Romance

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I'm lonely guys. I hate that I'm so picky about what/who I truly want. It's probably the biggest root of why I've been single all but about an accumulated year of my life.

Well it's better to be picky than going for any jerk who asks you out. And maybe it's not your fault at all; according to these people I'm a bit of a catch (I don't get it, but whatever), and yet I've only been dating for a little less than 4 months at this point after 17 years on this Earth.

Being picky came naturally to me and I consider it the superior way of going about things despite how much it's screwed me over.

As much as I regret that the entirety of my successful (or semi-successful) romantic/sexual experiences would make up less than a day, it's better than regretting hooking up with someone who was really not my type.

On the flip side of things, going out with anyone who shows interest isn't a bad thing at all. Gives you experience in dating. Besides, a date is not a contract—you aren't obliged to stay with someone after one date if you don't want to. And you're not obligated to hook up with someone after one date either.

(I'm kinda hampered here in that I rarely if ever find anyone who shows interest in me, but hey.)

edited 23rd Aug '14 9:27:18 AM by Odd1

What I'm told it could be: casual dates with several people concurrently until one stands out that you want to be exclusive with.

What everyone seems to assume: unless it's a disaster, the first date is a commitment to exclusivity until the couple knows for sure if they want to marry or not. And marriage is again the default unless some major dealbreaker comes up.

@TP: Jeez, that's a crappy way to do it. I hope it's not actually the norm.

That's what it seems like people are assuming, at least in high school and college. If you're serious enough to go in a date, you're serious enough to shrug your way into marriage.

Well that's kinda dumb. In my case, we decided to be together before our first date actually, simply because we'd already known each other for quite a while. And the dates we've had so far have all been splendid.

@Tpa: Yeah, those people who think that way are dumb. The former idea, casual dates with people until you find something that sticks, is an incredibly reasonable approach. After all, especially if you didn't know the people before, you've really got nothing to lose (besides maybe money)

If I hadn't gone at mine the way I did with a former friend-turned-girlfriend then that'd be how I'd do it.

edited 23rd Aug '14 11:26:47 AM by Kesagake

Dates are confusing.

I imagine they would be with someone you hardly know. Good thing I didn't go that route.

Then again, when it comes to non Internet love, I'm clueless.

Even with people I know dates are confusing.

I'm really bad at one-on-one interaction. I'm amazing when there are multiple people I can bounce off of (if I'm allowed a bit of narcissism). But with only one... it's a struggle.

edited 23rd Aug '14 11:44:10 AM by Mukora

Well I'm not the best at romance in real life. My girlfriend seems to think I'm doing okay though, so I must be doing something right.

I'm fine with one-on-one interaction, so long as the other person has things to say. I'm better with responding in the beginning than with initiating conversation. Once I get into the swing of things or if something interesting is brought up, I can talk forever, but otherwise, eh.

/Vent: why is it that the one woman who understands me completely and who I can actually have really good conversations with has to be with someone...

Worst part is, I had my chance, as she was single for a while after her last relationship ended, and I did nothing.../

That was how I felt for a while with my current girlfriend. I hope your situation ends well for you.

Thank you. This is something that's been a long time in the making (and something that in the past I constantly spammed this thread angsting about). Just hoping if the chance arises again I don't blow it off like last time.

Yeah, you've got to try and get on it if the chance arises again. Don't jump in there straight away, but don't sit waiting forever. And of course, you can't assume that she'll ever break up with this other person; for all we know those two'll get married and stay together forever. You can't hang all your hopes on one person.

This.

And don't hesitate to ask out someone else who catches your eye in the mean time.

Double posting, sorry

So my girlfriend is coming with me, my little sisters, and my mom to see a movie with us tomorrow. Seeing as she hasn't actually met my folks before, this should prove interesting.

Well, now it's not a double post. Thank you good sir!

edited 23rd Aug '14 4:56:57 PM by Kesagake

Welcome

Must be nice, because it's a huge logistical headache trying to figure out how to get Musey and my folks to meet. I'm hoping Thanksgiving will work,but I wouldn't be surprised if it had to be all the way into next year

Oh yeah, I imagine that'd be pretty difficult.

So at work I saw this dude who looked familiar, but not in a good way. He bore a resemblance to this one guy who drunkenly hit on me at a friend's party.

To be fair, he was actually quite nice and polite. It's just that sleazy drunken first impressions are hard to shake. And I was at work, so having my personal and professional life mingle unexpectedly was very uncomfortable. And also bad romantic experience last month.

I think about dating sometimes, but I still have a kneejerk "UGH BOYS ARE GROSS" reaction so I'll have to stay single for a while.

edited 23rd Aug '14 6:41:18 PM by Leradny