These are what we call the 'YMMV items.' Things that some people find in this work. We call them 'your mileage might vary' because not everyone sees these things in the same way. This starts discussions in the trope lists, a thing we don't want. Please use the discussion page if you'd like to discuss any of these items.
A fairly minor example can be found towards the thief who killed Uncle Ben. Was his decision to throw Peter his milk a small Pet the Dog moment, or was he simply trying to bribe Peter into silence while he stole money from the register.
Does Aunt May know Peter is Spider-Man?
As noted around, Peter is quite polarizing. He's either a put-upon Nice Guy who spends the film at first lashing out at those who've hurt him before dealing with, and coming to terms with, his uncle's death, integrated with a superhero film, or they see him as a selfish douche bag who treats people like dirt the second he gains powers and doesn't learn at all through out the film.
Peter being "too handsome," as he's supposed to be a bit of a social outcast and Andrew Garfield is gorgeous.
Though it is possible (though still more rare than you'd expect) to be both an outcast and good looking.
Peter apparently being an angsty teen-type instead a textbook Hollywood Nerd. Word of God justifies this as trying to modernize the "outsider" aspect of Peter Parker's character, as nerds are more socially acceptable nowadays. The film shows he does have an extensive nerdy side... just not immediately apparent in school, where his public face is that of a loner.
The changes done to the origin story. The fact that Peter acquiring his powers was pre-meditated by Oscorp and not an accident. The fact that the origin story never really concludes. Heck, the fact that the origin story is even being re-told at all!
Other changes to/interpretations of comic lore (regardless of the reboot premise), such as not having Peter as a wrestler and the greater emphasis upon Peter's parents as part of a Myth Arc (Peter's parents have generally always been controversial.)
J. Jonah Jameson not being featured in the film, though the Daily Bugle is still in it.
Mary Jane not being featured in the first film.
Even worse, the scenes featuring Mary Jane being cut from the sequel. Not helped by the rumors that Sony is looking to replace her actress for the third film.
"With Great Power Comes Great Responsibility" going unsaid - and, according to the opinions of some people, unlearned.
The fact that Sony (through Columbia Pictures), not Marvel Studios, is producing - keeping Spider-Man from joining the Marvel Cinematic Universe.
Accusations have been made that the movie was only made for that exact reason - the rights were about to revert to Marvel. To be fair, this same sentiment would apply whether the movie was Spider-Man 4 or a reboot.
Peter knowing his scientist parents for a few years before their deaths, as opposed to them being spies and dying when he was too young to remember them. However, the film is taking its inspiration from Ultimate Spider-Man, where the former applies.
The Lizard not having a reptilian snout, despite the fact that his appearance in the film is nigh-identical to his first appearance in the comics, sans pants and lab coat.
Alot of information about the sequel, particularly all the new characters being introduced and the fact that Webb himself has confirmed that the reason Mary Jane among other things has been cut is that there's a need to simplify the story, making many fans fear the Spider-Man 3 issue of too many storylines and characters all over again.
That the series, planned as a trilogy like the previous one, has become a Trilogy Creep.
Designated Hero: This Peter Parker does a few things that make some viewers less-than-sympathetic towards him. These include ignoring his Aunt May's feelings, lying to get a chance to see Dr. Connors (thereby causing someone to lose his chance at internship) and hints he'll break the promise he made to Gwen's father (the man who died to save Peter) and still go out with Gwen.
Draco in Leather Pants: As the Headscratchers section shows, some fans support Dr. Connors' plan to turn all New Yorkers into lizard-people like him.
Ensemble Darkhorse: The film's portrayal of Captain Stacy was very well-received among fans. He's vastly different from the comics, but is just so cool that fans don't tend to mind.
Fan Dumb/Hate Dumb: A lot of the complaints concerning elements that were original to the Raimi films, especially the web shooters. Despite the organic webshooters being something some comic fans hated about the film.
Fandom Rivalry: Some fans just can't appreciate both the original Raimi trilogy and this new film franchise, and thus go at each other with extreme prejudice as they claim why one version is superior while the other is terrible.
Along with the rivalry between Spider-Man fans, this film has divided the wider Marvel fanbase between those who support Sony continuing their franchise and those who wish that Marvel Studios would get back Spider-Man for their Marvel Cinematic Universe. Still others hope that Sony and Marvel Studios work together to link up their universes, leading to stuff like Avengers/Spider-Man team-ups.
Alongside that, Amazing opened up in-between The Avengers and Dark Knight Rises, meaning that segments of both fanbases have taken shots at Amazing. With Dark Knight Rises, it's fueled by the whole DC Comics vs. Marvel Comics thing, and that Amazing launched just under two weeks before, in the same month to boot. With Avengers, see above.
"You found my weakness, it's small knives!" is reminiscent of "A bullet came out of his gun somehow! How did he know my one weakness?" from these parodies of the Spider-Man newspaper strip floating around the Web since 2004.
