->'''Captain Cragen:''' Since when is oral sex not sex?\\
'''Olivia Benson:''' Since UsefulNotes/BillClinton said so.
-->-- ''Series/LawAndOrderSpecialVictimsUnit''

A "technical virgin" is a person who has never had genital-genital sex but who has engaged in one or more sexually satisfying acts with one or more other people.

Yes, this is TruthInTelevision. Via LoopholeAbuse and ExactWords, people from conservative settings (cultural or familial) can maintain their virginity, while still engaging in "harmless exploration" or sexual bonding, by simply doing everything but penis-in-vagina intercourse. This of course can lead to some DarthWiki/{{Wallbanger}}-worthy decisions, such as engaging in some unprotected oral or anal sex in an attempt to retain one's purity, even though this still carries a risk of STD transmission. This can be justified in settings where a character needs to retain their VirginPower, but not really anywhere else, and people who claim to be technical virgins are often looked down upon as ignorant and/or hypocrites, especially if they're prone to judging others.

Note that in many patriarchal societies, both on earth and on paper, a woman who has been raped is "technically not a virgin" and suffers the [[DefiledForever related disadvantages]]. Such societies may vary in their stand on whether ''non''-coital incidents that rupture the hymen relieve a woman of technical virginity (this is quite relevant in societies where, for whatever reason, women ride on horseback a lot).



[[folder:{{Anime}} and {{Manga}}]]
* As a child, Guts from ''{{Manga/Berserk}}'' had the terrible experience of being [[spoiler: anally raped by one of his [[AbusiveParents adoptive father]]'s mercenary soldiers]] [[CelibateHero and has never had a sex life]] [[HatesBeingTouched because of the trauma]]. Then, he meets his future LoveInterest, Casca and [[spoiler: makes love to her [[ObliviousToLove when they finally]] [[TheyDo admit their feelings to one another]], the experience being Guts's first time having genital-genital sex (and it being Casca's first time as well).]]
* The main character of ''Manga/GhostTalkersDaydream''. She's a professional dominatrix, and at least one customer has given her oral. After an alcohol-fueled night she can't fully remember, she reassures a friend that "the membrane is still there. I checked."
* ''Manga/KoeDeOshigoto'': One of the eroge scenarios Nagatoshi wrote (shown in chapter 26) had this as a theme, due to an industry standard about {{miko}} generally being virgins, but Hadzuki shed a bit of light that makes the premise suspect... Anyway, this trope's the reason that new H-game is going to be all about anal sex.
* Pfil of the H-Manga ''Bondage Fairies''. She retains her VirginPower even though a male fairy is apparently [[AnythingThatMoves the only thing she hasn't had sex with.]]

[[folder:Comic Books]]
* Delatriz Betancourt from the 2009 ''DominicFortune'' mini:
-->'''Dominic''': Last time we were on the verge of getting frisky... you told me you were a virgin.
-->'''Delatriz''': And I am... Why do you think God gave me an ass?
* In the "Brief Lives" arc of ''ComicBook/TheSandman'', one character mentions a cultural religious ceremony involving sex that wasn't considered to affect a woman's virginity-- saying something like "if you lost your cherry on the goddess' altar, you still got to keep your cherry" referring the practice of a love goddess's clergy including sacred prostitutes, who would not be considered "spoiled goods" after losing their virginity in service of the goddess. [[spoiler: The love goddess and the character who mentions this are [[AngelUnaware one and the same]].]]

