of my relationships throughout my life, not just romantic ones.

The only thing is that, humorously, despite this fresh resolve I don't have a particularly great way of meeting new people right now. I'm taking a break from university for a bit in order to try and get into a government servant position, so I've been mostly at home studying (or douching off/procrastinating on studying). Not sure when/if I'm coming back. I suppose if I get this job (which I don't think is that likely, but who knows) I probably won't have to worry about that given the workplace will give me plenty of opportunities.

I guess we'll see, either way I'm not really hung up on it right now since I'm more concerned with moving up in life and doing something to make my family's financial situation a bit easier.

I got to talk to my crush again!

Nice, Dem.

Thanks. :) Sorry for the lateness of my reply.

I sent her an email earlier this morning. I almost absentmindedly put "Love" toward the end of it. ^_^;;

DELETE DELETE DELETE!

Long post, I suppose:

I tend to lean on the left side of the American political spectrum, but I don't really care what people are. I have a crush on a girl - see where this is going? - and she is pretty far right on the American political spectrum. Apologies for using "American" to designate USA She's said many times that she would not date someone that didn't believe what she believed. Well, that sucks. Ah, well, tale as old as time, song as old as rhyme... But I've been dealing with my family - particularly my mother's side of the family - ridiculing me or mocking me for believing what I do for years now. They send videos or movies to try and change me every once in a while. My mom once said that she felt like she failed because I didn't go along with what she believed. And now there's this girl I'm flippin' heels-over-head and back again for, and it's just the same old thing I deal with so much of with my family. And it doesn't really make me angry or even sad. Just tired.

Should I have posted this somewhere else?

edited 2nd May '16 1:45:25 PM by Troper_Walrus

I switched it to "Sincerely" in time.

IT'S OKAY, EVERYBODY, WE'RE COOL, JUST STAY CALM! Code Red Averted, business as usual!

Why are you shouting? :S

Walrus, I think this is a fine place for that post. I don't know where it'd fit better.

I don't think I've really had to deal with strongly differing political opinions in a relationship, but it seems like your problem isn't so much that as her blatantly-stated unwillingness to consider dating someone who doesn't have the same political beliefs as her.

Which honestly kind of makes her sound like someone you should run from.

edited 3rd May '16 7:28:28 AM by SolipSchism

-sees I have a new email-
-it turns out to be from Ruth's Chris Steakhouse again-
-imitates Rattrap- That's not who I wanted it to be from... >.>

Thanks for your opinion, Solip Schism. I mean, she's still a nice person and a good friend, but you're probably right.

Sorry I shouted. I thought it would be a touch amusing, to comically over react to the situation, i.e. nuclear meltdown.

Also: This man over here just made a Beast Wars reference. Can we get him a medal? Screw it, I'm giving him a medal.

i have a crush on someone and i'm quickly realizing

i don't even know how to ask someone out or talk to them like a normal, actual person

Enter conversation with them about something both of you can talk about, then throw in there, "Hey, you wanna hang out sometime?" If yes, say, "Great! When might you be free?"

You don't really have to talk to her any differently than you would with anyone else. Try not to put pressure on yourself or think you have to do anything special.

Otherwise, what 0dd said.

edited 4th May '16 3:04:14 PM by wehrmacht

It's kind of a weird feeling learning that your first real "internet girlfriend" is getting married.