Deconstructed in Neon Genesis Evangelion with the Shinji / Asuka pairing. The scene where they kiss was actually a heartbreakingly epic and twisted failure of communications for both of them contributing to Asuka's mental breakdown and Shinji's Despair Event Horizon. They are attracted to each other but both fear rejection, so Shinji doesn't dare believe it's anything more than just a way to pass the time and Asuka pinches his nose (ostensibly because his breathing is bothering her) to get at least some kind of reaction out of him AND to ensure some kind of "plausible deniability" of her own emotions in the face of possible rejection. And rejection is what she reads from his passiveness even if he doesn't mean it as such, because he doesn't understand there to BE anything to accept or reject... mostly because her words and actions just then and there give him no reason to actually think so! So after seeing Shinji's reaction (that is, gasping for air, not hugging or comforting her) she ran into the bathroom, making gargling noises as a front (as seen in ep. 22 director's cut version). Shinji is left feeling even worse.
Gen and Kanon, in Kanon by Chiho Saito, are always clashing, and it always leads to a kiss (sometimes to more).
Tenshi Na Konamaiki can be fairly described as forty-nine episodes of slapping, followed by a kiss.
Although it quickly gave way to true affection in the manga and live action, Sailor Moon played this to the hilt in the anime. In fact, up until the reveal, there's not really a lot at all to indicate Usagi and Mamoru have anything but deep loathing for each other. Thankfully, fanfiction can remedy that...
Kousuke and Ryoko in Spiral ~Suiri no Kizuna~ and Alive. One of their fistfights actually scared away a bear.
Kazahaya and Rikuo of Drug & Drop seem to be heading in this direction (considering that both their bosses and the rest of the universe seem to be nudging them together), but since the series has been on hold since Vol. 3 it is impossible to tell.
This is the essence of Melissa Mao and Kurz Weber's relationship in Full Metal Panic!, although they've only reached the "kiss" stage in the novels on which the anime is based.
Further confused by the reappearance of Belfangan Clouseau, Mao's former boyfriend, who's now their superior officer.
Suzuka is chock full of this. The manga has a rare "kiss-kiss, SLAP!!" scene both initiated by the girl depicted.
Black Lagoon's seventh episode is an extended Slap-Slap-Kiss sequence between Rock and Revy, though it's more a case of "punch, gunshot to the face, Indirect Kiss".
In Blue Drop, Hagino and Mari's huge fight at the school's swimming pool results in both of them landing in the water and exchanging a kiss — probably, since that moment is obscured by lots of bubbles.
Lawrence and Holo from Spice and Wolf in the last episode of season 2. Lawrence shows up to redeem Holo from being collateral from a deal gone bad. Cue strangle attempt, a mean-sounding right hook, and the obligatory Love Confession. A few self-depreciating lines, a kick to the torso, a snappy one-liner, and then the kiss. All to cheesy violin music.
This is done literally in Code Geass by Kallen in her relationship with Lelouch.
This applies to almost every interaction between Michel and Bird's Nest in Copernicus Breathing, most notably when Bird's Nest confuses Michel Bohringer with his dead little brother Michel. Again, Incest Subtext. This also happens when Michel finds Bird's Nest's stash of drugs and Bird's Nest attempts to get them back, which ends in some more Incest Subtext as well as some flash backing to Brother-Sister Incest.
A Cruel God Reigns: This ends up being more like "Bite Bite Kiss" with Jeremy and Ian, but is essentially the same thing when Jeremy is hallucinating that Greg is following him after recounting all the times he was sexually abused to Ian. It winds up as a Intimate Psychotherapy.
YuYu Hakusho: Noble Demon Hiei is eventually subjected to this when he returns to Makai. He was invited at the behest of powerful demon Mokuro. At first it looks like a boss-underling relationship until Mokuro is revealed to be female and somewhat interested in him. Eventually, the two of them face each other in the Makai Tournament, and Hiei eventually loses to her...but not before one last Slap breaks the nigh-unbreakable shackles that were a reminder of her days in slavery. It's eventually revealed they're developing what might best be called a "tempestuous romance": not so much Belligerent Sexual Tension but rather that (a) they tend to express their feelings in unusual ways, and (b) every so often things get rocky and it goes to Kiss-Kiss-Slap for a while.
Sunako Nakahara and Kyouhei Takano from The Wallflower have their first kiss after dissing each others faults for a good page or so.
In Frank Miller's All-Star Batman & Robin The Boy Wonder, Wonder Woman is characterized as a man-hating shrew, someone who thinks men do nothing but destroy the planet and even calling some random onlooker in the street a "sperm-bank". She meets up with the rest of the Justice League, including Superman and, after saying that she hates their guts (several times, using the same wording) she suddenly starts making out with Supes. After that she returns to her ultra radical feminist self with no explanation given for the two heroes suddenly massaging each others' tonsils.
Frank Miller does, indeed like this trope. In Sin City, he had Gail shove a gun in Dwight's face, only to be slapped away. The next panel has then making out in the rain.
A frequent move of Catwoman's when she goes up against Batman. The final issue (#82) of her most recent series is just one example.
In Boy Meets Hero by Chayne Avery and Russell Garcia, villain Cold Snap and her protege 'Zack Savage' get a moment like this, hurling insults, complete with "Are you as turned on as I am?" "More!", at which point she jumps on him and they start kissing.
