"You've got Shiksappeal. Jewish men love the idea of meeting a woman that's not like their mother."The tendency of some Jewish male characters in media to be paired with a non-Jewish female character ("Shiksa" in Yiddish). Typically, shiksas represent the exotic outsider to the insular Jewish community. Jews looking to break free of the bonds of Jewish society might do so through association with shiksas. A gentile partner might also be a status symbol in areas where Jews are still discriminated against. Other Jewish men might simply be more attracted to women without Semitic features. Shiksas are often blonde and blue-eyed, traits more rare among Jews, to distinguish them from the Jewish norm. The word "shiksa" comes from the Hebrew word for "abomination," as these gentile temptresses were feared to be stealing away all the Nice Jewish Boys. Like most cultures, Jewish society traditionally looks down on members marrying outsiders, seeing it as a rejection of their heritage and community. Mixed couples won't necessarily perpetuate the traditions and beliefs that bind Jewish society together. In fact, children to a non-Jewish mother aren't Jewish themselves by religious law. It's a really insulting term, on par with "slut" or "whore." If one character is calling a woman a shiksa, you can bet they're not particularly fond of her. The champion of Jewish beauty, and rival to the Shiksa Goddess is the Shayna Maidel (Yiddish slang [cf. dialectal German "schöne Mädel"], it literally means "a pretty girl", though typically applied to a Jewish woman). The inversion of Shiksa Goddess is Matzo Fever, which is about non-Jews having this reaction to Jews.
— George Costanza, Seinfeld
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- In A Contract with God, Frimme Hersh, who has lived an extremely devout life, abandons his faith after a Cynicism Catalyst and immediately takes up a shiksa mistress, in addition to other questionable life choices. It's not clear whether he's doing this because he thinks gentile women are beautiful, or because he just wants to stick it to God and the religious community as much as possible.
- Marlene Alraune to the Jewish - albeit not very observant - Marc Spector, a.k.a. Moon Knight.
- In The Crew, Kasper Cole is dating a black woman who frequently butts heads with his Jewish mother.
- In Robin the Jewish - under most writers' pens - Sebastian Ives dated the non-Jewish Callie Evans off and on for the first two years of high school.
- Judd Apatow is in love with this trope, with Knocked Up probably the most notable example. One need only look to the fact that he married Leslie Mann to see the inspiration.
- Annie Hall: The contrast between Annie's white-bread Midwestern WASP family and (Allen's character) Alvy's Brooklyn Jewish family is frequently Played for Laughs. One of the working titles was even Me and My Goy. Some other films by Woody Allen also qualify. His two longest relationships have been with Mia Farrow and Soon-yi Previn who are both non-Jews.
- The Heartbreak Kid might be the Trope Codifier. A self-centered young Jewish man leaves his Nice Jewish Girl new bride for a blonde goddess that he sees on the beach. While he's on his honeymoon.
- The wedding in American Wedding is all about this, which is mildly ironic, as the Gentile bride is played by the Half-Irish/Half-Jewish Alyson Hannigan and the Jewish groom is played by the Roman Catholic, Italian-American Jason Biggs, who is often mistaken for a Jew.
- Bordello of Blood is an interesting example of this and Matzo Fever in the romance between Katherine Verdoux and Rafe Guttman. For such a gleefully trashy film, it's got a very interesting subtext about interconfessional romance.
- Yoine Shagal, the Jewish innkeeper of The Fearless Vampire Killers, is comically lusting after his Christian maidservant, the beautiful blonde Magda, though considering what his wife looks like he'll probably take anything.
- In The Social Network, a Jewish character states that Jews like Asian girls because they're smart and not Jewish. The Jewish fraternity party seems to be entirely populated by Jewish guys and Asian girls.
- The 1950s Hollywood film Young Lions has a young Jewish man called Noah falling for a WASP called Hope. She is indeed a beautiful blonde with blue eyes.