* Quite a few {{Lemon}}s involving {{Celibate Hero}}ines invoke this trope.
* Brought up in a {{MST}}ing where one of the riffers protested that he had every right to be upset because he was being forced to watch a bad SlashFic in which he was "losing his virginity". The ensuing incredibly awkward silence was broken by another riffer saying "Dude. You have ''ten kids''." First guy protested that he'd meant "in my ... with the ... oh, you know!"
* Quite a lot of bad yaoi fanfiction makes the dubious claim that "gay virginity" is separate from "straight virginity", and thus it is okay to call a gay guy a virgin if he's only ever had sex with women before, because his gay virginity is intact.
* ''Fanfic/ACrownOfStars'': Asuka was [[BigBad Winthrop and Jinnai]]’s “voluntary” sex toy for three years. [[PhysicalGod Daniel]] did not want her bearing that burden, so that [[TimeTravel he replaced her with a dummy every time they were going to ravage her]]. Hence, she has got sex hundreds of times and she is still a virgin. However she still feels [[DefiledForever defiled]].
* ''Fanfic/AdviceAndTrust'', by the same author, alludes to Asuka and Shinji having "done just about everything two teenagers could do without risking a surprise nine months later" after their RelationshipUpgrade. And it was ''[[GoodPeopleHaveGoodSex bloody fantastic]]''.
* ''FanFic/TheSecondTry'': [[spoiler:Shinji and Asuka]] lived together for several years after Third Impact, [[spoiler: and even had a daughter]]. Due to MentalTimeTravel, they wind up back in their 14-year-old bodies during the events of the series. She even mentions that she wants a better "first time" this time around.
* There is a Film/TheHobbit fanfic, where, Tauriel has sex with Kili. Anal sex, as that is not sex in the technical sense, which would permanently bond elves to one another. Oh, and the woman is "on top", so to speak.
* In the ''Film/{{Maleficent}}'' fic ''Fanfic/YourServantMistress'', Diaval becomes Maleficent's submissive partner, and an his virginity increasingly technical. His initial hangups about AManIsNotAVirgin quickly become irrelevant as he enjoys the not-sex they're having very much.
* There are a lot of erotic ''Series/DoctorWho'' fanfics based around the {{Fanon}} that Time Lords consider themselves virgins again after they've [[TheNthDoctor regenerated]].

* There is a long discussion in ''Film/ChasingAmy'' over what constitutes 'virginity' and whether an active lesbian who has never had intercourse with a man should be considered a 'virgin'.
* Also from the ViewAskewniverse, in ''Film/{{Clerks}}'', Veronica chastises Dante for having slept with about twelve girls, while she had only been with three guys. However, soon afterwards she reveals she performed oral sex on ''thirty-seven'' different guys. Apparently, she considered it just "fooling around".
* In ''AmericanPie'', Kevin and Vicky both go down on each other to the point of orgasm (it's a plot point both times), but a huge deal is made about the first time they actually do it.
* Although they're hardly virgins, this is a line from one of the Band Aids from ''Film/AlmostFamous'':
-->"We. Are not. Groupies. Penny Lane was the first one to say... 'No more Sex.' No more exploiting our bodies and our hearts."\\
"Just blow jobs, and that's it."
* In ''Film/MeanGirls'', Regina says of her boyfriend, who's just broken up with her, "I gave him everything. I was half a virgin when I met him!" Whatever that means.
* In ''Film/{{Clueless}}'', Dionne's virginity "went from technical to non-existent."
* A deleted line in ''Film/{{Saved}}'' has AsianAirhead Veronica pray, "Forgive me for using anal sex to preserve my virginity."
* In ''Film/WhatsNewPussycat'', Paula Prentiss's neurotic character owns up to being a 'semi-virgin', explaining "Here [in Paris] I'm a virgin; in America I'm not" without further elaboration.
* In ''Film/TheMonsterSquad'', after Patrick's sister's VirginPower fails:
--> '''Patrick:''' You're not a virgin are you?
--> '''Sister:''' [shakes her head]
--> '''Patrick:''' "No"? What do you mean, "No"?
--> '''Sister:''' Well, Steve... but he doesn't count.
--> '''Patrick:''' ''DOESN'T COUNT?!?''