Much laughter was had when the first leaked production photos were of the car thief scene, strangely involving Spidey and said car thief in... suggestive positions. Now we know that the crotch thing was deliberate.
It's the Same, Now It Sucks: The main complaint of film critics who didn't like the movie that it's too similar to Raimi's Spider-Man: the origin takes up the full first hour and then the film shifts gears to Spidey facing a crazy green villain, even ending with a funeral at a graveyard.
For some reason, Avi Arad, executive producer for the Spider-Man film franchise, tried to say that this film doesn't erase the previous films and can fit into the Raimi timeline. Some posters even referred to this movie as "The Untold Story". Anyone with so much as a functioning brain cell can see that this isn't the case and this film is indeed a reboot.
The focus on Peter's parents in the marketing, which is part of a Myth Arc that doesn't actually have much impact on this movie's plot.
Never Live It Down: One thing that, evidently, a lot of people can't get past is Peter's comment about promises you can't keep are the best kind, which hints that he'll continue dating Gwen regardless of what George Stacy told him while on his death bed. That it's literally the last thing said and done in the movie doesn't help, though perhaps the sequel will.
One of Us: Emma Stone really wants her character to die eventually, because she became a big fan of the comics while doing her research for the part and feels that the death is such an important part of the mythos.
One-Scene Wonder: Missy Kallenback, the nerdy girl Peter protects from Flash. She literally only appears in two scenes, but it was enough to spawn her a fandom and a lot of Epileptic Trees.
Squick: Spidey accidentally pulling off Lizard's tail during the fight at the school. Then we're treated to a shot of the tail growing back...
Strangled by the Red String: The complaint in the original film trilogy was that Peter and MJ's romance dragged on too long. Some claim that this movie went to the reverse extreme with Peter and Gwen, who pretty much hook up in their second scene together without really getting to know each other much beforehand.
Captain George Stacy's death, with him asking Peter to break up with Gwen so that she's not put in danger by the enemies he'll make as Spider-Man.
Peter returning home to Aunt May after the final battle.
They Changed It, Now It Sucks: The flip-side of negative comparisons to the Raimi films, as opposed to It's the Same, Now It Sucks. Some of the most criticized changes, especially the artificial web shooters, tend to actually be things from the comics that the Raimi films changed, making these particular critiques pretty annoying to comic fans.
Trailer Joke Decay: Arguably, Spidey's quip about the small knives to the would-be carjacker, since nearly every trailer and commercial have included this bit.
Gwen too for some for knowing this and yet still encouraging Peter to break said promise to her own deceased father. Even so, these people still don't look forward to the inevitable consequence for this to befall Gwen.
Gwen (Loses her father and boyfriend), Aunt May (Loses her husband and sees her nephew go down a bad path) and Peter (Loses his parents, his uncle, and has to live with the guilt of his girlfriend's father dying to save him) all count.
Also, Peter was bullied most of his life, his parents left him as a child and died shortly after, and his uncle dies shortly after he gets his powers, with the film largely being about Peter coming to terms with his uncle's death. Some classify him as a Jerkass Woobie, though, thanks to his anger over Uncle Ben's death, his Acquired Situational Narcissism from his spider bite, or because of the Gwen thing at the end.
What The Hell, Casting Agency?: Casting a then 28-year-old man (Andrew Garfield), to play a highschool teenager falls here for some. Tobey Maguire was about the same age when he was cast and that is rarely brought up (probably because Maguire's Spider-Man was a teenager for only the first third of the first film and old enough to go to college in the subsequent films), but it doesn't exactly help Andrew's case either. However, it can be forgiven; does he reallylook like he's 28◊??
Don't like that Beenox altered the suit from the movie by adding a utility belt? The first time the player heads to Peter's apartment, they have the option of removing the belt from the suit, pleasing those who like both versions of the suit. Don't like either version of the suit and wish it was the one from the previous trilogy? That one's unlockable too.
The Wii nor 3DS got the Wide Open Sandbox that was on the other versions, and most sources didn't really bother to point out the Wii version didn't have the Sandbox world. Around March, a Wii U version was released with the entire Wide Open Sandbox and DLC packs already in the game.
The inclusion of the costume from the previous trilogy as an unlockable extra became this, after the first shots of Spidey's costume from Amazing Spider-Man 2 revealed... that it's more or less replaced the costume from the first film.note "More or less," because the eyepieces & the Spider insignia on the chest are different, and the webbing is black instead of the silver on the Raimi suit.
What The Hell, Casting Agency?: Sam Riegel as Spider-Man instead of Andrew Garfield, after Tobey Maguire voiced Spidey in the three tie-in games based on the trilogy he starred in. Note that some are noting that Riegel would actually make a rather good Spider-Man, if he wasn't standing in for the star of the movie. There's another camp who questioned why they didn't have fan favourite Spidey voice actor JoshKeaton, or even DrakeBell, reprise the role.