Insecurity, Sadness, Anxiety, and such matters II:

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This is Troper Counseling Services and Support Group: round two because the old one broke.

In this thread, you can talk about any problems or stress you are experiencing without fear of judgement or condescension. No problem is too small for you to talk about. Do not worry that your problems are annoying or petty or what have you; we're here to help and we're here to listen.

Carry on.

edited 25th Jan '13 3:16:33 PM by Willbyr

48726 Immi2nd May 2013 03:33:29 PM , Relationship Status: I know
Sleep. It's good for you. And feeling guilty about physical necessities never ends if you let yourself dig into it.

Also, I'm pretty sure* that in general, older people need less sleep than "young" people. So your parents have an unfair advantage to begin with.
No logic can defeat our purpose!

PM box is always open.
48727 joeyjojo2nd May 2013 04:12:02 PM from South Sydney: go the bunnies!
Happy New Year!
I.... lack passion in my life. Things and people catch my interest but I feel neither major highs or lows towards them.
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48728 TheMike2nd May 2013 04:19:52 PM , Relationship Status: Non-Canon
Bo "Jangles" Wyatt
I know the feeling somewhat, Joey. I haven't been...happily taken by anything for a while.

It might be anxiety/stress from school clouding the enjoyment, for me...any ideas on your end?
In the backyard, buried deep underneath the tree
There's a monster, takin' root in the property...
48729 Misuki2nd May 2013 04:42:56 PM from Texas, USA , Relationship Status: Married to the job
Discworld Denizen
I'm kind of nervous about something.

It's finals week, and I have a final project. It's already done, and I submitted it this morning.

However, I'm not sure if my teacher will be able to see it, or grade it. She said two days ago (when I had class with her) that she couldn't open the Powerpoint when we sent it as an attachment.

Attaching was the only way to send it.

I tried exporting the Powerpoint to MS Word in an outline form, but I only got slide titles. I also tried saving it as a PDF, but I couldn't find the option.

In the end, I ended up submitting it the only way I knew how, and now I'm super worried that my prof won't see it, and I'll get an incomplete on my final or something. She's a tech-shy person (of the older generation), so emailing her about my concerns is not an option.

On a second note of technology fail...

I lost at least a year, maybe more, worth of progress on the Sims 2.

I don't know how or why, but after working fine forever, the game borked on me and I was not able to load the neighborhoods I had been playing in (and making Sims journals on my Deviantart). I tried every step from every guide in creation, I even tried taking out my downloaded/custom content. It didn't work, so I have to start over from scratch.

Upon starting a new game, on two different computers, I tried to put downloaded content that I thought was safe - just a few hairs and stuff I used before.

It went "Not Responding" again. So now I'm starting over, without custom stuff, and from the very beginning.

"I don't know where to start" is an understatement.

On top of that, my sister and I shared the game. She is not gonna be happy that her stuff is gone along with mine, and I couldn't even get custom content to load on her brand new Windows 7 computer.

FML, and eff technology. My favorite game has now become a headache for me.
"This is not a game. Here and now, we are alive."
48730 MrAHR2nd May 2013 04:44:45 PM from ಠ_ಠ , Relationship Status: A cockroach, nothing can kill it.
Ahr river
ugh I feel fat ugh
@New Geek Philospher: Uh yeah, if there was any "loser creeper" to be found in that ordeal it was probably the guy who was threatening to send a letter bomb to your house. Fuck him and fuck anyone who constantly goes on about the concept of "creepy", because I'm sick of it, too.

Now, there do individuals who are predatory, but if you ever come across one of them, you'll probably feel it on an instinctual level.

edited 2nd May '13 10:37:32 PM by Robotnik

48732 Exelixi3rd May 2013 01:31:01 AM from Alchemist's workshop , Relationship Status: Armed with the Power of Love
AHR, you know better than to think of thinness as being a measure of anything.

Pocky, Immi is right. You physically need more sleep than older people, and will until your mid twenties. Sleep.
Mura: -flips the bird to veterinary science with one hand and Euclidean geometry with the other-
I did manage to get some sleep last night, and will be getting a lot more tonight.
48734 NewGeekPhilosopher3rd May 2013 04:32:05 AM from Sydney, Australia
Wizard Basement

Recent update, I didn't realise until I got home that there's a girl on my campus who keeps following me to the bus stop after class and she asked me questions, weirdly specific questions, like "What are you doing this weekend?" and following my answer of "I dunno, stuff, I don't have a lot going on" she said something like "Well, how about working on changing that?".

