Rose, what do you call a girl who's slept with a man she's known for less than one day? Blanche:
A damn good sport? Dorothy:
I call her a tramp
People who don't live by the standard that Sex Is Evil
are sometimes called "sluts", for good or ill. My Girl Is a Slut
! No, My Girl Is Not a Slut
! Or even Ethical Slut
, when it's portrayed as a good thing. In the case of Slut Shaming, however, having sex is stigmatized
(by a party that does not approve of it) as evil
One 19th/20th Century Sino-European Double Standard
is that if a man has sex, he's just 'being a man'
- whereas if a woman has sex, she's a Defiled Forever font of moral corruption who will make the people around them lazy (and homosexual) hedonists
. Thus, slut shaming is used against women far more often than against men. And the men are often free to admire or even have sex with the "sluts", while despising them at the same time
. An alternative view is that (since the 19th century) because men are sometimes seen as innately slutty
, calling one a slut doesn't mean much. Unfortunately, the male ability to be more cavalier about sluttiness has a downside in the idea that men are always willing to have sex and therefore cannot be sexually assaulted because every male will always to consent to any kind of sexual act with anyone (female).
In short, Slut Shaming is the act of making someone feel bad for the evil that they do, i.e. being promiscuous, though the degree of promiscuity (above the theoretical lower-limit of having zero sexual relations, desires, or thoughts throughout one's lifetime) required to be slandered a slut isn't universally agreed upon. The 'shaming' tends to be ruder and more hatred-filled for women than for men, who are required to have sex with far
more people to draw the same level of ire from Moral Guardiansnote
. The key to Slut Shaming is being nasty to people to make them repent from their evil ways, sexual evil consisting of:
These next ones don't count as long as you only do them with your wife/husband.
- Thinking about sexual matters.
- Discussing sexual matters.
- Having sexual desires.
- Expressing sexual desires.
- Owning or using 'sexy' things, like clothingnote , as this may encourage sexual thoughts or desires.
In comparison, the tropes My Girl Is a Slut
/My Girl Is Not a Slut
are about how the girl's love interest reacts to her sexual activity or lack thereof. Slut Shaming is about how the girl suffers the disapproval of society in general and her family/friends/'friends'/acquaintances. You could play the two tropes against each other for drama.
Sensible Heroes, Skimpy Villains
is a form of sister trope. See also Madonna–Whore Complex
and My Girl Is Not a Slut
. Compare Sour Prudes
and Sex Is Evil and I Am Horny
. Compare All Men Are Perverts
, which when applied judgmentally can be considered a society-wide form of Slut Shaming
leveled against an entire gender.
Please refrain from virgin-shaming when adding examples. If people can sleep around without being judged, they should also be able to choose abstinence without being labelled a "prude".
Dirty, Shameful Examples
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Anime and Manga
- Rosario + Vampire: Kurumu is absolutely pissed and decides It's Personal when Keito calls her a "dumb slutty airhead" to her face.
- In Kaze to Ki no Uta, Gilbert is subjected to this by other students in his school. It is also a part of the discrimination against Serge's Romani mother Paiva, which has become something of a Berserk Button for Serge himself.
- In Fruits Basket, Tohru's aunt, uncle, and cousin strongly imply that she was sleeping around and/or molested by the Sohma men she was staying with (granted finding out a high school girl was living with three unrelated men wouldn't be taken well by many people, but the Sohmas were perfectly respectable towards her and the relatives were clearly mocking poor Tohru). They also accuse her mother of being wanton and a slut, because she'd been in a biker gang in her youth. When Kyo and Yuki come to retrieve her, Tohru's cousin recognizes them as "the two guys the little tramp was shacking up with." In response, Yuki, in full Tranquil Fury mode, gets in his face, calls him a lowlife, and warns him to never talk about Tohru like that again, leaving Tohru's cuz speechless.
- This is one of the things that crops up frequently in Bitter Virgin. Pretty much everyone who finds out that Hinako was raped by her stepfather and had a baby by him worries that Daisuke (her love interest) will consider her Defiled Forever. Later, when Daisuke's sister comes home pregnant and unwed, most of the town (including the mother) think the sister was shameful and slutty. In both cases, the manga treats the women as sympathetic - Hinako's experience is traumatic and Daisuke never thinks badly of her for it, and his sister is shown as being intelligent and friendly. Meanwhile, the mother comes around to accepting her grandchild and the people engaging in said slut shaming are portrayed as being ignorant.
- Fasalina from GUN×SWORD does this to herself, hating herself for being a former prostitute/poledancer. She supports the Claw's agenda thinking it's the best way to atone for her "sins". The only other person who uses her past against her is Ray, who is portrayed as a Jerkass for most of the series.
- In MM!, Yuno Arashiko developed androphobia after her boyfriend tried to rape her, and then severely beat her when she scratched him in defense; what hurt worst though was the way people treated her after she recovered because he'd been spreading rumors about her and convinced everyone that she was a slut.
- A male example, Oliver Queen, AKA The Green Arrow, is often insulted and bashed for cheating on Black Canary. The problem? He didn't exactly cheat on her, he was raped. Afterwards they did turn him into a regular womaniser in order to retroactively justify this.
- Word of God confirms that the first Terra from Teen Titans was shown in a sexual relationship with villain Slade Wilson specifically to emphasize how evil she was by showing what a slut she was, despite there being no evidence that she ever slept with anyone else. Add to that that she was 16 while Slade is significantly older and it crosses into Questionable Consent territory since technically Slade is the one who's emotionally manipulating a 16 year old girl. Later on, Slade actually gets written as an Anti-Hero while Terra is the one who eventually dies.