It's even more so with Donald Duck's parents in The Invader of Fort Duckburg.
Must be something in the family, Donald and Daisy also have these scenes fairly regularly.
Runaways - In the first run's final issue, everyone meets up months after the confrontation with their parents. When Gert sees Chase (who she'd given the Kiss of Life to previously) she slaps him and demands to know why he's been off the radar and never got in touch with any of them. He explains that he was busy looking for Gert's pet dinosaur. "And I found her." Gert grabs him and kisses him.
A nice variant in ElfQuest. Near the end of the first volume, Leetah and Cutter try one more time to reconcile but fail (narration: "Once more a wall of anger rises between them"). Cutter breaks down and turns away crying, half decided that he needs to go away to escape the heartbreak. Then Leetah simply speaks his soul name, the ultimate expression of intimacy among elves (and definitely the equivalent of a kissnote but actual, literal kisses do happen later that evening in this context), and an implied acceptance of him as her "lifemate".
Leetah: Tam...? (embraces him) You are trembling...
Essentially every fanfiction written in the verse of BBC's Sherlock set after The Reichenbach Fall. Usually a manifestation of the authors unable to decide whether, upon Sherlock's reveal that he's not actually dead, John Watson will punch him in the face or passionately kiss him. Hooray for compromises?
A rather extreme example is used very briefly early in the film Ratatouille. When Remy is running through the walls of an apartment building, we briefly see a woman holding a man at gunpoint as he runs by; a shot goes off, narrowly missing Remy, who goes back to investigate. The two struggle over the gun briefly before they passionately kiss one another. Those French...
Lockout has this between (ex)CIA-Agent Snow and Emilie Warnock at the end of the movie. She arrives, they banter, and then when you think they are going to kiss she punches him in the face. He admits that "for a second there I thought you were going to kiss me" at which point she smiles, turns, and walks away. And he follows...and more banter ensues....sexual banter....
Made more interesting by the fact that the pair are played by (then) real-life husband and wife Will Arnett and Amy Poehler.
Father Goose does this. The first time, Leslie Caron slaps Cary Grant, he calmly slaps her back, and she dissolves in tears and runs away. The second time, she slaps him, he slaps her back, she slaps him back ... cut to Trevor Howard, reaction to the news that they want to be married.
In Brüno, the titular character adapts the alias of "Straight Dave" and becomes an MMA fighter. At one match, his scorned former assistant/ex-boyfriend shows up and proceeds to give him a No-Holds-Barred Beatdown, which soon turns into make-up sex, much to the redneck audience's horror and disgust.
Taken to a ridiculous extreme by Mr. & Mrs. Smith. The two main characters practically demolish a house with gunfire in an attempt to kill each other. They then proceed to punch, kick and smash objects onto each other, demolishing even more furniture in the process, until they grab their weapons again and get to a Mexican Standoff. Surprising nobody, little time passes before they put down the guns and start kissing and ripping each other's clothes off.
In Whitecoats, this is done with out the will they or won't they, in this case the Slaps were a fist fight where they gave as good as they got, with the rest of the cast trying to pull them apart. It ended when they started making out.
An argument between Tony Stark and Christine Everheart cuts directly to them having sex. However this is a one-night-stand and isn't a set-up for a relationship.
The more subdued scene later on with Tony and Pepper is more standard but still ends up subverted when it inspires Pepper not to sleep with her boss but to mull over just how screwed-up her relationship with him is.
Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade has a classic example of this: Indy and Elsa are arguing. Indy goes on about how "Since I met you, I've nearly been incinerated, drowned, shot at, and chopped into fish bait" blah blah, then Elsa pulls Indy into a kiss then, to his confusion, yells at him for it before kissing him again. Considering she's actually The Mole, it seems like she's done her research about the otherwomen he's been in relationships with and thus based her seduction on it.
Marion, the original Tsundere in Indy's life. Heck, they're still at it when they're old and grey, right before they finally tie the knot.
Indy's relationship with Willie Scott would probably count as well.
The new The Lone Ranger movie with Armie Hammer features a scene where Armie and Ruth Wilson are on a horse, she slaps him and then kisses him.
Played straight in Lethal Weapon 3, where Riggs and Lorna end up kissing after the infamous "my scar is bigger" contest.
The Singles Ward has another classic example, where Jonathan and Cammie, after having gotten off to a rough start, get into an argument in the kitchen, during a party at his house. They criticize and mock each other, stepping ever closer together, until a friend walks in to find them making out.
Outlander has a rather non-standard use of this. Kainan knocks Freya unconscious during his attempted escape. The following morning, Freya gives him a good sock upside the head in return. Freya warms up to Kainan after hearing that he killed a bear all by himself. By the end of the film, they're married.
In Gangs of New York, this trope makes an appearance as more of an "Insult retort slap slap punch grapple claw try-to-bite kiss".
Stef and Mouth have this sort of relationship in The Goonies. At first they hate each other, but then she hugs him when they find the pirate ship and then pushes him back. Finally at the end they really do make up.
The parents in The Ref. Although it's more like slap slap slap slap slap slap slap slap slap almost-kiss, with the slaps being verbal rather than physical...
In Moonstruck it's more of a "yell yell knock-over-a-table kiss." But hey, they're Italian-Americans, that's normal for them.
Played very straight at the end of Loverboy, between Kirstie Alley's character and her husband.
