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Insecurity, Sadness, Anxiety, and such matters II:

This is Troper Counseling Services and Support Group: round two because the old one broke.

In this thread, you can talk about any problems or stress you are experiencing without fear of judgement or condescension. No problem is too small for you to talk about. Do not worry that your problems are annoying or petty or what have you; we're here to help and we're here to listen.

Carry on.

edited 25th Jan '13 3:16:33 PM by Willbyr

 40601 Immi, Thu, 11th Oct '12 8:53:30 PM Relationship Status: I know
Even though you feel responsible, you aren't. This is your friend's fight. Really, the best thing you can do is be there for them, and you've been stressing yourself impossibly doing that.

Sorry things are so lousy for you lately. sad


I want to play soccer so badly that I can't look at anyone wearing cleats and shinguards without wanting to cry.
No logic can defeat our purpose!

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 40602 Troll Post, Fri, 12th Oct '12 7:43:03 AM from troll post crusher

 40603 Exelixi, Fri, 12th Oct '12 10:16:37 AM from Alchemist's workshop Relationship Status: Armed with the Power of Love
Lesbarian
Inver.

Dude.

Stop apologising for venting.

That's the whole point.

If it's combat/death related stuff you don't want everyone to think about, you can always talk to me in PM. I've seen enough to set me fairly desensitised; no worries about messing with my head.
Mura: -flips the bird to veterinary science with one hand and Euclidean geometry with the other-
 40604 Troll Post, Fri, 12th Oct '12 10:24:26 AM from troll post crusher

it's getting harder to keep a brave face
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 40606 Sixthhokage1, Fri, 12th Oct '12 12:45:52 PM from Fort Worth, TX Relationship Status: Hugging my pillow
Nya
I'm getting increasingly awkward socially, and I have no idea what to do about it
I have a slight obsession with catboys.
 40607 Haldo, Fri, 12th Oct '12 4:35:04 PM from Never never land Relationship Status: Coming soon to theaters
Indecisive pumpkin
My closest friend doesn't respect me, but I don't know how to socialize without her, so I'm le screwed.
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 40608 Mr AHR, Fri, 12th Oct '12 4:42:28 PM from ಠ_ಠ Relationship Status: A cockroach, nothing can kill it.
Ahr river
How does she not respect you?
 40609 Haldo, Fri, 12th Oct '12 4:44:59 PM from Never never land Relationship Status: Coming soon to theaters
Indecisive pumpkin
She switches between being a condescending asshole and being affectionate on the drop of a hat with me, and she doesn't do that with anyone else. She treats me like I'm supposed to be some obedient puppy dog she can play with when she's bored and kick when she's annoyed.
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 40610 Mr AHR, Fri, 12th Oct '12 4:45:31 PM from ಠ_ಠ Relationship Status: A cockroach, nothing can kill it.
Ahr river
Oh dear. That is...not good. Provided she's not just kidding around in a private way.
 40611 Haldo, Fri, 12th Oct '12 4:47:52 PM from Never never land Relationship Status: Coming soon to theaters
Indecisive pumpkin
Yeah, and I've never had the fortitude to call her out on her bullshit because I'm no good at making friends and I'd probably lose my other friends (who are her friends as well) if I stopped hanging out with her.
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 40612 cutewithoutthe, Fri, 12th Oct '12 4:48:26 PM Relationship Status: Star-crossed
Gˇ­berit Nor­ling
I'm in a similar situation, actually.... :/

 40613 Haldo, Fri, 12th Oct '12 5:06:55 PM from Never never land Relationship Status: Coming soon to theaters
Indecisive pumpkin
You have a close friend who doesn't respect you?
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 40614 The Freeman, Fri, 12th Oct '12 6:53:43 PM from Hialeah,FL.
Some long-winded ranting.

Last night my mom and sister got into a heated argument over my mom using sister's car without her permission. Sister got mad due to a previous conversation they had about her going to work and needing the car. Argument started getting worse, and then they both get into a shouting match which leads to sister going to her room.

My mom decided to resolve the situation by going upstairs and continuing to shout at my sister, which just aggravated my sister even more and lead to her hitting mother. Mom's crying now, as is my sister, and she's apologizing and sobbing that she didn't mean to. Sister starts begging my mom to forgive her, my mom's stressed out now and just wants to be left alone. Neither wants to meet up halfway and just calm down, which leads to mother vomiting. Sister finally goes to her room.

Now my mom is crying to me and saying she's a bad mother. I tell her she's obviously not, and give her some comfort. At this point it's getting late and I need to sleep for school.

So there I am, doing my best not to get emotional, and then I break down in my sleep.

I hate it. I hate where I am now. I hate my lower-middle class life. I hate the stress trying to get by is putting on my parents, my brother, and my sister. I hate my mediocre education. I hate the loneliness I feel day in and out because I have zero friends in the real world.