- In another male example, Nightwing is considered by some to be a slut and horribly promiscuous due to being portrayed as a womanizer by some writers. This leads to the same fans dismissing the scene in which he was raped by Tarantula, with the reasoning that he was a man and must have wanted sex from her, even though he clearly refused and begged her to stop.
- Years earlier, fellow Titan Mirage had committed rape-by-fraud by taking on Starfire's appearance, who at the time was Dick's girlfriend. When called on what she did, Mirage simply joked that Dick should've known something was off, and Pantha jokingly referred to Dick as a slut.
- In Silent Hill: Downpour comic Anne's Story the doll slut shames Anne for having an affair. The doll actually represents Anne's feeling of guilt for having the affair although the only reason she did was because she wanted Murphy transferred to her prison and the warden wanted her to have sex with him in return.
- In Uncanny Avengers, the Scarlet Witch does this to Rogue, at one point calling Rogue one of her father's floozies. She brings up the relationship not in a way to necessarily shame Rogue for her "promiscuity" (especially since Rogue's powers make physical relationships difficult) but to remind her that she isn't exactly pure and noble herself, having a relationship with the X-Men's worst enemy.
- In second series of Young Avengers avoids this in universe - Kate Bishop dismiss the idea that going to bed with a guy on first date makes her a slut - but faces it in real life - apparently the angry letter from issue #3, that was accusing both Kate and Noh-Varr of not being role models and saying having sex makes them "instantly unlikable" was actually one of the few printable letters and one of few not trying to put all the blame on her. Kieron Gillen addressed the thing on his Tumblr and made it clear that not only he disagrees with this line of thinking, but it personally offends him.
- In Runaways, Nico has a dream where her parents berate her for being a "shameless whore" for "kissing" and "being with" multiple boys. Nico calls them out on the double standard, pointing out that her father probably dated women before her mother, and that she isn't going to listen to them. Given that Nico earlier expressed discomfort and shame over her tendency to use physical intimacy to cope with grief, the scene likely shows her overcoming her issues. Interestingly, Nico is the only one to think that way. No one else thinks badly of her for what she does.
- In an arc where the group ends up in the 1800s, Victor falls in love with a lower-class girl named Lilli, who is very physically affectionate with him, by way of hugging, kissing, and being open about loving him. Nico later says of them, "She's a ho and you're a toaster. Let's just go." She later admits that she did want to let them be together, because she knew they really were in love, and her line was probably because she just recovered from being tortured by an ancestor.
- In Sex Criminals, middle-school girl Suzie tries to get advice about sex from the group of 'dirty girls', but in a twist, she's the one who's ashamed to talk to them.
- Thanks to The Hays Code, Slut Shaming was enforced for many years in Hollywood.
- Slasher Movies' obsession with the Death by Sex trope and the virgin Final Girl trope make this trope strongly implied. Good girls who don't want terrible things to happen to them better not have sex!
- Ironically, Lifetime Movies, despite preaching "female empowerment", unapologetically enforce this trope by making any attractive, promiscuous, confident woman into a smug, shameless, homewrecking whore with no morals and no redeeming qualities whatsoever, fully derserving punishment in the form of humiliation, rape or death. Preferably all three of them.
- Near the end of Moulin Rouge!, Christian, angry about being dumped by Satine, (she was trying to protect him from the Duke) publicly humiliates her by throwing money at her, saying "I have paid my whore!".
- Easy A: The film is built around this trope: The protagonist pretends to have had sex once, and when the whole school starts to slut-shame her for not being a virgin she decides to make the most of it.
- All the girls in The Magdalene Sisters are sent to the laundry because of this. Margaret was raped at a party, Rose and Crispina both had babies while unmarried, and Bernadette (although still a virgin) is pre-emptively judged a slut for her beauty and flirtation with boys.
- Vivian in Pretty Woman escapes this from her main client, but civilized society views her as "trashy" and his friend clearly forgets that she's a person and not a sex object once he learns that she's a prostitute.
- In Black Death, the protagonists scream "whore!" at the matriarch of an isolated village after she has them drugged and imprisoned (after they'd actually come to her village in the first place in order to hunt down and torture percieved witches). What makes it particularly hypocritical is that at no point during the film does she ever do anything that could be viewed as remotely "slutty" - even by the most exacting double standards. She never seduces anyone, she never takes her clothes off, she doesn't even flirt with anyone or show an inordinate amount of skin. Thanks to Deliberate Values Dissonance, "whore" is just the default choice for insulting a woman regardless of anything she says or does.
- Kat Dennings' character Caroline in Daydream Nation gets this. She comes back epically:
Jenny: Ugh, slut.
Caroline Wexler: What did you call me?
Jenny: I think I just called you a slut, slut.
Caroline Wexler: Why?
Jenny: Because everyone knows that you've banged, like, forty different guys since you came here.
Caroline Wexler: Really? Forty? Okay, let's just say that I have banged forty guys. What's the problem? You're just jealous because you've been brainwashed by puritanical assholes who think sex is a sin. But then again, your little gerbil-sized brain has been reprogrammed by the media to believe that sex is the be-all, end-all. So now you're stuck, right? 'Cause on the one hand you love to fuck, but afterwards you feel overwhelmed by guilt and you're not sure why. Maybe it's because sex is neither as good or as evil as you've built it up to be.