The Great Leslie and Maggie DuBois in The Great Race. He kisses her, she slaps him. When he kisses her again later, in the next scene they're in a car with a "Just Married" sign on it.
Maverick. Maverick's relationship with Annabell Bransford. They argue and fight throughout the film and end up in bed together near the end.
In Random Hearts, Harrison Ford and Kristin Scott Thomas have discovered that their spouses were having an affair (they were killed in a plane crash on the way to a romantic rendezvous). He's obsessed with finding out all the details while she just wants to let it go. They're arguing about this and she's slapping and shoving him when he abruptly grabs and kisses her, shocking both of them.
It's not like they actually weren't in love: Larry was just deliberately trying to ignore her advances, despite showing early signs of Aww, Look! They Really Do Love Each Other, as Amelia's peculiar condition (as a mystical animated mannequin of the original aviatrix bound to return to her inanimate state) made Larry unwilling to pursue a literal eight-hour long Mayfly-December Romance.
In the Italian Film Il 7 e l'8 (The seven and the eight), near the end, the resident Jerk with a Heart of Gold gets a passionate proposal from the resident Ice Queen. He initially flatly refuses, blaming the girl for her icy demenanor and bad manners, until she slaps him. After that, he suddenly and abruptly kisses her.
It's played with in Grosse Pointe Blank where Martin and Debi are kissing and Debi stops the make out session and says something is missing, then slaps Martin across the face before going back to kissing and proceeding to have sex
Dame Vaako and her husband are a rather literal example in The Chronicles of Riddick. He slaps her, she tries to attack him, they have sex. Further, a line of dialogue right before the "Kiss" part indicates that this is not only "normal" behavior for the both of them, but it's also considered foreplay.
This situation very accurately describes the relationship between Aravis and Prince Cor in The Horse and His Boy:
Aravis also had many quarrels (and, I'm afraid, even fights) with Cor, but they always made it up again: so that years later, when they were grown up, they were so used to quarreling and making it up again that they got married so as to go on doing it more conveniently.
There's a similar case with a young Vulcan couple in Diane Duane's Star Trek novel, Spock's World. The chapter is set pre-Surak, after all.
In the same book, this trope was apparently a recurring theme in Sarek and Amanda's courtship.
How about Stab Stab Kiss? Vlad of the Dragaera series and his wife, a former assassin, fall in lust/love after she kills him and he is revived from the dead. This is subverted later, when the series takes a more realistic perspective toward this kind of tumultuous relationship by having their marriage fall apart very quickly when the two discover how different they really are.
Alluded to in the prequels to Eddings' Belgariad. The heirs of Astur and Mimbre were Locked in a Room "to kill each other without disturbing honest people", with the sole purpose of having them accept marriage.
Pretty much defines the relationship between Garion and Ce'Nedra.
Older Than Dirt: The real ur-example is most certainly the Sumerian poem The Courtship of Inanna and Dumuzi, in which the Tsundere goddess Inanna spends most of the story berating the shepherd Dumuzi for not being a farmer, until they have a good argument and Inanna becomes smitten. They spend the rest of the story having awesome sex.
Averted in Animorphs, where Marco and Rachel exhibited many symptoms of this trope. Turns out that they were really too different for a relationship and ended up staying in the kinda-friendly zone. There are indications of attraction and mild flirting, but Rachel and Tobias are set up as a couple from the very first book. Later in the series, Marco makes it pretty clear that he thinks Rachel is a rageaholic violence junkie and Rachel gets very impatient with his snark and suspicious caution. The trope is also played with to a certain extent: they seem to flirt in earlier books, Marco's immediate reaction to seeing that Rachel has been split in half is that there's one for him now, Nice Rachel says she would go out with him if he asked her, and in the Wonderful Life / What If? book, where they never became Animorphs and Rachel never really got to know Tobias, they did end up going on a date.
Basically, one of the running themes of the book is that sooner or later, war ruins everything. In this case, it turned a perfectly cheerful flirty, belligerent friendship between two people who did in fact like one another into something very nasty and cruel over the course of a war, three years, and fifty books.
In Xanth, Ogre-style-love is violent to the point of being perceived as rape by virtually all of the other non-Ogre cultures.
Mort and Ysobel. There's a good two pages dedicated to a conversation in which they insult each other.
Pratchett sums up their relationship in Soul Music: [Mort and Ysobel] took a strong and immediately dislike to one another and everyone knows there's only one inevitable outcome to that kind of relationship.
In Pyramids this is mostly the case for Pteppic and Ptracy until it is revealed they're half-siblings.
This is standard for Trolls in Discworld. Throwing a rock (ideally a pretty rock) at someone's head is the Troll equivalent of blowing them a kiss.
Wowbagger the Infinitely Prolonged and Trillian Astra in And Another Thing..., after a heated argument regarding a) the treatment of Random Dent, and b) whether or not the chosen pastimes of either them is more or less pathetic and laced with schadenfreude than the other's.
In The Fountainhead Dagny Taggart systematically annoys Howard Roark, who returns the favor, till she hits him across the face with a riding crop. That night, he breaks into her house and 'rapes' her. She instantly falls in love with him.
How about Lestat and Louis from ''The Vampire Chronicles"? They cannot agree on anything, get in physical fights and insult each other like there is no tomorrow (or at least Lestat does this) but at the end of the day Louis still manages to say "I love you". Lestat is not complaining.