- Judith Krantz likes to put them in almost every book. Possibly the most memorable fetishing character is Blue Blood Jessica in Scruples, who only boffs Jewish guys because they run in different social circles, so her reputation among the other Blue Blood types is safe. She also rates men on a scale of 1-10 and boinks Jewish nines. When asked what will happen if she ever meets a Jewish ten, she answers, "Run like a thief, I hope." Nope, when it happens she marries him.
- Danielle Steel romance and drama novel "Fine Thing" features Jewish protagonist finding the love of his life in Gentile, blonde Liz. His mother, the textbook stereotype of the meddling and dominant Jewish mother, first tries to sabotage this but then comes to dearly love Liz.
- Trilby is perhaps the Ur-Example.
- Tracy Bacon from Michael Chabon's The Amazing Adventures of Kavalier and Clay is presented as a gay male version of this trope
- The titular character from Jeffery Archer's short story, Christina Rosenthal, certainly qualifies.
- Alex Portnoy in Portnoy's Complaint talks at length about his attraction to non-Jewish women and his three Christian girlfriends, whom he nicknamed the Monkey, the Pumpkin, and the Pilgrim.
Live Action TV
- Downton Abbey
- Lady Rose becomes a near perfect example (blonde, blue-blooded and British)note when she hooks up with the Jewish Atticus Aldridge in Series 5.
- The Countess Cora Crawley has an Episcopalian Mother and a late Jewish Father. She tells off a guest at her niece's wedding for implying that it must be "embarrassing" for a girl from the family to marry a Jewish man.
- Seinfeld: Elaine's "Shiksappeal" attracts three Jewish men in one episode; it starts with a boy who immediately prior became a man by Jewish tradition, then that boy's father, and then the rabbi she spoke to regarding the previous two. note Even Jerry's attracted to her in this episode; after his girlfriend makes him get more in touch with his feelings, he actually proposes to Elaine.
- Sandy and Kirsten Cohen of The O.C.
- Sex and the City:
- Charlotte converts to Judaism for Harry, who she ends up marrying. Charlotte to Harry: "I give up Jesus for you, and you can't even give up the Mets?!"
- In an early season, Charlotte sleeps with an Orthodox Jewish artist whose work she's evaluating.
- House notes that Cuddys' mom is "...a Shiksa." Apparently she converted when she married Cuddy's father. She's also a bitch.
- On The Nanny, Fran frequently refers to Maggie as a Shiksa Goddess. This ended up becoming foreshadowing when Maggie actually does marry a Jewish boy in the final season.
- The Big Bang Theory:
- Howard Wolowitz calls Penny a Shiksa Goddess.
(to Raj): You're missing the point! A Shiksa goddess is not an actual goddess. We prey on them, not to them.
- Howard ends up with Bernadette. They initially connect over freaking out their families. Bernadette, being Catholic, is thrilled at the prospect of freaking out her parents. Their relationship has since moved beyond that joke.
- Howard Wolowitz calls Penny a Shiksa Goddess.
- On 3rd Rock from the Sun, Harry teases Dick and Tommy for dating "blonde shiksa goddesses" Mary and August. Possibly a subversion, as they're not really Jewish, or even human. Their landlady dubbed them with a Jewish identity because they had the last name "Solomon", and she didn't know they took it off the side of a truck (of the actors playing the Solomons, only Joseph Gordon-Levitt is Jewish in Real Life).
- In an episode of Cold Case it's learned that the victim of the week had been disowned by his father because of his (the victim's) intent to abandon plans to attend dental school, and marry a non-Jewish woman, whom he (the father) outright describes as a "Shiksa".
- Referenced by name in Being Human (US): Josh's sister Emily thinks he's jealous because she hooked up with a Shiksa Goddess before he did.
- Glee has Puck (who's Jewish) having feelings for blonde and Christian Quinn
- Queer as Folk: Melanie calls Lindsay her shiksa goddess at one point.
- On The West Wing, Josh and CJ quarrel and he calls her "shiksa feminista". He immediately acknowledges that he has gone too far.