- Iron Man has Pepper Potts use this as revenge in her first scene, when Tony's latest flame insults her position.
Pepper: I have your clothes, freshly drycleaned, and there is a car waiting out the front to take you anywhere you want.
Everheart: You must be the famous Pepper Potts. After all these years, Tony still has you picking up the drycleaning.
Pepper: I do anything and everything Mr. Stark requires. Including, occasionally, taking out the trash. Will that be all?
- This continues in the sequel with the same reporter moving in on Tony's competitor Justin Hammer. Pepper mentions the reporter's "spread" on Tony in the first film.
- In Another Time, Another Place, the other locals regard Else, one of the farmer's servants, as the village bicycle for being caught in flagrante on one occasion.
- In Lucky Bastard, single mom/porn star Ashley finds herself tied up and Alone with the Psycho; when he tauntingly asks what her kids will think when they find out what she does, she bravely retorts "They'll think I'm a mom...who loved her kids."
- In The Boondock Saints, after Rocko's little temper tantrum at the diner he throws a hissy fit at his apartment that involves screaming at his roommate and her friend. When the friend calls him out for screaming at the roommate (and killing her cat), he points the gun at her and tells her to "Shut your fat ass, Ramie! I can't walk down the street without running into nine guys you've fucked!" Grade A slutshaming. Pointless, insulting, and meant to control.
- There is a joke about a woman who complains to the doctor:
Woman: After every date, I end up in bed. I can simply refuse no man, and afterwards, I feel like a slut and an idiot.
Doctor: Very well, I'll give you some pills, and you'll have no problem refusing...
Woman: No, doctor, not something to be able to refuse. Give me pills so I won't feel like a slut and an idiot.
- More nastily, the book of insults and putdowns, Ouch by Dave Dutton has insults for men commenting variously upon ugliness, stupidity, arrogance, cruelty and so forth. All the lines aimed at women consist of either "she's a slut" or "she's frigid". Damned if you do, damned if you don't, ladies.
- In A Brother's Price some aspects of this are played straight; there is gossip about a man who was caught with his wives' servant after the engagement and before the wedding, and promptly returned to his family, as "damaged goods". Apparently he is still able to show his face in public, but it is a stain on his reputation, especially as there is no cure for STD. On the other hand, this trope is averted in that theoretical knowledge about sex is considered to make a man more desirable. The same applies to clothes, the codpiece is very much in fashion.
- As punishment for having a child out of wedlock, Hester Prynne had to wear the eponymous Scarlet Letter, 'A' for 'adultery'.
- Robin Hobb deals with the subject realistically and without condemnation (from the author, plenty from the societies she creates).
- The Realm of the Elderlings features restrictive roles for women and plenty of slut-shaming.
- Molly has to go to great lengths to hide her relationship with Fitz and flee the castle once she gets pregnant, Fitz is killed in disgrace, and the coastal duchies nearly collapse during the war.
- Fitz himself meets with a great deal of disapproval for his dalliance, but the consequences for him would never be as severe. Sure, he got killed a few times, but never for sex.
- Conversely, his relationship with Starling never met with the same disapproval, because she's a minstrel, and the rules are different for minstrels.
- Althea in the second series, in a more conservative climate, is routinely shamed for her activities, which include pursuing a man's career (sailing) and a man's sexual appetites (having any). Her niece, Malta, is portrayed as a man-eater in bud, which may be budding sexuality in a young woman or simple starvation for mental stimulation.
- In the third trilogy, Fitz shames Starling a bit when, on learning of her marriage, turns her out of his bed. He then shames his son for taking up with a young woman when he didn't have the ability to make an honest woman out of her, and gets in a fight with the girl's father over the same. Fitz receives some shame himself when the world at large believes he's gaying it up with his foreign-born employer. The Fool himself also seems to disapprove of Fitz sleeping around with women he doesn't love, but not on moral grounds; his reasons are more complex and more specific to their relationship.
- The Soldier Son: The eponymous son becomes, thanks to a disease, grotesquely obese, which warrants disgust from everyone he meets, and colors their opinion of any desire he might express. His father's disgust is deepened when he believes the boy caught the disease from a prostitute (false), and he flees town ahead of a mob for supposed necrophilia (also false).
- The Aubrey-Maturin series plays the Double Standard for all its worth.
- Aubrey has never learned to keep it in his pants and frequently gets into trouble at home and abroad, not least when a miscegenated son by a favorite whore of his shows up later in the series and earlier when an unscrupulous woman blackmails him with threat of showing up, pregnant, to his wife. When, in the first book, his dalliance with a superior officer's wife costs him a small fortune and an important promotion, others defend him because, "It was her what set her cap for him! Everyone knows that!"
- When Aubrey catches an STI in the first book, he's told by Maturin (acting as his physician) that "a lady of your acquaintance has been too liberal with her affections". Slut Shaming and the Double Standard in one sentence.
- Meanwhile Maturin ardently pursues a widow whose reputation is thoroughly blackened by "doing what a woman must to get by alone in this world". Otherwise he was so chaste that his superiors in the intelligence community were for a time concerned that he might be susceptible to blackmail. For being gay.
- Robert A. Heinlein loved My Girl Is a Slut and only made villains prudes. However, he frequently set his characters in a society similar to that he grew up in (early 20th century midwestern America), which meant there was plenty of shaming going on, and his characters had to be devious to get away with doing what they wanted, and never felt bad for it.