In The House of Hades this happens between Leo and Calypso. She's fed up with being sent heroes to fall in love with, so she's incredibly acerbic and argumentative with Leo from the moment he lands there. He reacts indignantly, but is okay with setting up camp on Ogygia away from her. After a little time, she starts to visit him when she hears him building a way to leave and offers to help. As soon as he noticed how good she looked in working clothes and with dirt and grime on her hands, anyone could tell what would happen. She gives him his FirstKiss before he leaves and he swears on the River Styx to rescue her from Ogygia.
Jimmy and Chloe indulge in this from time to time. Often due to The Masquerade Will Kill Your Dating Life on Chloe's part. Or mutual flirting between Kara and Jimmy. Or Jimmy having an inferiority complex towards Clark, who Chloe is fiercely loyal to. They really do have quite a few issues.
A more violent version in season nine, shown in Escape. Tess and Zod had a passionate kiss after Tess shoots at Zod, who returns a Neck Lift only to be subdued with kryptonite.
In Season 8 episode "Committed" when Oliver and Tess are fighting with sticks before their date, they wind up kissing each other.
Also Cordelia and Xander, who at one point gets trapped in a basement.
Cordelia: I can't believe that I'm stuck spending what will probably be my last few moments on Earth here with you! Xander: I hope these are my last few moments! Three more seconds with you, and I'm gonna... (steps closer) Cordelia:(steps closer) I'm gonna what? Coward! Xander: Moron! Cordelia: I hate you! Xander: I hate you!
They look at each other for another second before grabbing each other and engaging in a mad, passionate kiss. It goes on for several seconds before they suddenly release each other and look at each other in horror.
Xander: We so need to get outta here. Cordelia:(nods) Mm-hm!
A probable example, mostly in the subtext, would be Spike and Angel. Which, of course, got a little textier with this:
"Me and Angel have never been intimate. Except that once."
Fellow werewolves Oz and Veruca meet in their wolf forms and immediately start snarling and fighting. The next day they wake up naked in each others arms.
A Kiss of the Vampire version happens in "Graduation Day" when Buffy punches Angel until he vamps out and feeds on her.
Although they are brother and sister, Justin and Alex from Wizards of Waverly Place have this kind of relationship. Despite the fact that the slap slap part is much more dominant, they occasionally hug and support each other, especially in the last episodes (plus The Movie), where these gestures are quite frequent. Now, it might sound like a normal sibling relationship... if the entire fandom wasn't led by fans who support Jalex (Justin/Alex).
This is really accentuated in an episode where Justin and Alex stand with their arms crossed, declaring their deep hatred for each other, and then hug in the next moment like their lives depend on it. And let's not forget that Alex giggles like a school girl and Justin pokes her with his wand after that.
Hawkeye and Margaret's brief liaison under fire in M*A*S*H is a variation on this trope. Even Hot Lips and Frank conveyed this trope note for note years earlier.
In Picket Fences, Max and Kenny finally end their three seasonlong dance whilst they are, typically, arguing and in the full throes of denial about their feelings for each other. Max has her back to Kenny, ranting about his behaviour whilst he calmly walks up behind her, waits for her to turn around and then kisses her. Humorously she attempts to continue arguing whilst he's kissing her until she finally gives in and melts into it. Consumation of their relationship then ensues.
It was deconstructed earlier in the show with Berg and Ashley. Berg ended the relationship because it wasn't healthy.
Happened completely literally in the late first season of Rome between Marc Antony and Atia of the Julii. Slap. Pause. Slap. Pause. Kiss.
And in Season 2, Marc Antony gets into an argument with Cleopatra (over Atia, no less). She starts throwing vases at him and they end up having sex against a column.
The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air: There was a Girl of the Week who was rude to everyone, and Will wasn't getting along with her for that reason. Carlton had better luck, however, and after the "kiss" part of the trope kicked in, he was able to get her to treat people in a civil manner. After discovering that Carlton was able to assert himself, Will tried doing the same thing as Carlton did... however, Will was just as unable as ever to get past the "slap slap" stage of the relationship.
Drake & Josh: Josh and Mindy share the following heated exchange...
Josh: So today, you were just messing with my head? Mindy: I think you deserved it after the way you screamed at me. Josh: I still think that was a really obnoxious thing for you to do! Mindy: I think you acted way more obnoxious. Josh: Well, I'm just glad we're broken up! Mindy: Not as glad as I am! Josh: Oh, really?! Mindy: REALLY! (they make out)
Maddie shares one such scene with a one-shot character, Trevor, a "merit scholar", on The Suite Life of Zack and Cody, ending with the most passionate make out scene ever on children's programming:
Trevor: I don't need a vote from some tree-hugger. Maddie: If you have it your way, there won't be any trees left to hug. Trevor: Oh, next you're going to blame the oil companies for global warming. Maddie: Yeah, 'cause they're to blame! Trevor: Oh, cry me a river! Maddie: If I did, you'd just pollute it! Trevor: You bleeding-heart liberal! Maddie: You establishment puppet! Trevor: Do you wanna kiss me as much as I wanna kiss you!? Maddie: I'm surprised someone as smart as you would have to ask! London:(to a nearby museum staff) Didn't see that comin'. (the man nods)
It doesn't help that Trevor and Maddie are played by the same people who played Troy and Sharpay.
"I wonder what they'd do if they liked each other?"
