Asexual Anxieties and Concerns:

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126 storyyeller4th Mar 2014 07:23:42 AM from Appleloosa , Relationship Status: RelationshipOutOfBoundsException: 1
More like giant cherries
I don't think I've ever experienced discrimination either, but then again I never talk about it either.

The worst I can think of was my PL (sort of a mini RA) one year at college who kept talking about wanting to act as a wingman and that we were letting him down, but it wasn't directed at any specific person and it would have been equally bad for someone who was homosexual (he seemed pretty insensitive in general). He also used words like "sperging".

I've always been annoyed by the prevalence of Romantic Plot Tumors though.

edited 4th Mar '14 7:25:41 AM by storyyeller

127 BaffleBlend4th Mar 2014 10:08:18 AM from Somewhere , Relationship Status: LET'S HAVE A ZILLION BABIES
Hey there! Having fun?
From what I've seen of it, it's usually a matter of "How can you not like this awesome thing". It's bad, yeah, of fucking course it's bad. But unfortunately, I don't really know if anything can be done about it. A lot of people's minds, a lot of it's taken up by sex and things related to sex. They just can't comprehend living without those thoughts because they're such a big part of so many peoples' lives and culture.

And also unfortunately, I'm in that category. I try to be understanding, but I can't pretend to understand on a personal scale. I apologize if I'm being insensitive in anyway.

edited 4th Mar '14 10:14:52 AM by BaffleBlend

"It's liberating, realizing you never need to be competent."Ultimatepheer
[up] Just to add my thoughts here, because I have found this thread to be an enlightening insight into asexuality and I hope I will be more considerate in future if someone I know tells me they are asexual.

Because the parallel I am seeing is similar to my relationship with alcohol. I don't drink. I don't see the attraction. But in most social activities alcohol is seen as being core to the experience. "Come on, everyone likes to have a drink. How do you know that you won't like it unless you try it? You can't have fun without having a drink. Come on, be sociable." I feel that I am not welcome in a society that eulogises alcohol in this way, and that has brought it's own anxieties and can often be an isolating experience.

Now I know there is not an exact parallel between asexuality and teetotalism. For starters, teetotalism is most certainly a "life choice" as opposed to your sexuality. If I am reading the situation incorrectly, please let me know and I apologise unreservedly. But if you think the parallel holds then I guess it might serve as a prism to understanding asexuality and its assorted anxieties.
[up]It's not as far off as you think... Having a lack of a drive/ need/ liking for for something is sometimes required to spot how profoundly other people experience that thing. And, how pervasive it is (even when they don't notice).

It is both a boon... and a curse. It can be more one than the other, depending on the situation, your personal mind-set... and the company you find yourself in. smile

edited 9th Mar '14 9:20:34 AM by Euodiachloris

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