Starship, please explain why you so vehemently believe that people shouldn't ask for feedback after an interview? I've spoken to a LOT of HR people - through applying for jobs, working next to large teams, and my brother having been a recruitment consultant for a temp agency for the last few years.
All say the same thing - get the job or not, always ask for feedback. My last job, I was really annoyed when I was unable to get feedback on the successful interview - I thought I'd failed, and I wanted to know what I'd done right. Admittedly, learning that one of my interviewers was hungover and the other was still drunk (he admitted the hangover at the time, but revealed later he was still drunk) from a massive staff night out the day before may have been a contributing factor. Still, would have been nice to have learned what I did right so I can repeat it.
There's no need to be particular about the phrasing either - any manager worth their salt would be happy to help a candidate improve themselves for the future, assuming they didn't actually offend them. To me as a manager, a candidate asking such a thing shows courage and a pro-active, positive nature in itself, and would make me more likely to consider them for future vacancies. I really can't seen any downsides whatsoever. By all means just phone and say "I had an interview with/on whatever, I didn't get the position and would appreciate some feedback as to where I went wrong".
In my life, I've finally started full-time volunteering! I've got a shiny new flat down in the town I grew up, which is considerably cheaper but actually bigger than my previous 1 room studio apartment, thanks in part to it being owned by my parents who are setting the rent at my benefit payments. Even at full rent, it would still be about £100 a month cheaper anyway.
The position is going really well so far - the work I did in my first two days (demographic analysis, which meant me getting to play with data and present it really nicely in pivot tables in Excel) was immediately picked up by my boss's boss, who asked me to replicate it for other areas she covers. Not a bad first impression really! Especially as said boss's boss was the one who interviewed me in the first place.
I'm loving the chance to actually help people, I'm loving the serenity of the area, and I'm loving the chance to clear my head a bit. I'm not loving being so far away from all my friends though, since having not driven in 6 years, I've yet to fully regain my confidence on the road (the fact that the car I'm using is an old Renault Kangoo, which is battered and decidedly top heavy, and thus a big risk on motorways, makes it no easier to get to Glasgow and back to see them).
edited 1st May '13 4:17:49 PM by CaissasDeathAngel
My name is Addy. Please call me that instead of my username.