Insecurity, Sadness, Anxiety, and such matters II:

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This is Troper Counseling Services and Support Group: round two because the old one broke.

In this thread, you can talk about any problems or stress you are experiencing without fear of judgement or condescension. No problem is too small for you to talk about. Do not worry that your problems are annoying or petty or what have you; we're here to help and we're here to listen.

Carry on.

edited 25th Jan '13 3:16:33 PM by Willbyr

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(ahem) I'm in the Pacific Time Zone. tongue

edited 1st Sep '10 5:35:55 AM by EnglishIvy

628 SenatorAwesomePants1st Sep 2010 05:37:58 AM from the Neuro Tower , Relationship Status: In bed with a green-skinned space babe
not a role-model
Honestly, I've found most people to be vastly different from their public appearance or name/rep. My reputation in high school was always an arrogant whore for example. I was a very very insecure virgin, it was because I was friends mainly with guys and was an actress who took it too far in early high school(and in my second high school after moving it was because of rumors spread by certain people who disliked me). Most people, regardless, at least by themselves tend to be rather nice. But yes, it is intimidating. I'm shy around new people... so it only stands to reason that an introvert would be more so.

Being an introvert is not inherently bad though. Nor is being an extrovert. It simply is. And it's the best thing to remember. I think anyway.

Ivy: Ok!

XD I'm no Easterner. I'm on the edge of that time zone(right around Louisville.) and have been in the Pacific time zone and in Taipei Time sometimes(longer than Pacific but nowadays only rarely).

edited 1st Sep '10 5:40:45 AM by SenatorAwesomePants


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Sapient Blob of Tofu
@Ivy. I volunteer, provided I get to spank you.

@SAP. The apologetic tone confuses me. I figure you have raging BDD but sometimes yeah I need to lampshade how ridiculous it gets. If those photos are at all an accurate representation of you, you're dangerously underweight.
Again with the data mining, dear Aunt?
631 SenatorAwesomePants1st Sep 2010 05:48:43 AM from the Neuro Tower , Relationship Status: In bed with a green-skinned space babe
not a role-model
Korg: I feel always like I offended someone by speaking of my opinion of my weight or self. So I need to apologize. I have no idea if that makes sense. BDD? Maybe. Might be brought on by years of being made fun of in school or the years of eating ...issues... I've had and have been trying as hard as fuck to get over. Recently, I've almost given up though. sigh Like I said, intellectually, I grasp exactly how thin I am and how I look. It just doesn't translate to me right. And I'm also naturally small.(Yes, the photos are accurate. I take them, I put them on photobucket, I post them. Right then. My sister's thinner though. And without any thing like me. She wants to gain.) My natural weight is only about 10 pounds higher than recent. (I've been lower. I've been higher.) That is one of the reasons that I'm going to the mental health people today.

Also, I do know how ridiculous it sounds. I almost erase each post with it in it. But I fucking need to get it out. And I'm sorry, because I know that it's stupid, that it's ridiculous and immature.

Dove: Join a club? I'm doing that today. I don't know. I'm bad at suggesting stuff like this, as I'm simply useless right now.(Haven't really made any new friends not in university classes or Waffle House peeps since 08.)

edited 1st Sep '10 5:54:44 AM by SenatorAwesomePants

Sapient Blob of Tofu
Good to know. You need help. But you didn't need me to tell you that.

I wish I had some sort of advice to give you at times like this, but I can't really relate to your situation at all. My combination of hedonism, pigheaded survival instinct and having a very malleable concept of identity mean that self image issues are something I don't grasp too well.
Again with the data mining, dear Aunt?
633 SenatorAwesomePants1st Sep 2010 06:00:09 AM from the Neuro Tower , Relationship Status: In bed with a green-skinned space babe
not a role-model
Korg: I need help for a number of things. I'm well aware of it.[lol]

Funny thing is, in anything except food, I am a hedonist. And I believe in maximizing happiness for everyone. (In an intelligent way.) The survival instinct I don't get so much, the pigheadness I do, as to the last... I have no idea who I am. I'm many things to many people but have yet to figure out who I am to myself. shrug But I understand. I often can't give advice because I don't understand it myself.
It's hard for me to not think that people see "23-year-old college freshman", and immediately conclude that I'm worthless.