- Memory, Sorrow and Thorn has this in full effect. When a girl falls for a beautiful man's blandishments, she feels ashamed. When a young man she's been friends with forever finds out about it, he (still a virgin) is hurt and shames her, but eventually comes around.
- Matrim Cauthon of the Wheel of Time series is another inveterate manwhore (though the text rarely implies that he does more than kiss women, and when he does he tends to be monogamous), upon whom shame is copiously heaped, mostly by the women in his life. Notably, Elaine is disgusted with his ongoing sexual relationship with a Queen of the country they are visiting. When he finally tries to explain/beseech to Elaine that his relationship with the queen began with being raped and he's powerless to get out of the situation, she laughs at him, saying something along the lines of him deserving it and getting a taste of his own medicine. This caused much fan hate towards Elaine.
- Berelain, one of, if not the, most beautiful women in the series, has accrued a reputation for having many lovers and being a seductress, to which some of the female characters react to negatively. Perrin wanders if the devotion of her guards is possibly related to their hope of sharing her bed. Berelain later tells Perrin that, despite the rumours, she has actually only had sex with 3 people for non-political reasons. It can be assumed that her reputation and skills in seduction are another of her political tools as a very capable Queen of her very small and weak country, similar to her secret proficiency in martial arts.
- Robert Jordan has also written historical fiction with the Double Standard firmly in place, usually in his native Charleston, South Carolina.
- Common in the works of Jane Austen:
- In Pride and Prejudice, Lydia's fling with Wickham almost ruins her entire family's reputation. They are saved only when Darcy pays off Wickham to marry her. Georgiana Darcy narrowly escaped the same fate when Wickham wanted to elope with her in order to get his hands on her fortune.
- Mansfield Park's Maria Rushworth is forever ostracized from polite society after leaving her husband to run away with Henry Crawford, who then refuses to marry her. She ends up having to leave the country.
- Invoked in Sense and Sensibility when Elinor cautions Marianne about getting too close to Willoughby for the sake of her reputation. Willoughby is also revealed to have caused disgrace to Colonel Brandon's ward, with whom Willoughby had an affair and abandoned her when she became pregnant.
- Generally, any female character considered to be too flirtatious, or who breaks off an engagement to chase another man, is subjected to this (Isabella Thorpe, Lucy Steele, Elizabeth Elliot, and others.)
- The Beautiful Slave Girls on Gor will use this to taunt and/or insult each other, at least when they're not taunting and/or insulting each other over how frigid the other is.
- A Song of Ice and Fire plays with this trope; whores are a totally unremarkable fact of life for the lower levels of society, (and the only higher-ups concerned about this are considered religious fanatics by their peers) but the nobles can be a different matter; the shame attached to sex outside wedlock is totally dependent on who the people involved are, and whether it benefits their allies or enemies to go one way or the other.
- Lord Tywin Lannister famously had his father's mistress stripped naked and paraded through the streets after his father died, but this is strongly implied to have been a case of putting the lowborn whore in her place, (since she had gained considerable political power and wealth,) rather than strictly because of moral objections to her being a whore. He frequently rebukes Tyrion for his use of whores, citing the shame he brings on his house, even though he is shown to (discreetly) use them himself, and may just object to Tyrion's flaunting his activities, rather than the activities themselves.
- Cersei Lannister is forced to walk naked through King's Landing by the Church Militant as penance for her adultery, but this is only permitted by the nobles because the political situation makes this beneficial to various players.
- In contrast, Oberyn Martell openly brings his "paramour" to court, and treats her very well, though it is stated that Dorne is generally more sexually liberal than the rest of the Seven Kingdoms. Daenerys likewise has no moral qualms about having a paramour, and (while wary of the political consequences of someone openly talking about the affair,) doesn't seem to mind that everyone knows about it.
- Featured heavily in the series' prequels, Archmaester Gyldayn's Histories. Princess Rhaenyra's detractors, the Greens, used her sexuality as a weapon against her. They claimed that her three eldest sons were bastards fathered by her supposed lover Harwin Strong, that her uncle would take her to Dragonstone to teach her about sex in private, and that she would turn the Red Keep into a brothel if given the chance. In the opening paragraphs of The Princess and the Queen, her stepmother and half-brothers never missed a chance to call her a whore. One account claims she tried to seduce Ser Cristian Cole and he was so disgusted by her that he became one of her worst enemies. Another account mentions rumors that she had threesomes with Laenor Velaryon and Qarl Correy. This could be a deconstruction of the trope, as these accusations were made with the intention of discrediting Rhaenyra as heir to the Iron Throne and have little proof to support them. Only the accusation that her sons were illegitimate has some basis in fact since they were Chocolate Babies. Either way, it should be noted that while Gyldayn goes on and on about Rhaenyra's promiscuity, he only makes a few brief mentions of her brothers' sex lives.
- In Going Too Far by Catherine Alliott, the protagonist believes that she cheated on her husband while spending the weekend away with friends. It didn't happen. The guy drugged her and signed them both in at a hotel so he could use her as an alibi while he committed a burglary. Afterwards, she discovers she's pregnant. She is driven to despair, not only because her husband throws her out, but because of this trope she fears being rejected by her friends and family (who are largely sympathetic while acknowledging that her problems are her own fault) and struggles to tell her gynaecologist that she doesn't know who the father is. It's her husband's baby - the other man is infertile and didn't have sex with her anyway.
