Romance

Got to agree with Xeroop - if it goes smoothly, then it's not so bad. I still know a few exes I've had simply because most often it's minor why it happens, or they can't seem to appreciate that being depressed for 30 years means I'll likely be depressed and it won't have been their fault.

Had a nice Skype date with my boyfriend watching the PAX D&D livestream and riffing it until his battery got too low

Well it's been a while since the break-up with my first girlfriend (2 months now to be exact) thankfully the break-up seems to of went well since we can still be friends.

I have conflicting feelings on a new girl I met very recently. She is a shy, introverted girl that I noticed briefly in one of my classes that I gained some curiosity for as I noticed that the brief times I have seen her she had no friends at all and she rarely talks or even laughs. Me being shy myself I was a nervous wreck when I was trying to introduce myself and befriend her and now along with being a friend she is a person of interest to me (in a mostly platonic but slightly romantic way if that makes any sense)

Turns out me and her have similar interests, she apparently is a natural loner, she has social anxiety, and she seems to so far be a very nice and patient person. My brain isn't sure what to think now about her, I definitely want to be friends that's for sure but I am completely confused on why some part of me wants to attempt to go beyond on that.

Is this what rebound feels like? I really rather avoid that if so....

Then perhaps taking it slowly and being cautious would be the best bet.

How do I suggest potentially offensive ideas for the bedroom? For instance, I think it's be fucking hot if my wife put on so much makeup she looks like a whore (just for sex, not for everyday use). How do I say "I want you to look like a whore" without being completely offensive?

You don't would be my guess.

Don't use "whore" would be my first suggestion.

Second, just suggest it to her. And make sure you're clear it's her decision entirely. Don't try to coerce her into doing it if she doesn't want to.

Just suggest it in another way - 'How about something where you look like a back-alley girl?'. Gets it over and doesn't make it sound permanent.

Maybe just plain suggest she wear A LOT of make-up.

And emphasize the "a lot" part.

Being euphemistic doesn't always work.

You can literally just say "I think it'd be fun if you dressed up as a prostitute next time we do the do." And I don't think there'd be much problem with that.

Exactly, and that gets the point over without hiding behind euphemisms which get irritating.

Hm.... I see your point.

I mean, "do the do" is technically a euphemism, but I prefer fun euphemisms for sex over the actual words which aren't very fun.

Help! I think one of my friends is trying to flirt with me! But I'm not sure because im terrible at society

One thing I've learned is that if I think someone is flirting with me, they almost certainly aren't.

Haha. Its the exact opposite most of the time for me. Especially when i said I needed more of her in my life, and she asked "which part?"

Not related to me directly, but it's a good feeling when someone you cared about^note  Still do to an extent, but more of it is platonic at this point, my girlfriend has the spotlight now finds someone much better than you as a person and decides to tie the knot.

I do wish this had happened while I was around though,instead of in my job-exile.

edited 2nd Sep '14 8:32:42 PM by terlwyth

Feel the same way about my first ex having a steady bf now

Yeah... I have trouble managing my jealousy in that case usually. Sometimes there will be someone I see my crush with well enough that I'll get behind their relationship, but not often.

My major high school crush got married to a guy I knew really well and I unfriended her for a while because it hurt too much seeing married life updates, but once I got past that I started to see how really good they are together. And as parents to their son.

I kind of ship my current crush with her best friend, but they're either fully platonic or have the same asymmetrical feels situation I have with her.

Oh! And then there was the kinda Indie-scene coworker I had a thing for who I was completely fine with meeting her boyfriend the first time because they were totally a matched set. And I think they weren't even officially a couple yet.

edited 2nd Sep '14 8:44:33 PM by TParadox

Maybe someday I'll be in a position to be happy for my "ex" in general, but presently i'm pretty resentful of her in general and kind of never want to see or hear from her again. (granted this might be a natural reaction given the breakup wasnt that long ago but whatever)

props to you guys for being happy for other people in that situation, you're better people than me :v

edited 2nd Sep '14 8:48:47 PM by wehrmacht

Kinda hard to be jealous when the whole thing was years ago, I just don't have room to hold that kind of resentment.

All of my exes are horrible, so I kinda hope they die in a ditch somewhere. I suppose they can die together, at least.

One of mine was vindicated by history, fuck the others with a spiked dildo.

Isn't one a coworker? Hmmm I suppose bosses are annoying usually ~shrugs~