Sonny talking about Lily like she was the love of his life is the result of Nostalgia Filter as opposed to a Retcon.Fans have long been up in arms over Sonny's gushing over his late wife Lily like she was a saint and his true love. After all, he never wanted to be married to her in the first place and always wanted Brenda instead. However, isn't that what people often due with dead people? Their negative memories subside and positive ones become more powerful. Plus, for all her flaws, Lily was loyal and understood what was expected of a mob wife. This is something he has had problems with regarding his love interests ever since, even with Brenda who he really loved. Of course, then there is the fact that she is the fact that she was carrying his first child (that he knew of) when she died and that he blames himself for her death. Therefore, a Stepford Smiler who he largely viewed as a platonic life partner at best and a burden at worst is now his ideal wife and Too Good for This Sinful Earth. This is a good example of this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cn1jr5g63kg
Connie intentionally woke up as Kate as her final act to destroy Sonny and Kate's relationshipThis troper believes that Connie intentionally let Kate have control again so Kate could see that Sonny had sex with Connie. Connie thinks that if Kate would see this, she would immediately leave Sonny for good. Thus her work would finally be done.