"Shot on location in the Patriarchal Concentration Camp (kitchen)."
"Now, we still expect men to put women first, and we still expect society to put women first, and we still expect men to not complain about coming in dead last every damn time. But men don't even get our admiration anymore. All they get in return is to hear about what assholes they are. Is it any wonder they’re starting to get pissed off?"
—Girl Writes What, in her video Feminism and the Disposable Male.
Karen Straughan (better known by her screen name, girlwriteswhat) is a Canadian men's rights activist, and divorced mother of three, who is most famous for her videos on YouTube. She also hosts a blog called Owning Your Shit. The primary focus of her work is how she thinks feminism has failed to address the discrimination faced by men in society (and, occasionally, has created new problems, or exacerbated existing problems) and therefore cannot be about equality. In short, she believes the current world we live in treats women like children and men like assholes. Her channel can be found here. Transcriptions of her videos and other articles by her can also be found here. Naturally, opinions about her are controversial so be wise when adding contributions to this page.
The Lad-ette: She claims to smoke like a chimney and drink like a fish, has short hair, and isn't afraid of using offensive language.
Mama Bear: She admits that one of the reasons she became an MRA is because she feared the effect that men's issues would have on her sons.
Non-Indicative Name: She's a middle-aged woman, not a girl, she is most known for her videos with plenty of talking and not a lot of writingnote She got her start posting on Reddit, which is where she assumed her moniker and she titles her videos with exactly what she'll be talking about, so relatively few people will be asking "What?".
Precision F-Strike: Often used for emphasis on subjects she considers particularly jarring. Most notable in a video she made dealing with Youtube users who unjustly flagged her videos, which she titled "You F***ing Cowards".
Pretty Butterflies: Used and subverted. The butterfly burns to death in the title credits.
A National Coalition For Men sticker is prominently displayed on her fridge in most of her videos.
More generally, she mentions and make videos in reply/connection to other men's rights vloggers.
Honey Badger Radio, the weekly show that she co-hosts, got its name from the famous honey badger video. Retaliation and vitriol from others who don't like what they're doing? Honey badger don't give a shit—neither do the hosts.
Abomination Accusation Attack: She has regularly discussed the mainstream's perception of the men's rights movement. She lists examples of the charges made against men's rights activists in this video.
Comes Great Responsibility: She says that feminists and feminist organizations have abused their position of power, especially with regard to men's rights and maintains that this has created new gender inequalities and exacerbated existing problems that men face. She even provides examples of feminist organizations actively preventing others from attempting to solve problems that men face. The overarching theme of her very first video.
Date Rape: Deconstructed. She discusses the unfortunate legal situation that currently exists in some countries, where men - even though they, too, may be inebriated - are legally responsible for sex initiated during inebriation. She believes that both parties should be held accountable, and that both the man and the woman should be held individually responsible for their own sobriety and state of mind.
Girl Writes What: It actually seems to me that the only way a boy will even be seen as a real victim within the public consciousness is if the perpetrator is an adult male, at which point pervasive and lingering homophobia overrides our view of the kinds of sexual violence against males that are acceptable in our culture.
Female Misogynist: Believes many feminists to be this, noting that they often seem to like emphasizing (read: exaggerating) female inferiority and victimhood to further their agendas. Whether or not GWW herself qualifies SHOULD NOT be talked about here.
And doubled for her video about Anders Breivik, whose mother made Norman Bates' look sane in comparison - Breivik's mother, based on a report in the British Telegraph, had apparently decided her son was violent while he was still in the womb solely because he kicked a lot.
Financial Abuse: She presents this as repercussion of current divorce and child support laws.
Gendercide: She points out that some radical feminists believe this is a positive thing.
Just Fine Without You: Averted. It is an important premise of hers that men are vital to the functioning of society, and that if they are not commensurately rewarded for their service to that society they will abandon it. A society of only women will not last long.
Logic Bomb: Lampshaded by her in this video in which a group of feminists tear down men's rights posters (an act of censorship) and then proceed to claim that preventing them from tearing down posters constitutes an act of censorship against them.
These people believe that preventing them from doing censorship is doing censorship against them... (dumbfound silence) Up is Down. Black is White. Inside is Outside. Left is Right. And Censorship equals Free Speech.
Man Child: Discussed in a specific context in "Men not marrying. How deep does 'the problem' go?" She deconstructs the idea that men who don't want to marry are immature, and lays the blame instead at society's perception of men, divorce law, gender roles, and the power imbalance in modern relationships.
Mars and Venus Gender Contrast: She subscribes to this theory, after a fashion. Although she believes men and women are generally inherently different, she recognizes that gender is a spectrum and not a switch and that there are outliers.
Men Don't Cry: Deconstructed. Mentions how men are always expected to suppress their feelings and receive no sympathy, unlike women in many situations.
Moral Myopia: She seems to believe that a version of this that strongly favors women is one of the problems that needs to be dealt with (she has used many examples of unjust laws and news stories to support this.)
Quote Mine: Happens to her more than she'd like. In "Why Do MR As Bring Up the Draft", for example, she states that people often accuse her of blaming feminism for male disposability, even though she explicitly said that the concept has existed since "the dawn of time".
Unfortunate Implications: Discussed and invoked in regards to the "Don't Be That Guy" campaign; GWW points out that this campaign sends a harmful message to not only men, but women and actual rape victims.
As she sees it, men are being told that they're rapists by nature, that they can't be raped—at least, not by women which in turn leads to an entirely differentset of UI—and that they're obsessed with sex and want it twenty-four/seven.
Women, meanwhile, are taught to think that every man they meet is a literal rapist and that they shouldn't try to defend themselves and that instead men should just be harassed with this message until women are safe.
And perhaps most harmfully, an actual female rape victim is told that men rape because it's just something men do rather than something sociopaths who don't care who they hurt do. And with that, coupled with the manipulations of her rapist to talk her out of turning him in, she's rendered reluctant to try and turn him in or get help.
Woman Child: One of her main concerns is that she perceives society in general to treat women like children. This trope is the topic of "Neoteny!".
You Keep Using That Word: In "Look out! It's a nice guy! DESTROY HIM!" she points out that according to the definition of the word "entitlement", someone who feels entitled to another's feelings will not act super-nice and bend over backwards in order to earn it. Instead, they'll expect it to be handed to them because from their perspective, it's already theirs to begin with; And thus, it cannot be used as an insult as it is not applicable to the case of so-called Nice Guys.