It didn't occur to me until I got home that this girl may or may not be hitting on me but I'm not sure how I feel about this since we do chat a lot but I don't feel a sense of romantic attraction to her that I do when I walk down the street and see lots of ladies walking by and think about which girl I could see myself with. I don't want that to sound like some nice guy statement like I deserve a smoking hot babe but though this girl tailing me is admirable I have no clue whether she's actually trying to ask me out or not, and if she is, what the hell do I say to that if I don't see her in a romantic light?

And what's more I'm not sure the kinds of women I'm attracted to are attracted to me either. It's complicated and weird.

edited 3rd May '13 4:32:13 AM by NewGeekPhilosopher

Hell Hasn't Earned My Tears
48735 MrAHR3rd May 2013 05:58:48 AM from ಠ_ಠ , Relationship Status: A cockroach, nothing can kill it.
Ahr river
Exel: That's just it. I don't think I'm ugly. I don't think I need to be thin. It's just...that's how I was before. And now it's changing. And now my skin has red stretch marks on it. I had the same hatred when I developed a chest. Also every time I put on weight I worry that I'm pregnant, because I'm just eternally paranoid.

Also being thin means one thing: I can fit into the pants I brought to college with me. So far I can only fit into half of them.

edited 3rd May '13 6:00:07 AM by MrAHR

48736 LoniJay3rd May 2013 06:40:58 AM from Australia , Relationship Status: Pining for the fjords
@AHR: I think I know what you mean there... I don't fit into most of my jeans now and it's very irritating.
Be not afraid...
48737 MurkyMuse3rd May 2013 08:49:02 AM , Relationship Status: Shipping fictional characters
Magical Girl
Not fitting jeans? I get that. I recently went up a size... I really shouldn't complain because objectively I know it's not that big of a deal and is probably a good thing for me in particular. But when you're constantly bombarded with society's ideal, it's hard not to feel insecure sometimes.

...And now I feel bad for complaining about looks. I mean, I'm no model but for the most part I'm completely comfortable in my skin...
48738 TheMike3rd May 2013 08:54:58 AM , Relationship Status: Non-Canon
Bo "Jangles" Wyatt
I seriously just wish I could gain some weight. Skinny jeans fall off if I don't wear a belt, and people in meatspace always mention how bony I am when I hug them.

...I should prolly motivate myself to start working out.
In the backyard, buried deep underneath the tree
There's a monster, takin' root in the property...
48739 Fusionman3rd May 2013 09:07:37 AM from In a snow-covered wasteland , Relationship Status: I won't say I'm in love
It's good I'm graduating soon. I'm sick of all of this. Bullying, loneliness, judgmental hypocritical kids...I haven't had a true friend in meatspace for 2 years now.

And maybe that's what I deserve. I hate myself. So so much...wonder why I'm even alive sometimes.
To Be Updated when I'm not Lazy
48740 WendytheCreeper3rd May 2013 01:01:32 PM from Pennsylvania , Relationship Status: Robosexual
thug lolita satan
Sometimes, I hear people in the school band that I'm complain about others in the band, and it just makes me feel...horrible. I have a feeling there's a darker side to the band than I had realized. It hurts the most when they critisize a certain someone that I like...which is quite often.
singing robots are my passion
48741 strawberryflavored3rd May 2013 02:12:11 PM from Virginia , Relationship Status: Maxing my social links
Espeon GX
As someone who's been a victim of that, I can understand where you're coming from. It sucks.
"We are alive, after all. And being alive is pretty much a constant stream of embarrassment."
- Pod 153
The Empress
Edit:nevermind, stupid and petty

edited 3rd May '13 3:37:24 PM by Sixthhokage1

Avatar from Neon Moon Tarot
My psychologist says I have self-esteem issues. Well, duh, I could have told her that. Yet it is such a subtle and ubiquitous thing that I never really notice it. I have decided that, when faced with a compliment, rather than downplay it, I am going to exaggerate it to comic levels, until I can learn to simply accept it gracefully. Today, I began the experiment. When someone said that no one can pull off the t-shirt I was wearing like I do (it is a complimentary t-shirt by a local miniature board game importer given out at cons, which means that my friends see it a lot), I replied with "well none of them have my natural attractiveness". It got a laugh out of them, at least.