* An old joke concerns three nuns who die in a car crash and are waiting in line for heaven. When they reach St. Peter, he informs the first nun in line that he knows that she has broken her vow of abstinence with her hands, but she can be forgiven if she cleanses her hands in a basin of holy water. The third nun in line whispers to the second, "Can I cut in front of you? I REALLY don't want to gargle that stuff after you've already dipped your ass in it."

* "The Silken-Swift", a short story by Creator/TheodoreSturgeon, portrays a unicorn who is not only silken-swift but also [[spoiler: gloriously fair in this regard]].
* In Creator/StephenKing's ''TheStand'', Harold Lauder and Nadine Cross are "technical virgins," having done everything but vaginal intercourse. Nadine actually ponders this at one point, wondering at the kind of man (she's promised to the BigBad) who wouldn't consider oral or anal sex to be defilement. Of course, Flagg only wants an heir.
* In one of the later ''TheDresdenFiles'' books, Dresden agrees to take Molly Carpenter (who has started developing magic) as an apprentice, and asks if she is sexually active. She replies that she is "technically" a virgin, and has "explored most of the bases" (Harry: "Well, Magellan..."). Dresden tells her that there is to be no more "exploring" (and that she is not to start any [[ADateWithRosiePalms "solo expeditions"]]) until she develops better mental discipline.
** This is partly because Molly tries to clumsily seduce Harry at one point, despite Harry knowing her since she was eight. Harry is no less vulnerable to {{Squick}} than the reader.
* PiersAnthony's ''[[IncarnationsOfImmortality On a Pale Horse]]'' included a woman who both admitted to having bribed a demon with sexual favors and offered herself as a VirginSacrifice, with the cultist magically determining that she was qualified for it.
** The trope is applied a little differently in this case - the demon never took physical form and the sex was a purely [[MindRape mental defilement]] - and the sacrifice was being fed to a dragon, which only cared about the purely physical.
* The OlderThanPrint TropeMaker here is Creator/{{Boccaccio}}'s ''Literature/{{Decameron}}'', or, more precisely, the very first novella of the book. One of the reasons why Ser Ciappelletto is hailed as a saint after he dies is his reputation of lifelong chastity. In reality, the reason why he never slept with women is... that [[StraightGay he was into men]].
* Another old variant, only four lines long: ''[[http://www.wwnorton.com/college/english/nael/noa/pdf/27636_Rest_U07_Prior.pdf A True Maid]]''.
* Jerin in ''Literature/ABrothersPrice'' was seduced by a princess. She didn't "mount him", there was QuestionableConsent and they did ''something'', but she let him go when he outright said no. Virginity in anyone unwed is important, so he worries about this.
--> Certainly if she had let him go when he first asked, he would have fled back to his bed, remaining chaste in his lips, his hands, and his memories. Now only parts of him were virgin. [..] Maybe being a virgin was like planting a garden - you could turn the earth and rake down the soil all you wanted, but until you pushed a seed into the dirt, you hadn't created a garden. Or was being a virgin like a frosted cake, where once someone stole a slice, you couldn't proudly serve it to visitors?
* Creator/HarryTurtledove's short story "Honeymouth": The foul-mouthed and very lecherous mercenary, ironically dubbed Honeymouth, is somehow able to ride a unicorn without any problem. When asked how he can do it, usually while the unicorn is parked outside a brothel, he sarcastically replies that he's a virgin. He is, technically. The nickname "Honeymouth" has nothing to do with scatological verbiage.
* In MercedesLackey's ''Elizabethan'' series, Princess Elizabeth thinks at one point that should she be forced into an alliance marriage, "human to human she would be a virgin still". (She's sexually active through half the series, but with the elven lord Denoriel.)
* In ''Literature/{{Ladylord}}'', tradition requires that people wanting to be Third Lord keep their virginity until then. The two main candidates (both women, since the old lord has no sons) have technically done so, but have different approaches. One, the protagonist, upholds the spirit, avoiding all sex even after she marries. The other is widely (and correctly) rumoured to do just about everything except the thing which would disqualify her.
* In the ''{{Mahabharata}}'', Kunti has a spell that she can use up to 5 times to make one of the gods [[UnusualEuphemism come to her]], and she is still honored as a holy virgin.
** Similarly, her daughter-in-law Draupadi has 5 husbands and has sex with each of them (and produces a son by each of them), and she too is honored as a holy virgin. (Shiva also lets her know that her virginity is renewed each time she bathes.) In fact, when the Kauravas start SlutShaming her for having five husbands (and refusing to sleep with Duryodhana in front of his court), the Brahmins in the area refuse to do any work because of her honor being dragged through the mud.
* {{Subverted}} in ''[[Literature/TheObsidianTrilogy The Outstretched Shadow]]''. Idalia Tavadon's Mageprice for casting a Wild Magic spell to [[VoluntaryShapeshifting turn herself into an eagle]] to escape the Outlaw Hunt was for her to find a mate and raise a clutch of chicks before she would be allowed to resume human form. Later on her brother Kellen thinks that his unicorn friend Shalkan avoids touching her because she's secretly evil, but this sets Idalia and Shalkan into gales of laughter. Idalia explains it's because she's not a virgin, and yes, brother dearest, having sex as an eagle counts.