One episode of Frasier subverts it by having Frasier in the slap phase with a coworker, but when (in a Continuity Nod to the Cheers example) he asks if she is as turned on as he is, she just says no and looks disgusted. Since the station manager saw the situation, everyone in the station has to attend a Sensitivity Training.
A straight example of this trope occurred in an earlier episode in a very similar situation, and they actually had sex multiple times (on the air, once) despite claiming that they can't stand each other, but without the Shout-Out to the Cheers line.
A version of this trope occurred in the episode "Daphne Returns" where Daphne and Niles' first fight leads to them kissing and then having sex for the first time.
The rebooted Battlestar Galactica has raised this to the level of an art form; nearly every canonical couple has engaged in it at some point and to some degree, often in the most literal sense (see — unsurprisingly — Lee Adama and Kara Thrace; also Saul and Ellen Tigh). Though Adama and Thrace seem to be more inclined to Punch Punch Kiss/Punch Punch UST than anything else.
Deserving of special mention are Chief Tyrol and Cally. The first slap was actually CallyMurdering The Hypotenuse by shooting Tyrol's Cylon lover right before his eyes. The slap back came later that season, when she woke Tyrol up from a nightmare. Believing he was still dreaming, he beat her so brutally that it required not only a Discretion Shot, but a Content Warning at the beginning of the episode. Two and a half episodes later, they were Happily Married and expecting. Admittedly there was a one year Time Skip in the meantime, but damn. And this was one of the more stable relationships on the show. At least until the fourth season, but that's another story...
What about Bill Adama and Laura Roslin? They only got to the kiss part in middle-second season and before that, they had some major clashes like her overruling his orders and him responding by storming Roslin's ship and dragging her to the Galactica's brig.
That kiss wasn't even supposed to be there. It was improvised and they kept it.
Burn Notice takes this and runs with it, since both of the "combatants" are trained covert ops. After a short fight with heavy subtext, one finally gets the other in a choke pin... but then they start making out.
Ellen from Slings and Arrows does this twice within three episodes of each other: the first time with Geoffrey, the second with her brother-in-law Eric.
Gilmore Girls: The Luke/Lorelai relationship is built on this (although they only get to the 'kiss' part in Season 4). To a lesser degree Jess/Rory. Particuarly amusing as Luke is Jess's uncle and Lorelai Rory's mother; it must run in the family...
Worf and Ezri Dax have a heated argument while stranded on a forest planet, intensified by the feelings shared between Worf and Jadzia Dax, Ezri's symbiont predecessor. It eventually degrades into name-calling and fisticuffs, and a passionate kiss with (implied) off-camera relations.
Odo and Kira in "His Way" — not too heavy on the slapping, but a heated argument in the middle of the frickin' Promenade should count too.
Chief O'Brien has this almost done to him as well. He's working with a female Cardassian engineer and the two of them won't stop arguing over everything. Soon he learns that she believed that he was flirting with her.
The way Worf and Jadzia got together in "Looking for Par'mach in All the Wrong Places". Although that was more "Bat'leth Fight, Attempted Strangulation, Destructo-Nookie." This is more of a traditional Klingon romantic interlude - they even have (implied) ritual phrases for initiating a fight that they intend will end in sex.
Bashir: No... No, I don't need that image, either. In fact I'm gonna stop asking that question altogether. People will come in, I will treat them, and that's all.
In Star Trek: The Next Generation, Worf explains to Wesley that this is how all Klingon courtship works. The woman roars and throws heavy objects, while the man reads love poetry and ducks a lot. Martok and Sirella's relationship (the Klingon equivalent of Benedick and Beatrice) backs this up.
Captain Picard in The Next Generation has one with Captain Phillipa Louvois, who had previously prosecuted Picard with zeal during the court martial following the loss of the USS Stargazer, in "The Measure Of A Man".
Picard It's been ten years, but seeing you again like this makes it seem like fifty. If we weren't around all these people, do you know what I would like to do? Louvois Bust a chair across my teeth. Picard After that. Louvois Oh, ain't love wonderful.
Picard frequently has this with Vash, too.
The Tick (live-action): Batmanuel and Captain Liberty.
Who are expies of Die Fleidermaus and American Maid from the animated version.
Jordan and Dr. Cox. Although it's more of a "Stab Stab Sex" sort of thing. In later seasons, however, it becomes more because of habit and pride than any actual friction. In fact, in season 8, Cox tells Jordan he's fed up with all the snarking and insulting, and deconstructs this trope, as it's become contrived and fake:
Cox: I'm sick of pretending we don't like each other. It is distinctly not fun anymore, and would you like to know why? Because a) we are over 12, and b) we actually do like each other. In fact, brace yourself, we love each other. Jordan: *GASP!!!*
Jordan again, this time with JD. He gets fed up with her behaviour as a patient, tells her so, and she tells him to take his pants off.
Gene Hunt to Alex Drake in Episode 1 of Ashes to Ashes (immediately after grabbing her breast in the supply room):
Gene:Now then, Bollinger Knickers. You going to kiss me or punch me?
She did not, needless to say, kiss him. Nor has she yet, but let's face it — it's only a matter of time.
Dick and Mary from 3rd Rock from the Sun have this quite often. Most bizarrely, the first episode has Dick kiss Mary, she slaps him, she kisses him again, then he, confused, slaps her back.