I'm hoping I get the hang of it quickly before I start looking too smug.
48744 SmytheOrdo3rd May 2013 05:03:14 PM from In The Mountains , Relationship Status: watch?v=dQw4w9WgXcQ
Wide Eyed Wonderman
My dad said something to me the other day that makes me kinda want to hate him.

"Women are only good for sex unless they're smart."

Ugh....that kind of thinking just disgusts me and makes my blood boil every time I'm around him...just...
David Bowie 1947-2016
48745 cutewithoutthe3rd May 2013 05:45:35 PM , Relationship Status: Star-crossed
Gˇ­berit Nor­ling
My life is at a balance.

On the one hand, horrible things happen to me all the time.

On the other, occasionally, happy things happen.

My life is eternally cycling between the happy and the sad.

One moment, I learn my granfather is going to die soon and my mother's mental state is failing. The next, a girl tells me she loves me. Then, she ends up going out with another guy. But I'm still happy for her.

That's how it's been for the last few weeks. It's basically confirmed that... this struggle will go on until the end of my days.

I'll suffer horribly. But it'll all be worth it... just for that one happy moment in the middle of it all.
48746 Inhopelessguy3rd May 2013 10:25:28 PM from Birmingham Ctl, UK , Relationship Status: Wanna dance with somebody
Gahhh. When I fall asleep I feel you with me. When I fall asleep I feel you with me.

But I don't want to. I shouldn't. You don't feel it any more, but I do. Why do I still care so much? It doesn't make sense. Alas.

I'm so confused. Maybe I'm just emotional tonight. I don't know. But... whatevs.
I feel annoying most of the time But I keep on talking just to keep my mind off you Just to keep my mind off you.

48747 MsCC933rd May 2013 11:56:04 PM from In your dreams <3 , Relationship Status: Shipping fictional characters
Welcome to Me
I'm 20 and I'm really starting to hate my life. Although I'm in college, I have never had a job and I don't have a license and bad things happen to me left and right. I tried to get my provisionals, only to find out my permit expired and I have to wait a month because I'm in college far away from home.

I've been trying to get a summer job every year since I was 17 and I have only gotten 4 interviews, but never a call back. I really need a job this summer to replace my laptop that I broke because I don't want to be at the library every night next semester.

Also, I noticed that I'm usually the last out of my peers to accomplish stuff (I hate being a late bloomer with a passion). Even people younger than me and aren't attending college have gotten a job. Even my younger brother got a job before me.

I just found out that a 17 year old just got a summer job for the same company I applied for, an I'm now really starting to lose hope and I resent God for putting me in this situation.

edited 4th May '13 1:05:37 AM by MsCC93

48748 SmytheOrdo4th May 2013 12:23:09 AM from In The Mountains , Relationship Status: watch?v=dQw4w9WgXcQ
Wide Eyed Wonderman
Getting a job is so hard.
David Bowie 1947-2016
48749 joeyjojo4th May 2013 06:37:05 AM from South Sydney: go the bunnies!
Happy New Year!
^^I'm been in similar situations. It's annoying but you seriously end up with a job/license before you know if you stay focus on what you're doing and don't preoccupy yourself with where others are.

If that doesn't make you feel better. Spent time with people worse off then you. They're there trust me.

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48750 imojee4th May 2013 11:42:42 PM from The Desert , Relationship Status: In bed with a green-skinned space babe
Be evil
I've gotten the question of how I can remain "so calm and zen" during situations where everyone else is tense and very stressed out. I think I've discovered that my secret is somehow being able to just not think about it for the moment, or at the very least an acceptance of events to come (I don't want to use the word fate, I don't believe in it)

Problem is I have a tendency to overthink the hell out of everything. So inevitably I get to thinking about things that would stress me out and so they do, a lot. And so it is that I have long periods of very little to no stress with very high stress peaks scattered about. Suddenly I think about everything that has gone, is going, and will go wrong. Some of that may very well be imagined, hard to tell.

Perhaps I'm going about handling stress the wrong way, but I suppose I'm just venting here and not really looking for anything, however suggestions on better ways to handle this would be welcome.
Through the eyes I have known you.

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