I can imagine an adult person being pressured into sex by someone who holds more power than them just as easily as I can imagine a teenager being pressured into sex by an adult. I never quite understood the fixation on age, because it's not about age, it's about "Does person X hold too much power over person Y for the sex to be really consensual?".
It just seems unbelievably cruel to me that once you go over the age of consent, you're all on your own from there on. From there on, it's all always your own fault. Which is one of the reasons why the idea of "age of consent" really frustrates me. The issue has nothing to do with age and everything to do with power, so why is it that everyone is so keen to abandon adults on this issue just like that?
I think some of what I'm talking about may or may not be covered by rape laws in some countries. The problem there is in that whenever someone isn't exactly "being attacked" by someone, too many people start arguing with you when you classify it as rape. And so discussions end up heading off in the direction of trying to classify what is and what is not rape, and the question about whether the adult, that was pressured or somehow coerced into sex, was wronged or not, falls by the wayside. (Something can be wrong and deserving of punishment even if it's isn't quite rape (at least is some people's view). Or, in other words "it was sexual"+"it was wrong"+"it needs to be punished" does not necessarily mean that we need to spend out time arguing about whether we should call it rape.)
In my country, the age of consent is very low. If you're old enough to be horny, then, chances are, you already are over the age of consent. So what I'm talking about, around where I live, applies not only to adults, but also to a great deal of teenagers. Looking at other people having debates about the age of consent in their own countries made me come to the conclusion that such laws create more problems than they solve, and the fact that they ignore the fact that anyone who's over the age of consent can be wronged in an exactly identical way, without anybody much caring about it, just makes me hate them even more.
Problem is, I can't come up with a law that would protect adults and those who are in their mid-and-older teens the same way those who are under the age of consent are protected, without any kind of ridiculous victimless cases being spawned the way it happens in countries with a higher age of consent. Something tells me it all should be judged on case by case basis instead of being dealt with sledgehammer-style blanket laws which send some people to jail for nothing while others get away absolutely scot-free, but I have absolutely no idea how that could be done.
I'm not sure if I explained myself well or if I'm making any sense at all but... Discuss?
edited 9th Dec '11 12:49:11 PM by fanty
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