- Tess Of The D Urbervilles shames herself far more cruelly than most other people shame her.
- Tess' own community- who know her well and- it's implied- have seen this kind of thing happen before (and it was not uncommon for girls who went to work as servants) are quite understanding (and might have been even more kind if she hadn't become withdrawn from shame and emotional pain, which nobody seems to quite realize). It's when she gets involved with the middle-class Angel Clare (who had been working on the land and congratulating himself on fitting in and shedding his bourgeois values) that this trope ruins her life.
- In A Tree Grows in Brooklyn, Francie witnesses a girl named Joanna being harassed by a bunch of housewives because they believe she has no right to show her illegitimate child in public. They go so far as to throw stones at her, and the narrative explains that they only do this because they're bitter about their own loveless marriages.
- In the Harry Potter series, Ron and the twins take a dim view of Ginny's boyfriends. Ron also reacts poorly to finding out that Hermione had snogged Viktor Krum. In Ron's case, it seems to mostly be jealousy due to his own inexperience, and Ginny calls him out for this when he comes dangerously close to using the word. Her brothers seem to be fine with Harry being her boyfriend, though.
- Mrs. Weasley is mentioned as still calling overly flirtatious/promiscuous women "scarlet women" (Hermione finds the term silly, probably showing how Mrs. Weasley is still kind of old-fashioned) and is rather cold towards Hermione when Rita Skeeter paints her as playing with the affections of both Krum and Harry. Given that she sees Harry as a surrogate son though, it's likely her dislike of Hermione was more disapproval over her seemingly hurting Harry.
- The House of Night:
- Aphrodite is constantly put down by the narrator, Zoey, for being a "slut", despite only being involved with two guys in the whole series, the second with whom the relationship is incredibly serious. This despite the fact that the main character has had several boyfriends (some at the same time) throughout the series. The plot also occasionally derails to talk about how bad blowjobs are.
- At one point in the series, Zoey refers to a group of girls from her old high school as "hateful sluts". Since we never actually meet them, that's the only reason we really get as to why we're supposed to be angry at them hanging around Heath. Kayla is also lumped with the group, and earlier Zoey threatens to drink her blood for trying to date Heath after Zoey repeated said she wasn't interested in him anymore.
- Marcie Miller, from the Hush, Hush series, is shamed for her alleged sexual exploits at every possible opportunity. When she goes out to a nightclub, Nora and Vee whisper about how her dress is so short, her thong can be seen from under it. At one point, Nora pointlessly brings up how Marcie is rumored to put a tennis racket in the window, so boys know when she's offering sexual favors. Even Marcie's own slut shaming is turned on her, when Nora tells how she spray painted the word "whore" on Nora's locker. Nora adds that Marcie ought to have done that to herself.
- Somewhat inverted in Fifty Shades of Grey. Christian talks of Ana's virginity as an "issue" or "an obstacle to be removed". Kate also mentions that she has been waiting for Ana to lose her virginity for 4 years (as if she had nothing better to do).
- On the other hand, Ana herself tends to be uncomfortable with women having casual sex. At one point, she even worries that she's being a "kept woman" for Grey.
- In Doctrine of Labyrinths, both women and gay men receive this treatment: Mehitabel gets fired from her position as governess and later ordered by a spy "go trawling" among her lovers for information, while Thaddeus claims that Felix will "believe anything a man tells you when he's buried in your ass." Malkar even calls Felix a "slut" and a "cheap whore"... right after raping him.
- At one point, Honor Harrington is maligned by her socially and religious conservative enemies on Grayson for having had a romantic relationship before marriage with her murdered boyfriend, Paul Tankersley. Being from a much more liberal culture, and having a mother who keeps insisting Honor needs to get laid more often, the criticism doesn't bother her personally.
- In Sweet Valley High, Annie Whitman is called "Easy" Annie at school and has a "reputation" that the cheerleading squad thinks will make them look bad if they let her join. After Jessica and her friends spend the book bullying Annie to try to force her off the team, she tries to kill herself and they learn the moral that slut shaming is bad. Jessica herself suffers this from her sister Elizabeth, who constantly chastises her for having many boyfriends (hypocritically forgetting that she herself often cheats on her own boyfriends)
- This is the entire plot of Blaze (Or Love in the Time of Supervillains) All the characters slut shame Catherine Wiggans, a large breasted girl known for her sexual exploits. She's not a slut. The rumours were started by the jealous girlfriend of a boy she attracted.
- Blaze later slut shames Mark by giving him the name, Mark the Shark and writes a comic warning young girls not to date him. In retaliation, he posts a picture of her online, wearing lingerie in a flirtatious pose. Upon seeing it, the entire town slut shame her.
- Rose suffers from this in Vampire Academy, when both Jesse Zeklos and Ralf Sarcozy claim to have had sex with her and were allowed to drink her blood.
- An in-universe example occurs in Lords Of The Underworld. Because of her mother's (justified) reputation for promiscuity, Anya was bullied and sexually assaulted by both genders. In a futile attempt to stop the mocking, she dressed conservatively and rarely asserted herself socially. (She eventually realized that if people were going to bully her regardless of what she did, she might as well dress and act however she liked.)
- Lil Wayne frequently engages in this, despite boasting of having sex with numerous promiscuous women at the same time.
"These hoes got pussies like craters. Can't treat these hoes like ladies, man."
- In the Katy Perry song "I kissed a girl", the protagonist keep bashing herself in this way, fueled by homophobia. Justified, since she has a boyfriend.
