There are a number of advantages to being married to someone you can trust - someone to take care of your stuff, someone to communicate with to remind you of "normal" life. *
Then there's the more neutral reasons, like extra pay benefits, permission to live off base/off ship, and certain programs to help families that aren't there for singles. *
Of course there's plenty of bad
reasons to get married that I don't think I need to get into here.
It's not a bad thing to get married while in the military, but it works much better if the spouse has at least some
exposure to military life, even if it's only as your fiance/girlfriend. Most of the problems I've seen have been a result of a couple getting married right before a deployment for the pay and family benefits, when they definitely weren't ready to get married at all.
All of this goes more than double for getting married to a foreign national, which happens semi-frequently in countries like Germany, Japan, and other fairly pro-Western nations we have bases. Not only does the spouse then have to adjust to military life, they have to adjust to American
cultural norms and practices. And that's assuming the spouse didn't marry them just to get to the US and divorce them the moment they have citizenship - which I've also
seen a few times.
Assuming you could find a photo of me in uniform, feel free to compliment away, but I already promised my gay friend Angel that he gets first crack at me if I ever cross to that side of the sexuality line.
edited 21st Feb '11 1:01:54 AM by BlueNinja0
We sit in a darkened room smoking cigars and drinking pretentious wines from snifters while guffawing about the ignorance of the masses.