In my experience, older students tend to be perceived as interesting people, if somewhat less approachable. The 60-year-old women that turn up in my classes from time to time are easily some of the coolest students on campus. Obviously some people will still judge, but I think you're severely overestimating the amount of people who'll care.
635 ImipolexG1st Sep 2010 09:16:05 AM from all our yesterdays
frozen in time
College campuses are apt to have students of many ages, not just the usual 18-22 range. And in a lot of cases, older students get treated like a kind of Cool Old Guy, even if they're not that old.

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636 Ponicalica1st Sep 2010 09:17:16 AM from facing Buttercup
Furthermore, how many students are even going to know you're 23? They're going to ask you what year you are, you say freshman, they'll just assume you're 18, if they even care. I've never had another student ask how old I am, just my year.

edited 1st Sep '10 9:18:19 AM by Ponicalica

I went to uni when I was 21, there were people of varying ages; I was actually one of the younger ones in my first year and it was never an issue. People won't know unless you tell them, anyway. This is Britain but I doubt it's ever so different in America.

@Dove: Being an introvert isn't a bad thing by any means. It can be difficult to make friends at school if you are introverted and especially if you've got slightly different interests to everyone else, because God knows a lot of teenagers can be snobby brats at times. There's no shame in having a smaller group of friends, also, and the best way to combat the stress you're having is to take things slowly. Just start by saying hello to more people and whatnot, then start asking how they are, if it leads to more of a conversation, and how their summer went, that sort of thing.

edited 1st Sep '10 1:27:47 PM by elemcee

Caissa's DeathAngel
In Britain, almost every class will have at least a couple of mature students (which includes those in their mid-twenties). We certainly had several in our year, and they were just as highly regarded as the rest of us - more so in many cases, because they'd already been there, done that with the reckless late teenage/early twenties partying so were now just looking to buckle down and work. Since they paid attention, and my course (financial services) involved a lot of group tasks, they commanded a lot of respect.

Don't see any reason for it to be any different State-side.
^Well, the ones I knew were still party-happy in their mid-twenties to early thirties.[lol] But, yes, I can't imagine the States are any different, as I said.

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I'm the world's greatest
You know what?

I really, really, really, really desperately do not want to believe I am a monster anymore.
Please don't tell me that I'm dreaming When all I ever wanted was to dream another sunset with you
What brought this train of thought on?
I'm the world's greatest
Well, I was at Anime Club and I was watching my friends and seeing how happy they were because they didn't have to deal with believing they were monsters, and they didn't randomly shut down because they're afraid if they keep talking they're going to be attacked. And I was jealous.

Please don't tell me that I'm dreaming When all I ever wanted was to dream another sunset with you
Attacked? Shutdown  *? Monster?
I'm the world's greatest
I have panic attacks randomly in which I'll just shut down, stop talking to anyone, and go somewhere and cry because of all the people calling me a monster and because after a while I'll be talking and then suddenly I'll get scared the people I'm talking to will attack me out of nowhere.

This even happens when I'm hanging out with my soulbonds.
Please don't tell me that I'm dreaming When all I ever wanted was to dream another sunset with you
Ehhh, who calls you a monster? Random people on the street? And you sure these attacks ain't just related to your panic attacks too?
647 A_H_R1st Sep 2010 06:01:33 PM from Crevice of your Mind
Resistance is Futile
DLC: You are many things, but you are most certainly not a monster. Do not mind rape yourself into believing you are.
648 Blackmoon1st Sep 2010 06:01:59 PM from the Blind Eternities , Relationship Status: Halfway to Pon Farr
Your Worth is 50 Yen!
You should get some therapy for that, really. :/ Sounds like some sort of anxiety disorder to me.
649 krrackknut1st Sep 2010 06:11:53 PM from The empty Aether.
Not here, look elsewhere
You're only a monster if you have tentacles and/or you kill people.

I think it's safe to say that you do not do either.
An useless name, a forsaken connection.
I'm the world's greatest
@Black Dove: I spent the entire summer last year and most of the autumn being called a monster and being told I shouldn't be alive by every single person on a website. In addition to that they played with my mind and kept twisting things so I began to believe it.

This past week my worst enemy resurfaced and started telling people I choke cats. The worst part is people believed her. Do I really seem like the kind of person who'd choke a cat?
Please don't tell me that I'm dreaming When all I ever wanted was to dream another sunset with you

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