- Madonna and Christina Aguilera have both brought attention to slut-shaming and its ickiness, the former in "Human Nature" and the latter in "Can't Hold Us Down" and "Still Dirty."
- Taylor Swift has been accused of this several times (along with Madonna–Whore Complex):
- "Better Than Revenge" is one long "The Reason You Suck" Speech about a girl who stole the narrator's boyfriend and has the line "she's better known for the things that she does on mattress" to further the point.
- "Fifteen" has her imply her best friend is Defiled Forever due to having sex with her boyfriend, who soon dumps her. She could have been trying to make a statement about how sometimes people, especially younger ones, jump into sex before being truly ready and properly prepared to deal with the potential consequences, but it doesn't come across that way and instead came across as this trope.
- "You Belong With Me" has the lines "she wears short skirts, I wear t-shirts" and "She wears high heels, I wear sneakers" which imply that this makes the girl unsuitable for her love interest.
- This is all the song "Fit But You Know It" by The Streets is about. He sees a random girl and feels justified in judging every aspect of her appearance before condemning her for being aware that she's attractive.
- Paramore's "Misery Business" reeks of this.
Once a whore you're nothing more / I'm sorry, that'll never change.
- Played with (in a way) in "Slip it In" off the Black Flag album of the same name. The song takes multiple shots at an woman who is regretful for "what [she] did the night before", hitting on (and sleeping with, if the spoken word intro is anything to go by) other guys when she claims to have a boyfriend, and blaming her actions on having too much to drink, among other things - however the song later states "You're getting around/I'm not putting it down/It's just what it is/Getting it while it's around", so the song plays the trope straight and subverts it at the same time.
- Salt-n-Pepa lashed out against this in the song "None Of Your Business".
- The girl posse attempts to do this to Maggie, a former prostitute who became one of Hero's disciples, in the !HERO: The Rock Opera song "Leave Here."
- Goethe's Faust gives details of the slut-shaming customs of rural Germany at that period. The bride's bridal garland being ripped from her head and stamped underfoot by the village boys, the "slut" having to sit in a particular pew in church and so on. Nothing was done to the man, of course.
- In the stage production of Les Misérables, the song "At the End of the Day" ends with the factory workers and foreman condemning Fantine for being a "whore" for having Cosette out of wedlock. Given that Fantine had retaliated earlier by saying that she's not the only worker with a sexually clean history and given that she's been refusing the foreman's advances, more than a little of the accusations are them just trying to get rid of her out of spite.
Workers: While we're earning our daily bread/ She's the one with her hands in the butter!/ You must send the slut away/ Or we're all gonna end in the gutter!/ It's us who'll have to pay/ At the end of the day.
Foreman: I might have known the bitch could bite/ I might have known the cat had claws/ I might have guessed your little secret./ Ah yes, the virtuous Fantine/ Who keeps herself so pure and clean/ You'd be the cause, I have no doubt/ Of any trouble hereabout/ You play a virgin in the light/ But need no urgin' in the night!
- Grease has a song about this, "There Are Worse Things I Could Do". After Rizzo has a pregnancy scare, everyone starts gossiping about her.
"There are worse things I could do/Than go with a boy or two/Even though the neighborhood/Thinks I'm trashy and no good".
Religion and Mythology
- Subverted somewhat in The Bible. While it doesn't think highly of sex outside of marriage ("No adultery" is one of the Ten Commandments, for starters), it treats adulterers as people instead of dirty whores; with A) Jesus big on redemption and atonement, not punishment, and B) shamers being reminded that their sins aren't any better than those of the shame-ee.
- The Pharisees bring an adulteress before Jesus and ask what he thinks should be done with her. According to Jewish law, she should be stoned to death. Jesus said to the crowd "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone." When everyone in the crowd realized they were sinners, they all left. Jesus then told the woman Go and Sin No More.
- Some have claimed that Jesus was actually calling them out on the Double Standard- under the Mosaic Law, both adulterer and adulteress should both be put to death- but where was the man?
- A similar story appears in Genesis—Judah condemns his widowed daughter-in-law, Tamar, to death for getting pregnant out of wedlock. It turns out the conception was when Tamar dressed as a prostitute and slept with Judah, who was trying to weasel his way out of a levirate marriage. When Tamar reveals this, Judah admits that she is more righteous than him; they don't become a couple, but the twins she gives birth to become Judah's heirs.
- As with the above Jesus example, there was another incident with a woman at a well who gave Jesus water. Jesus asked her to draw a cup for him and she tried to refuse the request for being both a Samaritan and an adulteress (an adulteress at the time could mean a number of things). Jesus knew this and didn't mind either one.
- After the dice game in the Mahabharata, Karna calls Draupadi a slut for having five husbands (even though, as stated earlier in the narrative, she is not the first woman to do so...and men were permitted to take multiple wives, mistresses, and concubines), and uses her "sluttiness" as justification for why she should submit to his and Duryodhana's sexual advances in front of his court. Later, she tells Krishna what went down, and he says he'll make it right, that no woman (especially one as pious as Draupadi) should be treated that way.
- In "Sorli's Tale", Freyja, who in this tale is Odin's concubine, sleeps with four dwarfs in exchange for a necklace. Odin makes Loki steal the necklace and when Freyja goes to Odin to get it back, he calls her out for her bargain. Meanwhile, our knowledge of Norse Mythology suggests Odin is simultaneously married to Frigg and had plenty of extramarital affairs even besides Freyja.