I hate the fact that every time I feel like something good is going, something else has to happen and slap it away, making me feel like shit for appreciating what I have now. I hate the people I'm surrounded by and their first-world fucking problems. Why can't people just be fucking happy with the fact that they have a roof over their head, why should I have to feel bad for what I already have? Why is it so fucking hard for me to just be happy? Why does it feel like I don't have control over any goddamn thing anymore?

I don't know what it is I'm doing wrong. I'm just tired of everything.
That's my dream. It's my nightmare. Crawling, slithering, along the edge of a straight razor ů and surviving.

 40615 darnpenguin, Sat, 13th Oct '12 9:59:02 AM from one friend to another
Yakka Foob Mog
It's human nature to constantly want to reach for something better. If we didn't have the drive to constantly improve our situation, we wouldn't have civilization in the first place, although the jury is still out on whether or not that would be a bad thing.

Yes, it sucks that you can't be happy where you are, but it would hurt even more if you tried to make yourself stop striving for more. You can find a healthy balance between appreciating your home and seeking to improve it. Pick up a new book at the library and try to teach yourself some new skills in your spare time. Tell your family that you love them everyday. Keep your change in a mug on your dresser and refuse to touch it until the end of the year, then use the money to get something nice that the whole family can enjoy. There are a thousand different ways to reconcile your need for stability and your desire for a better life.
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 40616 wuggles, Sat, 13th Oct '12 11:49:32 AM from Miami, FL Relationship Status: [TOP SECRET]
@darnpenguin: That was excellent advice! I wish I'd had that advice 2 years ago...

Anyway, I'm sad today because my cousin, Ro (not real name), is in the hospital. She has cystic fibrosis. She's only 18. She's been using an oxygen tank for the past few months, and on Thursday complained of chest pains. Well, turns out her heart is weak because her lungs are in such poor shape. She was going to be checked out to see if she can get a double-lung transplant, but took a turn for the worse and is now in a medically induced coma. They gave her weeks to live, since now she is almost too sick to get the transplant. It's almost like deja vu, in a way, because her older sister Angel (not real name, obvs.) also has cystic fibrosis. She's had 2 lung transplants. It's just so awful because we've been pretty close, and Ro truly lived life to the fullest. To think that she could be gone from us is horrible.
Please click here to donate money, if you can, to my 16 yo cousin for expenses related to his lung transplant.
 40617 darnpenguin, Sat, 13th Oct '12 1:27:48 PM from one friend to another
Yakka Foob Mog
Death is indeed difficult to deal with. If you were close to her, then no matter what happens, you know that you brought a lot of joy into her life. If she doesn't pull through, then she was blessed to have your love and the love of your family while she could.
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 40618 Haldo, Sat, 13th Oct '12 3:36:38 PM from Never never land Relationship Status: Coming soon to theaters
Indecisive pumpkin
Oh man, Christianity is exhausting. It calls upon its followers to be good people to an extent that is literally impossible for the majority of people to achieve.
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 40619 Oh no a Bear, Sat, 13th Oct '12 3:40:47 PM from Exiting, pursued by a...
I'm back, baby.
[up] The easy way to deal with that is to not live up to your faiths expectations and accept your limits in that regard.

But what specifically makes you say that?
 40620 Haldo, Sat, 13th Oct '12 4:05:46 PM from Never never land Relationship Status: Coming soon to theaters
Indecisive pumpkin
According to Christianity, you're supposed to bend over backwards for everyone to the absolute best of your ability and you're not supposed to retaliate to anyone who attacks you and you're supposed to call out people who are being mean on every occasion, but you must never be mean to them yourself in the process.
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 40621 Troll Post, Sat, 13th Oct '12 4:07:07 PM from troll post crusher

 40622 Slendid Suit, Sat, 13th Oct '12 4:08:53 PM from North of the South and South of the North
Has Spiffy Shoes
Of course, also according to Christianity you should stone non-believers to death and shit, so there's that.
"Hey, you could tweet people's sigs!" "...but why would you want to?"
 40623 Haldo, Sat, 13th Oct '12 4:08:56 PM from Never never land Relationship Status: Coming soon to theaters
Indecisive pumpkin
[up][up]And God would forgive you for that, so long as you do your best and repent when you fail to live up to His creed.

[up]That's old testament stuff, man. That was discredited when Christians started allowing non-Jews to join the faith.

edited 13th Oct '12 4:09:35 PM by Haldo

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I'm an Irene!
Unfortunately, the pure "peaceful" route is nearly impossible. Not even Jesus could do it.

It is important to try your best to not get revenge/hurt others for the ignorance/insulting they display/do, of course. However, avoiding actual revenge does help. A lot.

We are fallible, and makes mistakes. And some people will be assholes, no matter what. The best we can do is try to handle it peacefully. But we can't always do that, no matter how hard we try. Punishment is something that humans do. It's part of who we are.
 40625 Troll Post, Sat, 13th Oct '12 4:10:41 PM from troll post crusher

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