Receptionist Amanda and Nick Pepper of Ugly Betty revert to this after quite a few scenes of sexual tension, coming to a close when both tag each other out of a game of company paintball — and consequently decide that their catfights actually turn them on.
Justin and Austin had a mild form of this before their first kiss which included insulting one another, and right before the kiss, them playfully shoving one another.
Spike and Lynda of Press Gang conducted their kissing-and-slapping exchange while on the set of a Saturday morning children's cartoon show, where Lynda was supposed to be promoting the wholesomeness and public-spiritedness of the Junior Gazette.
The Vicar of Dibley has something similar to the Frasier subversion but played more seriously: Geraldine, the title character and a liberal female vicar, is always trading insults with the arch-conservative councilman David. At one point in the series, he reveals his love for her, interpreting her snarking as flirting. In actuality, she doesn't really consciously like him much at this point. This declaration starts his character on a more Pet the Dog path and makes her better disposed to him.
From House, Greg House and Lisa Cuddy: "I try to make you miserable. You deny that it's making you miserable. You try to make me miserable so I'll stop making you miserable." How romantic... And let us not forget the ending of the episode "Joy" in season 5, where they actually do kiss after the slap slap. Season 6 seems to be heading for deconstructing this trope. Apparently, Cuddy doesn't find it at all romantic. Maybe House should read Pride and Prejudice.
Done in Friends between Ross and Rachel. Rachel is very pregnant and overdue for labor, and the doctor has advised several home remedies, including sex, to speed up the process. They try everything else and nothing works, so Rachel insists they have sex. Since she had been very mean to Ross that entire episode, Ross declines. Rachel then starts angrily ranting at him how this is all his fault and so on, but is interrupted by Ross kissing her. Rachel is surprised and Ross says, "I don't care what it takes, I am getting that baby out of you!" Rachel immediately starts having contractions and Ross says, "I am good!"
Basically describes the whole relationship between Luke and Reid in As the World Turns. The Slap Slap part of the relationship dies down some after they become an actual couple.
An episode of Saved by the Bell featured Slater and Jessie arguing as they always do before launching into a kiss.
Jon Stewart and Wyatt Cenac did something similar during their White House Beer Simulation, though it was more Fight Dance Fight Dance Fight Dance Grope.
Laura and one of her love interests had the Insult Insult Kiss variation of this in an episode of Family Matters.
LOST. Ana Lucia tries to get Sawyer's gun — she asks him for it, tries to steal it, and gets caught. She and Sawyer fight before he pins her down and asks her what she's going to do, and she kisses him, leading to them having sex. She steals the gun after, when he's too distracted to think about it.
Played around with in the season 4 finale of How I Met Your Mother, between Barney and Robin. The two are unable to admit their feelings without provoking the other into an automatic rejection response (as both are relationship averse). Leads to a long, rapid back-and-forth "I love you"/"Lets be friends" style exchange that escalates in aggravation until they become so confused and frustrated they simply kiss. And it's awesome:
Barney: Why are you so afraid of giving this a chance? Robin: Because I am scared of how much I like you! Barney: Whoa, this is a bad idea. Robin: You're right, this is a mistake. Barney: Yes. No! Robin: I love you! Barney: Let's be friends. Robin: Okay, friends then. Barney: I love you. Robin: Let's get married! Barney: No, you're smothering me! Robin: Okay, forget it! Barney: Gaaah! Robin: Gaaah! (they kiss)
In series 1 of Torchwood, Jack and Ianto go from pointing guns at each other's heads in episode 4 to UST in episode 5 and discussing stopwatches in episode 8. (To be fair, it's also been suggested that they were having sex before episode 4, though nothing in canon actually proves it.)
She tried to invoke it with Daniel in her first appearance, as a means to disarm him, but that just lead to more slapping followed by a stun blast. He did see her naked, but she's rather disappointed that she was unconscious, thus defeating the purpose.
Joe and Helen do this on Wings, except that the slaps are done with flour-coated pieces of veal. (Don't ask.)
Joe: One minute we're spanking each other with meat, and the next minute it got weird!
Delayed version in Dollhouse, where Topher is forced to punch out Bennett when he finds out she is trying to kill Caroline/Echo. Later on, when Bennett is helping Topher put together Caroline's original personality wedge, she forces him to tell her why, and subsequently returns the favor with an even more vicious right hook. A scene later, the two finally give in to their respective crushes and start kissing.
Vince and Howard from The Mighty Boosh would be like this if they ever got past the UST stage.
Happens offscreen in iCarly "iDate a Bad Boy". The audience (and Carly's brother) only get the kissing part, but Carly later explains that it started off with an argument.
On Glee in the episode "Never Been Kissed", Kurt confronts Dave Karofsky, a recurring bully who has been torturing Kurt for being gay, which leads to Dave passionately kissing Kurt and leaving Kurt visibly traumatized, and understandably considering that it was Kurt's first real kiss.
In The Brittas Empire, the episode, "Sex, Lies, and Red Tape", Laura gives the bewildered Mr. Brittas a rather solid kiss after yelling about her unrelenting hatred of his idiocy.
In Roseanne, Nancy and Arnie did this CONSTANTLY when they were married. On one memorable occasion, Roseanne and Dan playfully fight over items to sell in a garage sale (including throwing furniture outside), before pausing to stare at each other, panting, and running to the bedroom.