[[folder:Live Action TV]]
* Lissa on ''Series/{{Awkward}}'' has taken a vow of chastity but is perfectly willing to give her boyfriend hand jobs and even offer him anal sex.
* In one episode ("And Then There Was Shawn") of ''BoyMeetsWorld'' (as part of [[DiscussedTrope a discussion]] of the SexEqualsDeath trope), Shawn reveals that he is one of these, noting "I'll get as sick as you can possibly get without actually dying".
* Debatable if Annie in ''Series/{{Community}}'' is one. Based on her only sexual encounter occurring while A) being high on Adderall, B) having never seen her boyfriend's (or any man's) penis, and C) her boyfriend crying throughout the act (Britta theorizes he was gay), leading some fans to (wishfully) think sex never actually occurred.
-->'''Shirley:''' "Annie, being a virgin in this day and age is something to be proud of. You're like a unicorn!"
* In ''DowntonAbbey'', when Kemal Pamuk "seduces" Mary (with shades of RapeAsDrama), he promises her she'll still be a virgin for her husband. God only knows exactly what happens before [[spoiler:he [[OutWithABang keels over and dies in her bed]]]]. Averted in that she and everyone else (who knows) treats it as if she were DefiledForever.
* Subverted. An episode of the ''TheDrewCareyShow'' featured a man who claimed to be [[{{Satan}} the devil]] (and might well have been, judging by his skill at pool) wanting to take Kate for his bride. Except he thinks she'll be a virgin bride. When Drew and his friends reveal Kate is not a virgin, the Devil insists that there's some wiggle room, and whispers a question in Kate's ear.
-->'''Kate:''' ...yeah, but just once.\\
'''Satan:''' Oh, you people are sick!\\
'''Lewis:''' Hey, you wanna find a virgin, get out of Cleveland.
* Shoshanna on ''Series/{{Girls}}''. She manages to get to third base with the guy before [[MomentKiller killing the moment]].
* Discussed in ''Series/HowIMetYourMother'', in the episode "''First Time In New York''", where Lily says she only went "halfway" with her high school boyfriend. Some debate sparks over whether or not Lily lost her virginity to Marshall, and they eventually conclude that Lily was a TechnicalVirgin because it doesn't count as [[UnusualEuphemism "going to the Empire State Building" if you've only been in the lobby]].
* Each of ''TheInbetweeners'' in different ways. Will got Charlotte into bed and only stumbled at the last hurdle when he didn't know what he was doing. Simon received two (unfinished) handjobs in different episodes and was all set to have sex with Tara had it not been for Jay's "Tactical Wank" advice. Jay once received a handjob [[JizzedInMyPants "outside the trousers"]] in the first series finale (though this could be BlatantLies as he originally said it was a blowjob) [[spoiler: and a blowjob in TheMovie]]. Neil has fingered several girls (possibly including Charlotte) [[spoiler: and by the end of the third series has had sex]]. Though, thanks to the movie's ending, it's likely that this has been remedied for all four of the lads, except for Will, who is still a virgin by the end of the second film.
* An episode of ''Series/LasVegas'' has Mike get interested in a woman who, it turns out, had taken an "adult abstinence pledge". He thinks it over, and decides that he's fine dating her even if they don't have sex. When he goes to visit her, it turns out that she's been "breaking her oath" left and right, but considers herself a virgin every time she re-takes her oath.
