In the situation as I've outlined it, it shouldn't hurt your actual spouse. Royalty had mistresses and concubines. If your partner isn't really expecting eternal love, is there really a duty to provide it?
Ummm...you mean royalties in ancient times? That doesn't count, they were Kings, not having a harem of women would be considered weird. The purpose of Queen would be to attend the King's needs at night and give him a heir, a male one preferrably. The actual spouses don't feel betrayed because most of them are just glad they managed to marry themselves into ROYALTY. And they try to stick with their husband and not piss them off by touching other men.
Of course there are exceptions here and there.
As for marriage being for love, again, the main purpose in a marriage is for the good of the family, love...is not that important of a requirement. I'm speaking more in terms of loyalty.
As for sex being important or not, depends on the culture, but for many
, it's like a dog and his precious fire hydrant. Leak on their, fire hydrant, and they'll bite your balls off.
edited 2nd Mar '11 2:30:35 PM by Signed