In the Leverage episode "The Two Live Crew Job", the fight scene between Eliot and Mikel, his counterpart in the opposing crew, feels like (extremely violent) foreplay even before it hits the kissing stage. Nicely done, and hot enough to definitely qualify as Fanservice.
Max: No, Iago, it isn't fucking funny! You always have to bother everyone, or what? First lying to the whole world, then it turns out that you are a thief, and now disappearing and the whole world is concerned about what happened to poor Iago. Iago: Are you worrying [about me] too? Max: Don't say foolish things! I haven't thought about you for even a second, Iago, do you understand? I don't care if they're breaking your legs and locking you up in prison, which is what you deserve! (they kiss passionately)
Done with unique minimalism in Seinfeld's "The Puerto-Rican Day" episode. Elaine leads a group of complete strangers underneath the bleachers along 5th Avenue, when suddenly they reach a dead-end. The guy following her starts screaming in panic and she slaps him across the face. He pushes her, she pushes him back, and as they grab each other for more serious violence they suddenly pause, look in each others' eyes, and then kiss passionately.
In the third season finale of Suits, Mike and Rachel are locked in a file room, arguing. Finally, he admits he never went to Harvard, and he's a fraud. She slaps him twice, and when she reels back for a third, he grabs her wrist. She goes to storm off, and he grabs her arm to stop her. Then, they make out and have some very acrobatic sex.
Matthew and Mary in Downton Abbey. A great deal of the first series revolves around their Belligerent Sexual Tension, though they only get to the "kiss" part in the penultimate hour. Only increases in Series 3 after they get married.
Chuck: Pretty much anyone Casey gets involved with, particularly Verbanski.
Done literally as almost a Visual Pun in a commercial where a latina woman walks up to a guy and slaps him for no reason, then starts making out with him.
Damon: Listen to us! This is toxic! We are in a toxic relationship, Elena! I just killed your friend and you find someone else to blame! Elena: You want me to blame you? Easy! Done! You screwed up, Damon. Again! Damon: Thank you! Elena: You put me in a position where I have to defend you, again, where I have to bend my morals, again. Where I have to go against every single thing thar I believe in, again, because I love you! Damon: Then stop loving me! Elena: I can't! Damon: Well, that's the problem! We don't work! Elena: I know.. Damon: Then we agree? This has to end. Elena: It just did. It's over.. We're over. (They stand there and stare into each other's eyes for a second, then they start kissing)
Used in Muse's Knights of Cydonia music video (which is done in the style of a 70s Sci-Fi movie). The love interest slaps the hero in a bar, then the slap is shown again, but they're now in a bedroom and wearing less clothes. Again, with less clothes, but he grabs her arm and they kiss.
The whole point of the 80's Latin-American pop song "Dame un beso" ("Gimme a Kiss") by Yuri, which plays it up as comedy.
Florence and The Machine has a song called "Kiss With A Fist" that is basically about this trope.
The music video for Kelly Clarkson's My Life Would Suck Without You is this trope all the way through, with the "Kiss" part is in the lyrics.
'The Ballad Of Tom Jones', Space's duet with Cerys Matthews, veers between this and The Masochism Tango. The couple in the song are constantly at each other's throats, to the point where the woman tries to kill the man by driving him off a cliff. The only thing that stops the couple killing each other is - you've guessed it - the sound of the music of Tom Jones.
Beth Phoenix's relationship with Santino Marella was pretty much this.
Red and Gobo of Fraggle Rock — in the rare moments when they're not fighting/competing to see who can be more stubborn, they're hugging. Or Red is desperately trying to get his attention. And yet for all their complaints and squabbles about leadership, they keep coming back...
Avenue Q's "The More You Ruv Someone (The More You Want to Kill Them)" is basically this trope's anthem.
At which point he grabs her, snogs the hell out of her, and dashes off... whereupon she bursts into song. (Though to be fair, this is a case of Volleying Insults rather than a Slap Slap.)
Jimmy and Helena in Look Back in Anger.
In Wicked at first Glinda and Elphaba, more apparent in the musical where they have a song that revolves around Foe Yay and lust related lyrics.
Glinda and Elphaba? How about the undeniably canon Fiyero and Elphaba? The first time they meet he nearly runs her over and she shouts at him but by the second scene together they start off shouting a lot and then suddenly nearly kiss and Elphaba sings a moapy song about it. The next time they're shown alone they're practically having sex on stage.
The writer of Crazy For You loves this trope: a little bit Irene and Bobby (though this might be more of a mild Yandere), Irene and Lank, Polly and Bobby - of course, theirs is more of a Kiss Slap Slap Mistaken Identity / Fake King Kiss Kiss Slap Slap Slap Kiss.
Hotspur and Lady Percy in some productions of Henry IV Part 1, particularly the 2012 BBC version.
In the TV Zapping intro of the first Command & Conquer game, the third sequence (on channel 319) is a perfect example of this. Joe Kucan, who directed all of the live action scenes in Command & Conquer (and plays the iconic villain Kane), has named it as his favorite scene in the whole series. See it here.
Indiana Jones and the Fate of Atlantis shows that Indy loves this trope. After freeing Sophia Hapsgood from her prison they get into an argument, she hits him, he hits back, she goes to hit him again but Indy yanks her into a deep kiss.
Buck and Dare do this near the end of Halo 3: ODST.
Not wasted, cut. It was stated that most of the romantic elements of the game had to be cut due to time constraints, which is why none of the game's romance subplots really go anywhere.
