For the most part, I think that my parents did just fine. I would count myself lucky if I could manage to be as good a parent for my hypothetical, eventual offspring as they were for me and my siblings.
But if I had to make a small (microscopic, really...) criticism...
My parents have never been terribly concerned with the necessity of their children keeping themselves in good physical shape. It was just not something that they saw as an issue; and as a consequence, both me and my siblings have at times been rather overweight and unathletic during our youths. Mind, it was much better this way than if they had been health-obsessed, weight-shaming parents from hell, but perhaps they went a bit too far in the other direction.
But they seem to know where they are going, the ones who walk away from Omelas.I wish my father would have stayed in me and my siblings' lives. I wish he had tried harder to care for us. I wish he had been more responsible. I wish he had saved us from our mother earlier.
I wish my mother tried to fight against her psychosis, instead of giving into it. I wish she would have tried to work, instead of constantly drinking and sleeping, when I lived with her. I wish she wouldn't have constantly abused me, verbally or physically or emotionally. I wish she'll get better somehow, some way.
I think that my parents are doing pretty well. They respect personal privacy, and they know the value of trusting your kids. :3 They don't look at my Internet history out of respect for me as a person, and in return, I don't go to any sites I'm not supposed to go to.
I wish they'd give me more freedom to go play outside, though. Or to meet people. And that they'd let me try new stuff that I want to try more, instead of forcing me to try things I don't want to try.
I wish they'd let me try being more independent, because now I'm scared that I won't know how to do anything on my own when I'm older. Especially since in comparison to my peers.
Not to answer a question with a question but if your parents rise you isn't that just something you pick up on?
Of course I called my parents by their first names until my early teens so I can't speak for everybody..
hashtagsarestupidI want to know who they were before they had me, and who they are independent of parenting. My parents kept their work and their personal lives very distant from when they were with us kids. They felt when they were around us, they should be Mother and Father, not Tom and Diane.
If I called my parents by their first names, they would not have been pleased.
"Oh wait. She doesn't have a... Forget what I said, don't catch the preggo. Just wear her hat." - Question MarcMy parents weren't, that's why I did it
hashtagsarestupidI think that's cool!
My kids call me Medic for the most part. Though my younger one is starting to call me Dad occasionally. Makes me feel special.
"Oh wait. She doesn't have a... Forget what I said, don't catch the preggo. Just wear her hat." - Question MarcI wish my parents had been... parents! xD
Here's a couple, some of which might be minor, and some which are major.
- Father would be less temperamental.
- Both of them to not mind my like for My Little Pony Friendship Is Magic (I.E. they both are okay with it.)
- Mother to not be so overprotective.
It's probably nuts of me to say it, but I think I've opted to a more practical perspective.
"If you have any beefs with Santa, do remember to SETTLE IT IN SMASH!" Quote by EdveedI'm very satisfied, but I wished my dad had been a bit easier to know as a father. He was always in "work"-mode (and still is, even though he's technically retired), but then his work is his life. My view of him was dominated greatly by how my mother perceived him, and there were periods where I called him by his first name.
Join us in our quest to play all RPG video games! Moving on to disc 2 of Grandia!I wish they'd forced me to learn a musical instrument. Otherwise, I'm happ enough.
'All he needs is for somebody to throw handgrenades at him for the rest of his life...'Force your child to take dancing lessons. I can't stress this enough.
hashtagsarestupidI wish my parents had enrolled me in martial arts as soon as I could walk and talk, and when I got home, they'd time me on field stripping an AK-74.
Standing on the edge of the crater...Not force me to take violin lessons and waste a decade on that stupid instrument and almost destroy my desire for anything beyond silence.
Let me skip church once in a while,because it was fairly boring.
Keep secrets and not blab them when my back is turned if I had a falling out
Let me go to a proper Middle School and finish Elementary School with the few friends I just made,instead of forcing me to homeschool with a Fundie ciricullum followed by a Catholic school where everyone was an asshole.
Not signed me up for a Math program that did jack-shit to help me out (some of you tropers probably know it as Kumon)
Signed me up for a martial arts class
Not bragged about how they skipped a grade way back when and left the house at 17.
Although I could go on,I don't want to over Accentuate the Negative just hammer in the point that they weren't perfect. They were still really good parents anyway.
edited 23rd Feb '13 11:50:50 AM by terlwyth
Luminous beings are we, not this crude matterBe a little more forceful on my school life.
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The Great Northern Threadkill.Instilled in me more of a backbone and weren't so overprotective. I feel like the reason I'm so sheltered is that my mom instilled in me a great deal of paranoia that still affects me and probably won't stop affecting me the rest of my life (but will probably, hopefully, greatly lessen once I'm out of the house).
As for my dad, well, if he was around more and didn't work so much, and especially if he wasn't such a tool* whenever he is around, that'd be nice, I guess.
Insert witty and clever quip here. My page, as the database hates my handle.Not decided that agreeing on minor doctrinal points was more important when picking a church than everyone there not being horrible jerks and a glowing example of rape culture and a bunch of other bad things.
Realizing that actually, money matters and actually owning new, stylish clothing matters, because for girls, you aren't going to be able to have friends without at least an attempt at wearing "in" clothing.
I'd say allowed me to date before I turned 18, but really, there weren't any eligible people around anyway. Still, it wasn't cool for them to virtually say, "We know this is hard, but we'd rather not have to deal with it than be there to support you while you learn."
Said, "You need to get a degree you could actually get a job with, not an English degree"
Really, I could be here all night.
Not give me up.
I drink 17 cups of coffee in court.Sorry guys you guys went throught that but let's keep this general and impersonal.
I'm which case my only bit of advice is Immunise your children.
Thank you, public service over.
hashtagsarestupidNot do heroin and commit suicide.
...Yeah, I don't think you're going to get people to not be personal here.
Insert witty and clever quip here. My page, as the database hates my handle.They're pretty damn awesome, but if they'd stop trying to use painfully forced British idioms, that'd be great.
Dopants: He meant what he said and he said what he meant, a Ninety is faithful 100%.
Just what it says! I'd like you guys to say somethings you would have liked to have your parents do, say, or share. I have four kids now so I may steal some of your ideas to use on my own bunch.
Personally, I wish my parents would have told me more about their personal lives and who they were as individuals, not just Mom and Dad.
"Oh wait. She doesn't have a... Forget what I said, don't catch the preggo. Just wear her hat." - Question Marc