- Subverted in the older Lokasenna, where Loki attempts to slut shame Freyja, only for her father Njord to defend her by saying that there is nothing wrong with a married woman having a lover. Said adultery is about Freyja sleeping with Freyr.
- During feud between Shawn Michaels and the British Bulldog, the later's wife was hitting on Shawn Michaels to make him look bad, which lead to Jim Cornette accusing Shawn Michaels of being a fornicator who was trying to make Diana break her marital vows. So, this wasn't an example on screen but off screen, Stu Hart did not like how it made Diana look, making it this trope retroactively.
- While commentators like Jerry "the King" Lawler and Tazz get to drool over the Divas/Knockouts and beg them to get their "puppies" or "pigeons" out (being euphemisms for breasts), it's a guarantee that if the ladies in question actually did so, they would be considered sluts.
- Furthermore, wrestling is a form of media in which women whose only crime is being a heel (as in less likeable than the face, for any reason) can loudly and incessantly be chanted at with calls of "SLUT" or "SHE'S A CRACK WHORE". Mostly, the heels will do something to "earn" slut chants but not always. Tommy Dreamer merely said Jazz looked like one in ECW, for example.
- On the August 8th edition of Sunday Night Heat, Ivory attacked Tori from behind and wrote "Slut" on her back as punishment for Tori having previously posed in body body paint instead of clothing. Trish Stratus would later imitate this on Monday Night Raw, spray painting "Slut" on Christy Hemme's back after Christy posed for Playboy magazine.
- Trish Stratus was used as a play thing that Vince McMahon eventually discarded, causing her to rebel against him. Molly Holly and Victoria would hold this against her long after the fact, insisting Trish had slept her way to the top.
- Stephanie McMahon was frequently referred to as a slut but only after she turned on her father and sided with Triple H (with whom Vince had been feuding) and took control of his company. She never did anything remotely whorish though so it's more of a case of fans not knowing what other insult to chant at her ("Gold Digger" and "Manipulator" not exactly being easy for wrestling crowds to chant).note
- While working at the IWA Mid-South ticket booth, Mickie Knuckles was constantly harassed by then IWA World Champion Jimmy Jacobs, who at one point held up challenger Delirious after putting him in a sleeper hold and screamed "You want this Mickie? You want this you slut!"
- Trish Stratus got showered with chants of "slut" after she turned on Chris Jericho, an admitted arrogant ass but one who genuinely liked and defended her, for Christian, who physically assaulted her for eventually returning Jericho's affections and then bragging to Jericho about how she slept with Christian while planning Jericho's downfall. Trish would go on to hypocritically tease Lita for sleeping and getting impregnated by Kane in an effort to defend Matt Hardy from him.
- Unfortunately for Lita her run as a "slut" came across as legit Slut Shaming in real life. Behind the scenes she had cheated on boyfriend Matt Hardy with Edge and fans became aware of this and began to chant insults at her on TV so the writers used it as a storyline to turn her heel. The unfortunate part (in story) came where she turned on her husband - who was only her husband because he had scared her into sleeping with him.
- AJ Lee managed to completely avoid this, and it was epic. After being dumped by Daniel Bryan, she snapped and turned her attentions to CM Punk and Kane, as well as continuing to flirt with Daniel Bryan. It was quite clear she was manipulating them for her own desires and she ended up getting the job as Raw General Manager.
- She also had a brief dalliance with John Cena and is now (April 2013) with Dolph Ziggler, and has been for several months. Interestingly, though some fans and the commentators like to slut-shame AJ and call her names, her current and past love interest(s) are reluctant to do so — even Daniel Bryan, the ex with the biggest beef with AJ, is catty about her choice of romantic partner, not her having pursued those romantic partners. Her current boyfriend, Dolph Ziggler, is completely unperturbed about her romantic history and is very proud to be with AJ. Only CM Punk threw their relationship back in her face. Of course, on commentary Lawler just can't stop harping on the fact that she (gasp) has had several boyfriends.
- Eve Torres kind of earned her Hoe-ski chants by trying to cheat on Zack Ryder. The only problem here might be that the chants persisted long after that storyline had faded from relevance.
- While not a crack whore, TNA, perhaps because it has been chanted before, introduced Claire Lynch, a drunken crackhead falsely claiming that AJ Styles was the father of her child, which is about as close as one can get without actually being.
- Strange case in Ring of Honor, where Steve Corino brags that Matt Hardy has slept with way more women than "our" hero, CM Punk. Thing is, "CM Pussy" and "CM Hump" were not chanted at Punk in congratulation, so this comment did absolutely nothing to endear anyone to Hardy.
- Assassins Creed II provides us with an example of shaming by legislation. The extra, in-game index describes how courtesans (by that time, a word meaning, essentially, "whores") were by law more and more circumscribed and sharply defined in dress and hairstyle in an effort to eliminate their profession from polite society.
- Revelation gives us yet another example. A senator complains that his organization has been demoted to useless functions, like legislating the length of women's sleeves (a real thing). The heralds also make announcements about that same recent legislation. Wearing their sleeves too short was a punishable offense for women.
- The criminal inmates of Batman: Arkham City are slightly misogynistic to the same degree they're also trying to slightly hurt Batman's feelings. There are a lot of taunts thrown at Harley and Catwoman.
- During Miranda Lawson's loyalty mission in Mass Effect 2.
Captain Enyala: I was just waiting for you to finish getting dressed. Or does Cerberus really let you whore around in that outfit?