Referring more to the wasted chance of having a cutscene in which the two fistfighting transitions seamlessly into making out was the opportunity referred to.
In Dragon Age: Origins, Oghren and his old flame Felsi's reunion is this, with the two tossing insults at each other before Felsi asks him to stay a bit longer so that they could continue the namecalling. By Awakening, they're married and have a kid together though still not quite peaceful due to Oghren's inherent Blood Knight nature.
Saints Row's Kinzie is a shut-in ex-FI computer analyst who was framed for stealing secrets and moonlighting as a dominatrix (the latter is pretty accurate). She becomes a romance option and reacts to Boss asking if she wanna fuck with a punch to the jaw, then pouncing him.
The Boss: "Hey, Kinzie, wanna fuck?"
Kinzie: "Let's go." (punches the Boss and jumps into his/her arms sending them toppling over)
In Mortal Kombat, Johnny Cage and Sonya Blade's relationship is always portrayed this way in both the video games and the movie, with Sonya being disgusted by Johnny's attempts to flirt with her, leading to them constantly bickering, before slowly gaining mutual respect and eventually falling in love. While they're never shown explicitly as a couple, Mortal Kombat X takes place over a period of 25 years following the previous game and features their daughter Cassie Cage.
Completely possible in The Sims 4, thanks to the separation of the romance and friendship relationship bars. See this thread.
Red vs. Blue. Tex and Church sometimes play this in reverse:
Chruch: Alright, O'Malley, this is it. From now on if any one makes my girlfriend crazy and psychotic... it's gonna be me. Tex: Aw, that's sweet. Church: Shut up, bitch. Tex: Asshole.
Some of this comes about because of the troll concept of "kismesissitude", symbolized by a spade. Despite being entirely based on the two parties hating each other, it's considered as valid and important a form or romance as matespritship, their closest analogue to normal human romance. The second example above is ambiguously an example of kismesissitude, while the kiss between Spades Slick and Snowman definitely is.
Karkat and Terezi tend to swing between fighting and genuinely caring about each other. It's all a part of their Ship Tease.
It's not physically violent, but Sollux and Feferi had a very bipolar relationship in which Feferi went from snapping at Sollux for being cranky to giggling at how adorable Sollux was while cranky within seconds.
Spacetrawler has Pierrot and Emily. Emily is constantly getting on Pierrot's nerves, and Pierrot reacts appropriately, to the extent that Captain Nogg thinks they hate each other. There's no shortage of subtext that they like each other—and as of this"Shut Up" Kiss, there's text-text as well.
Lucy of Bittersweet Candy Bowl is most violent with the guys she likes at all, David notwithstanding. Species differences among other things.
In Daria: After the title character gets into an argument with Jane's beau on whether or not they actually have anything going on on the side, the two come to a mutual agreement that Tom breaking up with Jane is inevitable — and that, furthermore, it has nothing to do with Daria, and neither would choose to get involved in the first place... That is, until Tom kisses her. Twice.
Botanica: Although our task does not appear glamorous or exciting, these trees carry our best hope for the future! Rattrap: Oh, I'm sorry. I was only thinking about myself instead of all the HOMELESS TERMITES! Botanica: And what would you rather be doing?! Sticking your tail in a computer socket?! Rattrap: Heh, beats the heck out of plowingyourlittle field of dreams! Botanica: I think it's high time you dialed back on the attitude! Rattrap: Oooo-hoo, well, how about I make like a tree and leaf! Botanica: That would be just fine by me, you impudent little— Rattrap: Your bark as bad as my bite?! Botanica: Grrrrrrrr! Rattrap: Rrrrrrrrrr! Botanica: RRRRRRRRRR! Rattrap: GRRRRRRRR! (smooch) "GASP!"
(after watching Owen & Gwen walking over logs while being attacked by eagles, Courtney kisses Duncan) Courtney:(after breaking the kiss) You're still not my type. Duncan: You make me sick. (they kiss again)
Scrooge McDuck and Glittering Goldie on DuckTales. Their idea of romance is taking turns tricking each other out of a fortune... and making out afterwards. Not as violent as the above-mentioned comic but still interesting.
Brock Sampson and Molotov Cocktease from The Venture Bros. are more of the "Stab Stab Kiss" variety, but they always fight and have a hot makeout session afterwards. Too bad they can only get to second base, though...
Brock: I THOUGHT THE COLD WAR WAS OVER! Molotov: It's always cold in Siberia.
Helga and Arnold from Hey Arnold!. Especially in the latter episodes like "Girl Trouble", "Egg Story", "Summer Love", "Married" and "April Fool's Day".
Angels Friends: Raf and Sulfus do this literally in episode 26 when they both hit each other and then make up with a kiss.
Perils of Love a small french short that is the essence of this trope.
Selwyn and Tallulah, the bickering sorcerer couple in The Smurfs, who fight with each other as much as they love each other. Zap-Zap-Kiss, anyone?
Kevin Spencer: Kevin's parents are insanely violent and rude to anyone they come across. But they love tormenting each other (especially Percy.) It occasionally ends up with hate-sex.
Kevin and Shawna are occasionally this, most likely attributed to Shawna's slowly growing insanity.
Teen Titans: When Starfire comes to earth, she bashes Robin in the face, then she kisses him on the lips (so she could learn the language due to the Tamaranean ability to absorb languages through physical contact).