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Insecurity, Sadness, Anxiety, and such matters II:

This is Troper Counseling Services and Support Group: round two because the old one broke.

In this thread, you can talk about any problems or stress you are experiencing without fear of judgement or condescension. No problem is too small for you to talk about. Do not worry that your problems are annoying or petty or what have you; we're here to help and we're here to listen.

Carry on.

edited 25th Jan '13 3:16:33 PM by Willbyr

I detest marmalade.
I've told them I'm unhappy, but I can honestly say until today I wasn't suicidal. And I tried to steer the topic away from my paternal issues, but the three therapists I've had were having none of it. The problem was obviously my father in their eyes and they latched everything onto him.
I have played Borderlands now, but my Undead Ned persona predates it!
Princess Ymir's knightess
Hm... "steer the topic away"? I think you should maybe tell them clearly. When you don't feel that a therapist is helping you, then well... that's not good. XD It's even worse when they ignore that you want to talk about something else.

I detest marmalade.
To be fair, it's been three separate therapists from my college, rather than anyone I'd have to pay to see, since I'm kind of broke. At this point, though, I really think I'm beyond help anyway. I just have this constant feeling of being alone, of being unwanted. I avoid bringing up the topic as much as I can with people I know, since I'm always just told to get over myself and be happy for a change.
I have played Borderlands now, but my Undead Ned persona predates it!
 40379 Immi, Fri, 5th Oct '12 12:07:54 AM Relationship Status: I know
Sometimes it's not about enjoying things or seeing a light at the end of the tunnel, or even believing that the tunnel has an end. It's just about enduring one day at a time. That might not be the most helpful of advice, but... yeah.
No logic can defeat our purpose!

PM box is always open.
I detest marmalade.
It's much more helpful than "get over yourself and stop being sad, " and I appreciate it a lot. I try to endure, but today everything hit me at once and I realized that I really don't have much will to live right now.
I have played Borderlands now, but my Undead Ned persona predates it!
Princess Ymir's knightess
I don't think anyone really is beyond help.

And if anyone is, then their circumstances would have to be especially horrendous and terrible. XD

Well, I can't really tell you anything else than the stuff I've told you before, but I'd suggest that you should try to hold out, deal with the problems in your life as good as you can and maybe start making some friends. Not really helpful advice and kind of obvious, but yeah.

I detest marmalade.
I've tried enduring, and honestly just being told something, anything, is helping a lot. I have a decent circle of friends, but I really don't have a single person I trust. I'm stressed out by work and school while trying to maintain some semblance of a social life AND sleep, and add to that a crush on a friend of mine with whom I have less chance than a snowball in hell piled on top of my crippling insecurities and antisocial tendencies yet a desire and almost need to be loved... I don't know what to do anymore.
I have played Borderlands now, but my Undead Ned persona predates it!
 40383 Immi, Fri, 5th Oct '12 12:21:16 AM Relationship Status: I know
That's a whole lot to worry about. I am usually told to sleep when I feel that way, but insomnia really screws with that idea. I don't suppose you have any interest in puzzles? Or any sort of game that could act as a distraction?
No logic can defeat our purpose!

PM box is always open.
I detest marmalade.
I'm usually an avid gamer, both tabletop and video, but I haven't touched a game in months for longer than a minute or two. I don't have the drive right now.
I have played Borderlands now, but my Undead Ned persona predates it!
 40385 Immi, Fri, 5th Oct '12 12:25:34 AM Relationship Status: I know
Depression tends to sap all desire for activity away. One of the ways to manage that symptom is doing something anyway, even if there's no drive.
No logic can defeat our purpose!

PM box is always open.
I detest marmalade.
That... does make a lot of sense. Usually I'd take something up, but I have to wake up for work in 4 hours. So, looks like that's not happening. But I want to thank everyone who replied. It meant a lot. Once again, I'm sorry for posting something so depressing.
I have played Borderlands now, but my Undead Ned persona predates it!
 40387 Peaceful Apocalypse, Fri, 5th Oct '12 12:27:55 AM from Planet Fastoon
That's what we're here for. For helping!
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 40388 Slendid Suit, Fri, 5th Oct '12 12:30:25 AM from North of the South and South of the North
Has Spiffy Shoes
Except for me, I'm here for exacerbating.

On a more serious note, I'm sorry to hear about all this Ned and I really hope things pick up for you soon. I'm not the most helpful person in the world but if you need a sympathetic listener I can be one of those more or less whenever.

edited 5th Oct '12 12:30:33 AM by SlendidSuit

"Hey, you could tweet people's sigs!" "...but why would you want to?"
 40389 Spooky Mask, Fri, 5th Oct '12 3:46:17 AM from Corner in round room Relationship Status: Non-Canon
Insert title
Eh, this thread in general is depressing.

BTW, if therapist tries to talk to you about your dad, you have to say it clearly because otherwise they assume you are trying to avoid talking and assume they are right. Then again, maybe some therapists are just dumb...
Time to change the style, for now
 40390 Hellman Sabian, Fri, 5th Oct '12 6:45:12 AM from The United Kingdom Relationship Status: Maxing my social links
Pushing that Devil Trigger
Any of you guys get annoyed when you have no idea which direction you want to turn your life in? Having no place to start just sucks.

