It's true: the books show an incredibly unhealthy BDSM relationship. The scary part is that people like this actually exist
I actually read about a relationship like this about an hour ago: The woman had a "no-no list", and he said he'd obey it. By the time they met, he'd talked her into taking half the stuff off her list. He then proceeded to choke her until she nearly passed out
, despite "No full-out violence" being on her list. Turns out "breath play" is a fetish and wasn't on her list, so oh well. He pushed her into her own closet, where she was hit in the eye by a coathanger, luckily not causing any damage to the eyeball but giving her a black eye.
The second meeting (oh yes, she went back), he took an unsterilised pocket knife out and cut her back for a little bit.
While her list clearly stated "Only small amounts of cutting with a sterilised blade
". He then took her off the bed , hitting her knees hard of the floor first, before going into the kitchen (Once again a no-no; her blinds were clear and she lived next door to small children), grabbing a spatula and beating her with it.
The THIRD meeting... was in a public place. She called him for coffee, they talked about it all, and you know what he said?
"It's my body, I can do what I want to it."
He then starts a sentence about scoping out a high school
before stopping, and this convinces her to leave. So he follows her out, and bars her from her car. An old couple commented on them being a "cute couple", and the woman got away.
Now, it isn't 100% like 50 Shades. But a large, connected thread is the dom saying the sub's body is his
. Not to mention the copious violence and at one point ignoring a safe-word to satisfy themselves. This was before the book was published
, several years ago. They've existed for a while now.
But this book can potentially draw in more people looking to get their rocks off the same way the guy and Christian Gray do. It's also encouraging the existing assholes to keep doing it their way. This is why I do not like the books: there is a CHANCE that they will breed more psychopathic doms. This will make the community more unsafe for submissives. It can, and it will
, result in permanent physical and mental scarring, and maybe a death or 2.
(The fact that the woman breaks up with him
at the end of 1 is encouraging. The fact that she GETS BACK TOGETHER WITH HIM
for the sequels is not.)
Dismaland is pretty cool. Like Banksy's overrated, sure, but Dismaland is cool.