Expanding on what Morven said, what happens inside your own mind is never wrong. Only if you make other people uncomfortable have you gone too far.
I agree with the first sentence, but even "making people uncomfortable" is a poor standard to use for censoring your own behavior: people are made uncomfortable by all sorts of things that you will not
be able to avoid, or even predict.
Staring at someone's boobies is going to be rude in most contexts, but even if you catch yourself doing it, it's good to remember that you've done no tangible harm.
Long story short, it's not possible or desirable to think of all people as people all the time. Sometimes you think of a woman as a pair of boobs and there's nothing wrong with that. It's only wrong if you treat her like a pair of boobs.
It's also not a good idea to worry about whether or not you are "seeing women as people", since what precisely constitutes "not
seeing others as people" is so vaguely defined as to render it useless as a criticism.
edited 25th May '11 8:24:18 PM by MostlyBenign