Still, just small time compared to other troper's problems so I'll zip it.
"Some are born speedy, some achieve speediness and some have speediness thrust upon them." - William Shakespeare (Sort Of)
 40391 Catfish 42, Fri, 5th Oct '12 6:46:58 AM from world´s favourite country. Relationship Status: I'm just high on the world
Bloody Fossil
Oh hell, do I know that. I've got no idea what I'm gonna do. Or where. Or how. Or anything.
I am a traveller of both time and space
To be where I have been
 40392 Drunk Girlfriend, Fri, 5th Oct '12 6:49:42 AM from Castle Geekhaven
[up][up] Yep, I know how that feels. I find that it helps if I get off my ass and do something semi-productive, just so I don't feel like I'm wasting my life doing nothing. Doesn't even have to be anything big.

edited 5th Oct '12 6:49:47 AM by DrunkGirlfriend

"I don't know how I do it. I'm like the Mr. Bean of sex." -Drunkscriblerian
 40393 Inhopelessguy, Fri, 5th Oct '12 7:01:41 AM from Birmingham, Greater Europe Relationship Status: Less than three
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I kinda know what, how, and when to do things. It just seems that the enthusiasm that YELLS REALLY LOUDLY in my head doesn't seem to be received by my body.
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 40394 Hellman Sabian, Fri, 5th Oct '12 7:08:54 AM from The United Kingdom Relationship Status: Maxing my social links
Pushing that Devil Trigger
Oh hell, do I know that. I've got no idea what I'm gonna do. Or where. Or how. Or anything.

-Raises mug of tea-

Heres to being hopelessly lost!

Yep, I know how that feels. I find that it helps if I get off my ass and do something semi-productive, just so I don't feel like I'm wasting my life doing nothing. Doesn't even have to be anything big.

Yeah I know what you mean. Sometimes for me it can be just getting up in the morning.

I kinda know what, how, and when to do things. It just seems that the enthusiasm that YELLS REALLY LOUDLY in my head doesn't seem to be received by my body.

Any ideas why?
"Some are born speedy, some achieve speediness and some have speediness thrust upon them." - William Shakespeare (Sort Of)
 40395 Inhopelessguy, Fri, 5th Oct '12 7:15:40 AM from Birmingham, Greater Europe Relationship Status: Less than three
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I can barely see past the next month, is my main problem. In my head, I can do measured and long-term planning, but only in vague terms.

I know what's wrong. I just need to work a bit more on planning and just generally getting off my arse.

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 40396 Morven, Fri, 5th Oct '12 8:09:05 AM from Seattle, WA, USA
Nemesis
It's one of the unofficial rules here that nobody has to shut up about their personal problems just because someone else's are worse. If you're unhappy, that's reason enough to post here.

Obviously, you can be obnoxious about it and we'd rather you didn't, but just mentioning and talking about it is not that.
A brighter future for a darker age.
 40397 Morven, Fri, 5th Oct '12 8:21:04 AM from Seattle, WA, USA
Nemesis
And speaking of which, I'm currently going to work on about four hours' sleep and a grumpy mood. Alana (my wife) was staying over at her friend's place and called me up at 4am to come get her because he'd come to bed stupid drunk and then pissed himself in his sleep. Clearly his alcoholism is getting worse.

And like all alcoholics, he's all blaming everything but the booze. At first it was "That's not piss", then he was blaming her for doing it, and then it's, "I don't know how it happened." It's not the alcohol, see. Just because he drank two cans of Four Loko and eight bottles of Heineken, it can't be the drink.

Anything but his Precious, I guess.

And alcoholics always behave as if the consequences of their drinking are like some kind of natural disaster that nobody could prevent, just pick up from. They get angry when it's suggested that it might be their fault.
A brighter future for a darker age.
 40398 Drunk Girlfriend, Fri, 5th Oct '12 8:31:28 AM from Castle Geekhaven
@Morven: My sympathy. I have an uncle that's like that, so I know what that's like. sad
"I don't know how I do it. I'm like the Mr. Bean of sex." -Drunkscriblerian
 40399 Morven, Fri, 5th Oct '12 8:40:43 AM from Seattle, WA, USA
Nemesis
The shitty thing is he's a nice guy so long as alcohol is not anywhere near him. If it is, drinking it is a compulsion. He is incapable of stopping at the "happy" stage of inebriated; he drinks until there's none left or he starts throwing up. Fucking boozehound.

Oh, and after a certain point he loses the ability to save things to permanent storage, so he apparently never remembers anything after the fourth or fifth beer. Which doesn't help the learning from mistakes thing.

edited 5th Oct '12 8:42:04 AM by Morven

A brighter future for a darker age.
 40400 Drunk Girlfriend, Fri, 5th Oct '12 8:41:59 AM from Castle Geekhaven
[up] Yeah, that's how it usually goes. sad

Alcoholism is a terrible thing like that. It's the reason why my grandmother won't drink, because she's worried she's predisposed to it.
"I don't know how I do it. I'm like the Mr. Bean of sex." -Drunkscriblerian
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