* In one episode of ''{{Series/Lexx}}'', a virus causes everyone aboard to change genitalia. The resulting hormone imbalance causes Stan and Xev to yield to temptation. When the Lexx's immune system generates a cure, changing everyone back, Kai (who was not affected, being dead) explains that "technically", because their genitalia were in a state of flux, Xev is still a virgin. But Stan ''isn't''.
* In Season 4 of ''Series/{{Supernatural}}'', Dean, fresh out of Hell, concludes that because all the scars he's accumulated over the years have healed, so, too, has his virginity.
-->'''Dean''': I have been [[AnatomicallyImpossibleSex re-hymenated]]!
** The Season 6 episode "Like a Virgin" involves [[HumanoidAbomination humanoid]] [[OurDragonsAreDifferent Dragons]] who [[NatureAdoresAVirgin snatch up virgin girls]] so they can [[spoiler:use one as a VirginSacrifice to free [[NamesTheSame Eve]], the "Mother of All" monsters, from Purgatory]]. One of the leads was found in a hospital and not taken away because her standard for what "counts" is a bit different than what the dragons had in mind...
* Hilary, the daughter on the sitcom ''TheWarAtHome'' referred to herself as this in one of the show's fourth-wall segments, adding that villagers probably wouldn't be sacrificing her to any volcanoes.
* In Season 3 of ''Series/TheBigC'', [[spoiler: Adam's new Christian girlfriend]] is saving herself (read: her vagina) for her future husband, but positively gleefully allows him the backdoor entrance.
* Inverted on ''{{Asfour}}'': [[spoiler:Katsar has had sex before, but has never reached orgasm, as it’s sinful. He doesn’t understand what the difference is, until Mazal Okhayun gives him a ‘mouth hug’ to show him just what the difference is.]]
* Howard from ''Series/FreshMeat'' ''technically'' lost his virginity, but the [[NoodleIncident actual method was not standard genital-genital sex]] (he can only explain using graph paper and a medical encyclopedia). He eventually does have intercourse with his roommate Sabine after she picks him as a substitute fuck-buddy.
** UpperClassTwit JP used to engage in mutual masturbation in the showers at his public school, but writes it off as "dorm rules", while his first time was with a prostitute his uncle hired for his 18th.
* On ''Series/{{Misfits}}'', Simon is still considered a virgin his first time with Alisha after having been fellated by [[ShapeshiftingSeducer Lucy the shapeshifter]]. Similarly, being [[ParentalIncest fellated by his stepmother]] does not count toward Finn's tally of sexual partners.
* On ''Series/SomeGirls'', Holli is a justified version. While she's open to sexual experimentation, she refuses to do anything that could result in pregnancy because she doesn't want to become a teen mother like her own.
* A SaturdayNightLive skit featuring a talk show profiling three young women who had vowed to stay virgins until they married--and their miserable boyfriends. A viewer calls into the show, insisting that one of the girls isn't a virgin, as he's slept with her. She rattles off about ''six'' different names before getting the right one, then cheerfully denies sleeping with ''any'' of them, as "it was in the butt".
* PlayedForLaughs in ''Series/TheGeorgeLopezShow''; Max is suspected to have caught a urinary tract infection from his girlfriend after sexual intercourse. He denies that he had ''actual'' sex with her, but later admits that they did "upstairs outsidies"[[note]]Because someone's inevitably going to ask, it basically means that he touched/fondled his girlfriend's breasts (hence "upstairs") with his hands outside of her shirt (hence "outsidies")[[/note]].
-->'''George:''' See, Angie? He's still upstairs! He's nowhere near the floors where the bad stuff happens!

