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Walder Frey points out that all the great houses have always looked down on his house and thought they were better than him, even when they do the same as he does: "People snigger when I marry a young girl, but who said a word when Jon Arryn married the little Tully bitch?"
Balon saying that Theon is no longer his son because he's been emasculated. It does make Theon dynastically useless. Even if Theon survives and succeeds his father, the seat of House Greyjoy will go to Yara's children after him anyway.
Walder also calls Robb out after he claims to not want to rub his marriage in Walder's face, despite his wife standing right next to him at the time. (This is also a Mythology Gag: in the books, Robb left her at Riverrun, both for that reason and because Catelyn reminded him that he would be unable to stand there while Frey insulted Mrs. Robb to her face. Cat may have screwed up some other things, but she hit this one on the head in both continuities!)