- Curb Your Enthusiasm: the uber-Jew Larry is married to Cheryl, a level-headed, middle-American WASP. Their clash of cultures and personalities drive many plots.
- It's never elaborated on but Lenny Briscoe on Law & Order had a Jewish father and a Catholic mother. (At one point this causes a bigoted lawyer to link Lenny to an alleged Jewish conspiracy due to his last name; Lenny is understandably pissed, and points out to McCoy that he's not even Jewish.)
- The mistress of a Hasidic rebbe in an episode of Blue Bloods is referred to as such.
- Mad Men featured some relationships involving Gentiles and Jewish people.
- The straightest example is Peggy Olson. Raised Catholic, blue-eyed, and of Irish Catholic and Norwegian ancestry, she dates the culturally-Jewish Abe Drexler from Season 4 through Season 7A. Also, in a one-off moment, Peggy's colleague Michael Ginsburg's Alter Kocker father had a very interesting reaction when he saw her.
- Briefly discussed when blue-eyed, WASP-y Betty Draper talks about a Nice Jewish Boy from high school she dated. Apparently, the following year, all the Jewish girls dyed their hair blonde.
- Inverted for two relationships, with Gentile men and Jewish women: Don Draper had an affair with the Jewish department-store owner Rachel Menken in Season 1, and a few years later ultra-WASP Roger Sterling divorced his wife to marry his Jewish secretary Jane Siegel. These fit since both Don and Roger are very much un-Jewish in appearance and very much conventionally attractive (with the caveat that Roger is a Silver Fox), to say nothing of both being wealthy and powerful businessmen.
- The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel:
- Midge's husband Joel leaves her for his ditzy "Methodist" secretary, which she finds particularly insulting. Joel's own parents are politely but staunchly against the pairing.
- Midge's brother married a blond Gentile woman who promptly converted and is trying way too hard to be Jewish enough for her husband.
- Scrubs gives Elliot an Imagine Spot where she thinks of her dream husband. He's Jewish - while she is blonde and blue-eyed. So her low self-esteem may be imagining herself as this.
- The band Say Anything... released a single called "Shiksa (Girlfriend)" and wondering how he landed a non-Jewish girlfriend. Ironically, Max Bemis converted to Christianity when he got married.
- The Bible has Jezebel, a Phoenician Baal-worshiping princess, marrying the Israelite King Ahab. It's a false conversion due to her intentions to wipe out the original Hebrew religion and replace it with her Canaanite religion of worshiping the idols Ba'al and Asherah. This is why "Jezebel" is often used to mean a temptress or slut. Though to be fair, Ahab married Jezebel to form a political alliance with Phoenicia, not because he loved her.
- Ruth, the Moabite daughter-in-law of the Jewish widow Naomi, who later on marries Noami's kinsman Boaz. There's also the wives of Joseph (married an Egyptian) and Moses (married a Midianite/Ethiopian).
- Ruth's marriage to Boaz is a Subversion, though, as it's made clear she was a Jewish convert before she married him.
- The musical The Last Five Years, which actually has a song titled "Shiksa Goddess" in which Jaime reiterates that he'd take any girl as long as she wasn't Jewish.
- This was one of the principal tropes in Abie's Irish Rose. Abie's father wouldn't stand for any Nice Jewish Boy marrying a non-Jewish girl, so Abie has to trick his father into believing that Rose Mary Murphy is actually Rosie Murpheski. The father doesn't find out the ruse until the Jewish wedding ceremony is well underway.
- Kim Possible: Ron Stoppable is a Jew while his girlfriend Kim is a Gentile.
- In Superman: The Animated Series, all male residents of the Fifth Dimension are Space Jews. The one female resident depicted is Mxy's wife, Gspltsnz, who bears a striking resemblance to Jessica Rabbit.
- In South Park None of Kyle Broflovski's love interests have ever been Jewish. Rebecca, Bebe, Nichole, and Leslie were all gentiles. Even the two people he's most shipped with in fandom(Stan and Cartman) aren't Jewish.