* "The Loophole" by Music/GarfunkelAndOates is about this, with the memorable lyric "[[CrossesTheLineTwice Fuck me in the ass 'cause I love Jesus]]."

* In ''Webcomic/TheOrderOfTheStick'', after Roy's resurrection, Celia points out that since the body is brand new, he is technically a virgin. Or, rather, ''was'' since she says that after just having had sex with him (a matter of hours after his resurrection), although she's pretty much joking anyway.
* Jamie of ''Webcomic/GirlsWithSlingshots'' insists that she's a virgin, even though she's "slept with like eight thousand people" (what, precisely, she does instead of coitus isn't specified). [[http://www.girlswithslingshots.com/comic/gws128/ These]] [[http://www.girlswithslingshots.com/comic/gws129/ strips]] [[http://www.girlswithslingshots.com/comic/gws130/ detail]] [[http://www.girlswithslingshots.com/comic/gws131/ it]].
* Ginny from ''Webcomic/DarwinCarmichaelIsGoingToHell'' is a huge draw down at the off-leash unicorn park. The unicorns make somewhat obscene comments between themselves about exactly how pure she is. For whatever supernatural metric the unicorns use to rate her, being an active lesbian doesn't apparently count.
* Mentioned in ''Filthy Lies'': [[CrossesTheLineTwice "Joseph just needed good aim on his money shot."]]
* In ''Webcomic/{{Oglaf}}'', neither fellatio nor anal appears to count ("Immaculate City" and "Potion of Girlfriend" respectively). In this case, there's a specific measure -- the magical city of Vanorva is invisible and inaccessible except to virgins. The first print collection included, as a bonus, "Ivan and Navaan's 'Doesn't Count' Kama Sutra".
* ''Webcomic/KarinDou4koma'': Elza [[SleepsWithEveryoneButYou Sleeps With Everyone But Mifi]] because of Mifi's VirginPower--but anything short of penetration (Elza's a {{hermaphrodite}}) is fair game.

[[folder:Web Original]]
* The now-defunct website [=TechnicalVirgin=].com used to host a series of [=PSAs=] spoofing abstinence [=PSAs=] by endorsing anal sex and vibrator use to prevent pregnancy. The site was taken down after the woman who appeared in the [=PSAs=], Melanie Martinez, lost her job as a host on Creator/PBSKidsSprout over the videos.

[[folder:Western Animation]]
* ''WesternAnimation/TheCritic'':
-->'''Dressmaker:''' Here's the skinny. We dressmakers have a very strict code, so I need to know, do you deserve to wear virginal white? Because if you don't, you'll have to wear an off-white, what we call a hussy white. So which will it be, WHITE-white?
-->'''Margo:''' Yes. Um... except for the gloves.
* The ''WesternAnimation/FamilyGuy'' episode about religious abstinence makes it clear that sex is not okay. Which some of the more sexual but faithful population solves by sticking the stick into the ear. Yes, the ear.
-->'''Tom Tucker:''' "Prompting the new slogan: '[[BlackIsBiggerInBed Once you go black, you go deaf]]'"
* The basic premise of [[BlackComedy "The Most Offensive Song Ever"]] from ''WesternAnimation/SouthPark''. "[[spoiler:You can suck all the dick you want / And still be a virgin, Mary.]]"
* ''WesternAnimation/TheSimpsons'': In "Lisa's Wedding", Lisa wonders if she should wear white for her wedding as there was Milhouse, before she and Marge agree that Milhouse doesn't count.