Shrinking Violet: Real Life
- Partially a case of Truth in Television, the condition is known as Avoidant personality disorder. These people have a crippling fear of rejection and constant worries of looking foolish or bad, and closely monitor everything they say and every reaction from anyone they're speaking to (on the rare occasion that they even do speak to others). This often results in broken speech patterns and a lack of fluency, due to having their attention split between tasks. These people will often wind up choosing to be lonely, rather than risk rejection. However, where the trope fails the reality test is in the "growing out of it" part. In reality, the condition usually just becomes worse and worse. Sufferers rarely seek help, either because they feel that they don't want to waste a therapist's time, or they are worried they'll be rejected by them (although, in TV land, there's another reason). In a painful irony many sufferers, due to their lack of speaking or participating in activities, are viewed as aloof or arrogant, when really they're so nervous when they're spoken to that they may be rendered incapable of speech. This is the most severe form of this personality disorder; there are plenty of others who remain functional, but very shy, isolated from society and unhappy with their situation. With a proper support network involving family and friends, such people can be coaxed into therapy, where counseling and medication can alleviate many of the symptoms.
- A more common and less severe version that also results in people that fit this trope is Social Anxiety Disorder, also known as Social Phobia (there is in fact controversy over whether or not social anxiety disorder and avoidant personality disorder should be considered separate disorders or merely varying severities of the same disorder). Encountering unfamiliar people or being placed in a situation where the sufferer is possibly subject to scrutiny leads to intense anxiety or panic attacks.
- Actress Madeline Zima tends to sound very shy when she talks, which adds significantly to her Moe-appeal. Has said that her sisters often have to force her to talk to a guy.
- United States President Calvin Coolidge, who became known for his laconic nature as a result.
''President Calvin Coolidge confessed that he was so shy it was an ordeal to fulfill his duties to people. He recalled that as a small boy he could be in a panic when he heard strangers in the kitchen of his home and knew that he must go into the kitchen and meet them. “I am all proper with pals,” Coolidge said, “however each time I meet a stranger I've got to undergo the previous kitchen door again home, and it is not easy.”
- Lord Henry Cavendish, an eighteenth century English scientist and recluse, was so painfully shy that he communicated with his housekeeper by letter. He would, rarely, attend parties. Guests who wanted his august opinion were advised to approach and speak, "as it were, into a vacancy" and hope to hear a mumbled reply. More likely they'd hear a mortified squeak and turn to find he'd fled. However, his seclusion left him the free time to be as meticulous as humanly possible and thus he was the first to discover the gravitational constant. (It required measuring the minuscule torque on a wire caused by the gravitational attraction of two metal balls. From another room. Through a telescope.) Unfortunately both for Cavendish and for science, he also didn't publish his findings, which often meant that a) others got the credit, and b) those findings were delayed, sometimes by decades.
- How many findings? Well, he was born in 1731 and died in 1810. Years later, James Clerk Maxwell found his writings and affirmed he was the first to independently discover: Richter's law of reciprocal proportions (Richter published it in 1792), Ohm's Law (1827), Dalton's law of partial pressures (1801), Coulomb's Law (1785), Charles's Law (1802), and written a treatise, "Heat", which, after being studied this century, has become the most detailed and correct writing regarding thermodynamics from his age. Among other things.
- According to historians, young Louis XVI of France. He was described as shy, having no social graces, and very hesitant.
- Actor Colin Morgan is very shy. He comes across as reserved, blushing and very hesitant in most of his interviews. This adds to his Moe and Adorkable appeal, as even his fellow star admitted to being jealous by all the attention he receives for this.
Bradley James: "Everyone loves Colin "Awww he's so nice, so innocent. You know aww Colin aww. But Bradley, don't worry about Bradley, he's fine, he'll, you know... whatever. Colin awww, we'll look after Colin, awwwww."
- Actress Kristen Stewart is another fine example. She's constantly fidgety, looking scared and awkward whenever in spot light, biting her lips, nails and dropping her awards on the floor in nervousness.
- Actor Robert Pattinson is well known to be very shy. He even admits it himself.
- Another scientist example is that of the Chinese mathematician Chen Jingrun. His first job after graduating from the math major—teaching high school math— only lasted for a single year because by the time he already had two Heroic BSODs that required hospitalization. He was transferred (remember, we're talking a period when China was a Soviet clone) to the post of an university librarian, which, ironically, jump started his mathematician career...
- Comedian Mitch Hedberg's signature style (wearing sunglasses, hunching over the microphone and spending most of his acts staring at the floor) was due to a crippling stage fright. Those mannerisms helped him forget that an audience was watching him.
- Mahatma Gandhi actually started out like this. In his first case as a lawyer, he entered the court, was too afraid to say anything, and then fled in terror. (He later refunded his client's fees.) Over time, he grew out of it, although he remained rather reserved.
- Swedish singer Sally Shapiro (real name unknown) has never toured except for once in 2008, rarely gives interviews, and has a very Moe appearance and voice.