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YMMV: Yahari Ore no Seishun Love Come wa Machigatteiru
Escapist Character: Averted for the male protagonist so far in a harem sense. Somewhat unusual given the genre.
He is still an escapist character in a Zen way: he gives no damn about the world and calmly lives his existence unhindered by and unhindering nobody. And he makes a strong point to others about his way of life.
Though the escapism in that is still tampered by the realistic bouts of loneliness he faces due to being something of a social pariah by following his own philosophy (he even lampshades it once or twice). Bouts that come along as often as not (though perhaps it's more frequent in the anime).
Also Hachiman and Hayato, both in-universe (thanks to Hina's wild imagination) and in real life (apparently, Pixiv artists liked the idea a bit too much).
Jerkass Woobie: Both Hachiman and Yukino. Despite their abrasive personalities and cynical outlook on the world, they're both fundamentally lonely people who had to deal with isolation, rejections and bullying.
Misaimed Fandom: Some fans see Hachiman as a rightfully cynical Anti-Hero who is almost always right. This ignores the fact that he is called out for his methods and over-generalizations of others.
Sleeper Hit: Overlooked at first due to mediocre animation and labeling as harem romance comedy. Highly appraised later by virtue of great characters and thorough exploration of their psychology and motivations.