- Engineers Kenneth Donnelly and Gabriella Donnelly
Gabriella: I've got green across the board. The forward tanks are bouyant and elevated.
Kenneth: Are you talking about the Normandy, or Miranda?
Gabriella: I'm talking about the one that's covered and protected, not bouncing in the breeze.
- Some Fire Emblem fans don't like Tharja for many valid reasons, but one of the more minor reasons tend to be her outfit. Tharja herself, however, is mortified when she realizes how revealing her outfit is, which makes the choice of clothing sound less about any conscious choice on her part and more about catering to the Male Gaze.
- Haunting Ground: When Daniella finally corners Fiona, she calls her a "vile creature" who "invites the man into her filthy body, again and again". Though it's a completely baseless accusation, since Fiona is a virgin. Daniella is simply resents the fact that Fiona could, while she herself cannot because she's an incomplete Homonculus, who can neither feel pleasure, or pain.
- In an unmarked quest in The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim the niece of Haelga, a promiscuous Dibella-worshipping innkeeper located in Riften, makes you publicly humiliate her aunt for her behaviour.
- The Nostalgia Critic and The Nostalgia Chick use "slut" and "whore" freely to describe anyone they don't like, but they've both admitted to enjoying being slutty themselves. More to the point, they both have a very dim view of shaming women for having sex or enjoying it.
- In the Critic's case, his doing this less as time goes on is very likely a result of his actor getting rape and death threats for invoking Female Gaze on himself so much.
- In-universe, Critic gets some from Douchey. First he's just called a whore, but then he's called a “war whore”, an insult for a woman who cheats while her husband is away fighting.
- The Nostalgia Chick criticizes Moulin Rouge! for this.
- The Brows Held High review of The Girlfriend Experience was removed because Kyle was accused of this, given he frequently mocks the background of Sasha Grey and her too-sexual-for-its-own-good character.
- In the second season of The Guild, Codex is interested in a hot stuntman neighbor and dresses up (showing cleavage) to get his interest when Vork shows up out of the blue and asks "Why are you dressed like a harlot?" Then he invades her home and peruses her belongings before randomly turning to her and saying "Cover yourself, woman."
- At the end of the third season, Codex and Fawkes have sex and she discusses it with the guild at the opening of the fourth. In addition to yelling at her for sleeping with the enemy, they call her a slut and attack her for doing so after one date. Then, when he makes it clear it was a one-time thing, she starts calling herself a slut.
- Inverted to hell in Six Billion Secrets; any secret that features a proud female virgin will sure as hell elicit at least 50 "angry" essays within the comment section.
- Angela and Esmeralda on The War Comms do this like breathing, which has gotten them more than a few punches to the face.
- Inverted in Questionable Content, after Faye sleeps with her boss's brother, Sven. She immediately begins to freak out, but is reassured by her therapist that she's not a slut, and that a casual sexual relationship can be healthy, and is perhaps exactly what she needs at that point.
- Magick Chicks: Invoked by name when Faith, calls Tiffany out on it. Also counts as a mild What the Hell, Hero? moment, since Tiffany is the school's resident superhero. However, Faith did say she'd stop seeing other girls if Tiffany asked her to; assuming, of course, that Tiffany was consenting to go steady with her.
- In-Universe example: Kankri from Homestuck at one point criticises Porrim for sleeping around. She is not pleased. As Kankri is intended to be an example of the worst forms of social justice while Porrim is the opposite, the readers are definitely expected to side with her.
- Oglaf parodies this a few different ways. Once is with a city full of virgins terrified of sluts, who don't know what sluts or sex are. Another is with a misogynistic smith who gives a man stereotypical lady armor for not being "manly" enough, with the word "SLUT" emblazoned across the chestnote . A third is the garden of Eden, with God actually being okay with the apple thing, but telling them they have to cover up the tits. No... just the lady tits.
- In Sin Fest, Seymore gives a scathing comment to Monique for dressing provocatively. Later, Xanthe does too, indicating her dress is the work of the Patriarchy. Since the Sisterhood arc, pretty much any expression of male sexuality is literally demonized to the point where the porn industry is an extension of the devil himself.
- In Rhapsodies Bian, a Lad-ette who Really Gets Around, rebels against this hard.
- Scooby-Doo! Mystery Incorporated had the puritan "ghost" of Hebediah Grimm, who attacked women with a giant mallet for their "painted faces, exposed necklines, and skirts that rise above the ankle!" It turned out Hebediah was being played by two teens who would "rescue" his victims, who they found hot for exactly the reasons Hebediah was attacking. This is probably why Velma was spared, despite her short skirt, with Grimm calling her a homely "model of purity."
- Adventure Time got away with it in "Sky Witch", with Princess Bubblegum reassuring Marceline The Vampire Queen that Raggedy Princess could be her new cuddly toy, and that she'd be happy to do it as "she's got zero self-respect".
- As Told by Ginger had Ginger in "Fast Reputation" grappling with the "damned if you do and damned if you don't" scenario, when she crashes a high school party to shed her "Nice Girl" image. She chats up with this high schooler, she crushes on for a bit under the table. And then he talked to Miranda and Courtney about her "pearly whites" and how dark it was, the two spiral it out of control to where Ginger encounters graffiti that all but calls her a slut.
- To a lesser extent, the priggish and adult Joann tells Hoodsey that Carl (a preteen boy) that the latter is "a budding exhibitionist" all because the boy isn't Shower Shy.